Feminism’s Big Lie

Posted on | January 15, 2015 | 151 Comments

“Radical Feminism is, and has always been a political movement focused on liberating girls and women, those who are born into the sex caste female, from the unnatural, yet universal roles patriarchy has assigned.”
— Radicalmamaw.tumblr.com, July 26, 2014

“Women who are sane, normal and happy do not become feminists, because such women do not need feminism.”
— Robert Stacy McCain, Aug. 25, 2014

One of the things you recognize, if you pay close attention to feminist rhetoric, is how the “patriarchy” or “male supremacy” — and other concepts like “misogyny,” “the beauty myth,” etc. — function as all-purpose scapegoats for whatever any woman may be unhappy about.

We could revisit the original skepticism that confronted feminists after the rise of the Women’s Liberation movement in the late 1960s. Feminism arose within the extreme fringe of the New Left, and a majority of American women emphatically rejected this crypto-Marxist movement’s attack on marriage, motherhood and Christian morality. Whatever the dissatisfaction women might have felt with their lives, most American women were aware that they were living in the most free and prosperous society in human history. The radicalism of Kate Millett and Shulamith Firestone was directly hostile to the beliefs and interests of most women and this is still true today. The American woman views herself as an individual, not as a member of a collective “sex-caste” (to borrow the Marxist jargon of radical feminism) and she not only rejects feminism’s claim of collective female victimhood, she also rejects the claim of collective male guilt that feminists imply by reference to “patriarchy” and “male supremacy.”

We could revisit the arguments of the 1960s and ’70s — were my mother and aunts and grandmother oppressed by the patriarchy? — but this is not 1975. No, it’s 2015, and we now live in a society that has been changed by more than four decades of feminist “progress.” Because of societal changes, young women in 2015 have new problems that are not the same as the problems that were the original grievances of feminists circa 1968. And many of the problems experienced by young women today are arguably caused by feminism’s “success.” If feminism is the cause of your problems, the solution is not more feminism. Let me quote one young feminist’s complaint:

“i wish men understood that when women are talking about feminism and rape culture and sh–t, it’s not just a political conversation. it’s not about being a ‘social justice warrior’ or whatever. it’s about our actual lives being shaped by misogyny since childhood, and the daily reality of living in fear of violence. this isn’t a f–king game or philosophical debate. this is our f–king lives.”

The author of that colorful prose identifies herself on Tumblr.com as “Kina Penelope, gay femme fairy, writer, traveler, feminist, college student living in WA.” If she is a college student, she is about 20 years old, which means that Kina was born circa 1995. What was the “misogyny” that shaped her life since childhood? Who is responsible for the “fear of violence” she confronts as a college student in Washington State? How does a “gay femme fairy” experience “rape culture”? Why can’t she be bothered to capitalize properly?

We are now six years into the presidency of Barack Obama. During the 20 years or so of Kina Penelope’s young life, Democrats have controlled the White House for 12 years. She may say that “talking about feminism” is “not just a political conversation,” but it was feminists who declared the personal is political. If she is merely talking about her own personal problems, or the personal problems of women in general — “our f–king lives” — without any political purpose, is this really feminism at all? Or is it just unhappy women complaining because they are unhappy?

Many of the social pressures that cause young women’s unhappiness in 2015 are clearly caused by the tension between the careerist pressures of liberal feminism — the striving ambition to “have it all” — and their own psychological need for a more traditional womanhood.

That is to say, most women don’t identify as a “gay femme fairy.”

Most young women would like to find a man who loves them, a man who wants to marry them, a man who is willing and able to provide them with a better life than a woman can have by herself.

No matter how much satisfaction she obtains from career achievement, she needs (and no, “need” is not too strong a word for her profound psychological urge) to have the love and support of a man. She wants babies. She wants to find a strong man, a masculine man who loves her so much that he is willing, for her sake, to shoulder the responsibilities inherent in the titles “husband” and “father.”

Feminism is not the solution to that young woman’s problem.

If you are a normal young woman — desiring a life that includes men, marriage and motherhood — you need to recognize how modern feminism is directly hostile to your own self-interest.

