‘This Feminist Community That I’d Like to Consider Myself a Part Of’

Posted on | June 10, 2014 | 65 Comments

The pathetic phrase quoted in the headline was spoken by Daniel Kopin in an interview with Cathy Young. Kopin, 21, is a Brown University student who was suspended after a school disciplinary proceeding in which he was found responsible for “sexual misconduct” with his ex-girlfriend and fellow Brown student Lena Sclove.

It’s an interesting story: Kopin and Sclove are both progressives, and had been friends for a while before they began a three-week sexual relationship that, according to Kopin’s account, ended when he decided they should go back to being just friends. But then there was one night — Aug. 2, 2013 — when “they began flirting at a party, engaged in physical displays of affection, and left the party to go to Kopin’s apartment with the intention of having sex.” What happened during that encounter is a classic “he said/she said” situation.

Here’s the problem: Because he is a nice guy, and because the alleged “sexual misconduct” was treated as a matter of school discipline — rather than investigated as a crime — Kopin did not exercise his Fifth Amendment right to remain silent. Instead, Kopin made the mistake of trying to tell his side of the story after Sclove sent him an accusatory e-mail on Aug. 8: “Dan, you raped me.”

Dude: Lawyer up and say nothing.

It’s unfortunate that nice young men should have to hear such advice, but this is what the current campus climate requires.

Nice young men are not street smart, and Kopin — a “mild-mannered young man with a self-effacing smile and a preppy manner” — was evidently so stunned by Sclove’s accusation that he didn’t think about his Fifth Amendment rights. The misguided effort of the accused date rapist to tell his side of the story is part of the whole cultural problem that has developed on campuses where what should be a matter of criminal law, in which the prosecution has the burden of proof, is instead handled by university officials in extra-judicial proceedings where the accused is required to “prove” his innocence.

Did I mention that Lena Sclove is crazy?

In her Aug. 8 e-mail which accused Kopin of raping her on Aug. 2, Sclove wrote: “I have seen my therapist twice, and she is 100 percent sure that this was rape.” Excuse me for pointing this out, but the phrase “my therapist” would seem to indicate that Sclove was under treatment for some kind of mental illness before the incident in question. If so, Sclove’s psychiatric history is relevant.

Dude: Don’t hook up with crazy women.

This is more advice nice young men need to hear, unfortunately. They’re not street smart, these mild-mannered preppy boys.

The Law of Large Numbers dictates that if you screw around enough, eventually you’ll encounter The Psycho Bitch From Hell.

Oh, she seems attractive enough. You don’t notice she’s crazy on that beer-soaked night when you’ve got no other prospects in sight. Or maybe you do realize she’s crazy, but you just don’t care.

What’s the worst that can happen, right? All you care about is, she’s down for some action, so you never really consider the potential consequences of hooking up with a psychiatric basket case.

Based on my own extensive research, conducted between 1977 and 1988, at least 6% of women are The Psycho Bitch From Hell. She is incapable of distinguishing between casual sex and a “relationship,” so that attempting to break up with her — or even not being interested in a follow-up to a one-night stand — inevitably turns into the kind of insane drama that inspired Fatal Attraction. When I see TV documentaries about women dealing with dangerous stalkers, I feel a profound empathy, because I know the basic problem: You meet someone who is crazy, but either you don’t recognize the warning signs or else you ignore the warning signs and next thing you know, you’re trapped in a situation of complete craziness from which there is no easy way out.

Have you ever gotten a phone call informing you that a girl you dated briefly is now holding a butcher knife to her throat, threatening suicide if you don’t come over to her house immediately?

Yeah. And I was only 17 years old at the time.

Some people can’t cope with rejection, and young people need to beware of this danger. A careful reading of Cathy Young’s account of the situation between Dan Kopin and Lena Sclove reveals numerous clues that Sclove was trouble waiting to happen long before Aug. 2, 2013. If Kopin didn’t recognize those clues, that’s his fault. He should have avoided a sexual relationship with Sclove, who apparently had a pre-existing emotional problem that has not been adequately explained.

