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Queering Valentine’s Day

Posted on | February 9, 2015 | 132 Comments

Two years ago, self-proclaimed “Queer Feminist” Sara Alcid complained about the heteronormativity of Valentine’s Day:

“Heteronormativity and gender roles also rear their ugly heads on Valentine’s Day. Gifts for ‘him’ or ‘her’ are clearly divided and marked and it’s almost impossible to find cards that represent queer couples. . . .
“It’s not hard to see why Valentine’s Day is problematic for many feminists. Celebrated traditionally, Valentine’s Day magnifies many of the very systems of domination that we work to critique and dismantle.”

Yes, it’s tragic that advertisers and greeting card companies aim their marketing efforts at the normal 98% of us, rather than pander to the 2% niche market of LGBT-OMG-BBQ-WTF.

In Canada, feminist Kayla Spagnoli — who was an organizer of SlutWalk Ottawa — is fighting against heteronormativity:

Pink Triangle Services has graciously let us use a board room at their office to host a feminist mixer to get together to make Valentine (or Anti-Valentine) Day cards.
We will be supplying card stock and supplies, as well as lots of non-hetero-normative, queer and non-binary card ideas! There will also be tea and candy.
This event is *FREE* but we are asking for a $5 donation if you are able to help cover some supplies and to give back to PTS.
PTS is a safe space*, we are asking everyone to be kind and considerate of the other attendees ie: ask for proper pronouns. Please no strong perfumes. There are non-binary washrooms available. There is an elevator if needed. PTS office is on the 2nd floor of the building.
PTS is having their Women’s Night who will also be welcomed to join.
Everyone is welcomed! Please spread this event.
#FemMixer #Ottawa
*friendly reminder that safe space is not the same as an empowered space.

“Gee, Stacy, how do you find these kooks?”

You have to dive headfirst into the craziness, my friends. So I was searching Twitter for “heteronormativity” — one of the buzzwords of Women’s Studies, an academic swamp crowded with lesbian radicals — when I discovered Ms. Spagnoli boasting of her success in promoting her queer Valentine’s Day event on social media:

Curiosity led me to discover (a) she and her twin sister Jenna have a site called Feminist Twins, (b) Kayla was raised Catholic, (c) she’s bisexual, (d) she is a mortician and (e) she’s been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD).

Before we get to the mental illness, let’s hear about the sex part:

i had sex last night . . .
it was my second date. i knew by the first i would have sex with him.
there alot of different things I want to talk about here, its hard to narrow it down … slut shaming, growing up catholic, love, mental illness, feminism, body positivity … I don’t really know where to start. . . .
I get really moody and unstable when I get in relationships so why can’t I just date and not force myself to feel like I HAVE TO FIND [MR … maybe MS] RIGHT RIGHT NOW!?! . . .
Anyways, we will see where this goes. I don’t think he is “the one” . . .
The thing that makes me the saddest is it took a stranger (well not a complete stranger) and NOT A boyfriend to help me see how people can have [actually] good, [actually] consensual sex. I guess that speaks volumes about the a–holes I have been dating.

So (a) she’s a bisexual feminist, (b) she’s a SlutWalk organizer and (c) she’s been dating a–holes and having bad sex.

Did I mention she’s crazy? Because I covered the 2013 D.C. SlutWalk, and the vibe of serious mental illness was so heavy I think half of them had gotten day passes from St. Elizabeth’s so they could participate. It takes a special kind of crazy to march topless through the streets of Washington, D.C., waving signs and chanting slogans about rape. The solution to that kind of problem isn’t equal rights, it’s Thorazine.

It was a lesbian friend who first told me about the prevalence of borderline personality disorder in the lesbian community. This bit of trivia I filed away in my mind, half-forgotten, until I encountered Women’s Studies professor Lisa Johnson, who organized a pro-lesbian event at her university. In 2010, Professor Johnson published a book, Girl in Need of a Tourniquet: Memoir of a Borderline Personality, describing herself as a “psycho girlfriend” with a history of dysfunctional relationships with both men and women.

Yes, this makes perfect sense to university administrators: Give the “psycho girlfriend” a Ph.D. and put her in charge of your Women’s Studies program so she can host the performance of an event for students called, “How to Be a Lesbian in 10 Days or Less.”