Feminism is a formula for unhappiness, an ideology conceived by unhappy women who were unwilling to take responsibility for their own unhappiness. Instead they promoted a false crypto-Marxist worldview in which all men oppress all women. This belief — feminism’s Big Lie — is how unhappy women justify their envy-driven attacks on the actual sources of happiness in other women’s lives.

Confusion about what “feminism” means leads women to embrace this label, and to consume the feminist movement’s rhetoric without skepticism. It is very easy for any unhappy woman to internalize feminism’s resentments and hostility toward male sexuality, an attitude I have described as “Fear and Loathing of the Penis.” There is also a tendency in feminist rhetoric to blame women’s problems on “society,” so that women are encouraged to develop anti-social attitudes, to feel a self-pitying sense of humiliation in the ordinary hassles of everyday life. Here is another woman’s complaint on Tumblr.com:

Don’t eat too much, don’t eat too little. Don’t be fat, don’t be too skinny. God do you ever stop eating? Woah do you ever eat? The not-so-well-concealed looks of disgust, the not-so-well-concealed looks of concern.
Don’t be loud. Don’t be quiet. Have a voice in society, leave the talking to the big boys. You want something, speak up! No, no, when it’s your turn, sweetie. Ugh, she never shuts up, it’s obnoxious. Have you ever heard her talk? I don’t even know what her voice sounds like.
Make sure your skirt is long enough, but not too long. Don’t make yourself too available, but you don’t want to look like a grandma. Show off what you got, but if you do it’s your fault if anything happens. Was your skirt long enough? How is any boy going to look at you if you wear that?
Have sex, but stay innocent. Give us what we want, but we hate sluts. Virgins are so sweet. What do you mean you want to stay abstinent until marriage? Do you even live in our society? Live without sex is boring. Life with sex is disgusting. God, have you seen her? She’s banged every guy in the school. God, have you seen her? Still a virgin at her age.
Be smart, but not too smart. Boys like a smarter girl. Boys can’t stand it when you know more than them. Play dumb. Ugh, not that dumb, god, weren’t you even listening? They like a smarter girl. No, no, now you just look like a nerd. Girls don’t belong in the classroom, they have to take care of the kids. You want a well-paying job? Take some incentive and study. You can’t slack off because your a girl.
Do what you love, but don’t. Be yourself, unless it goes against what we say. Do you love to do your hair and makeup? Great, you’re good to go. Approved. Do you love videogames and guns? You’re faking it. You’re lying. You’re pretending. You’re wrong

Who is telling her these things? Who are these hyper-critical voices the woman hears, constantly reminding her of her own inadequacy, so that she feels wrong no matter what she does?

Satan is the Father of Lies (John 8:43-45). Satan is the false accuser (Revelation 12:9-11). Satan constantly tells us lies about ourselves and lies about God. If you listen to that satanic voice, you will drive yourself crazy, because the lies are contradictory. Satan will tell you whatever you want to believe, whatever it takes to destroy you. Satan will tell you that your sins are so wicked that God cannot possibly love you. Then Satan will tell you there is no such thing as sin. Satan will tell you that good is evil, and evil is good, and that you should do evil because that will make you happier than doing good. Most of all, Satan tells us to reject God’s law, to instead make our own judgment of right and wrong.

This was the original lie of history: “Ye shall be as gods!”

“See, I have set before thee this day life and good, and death and evil . . . I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live.”
— Deuteronomy 30:15, 19 (KJV)

“Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils; Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron . . .”
— I Timothy 4:1-2 (KJV)

Maybe you didn’t expect a sermon when you started reading this, but I didn’t plan to preach a sermon when I started writing it, either. Sometimes it’s like these things just start writing themselves.

The truth is still the truth. Satan is still a liar. If we cannot tell the difference between truth and lies, there is no hope for any of us.

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Comments

151 Responses to “Feminism’s Big Lie”

Fail Burton
January 16th, 2015 @ 12:46 pm

A good idea is a good idea. What’s the diff where it comes from? Where does tolerance come from? From science? As far as I can tell that’s a myth as far as you’re concerned.
Adobe_Walls
January 16th, 2015 @ 12:48 pm

Does, Adobe_Walls does.
Hanzo
January 16th, 2015 @ 12:54 pm

Quite possibly the best piece you’ve ever written Stacy, imo.
Spot.On.
Jeanette Victoria
January 16th, 2015 @ 1:21 pm

she identifies as a lesbian why aren’t I surprised?
Durasim
January 16th, 2015 @ 1:29 pm

Valentine’s Day was traditionally a celebration of heterosexual relationships, something that feminists cannot abide.