What happened on Aug. 2, 2013? I don’t know.

Sclove says one thing, and Kopin says another thing. The key point is, accusations of sexual assault should always be a matter of criminal law in which the burden of proof is on the prosecution, and where the defendant is accorded all his rights under the Constitution, including his Fifth Amendment right to remain silent.

Instead, Brown University has allowed this to turn into a situation where a United States Senator — New York Democrat Kirsten Gillibrand — went on MSNBC and claimed that Scloven was “brutally raped” and “nearly choked to death” by Dan Kopin.

Obviously, I’m willing to believe that progressive pro-feminist men attending elite universities (Brown’s annual tuition is $46,408) are all brutal rapists who get their kinky thrills by choking women, but maybe Dan Kopin is an exception to the rule.

If any guy ever finds himself accused under similar circumstances, here’s some street-smart advice: Deny everything.

Never accidentally incriminate yourself by trying to tell your side of the story. If anyone asks for your response to a false accusation, your answer should be four simple words: “That bitch is crazy.”

Category: Crime, Education, Feminism, Sex

Comments

65 Responses to “‘This Feminist Community That I’d Like to Consider Myself a Part Of’”

commonpatriot
June 10th, 2014 @ 8:57 am

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MrEvilMatt
June 10th, 2014 @ 8:57 am

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WeRResistance
June 10th, 2014 @ 8:57 am

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June 10th, 2014 @ 8:57 am

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June 10th, 2014 @ 8:57 am

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Lockestep1776
June 10th, 2014 @ 8:57 am

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rsmccain
June 10th, 2014 @ 9:02 am

“If you screw around enough, eventually you’ll encounter The Psycho Bitch From Hell.” http://t.co/LmzpaZ1RQZ cc @rdbrewer @AceofSpadesHQ
AviWoolf
June 10th, 2014 @ 9:05 am

“If you screw around enough, eventually you’ll encounter The Psycho Bitch From Hell.” http://t.co/eMlbDVWsfB … #YesAllWomen
cat_1012000
June 10th, 2014 @ 9:13 am

RT @rsmccain: “If you screw around enough, eventually you’ll encounter The Psycho Bitch From Hell.” http://t.co/LmzpaZ1RQZ cc @rdbrewer @Ac…
lemang01
June 10th, 2014 @ 9:14 am

“Dude: Don’t hook up with crazy women.”

Check the union label 😉
Lemang01
June 10th, 2014 @ 9:23 am

Dude: Lawyer up and say nothing… ‘This Feminist Community That I’d Like to Consider Myself a Part Of’ http://t.co/jgGklfEmUk #NotAllMen
rsmccain
June 10th, 2014 @ 9:29 am

RT @Lockestep1776: ‘This Feminist Community That I’d Like to Consider Myself a Part Of’: The pathetic phrase quoted in the headli… http:/…
robertstacymccain
June 10th, 2014 @ 9:30 am

As much as I sympathize with Dan Kopin, he should have seen this coming. The clues were there.
Cactus Ed
June 10th, 2014 @ 9:39 am

So, if I read this accurately, decent and respectable people can’t set foot upon an academic institution without stepping into a puddle of feminism?
petetheelder
June 10th, 2014 @ 10:04 am

The crying during sex should have clued him in. About the only thing they both agree on that night according to the story is that she was crying during the sex.