This is not to suggest that all lesbians are crazy. Certainly, few of them are crazy enough to be professors of Women’s Studies, a field pioneered by genuine lunatics like Mary Daly and Joyce Trebilcot. Back in the day, my freelance research in the effects of hallucinogenic drugs led to some serious craziness, but if I’d started babbling about the gender binary and the heterosexual matrix, or ranting that “destruction of the incest taboo is essential to the development of cooperative human community based on the free-flow of natural androgynous eroticism,” the way Andrea Dworkin did, I’d probably be doing the “Haldol Shuffle” in a psychiatric unit somewhere. (As opposed to being a professional blogger, a career that requires complete sanity.) You need a Ph.D. and faculty tenure before you can get paid to spew the kind of deranged gibberish taught in Women’s Studies classrooms, so the amateur feminist nutjobs on Tumblr are frequently disappointed that few people appreciate their volunteer craziness. Kayla Spagnoli recently got a clue:

“Thinking about shifting my activism from feminism to mental illness. It’s been a long time coming. Jason has always wondered why I gave so much to a movement that has always lashed back. It makes sense.”

Follow that clue, Kayla. And stay away psilocybin.

After I engaged Ms. Spagnoli on Twitter, feminists rallied to her defense. This replicates a pattern I observed in 2013:

What you discover is that radicals have two discourses: The exoteric discourse, used when speaking to outsiders, is about “choice,” “equality,” “health,” etc. The esoteric discourse, used among fellow radicals, is an entirely different vocabulary: “Smash patriarchy,” destroy “heteronormativity and gender roles” and “systems of domination.”
And when you pull back the exoteric mask to reveal the esoteric truth of radicalism . . . well, that’s intimidation, you haters!

Feminist ideology is not merely anti-male and anti-heterosexual. The feminist movement is anti-fact and anti-truth.

We are not deceived, because we are not insane.




 

Category: Feminism, Sex Trouble

Comments

132 Responses to “Queering Valentine’s Day”

  1. Finrod Felagund
    February 9th, 2015 @ 1:08 pm

    IMHO all leftists are inoculated against contrary facts, but the radfems seem to be inoculated more than most leftists.

  2. Richard_Romano
    February 9th, 2015 @ 1:10 pm

    Read Judith Butler’s work — it’s counter-intuitive rubbish. They regard her as the sort of paladin of the gender studies movement. Her work is virtually unreadable, filled with esoterica.

  3. Jeanette Victoria
    February 9th, 2015 @ 1:10 pm

    The more this kind of behavior is enshrined as “normal” the more mainstream lunacy will became. Welcome to the apocalypse!

  4. Dana
    February 9th, 2015 @ 1:14 pm

    Maybe they get booster shots?

  5. Dana
    February 9th, 2015 @ 1:17 pm

    I’m sorry, but are you suggesting that she apply introspection, that she might even consider that she bears some actual responsibility for her life?

    You are clearly a h8ey h8ful h8er, and are heartily denounced!

  6. Dana
    February 9th, 2015 @ 1:27 pm

    Our esteemed host chose not to quote a most important part from the lovely Miss Spagnoli’s piece:

    I am quickly annoyed by people to be honest (I guess its a BPD characteristic) but either way, why can’t I have some fun and work on atleast being stable enough to work on seeing someone before I jump two feet in a relationship?

    Perhaps the problem isn’t so much that get gets annoyed quickly, but that she is herself quickly annoying.

    I learned all of life’s lessons from Big Bang Theory:

  7. Evi L. Bloggerlady
    February 9th, 2015 @ 1:31 pm

    http://queercandy.tumblr.com/

  8. Dana
    February 9th, 2015 @ 1:36 pm

    In the meantime, I delved further into her blog:

    i am jobless. well i guess i could go back to funeraling but i did shave my head. the pet crematorium guy gave me the silent treatment and then told me not to question him because i have no idea what i am doing. no thanks.

    i stopped talking anti-depressants because without benefits they are 150$ a month

    i want to go back to school

    but i still don’t know what for

    my tattoo this summer had blow-out (the twin-peaks one) so i got more added (for free thank god)

    i don’t know why but my gums are swollen and bleedy??? but im looking into that asap

    Well, the obvious response to not having a job is to shave your head, to help you get one, right?

    There’s just so much there!

  9. Jeanette Victoria
    February 9th, 2015 @ 1:51 pm

    When one is married to wonderful Godly MAN one doesn’t Valentines day!

  10. Quartermaster
    February 9th, 2015 @ 1:53 pm

    A friend has been living apart from his wife for years. She is a Psychologist. The way he puts it, women go into Psychology in an attempt to figure what’s wrong with themselves. My observation is that the attempt is rarely successful.

  11. concern00
    February 9th, 2015 @ 1:58 pm

    Our mental institutions used to be the place to go for safe and empowered spaces.

  12. laura_PH
    February 9th, 2015 @ 2:36 pm

    “The solution to that kind of problem isn’t equal rights, it’s Thorazine.”

    Preach it, brother. 😉 And what the hell is an “empowered” space? These people are so emotionally frail they need to be propped up just to have a conversation with each other?