Also, feminists do not like the idea of men treating women nicely and specially because they have intimate relationships. First, because feminists do not like heterosexual relationships and second, because feminists probably think all men should have to bow and scrape before all women, all day and every day, regardless.

Camille Paglia noted how Eve Ensler, the author of the Vagina Monologues was “turning Valentine’s Day, the one holiday celebrating romantic harmony between the sexes, into a grisly memento mori of violence against women.”
Fail Burton
January 16th, 2015 @ 1:49 pm

Valentine’s Day is the occasional hot button issue in – surprise – Islamic countries. Feminism and Islam should just get a room and keep their snoggling to themselves, the randy bastards. Love. Sigh. Le skunks de pew stink.
Quartermaster
January 16th, 2015 @ 1:52 pm

“one of the best thinkers on the Internet”
We all make mistakes and appears he made one with you. If you’re worried about “slack mouthed yokels,” you’d do best to look to your own camp. Bob Belvedere’s comment above is quite on the button.
Quartermaster
January 16th, 2015 @ 1:57 pm

I liken it more to living in a trash compactor.
Quartermaster
January 16th, 2015 @ 2:04 pm

Arguing with Neo is a useless proposition. It’s much like the old saw about wrestling with a pig.
Andy Fox
January 16th, 2015 @ 2:28 pm

So I’m guessing you are an atheist, and your cosmology is purely materialist.

Like I say to every supporter of the atheistic creation myth, we’ll talk about the alleged superiority of your view when you deal with, inter alia, chirality. Science can not explain the development and joining of homochiral amino acids into self replicating protein chains, which is essential to abiogenesis. Every attempt to recreate the atheistic creation myth has ended
in failure.

The famous Miller-Urey spark experiment always creates a racemic mixture of amino acids, which is fatal to the development of protein chains, because one wrong-handed molecule kills the whole chain. It is statistically impossible to keep that from happening unless you have an enantiomerically pure environment.

Why don’t you just admit that your worldview contains elements of faith, or “supernaturalist crap” as you put it, and apologize for your irrational contempt of a Christian world view.
Pete McCutchen
January 16th, 2015 @ 3:24 pm

Seriously, dude. You’re being fairly logical, and then . . . SATAN!

Makes about as much sense as blaming “The Patriarchy.” Neither exist.
Fail Burton
January 16th, 2015 @ 3:31 pm

I’m still not following the reasoning on this one. Facts are facts and logic is logic. They don’t change because your moral motivation is religious or secular. Why this sociopathic cult exists in terms of a larger world view on where such things originate from isn’t as important as the fact it exists. People fight fights for many different reasons, and yes, shockingly, some of them are religious. But is it a good fight and is it real? The moral motivation to uncover such things doesn’t matter as long as it is in fact moral.
NeoWayland
January 16th, 2015 @ 4:37 pm

Ah. I see the battle is already fought and won in your own mind.

I still think you can “win” without a battle and keep your civilization.
NeoWayland
January 16th, 2015 @ 4:39 pm

*waves*

Hello again.

You know if you had tried discussing instead of arguing, you might have done better.
NeoWayland
January 16th, 2015 @ 4:41 pm

As you say.
NeoWayland
January 16th, 2015 @ 4:43 pm

Reasoning is only one tactic. Admittedly it can be least effective but since it is the most friendly, the polite person should choose it first.
Adobe_Walls
January 16th, 2015 @ 6:14 pm

The battle hasn’t really begun and I’ve no idea who wins in the end. But I do know where the loser stands after it ends.
Quartermaster
January 16th, 2015 @ 7:34 pm

I’m going to weaken and respond this time.

It degraded into an argument because you have some idea that you can define terms to mean what you wish, and ignore history, yet arrive at some wise decision. Like most of your ilk, human nature gets in the way and you end up with egg on your face because the world simply does not work in the way you wish it to work. Simply put, you are a relativist who thinks there are all sorts of versions the truth, when all human history stands squarely against such idiocy.