I suspect there was no rape in this case, but she was not emotionally stable enough to handle a hookup with him after they had broken up and she really regretted it.
CrustyB
June 10th, 2014 @ 10:34 am

Talking to the police can only hurt you. It cannot help you, no matter how innocent you are.
Evi L. Bloggerlady
June 10th, 2014 @ 10:36 am

Crying during sex? Yeah, that’s a sign. Unfortunately it was way too late then.
politics_right
June 10th, 2014 @ 10:39 am

RT @rsmccain: “If you screw around enough, eventually you’ll encounter The Psycho Bitch From Hell.” http://t.co/LmzpaZ1RQZ cc @rdbrewer @Ac…
robertstacymccain
June 10th, 2014 @ 10:41 am

There were earlier clues:

Kopin also claims that a similar pattern of mixed signals was present at the start of their brief sexual relationship: he says that while out for a walk together, they acknowledged their mutual attraction, whereupon Sclove said she wanted to be just friends—but quickly proceeded to kiss him and then initiated sexual contact after they got in his car. This is partly corroborated by two of Kopin’s housemates, who testified before the disciplinary panel in his support. One wrote, “I recall Dan being quite startled recalling this story, as Lena’s physical action conflicted with her words.”

See? I mean, I completely understand a college guy being grateful for any action he gets, but there were big clues up front — “Danger, Will Robinson!” — that Lena Sclove was trouble.
robertstacymccain
June 10th, 2014 @ 10:45 am

Well, I wouldn’t say that you can never talk yourself out of a parking ticket, or maybe you can avoid an assault charge after a bar fight by telling your side of the story. But in this kind of situation — where an unsatisfactory hook-up leads to a girl claiming she was raped — you have the right to remain silent, and you had better exercise that right.
jones4440
June 10th, 2014 @ 10:46 am

RT @rsmccain: “If you screw around enough, eventually you’ll encounter The Psycho Bitch From Hell.” http://t.co/LmzpaZ1RQZ cc @rdbrewer @Ac…
Guest
June 10th, 2014 @ 11:05 am

“That bitch is crazy.”

as true today as when it was written
rsmccain
June 10th, 2014 @ 11:27 am

“Based on my own extensive research … at least 6% of women are The Psycho Bitch From Hell.” http://t.co/LmzpaZ1RQZ
servative
June 10th, 2014 @ 11:34 am

RT @rsmccain: “Based on my own extensive research … at least 6% of women are The Psycho Bitch From Hell.” http://t.co/LmzpaZ1RQZ
JeffS
June 10th, 2014 @ 11:49 am

Better to say, “All feminists are crazy.”
richard mcenroe
June 10th, 2014 @ 11:53 am

‘This Feminist Community That I’d Like to Consider Myself a Part Of’

They. Don’t. Want. You.
richard mcenroe
June 10th, 2014 @ 11:54 am

Hey, I pinched a muscle in my back, OK?
texlovera
June 10th, 2014 @ 12:28 pm

Dumb-ass beta male meets psycho-ed for sexual encounters.

Hilarity ensues….
texlovera
June 10th, 2014 @ 12:29 pm

Just how desperate to get laid do you have to be to “consider yourself part of the feminist community”???
texlovera
June 10th, 2014 @ 12:30 pm

I LOLd
texlovera
June 10th, 2014 @ 12:31 pm

He should have accused HER of rape…
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June 10th, 2014 @ 12:45 pm

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rsmccain
June 10th, 2014 @ 1:34 pm

RT @AviWoolf: “If you screw around enough, eventually you’ll encounter The Psycho Bitch From Hell.” http://t.co/eMlbDVWsfB … #YesAllWomen
Kirby McCain
June 10th, 2014 @ 2:15 pm

New York Democrat Kirsten Gillibrand apparently has Kopin confused with Essie Billingslea whom Massachusetts liberals saw fit to release from prison. The woman he raped at knife point was hospitalized for her injuries. For Gillibrand to smear Kopin by saying he brutally raped Sclove illustrates to a fine point what a gutless, ignorant slut the Senator is. Neither Sclove nor Gillibrand can lay claim to being either compassionate or understanding. Perhaps Sclove can find redemption in a transformative abortion.
kbiel
June 10th, 2014 @ 2:34 pm

Taking your complaint of being violently attacked to the police is “re-victimization”, but retelling your story on Huffington Post after ruining another person’s life in a non-judicial proceeding is somehow not.
Adjoran
June 10th, 2014 @ 2:42 pm

He probably went to Brown because of the favorable coed ratio. But as an aspiring feminist himself, I doubt he has the sense to see the train coming down the tracks.
Phil_McG
June 10th, 2014 @ 2:43 pm

Oh dear.