  13. Adobe_Walls
    February 9th, 2015 @ 2:46 pm

    And so little.

  14. Fail Burton
    February 9th, 2015 @ 3:00 pm

    My favorite thing about radical feminism is how they’ve spent decades working out rhetoric that justifies their hatred and madness as not being hatred and madness. RadFem rhetoric is kinda like Mad Magazine’s Snappy Answers to Stupid Questions. Radfem rhetoric has a certain surface plausibility and logic to it but which disappears like a soap bubble when you touch it, like Groucho Marx saying he’d never be a member of a club that would accept him. That’s mad humor except radfem’s aren’t kidding.

    When you tell a radfem that male female sex as normal has been this way since forever they’ll respond that’s an example of how deep the problem is, just like Groucho would.

  15. Jim R
    February 9th, 2015 @ 3:09 pm

    HEAR HIM! HEAR HIM!

  16. Evi L. Bloggerlady
    February 9th, 2015 @ 3:18 pm

    She’s Melting! http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-JtdmvSJ-vWw/VNkLLppQOqI/AAAAAAAArHw/ZgEG5oQFJWg/s1600/Rosie's%2BMeltdown%2Band%2Bthe%2BView.PNG

  17. trangbang68
    February 9th, 2015 @ 3:29 pm

    Roses are red
    violets are blue
    I’m a carpet muncher
    How about you?

  18. swampwarbler
    February 9th, 2015 @ 3:52 pm

    Don’t joke, they’ve already done it in public schools in Brooklyn.

    http://www.sodahead.com/united-states/ny-middle-school-forces-children-to-ask-same-gender-for-a-kiss-during-anti-bullying-classwould-yo/question-3657495/

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  20. IceBerg77
    February 9th, 2015 @ 4:37 pm

    Not necessarily. BPD is essentially an attachment disorder, so parents with BPD might not raise children with BPD. Furthermore BPD effects straight, and gay people alike, and because people with BPD have experimented with homosexuality doesn’t mean there are higher incidents among gay people. Your gay bashing is medieval, and tiresome.

  21. concern00
    February 9th, 2015 @ 4:43 pm

    Casual sex is analogous to eating at McDonalds or taking drugs. You feel euphoric and empowered during the session, but only regret once it is over. But you’ll be back next time to get another brief hit until you’re permanently hooked.

  22. K-Bob
    February 9th, 2015 @ 4:51 pm

    Hey! Those condoms in the “wallet” look like Smitty’s brand: “One Each”

    I suspect the “each” is on the other side.

    Oh, and by the way, Stacy, I just got a call from Hunter S. Thompson on the special, supercooled, negative frequency phone line that connects beyond the veil, and he said “I’d publish that under my name, even if he never paid me.”

    I hate taking calls on that thing. It makes the back of my eyeballs itch.

  23. K-Bob
    February 9th, 2015 @ 4:53 pm

    Plus when you leave the wrapper in your car, it smells like french fries for like, a week.

    What?

  24. K-Bob
    February 9th, 2015 @ 4:58 pm

    We always gave it a pass. But just for because, after 25 years, I started ordering Zingermans stuff for the K-Missus around that Feb 14th date. I just never put any valentine’s day crap in the presentation, and I don’t give her flowers on the 14th. She says she appreciates the way I do it.

  25. K-Bob
    February 9th, 2015 @ 5:01 pm

    Reads like a Zippy The Pinhead comic.

    http://www.dougsworld.com/zippy/yow.gif

  26. Finrod Felagund
    February 9th, 2015 @ 5:26 pm

    +1 for your icon alone.

  27. Jeanette Victoria
    February 9th, 2015 @ 5:42 pm

    Hubby bought me a beautiful charm bracelet one year on V-day. It has charms like a Navy anchor to remind of my daughter that was killed by a drunk driver. I really love that bracelet. Often just biys me flowers out of the blue. But the guy is a saint all year around me had bought me awesome cameras and has purchased my sound equipment for when I preform.

  28. K-Bob
    February 9th, 2015 @ 5:46 pm

    Good man.

    I like buying flowers on the spur-of-the-moment. No Card, just, “Here ya go!” But I only do it about three or four times a year.

  29. jakee308
    February 9th, 2015 @ 5:46 pm

    Is it me or does it seem that they list their pathology along with their degrees and such? As if it’s some sort of sign of belonging? That they’re proud of how crazy they are?

    Perhaps they’re more self aware than they seem. They know they’re nuts but they try to turn it into a plus. Lemons==lemonade.

    Bravo for the effort ladies but the majority of your actions and activities are going to lead directly to you and yours becoming extinct.

    And thank God for that!

    They need to read some history of fringe groups that exceed the limits of the norm in society and proceed off the biological cliff into extinction. Remember the Shakers? Yeah most people don’t and there’s a reason for that.