It doesn’t bother me when people think that way, but I will not take such a moron seriously, and you certainly fall in that category. You aren’t worth the time of day, Neo. It’s just a shame that you waste your intellect on the stupidity you’ve posted here over the months.

Gone again. Rave to your heart’s content.
NeoWayland
January 16th, 2015 @ 7:40 pm

So you’ll only be happy when both of you are dead?

There are alternatives, you know.
NeoWayland
January 16th, 2015 @ 7:44 pm

We could talk about that, but you’ve said you won’t answer. That seems curious to me.

One thing you might consider.

Why do you continually obsess and then deny that you do?
Adobe_Walls
January 16th, 2015 @ 8:09 pm

You really are an idiot.
donnie
January 16th, 2015 @ 8:24 pm

I agree with a lot of what you have to say on the topic of feminism, but with all due respect your conception of what drives women to bisexuality, dyed hair, or body piercing is absolutely ridiculous and the work of your imagination. It’s definitely not reality. I know this based on experience, and you believe this as a consequence of your bias against anything that’s out of the norm.
NeoWayland
January 16th, 2015 @ 8:46 pm

Or maybe your wall wasn’t such a good idea…
Adobe_Walls
January 16th, 2015 @ 8:51 pm

I remain convinced you really are an idiot.
NeoWayland
January 16th, 2015 @ 8:57 pm

Well, that was quick.

I don’t think you’re an idiot. I do think you’re a little misguided.

Think about this for just a moment. I agree that what the RadFems say is wrong and I agree that using force to push those ideas are wrong. You and I agree on that.

Where you and I differ is that I don’t think conservatives should do that either. And for precisely the same reasons.

Make your choice and live with the consequences.
Quartermaster
January 16th, 2015 @ 9:14 pm

Last time.

You don’t have the intellectual capability to understand what obsession is. All you do is mark yourself as a bozo. The obsessions are yours and you are unable to see just how stupid your obsession with relativism is.

Rave on.
Adobe_Walls
January 16th, 2015 @ 9:37 pm

None of my comments in this thread are about feminism per se. Feminism is merely part of the leftist coalition and therefore one of the forces of evil. Any group that joins the left no matter how justified or unjustified their grievances, are the forces for and of evil. No matter how far left they are, they’re all merely different points on an arc leading downward into slavery and darkness. They must be extirpated from the social, economic, cultural and political fabric of our republic. It really is that simple.
K-Bob
January 17th, 2015 @ 2:03 am

It’s like NASCAR. No right turns at all.
K-Bob
January 17th, 2015 @ 2:07 am

Your tent is one-dimensional.
Daniel Freeman
January 17th, 2015 @ 2:32 am

“It is behavior that should be beaten out of them.”

I find that suggestion appalling, irrational, unfunny, and counter-productive, in that order.
Daniel Freeman
January 17th, 2015 @ 2:40 am

You’re lucky! It ate mine. And then ran off with my baby.
Daniel Freeman
January 17th, 2015 @ 6:35 am

I found search results. That is not the same as understanding them. I’m still confused.
Diogenes_of_NJ
January 17th, 2015 @ 2:28 pm

You need to be beaten pajama boy!
NeoWayland
January 17th, 2015 @ 3:39 pm

My point is that part of making choices and expecting people to honor yours means that people are going to makes choices you do not agree with.

Just because you feel your choice is the “right choice” doesn’t give you the power to force that choice on another. You have to convince them.

Most progressives can’t handle that. Many conservatives can’t handle that. But sticking to that idea is the only way to “win” without killing a lot of people.
NeoWayland
January 17th, 2015 @ 3:46 pm

You’ve more than demonstrated obsession and rants to me, even if I didn’t know before.

BTW, this latest exchange with you helped crystalize a post I’ve been working on.

Leap of Faith

It’s one of the best I’ve done in a while and I have you to thank for it.
ndmike12
January 17th, 2015 @ 4:00 pm

Lol, well played.
Adobe_Walls
January 17th, 2015 @ 4:18 pm

I very much doubt convincing progressives they should stop being evil is a viable option, any more than convincing other communist or fascist regimes that they should stop being evil. We wouldn’t need to kill a lot of people. When the truly frank exchange of views begins many TWANLOC will flee. Many many more will expire from their various diseases chief among them is catastrophic uselessness. Relative to our population we’re not talking huge numbers. Once the Republic is restored and the progressive’s main weapon is eviscerated (the fourth branch) the system can be re-redesigned. Once that is accomplished and the people stop hearing nonsense they’ll stop spouting nonsense.
Daniel Freeman
January 17th, 2015 @ 4:26 pm

I love how feminism is bringing people together — in opposition, but still, it’s inadvertently heartwarming.
NeoWayland
January 17th, 2015 @ 4:34 pm

*sighs*

I thought you might think that way.