You know those manosphere guys that the feminist crazies were hoping to blame Elliot Rodger on?

They could’ve taught young Mr Copin how to avoid this whole situation.

There’s two related forces at work here: the rise of feminist dementia on campus (part of a broader trend towards universities becoming social justice clown colleges), and the cluelessness of a lot of young men when it comes to girls.

The dangerous ignorance of young men is related to the feminist messages that are relentlessly preached through the media and in schools and colleges. Look at his background:

Kopin, the younger of two sons of physician parents, attended the Rashi School, a Boston-area Jewish school that has a strong social justice orientation; both at home and at school, he was raised in an environment where “believing the victim” in a sexual assault case is a widely shared principle.

He was intellectually disarmed by feminist dogma before he ever set foot on campus. I bet he assumed that being a “nice guy” and an “ally” of feminism meant he’d never have serious problems with women. He was completely unprepared to meet a “crazy bitch”. He was probably ignorant of the concept, except maybe as a hateful stereotype spread by the Patriarchy.

He thought he was a male feminist. In reality he was fresh meat for the grinder.
Adjoran
June 10th, 2014 @ 2:46 pm

For every guy who “talks himself out of” being arrested, a hundred or more incriminate themselves. Even an innocent person who gives no incriminating information and tells only the truth can incriminate themselves if their statement conflicts with that of a witness who may be mistaken but has no reason to lie, or if the police remember the question wrongly.
PubliusNV
June 10th, 2014 @ 3:25 pm

‘This Feminist Community That I’d Like to Consider Myself a Part Of’ http://t.co/4R6ZY7Q2v0
M. Thompson
June 10th, 2014 @ 3:40 pm

You know, some of the upsides to waiting are you don’t put your junk in crazy, and you don’t worry about pregnancy scares.
thatMrGguy
June 10th, 2014 @ 4:35 pm

‘This Feminist Community That I’d Like to Consider Myself a Part Of’ http://t.co/WlIaIviZyF
Evi L. Bloggerlady
June 10th, 2014 @ 4:43 pm

He is like one of those grouse that just blink stupidly as they are being shot.
Kirby McCain
June 10th, 2014 @ 4:48 pm

Kopin thinks of himself as a reasonable person. His mistake was assuming women are reasonable. Not most of them, not by a long shot.
rsmccain
June 10th, 2014 @ 5:57 pm

.@AmPowerBlog “victim-blaming misogynist dinosaurs”! http://t.co/LmzpaZ1RQZ @JessicaValenti
concern00
June 10th, 2014 @ 6:09 pm

This is quite humorous. The whole #rapeculture phenomenon is a left wing construct designed to mostly trap poor little naive progressives in its sticky web.
CFLancop
June 10th, 2014 @ 6:14 pm

RT @rsmccain: .@AmPowerBlog “victim-blaming misogynist dinosaurs”! http://t.co/LmzpaZ1RQZ @JessicaValenti
CFLancop
June 10th, 2014 @ 6:20 pm

‘This Feminist Community That I’d Like to Consider Myself a Part Of’ http://t.co/aux2TyTgn5 “That bitch is crazy” My ex to a tee #smh #tcot
g56yu
June 10th, 2014 @ 6:22 pm

RT @rsmccain: .@AmPowerBlog “victim-blaming misogynist dinosaurs”! http://t.co/LmzpaZ1RQZ @JessicaValenti
Quartermaster
June 10th, 2014 @ 7:36 pm

More like a pile. A very large, deep pile.
Art Deco
June 10th, 2014 @ 7:39 pm

Gillibrand was for a decade or more paid a six figure salary (halfway to seven figures at the end) by a politically connected New York law firm. No excuses here. Hang her.