  30. Jeanette Victoria
    February 9th, 2015 @ 5:49 pm

    Homosexuals have a higher percentage of mental illness including BPD than iwhat we find in the general population. People with borderline personality disorder are more likely to exhibit greater sexual preoccupation, have earlier sexual exposure, engage in casual sexual relationships, report a greater number of different sexual partners as well as promiscuity, and engage in homosexual experiences. In addition, patients with borderline personality disorder appear to be characterized by a greater number of high-risk sexual behaviors.

  31. Phil_McG
    February 9th, 2015 @ 5:59 pm

    PTS is a safe space* […]

    *friendly reminder that safe space is not the same as an empowered space.

    Reality TV show idea: SJW Island.

    A diverse and vibrant crew of radical feminists, critical race theorists, and transgendered intersectional gender-questioning differently-abled Wiccan environmentalists are placed on a desert island…

    …the island is then nuked.

    http://www.worldcrunch.com/images/story/phoca_thumb_l_36-licorne-murbal-030770.jpg

  32. Southern Air Pirate
    February 9th, 2015 @ 6:50 pm

    No. Just put them there and some tools in the center of the island and just leave them. Let all the SJWs fight amongst themselves Lord of the Flies style and show all the unedited video as a non-premium cable channel. That way everyone can see crazy in action and unguarded talking. Watch how fast they turn on each other and prove basic civilization concepts known since the dawn of Western Civ.

  33. Southern Air Pirate
    February 9th, 2015 @ 6:56 pm

    Meanwhile in the rest of crazy town this happened. http://motherboard.vice.com/read/how-to-make-breakfast-with-your-vagina?utm_source=mbfb

    FYI FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS HOLY DONT CLICK ON THIS WHEN NEAR FOOD OR DRINK.

  34. RS
    February 9th, 2015 @ 7:16 pm

    Yes. We’ve reached “peak vagina.”

  35. laura_PH
    February 9th, 2015 @ 7:52 pm

    For the love of all that is holy DON’T CLICK ON IT AT ALL. Do yourself a favor, and just don’t. Fair warning – you will not want to eat anything for a long time, and yogurt, never again.

  36. laura_PH
    February 9th, 2015 @ 7:53 pm

    I told my husband I want a d20 carved on my tombstone, but I can’t decide which is funnier – critical hit or critical fail. 😉

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  38. Flying Tiger Comics
    February 9th, 2015 @ 7:57 pm

    Philip K. Dick wrote a short story, later expanded into a somewhat different novel, about an Earth colony entirely composed of different sorts of psychotics.

    Now we’re living it.

    The key point was that abnormal aberrant people look for movements to join that will validate their appalling and insane behaviour.

    This explains not just pro wrestling fandom and people who collect Superman comics, but also islam, current feminism and socialism.

  39. Quartermaster
    February 9th, 2015 @ 8:18 pm

    Leave Pro wrestling fandom alone. They are normal aberrant people.

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  41. Quartermaster
    February 9th, 2015 @ 8:20 pm

    Faster please! Much, much faster!

  42. IceBerg77
    February 9th, 2015 @ 8:21 pm

    That’s all true about people with BPD, but applies to homosexuals and heterosexuals.

  43. Quartermaster
    February 9th, 2015 @ 8:22 pm

    Who sez you have to choose?

  44. Quartermaster
    February 9th, 2015 @ 8:24 pm

    What form do you take when you preform? Inquiring minds and such….

  45. Jeanette Victoria
    February 9th, 2015 @ 8:25 pm

    What is it don’t you understand about “Homosexuals have a higher percentage of mental illness including BPD than what we find in the general population”

    People who surfer from same sex attraction are disordered. That is simple common sense.

  46. Jeanette Victoria
    February 9th, 2015 @ 8:26 pm

    I sing Southern Gospel and Bluegrass at church events.

  47. Quartermaster
    February 9th, 2015 @ 8:26 pm

    What he DOES understand is that the facts don’t fit the queer narrative. Homosexuals exhibit higher levels of such problems because they have a mental illness in the first place. A very serious mental illness.

  48. Jeanette Victoria
    February 9th, 2015 @ 8:31 pm

    I’m always amazed at the mental gymnastics people do these days trying to convince people that metal illness is normal. Someone on another thread was really annoyed at me because I pointed out that a woman can NEVER be a man and it is a delusion to believe on is born in the wrong body.

  49. Quartermaster
    February 9th, 2015 @ 8:34 pm

    I’m crushed. All this time I’ve thought I was a Lesbian trapped in a man’s body.

  50. Jeanette Victoria
    February 9th, 2015 @ 8:35 pm

    Here maybe this will help