It’s not about them being “evil,” and it’s not about “redesigning” the system. It’s not even about ripping off the “fourth” branch.

It’s just about holding fast and demanding that they can’t use the law to project their own morality. It’s only fair, conservatives can’t do that either.

If you have faith, your ideals will prove themselves under those circumstances.
K-Bob
January 17th, 2015 @ 5:26 pm

So if I think that through, and add it to our growing list of things that need to be re-introduced (such as a proper form of punishment for jihadists), I’d say we need to bring back laudanum.

https://m1.behance.net/rendition/modules/49635851/disp/0d3a105ec9b37d1821bd7ceea2f12f8e.jpg
Adobe_Walls
January 17th, 2015 @ 5:51 pm

What law?
NeoWayland
January 17th, 2015 @ 7:46 pm

The rule of law. The basis for the Republic.

You and I do differ there. I think law should have some very tough restrictions on controlling other people “for their own good.”

Unfortunately, many progressives agree with you that the law should extend that far. But they don’t agree with which morality should be enforced.
Adobe_Walls
January 17th, 2015 @ 8:18 pm

We do not live under rule of law. Nor do I support laws on controlling other people for their own good. How in the hell did you get that notion?
Quartermaster
January 18th, 2015 @ 2:46 pm

The worst person to lie to is yourself. Go ahead and remain in your delusions.

I’ll pass on your mental vomit.
NeoWayland
January 18th, 2015 @ 6:46 pm

So much for your last time.

Look, I don’t really care if you talk to me or not. But these snide sides of yours just show your obsession. You not only want to not notice, you want to be recognized for not noticing. It’s really childish.

When you can’t dispute my points you start with the insults. Stars above, it’s so predictable!

I’m not your enemy. I’ve told you exactly why I am here. The sad part is that you can’t accept that.
NeoWayland
January 18th, 2015 @ 6:50 pm

You want to live under a rule of law, your writing shows it. Even the progressives have to act as if the rule of law existed. That’s one of their weaknesses.

How in the hell did you get that notion?
Because you want to eradicate all but the “right” choice.
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January 19th, 2015 @ 9:30 pm

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Care to Explain this?..
January 20th, 2015 @ 5:58 am

“The Gender Pay Gap”
Google it, i dare you- (though, as google Potentially tailors the searchers results to their own narrow world view; search with duck duck go)

Full time working US women earn 77% of men’s earnings.

Forbes writes: “This oft-cited percentage stems from U.S. Census Bureau data and is not, despite critiques, something made up by feminists”

But you say, there are legitimate reasons, beside prejudice, that cause pay gaps.

Yes there are: rigorous statistiacal analysis finds 2 thirds of the gap explainable.

What about the rest?

http://www.aauw.org/files/2013/03/Graduating-to-a-Pay-Gap-The-Earnings-of-Women-and-Men-One-Year-after-College-Graduation-Executive-Summary-and-Recommendations.pdf

https://duckduckgo.com/

http://www.forbes.com/sites/forbeswomanfiles/2014/04/07/the-awful-truth-of-the-gender-pay-gap-it-gets-worse-as-women-age/
Care to Explain this?..
January 20th, 2015 @ 5:59 am

When Sleeman’s employer of five years—a Michigan mechanical engineering firm—went under in 2003, she learned through bankruptcy court that almost all the men she had supervised earned more than she did. Sleeman had tried to negotiate her salary when she was hired but was told salaries were nonnegotiable. After she found out about the discrepancy, she spoke to her former supervisor, who unapologetically informed her that the young men were likely paid more because they were sole breadwinners for wives and children—never mind Sleeman’s glowing performance reviews and supervisory role. To her employer, she just wasn’t the right gender to make a salary that would have helped her refinance her home, pay for her husband’s heart surgery, and help her parents and in-laws in retirement.