Should You Let Feminists Tell You How to Raise Your Children?

Posted on | February 23, 2015 | 65 Comments

Laura Bates is a childless 28-year-old feminist who bemoans the “gender-based assumptions about girls” in society:

We must protect young girls
from sexism in primary school
. . . How often do we heedlessly shower little girls with platitudes about prettiness and looks, or comment on how “big and strong” their brothers are growing? We hear comments about the sweetness and politeness of daughters, while sons are proudly described as boisterous, instead.

It is always interesting to me when feminists demand that we must emulate their failure. Nobody wants to marry Laura Bates and she has no children of her own, yet she considers herself qualified to tell the rest of us how to raise our children. Like all feminists, she assumes that normal gender roles are incompatible with women’s success or happiness. In order for women to be “equal,” feminists tell us, our society and culture must promote androgyny, so we are condemned for encouraging “sexism” if we praise girls for being pretty or describe boys as boisterous.

“Feminists have declared war on human nature,” and wish to destroy the marriage-based family, which is the basis of human civilization. Therefore, normal parents must be condemned as “sexist” if they try to raise normal children who will be successful in attracting a spouse, maintaining a marriage and raising a family. Normal parents are “sexist” for understanding that normal sex traits — the femininity of women and the masculinity of men — are attractive to normal people. Insofar as we wish our children to be normal and happy, we do encourage them in these “gender-based assumptions,” which are both natural and necessary to success in normal life.

We have met Laura Bates before, when she claimed “Women are being assaulted, abused and murdered in a sea of misogyny.” She is a failed actress, who graduated from elite Cambridge University in 2007 and launched her site Everyday Sexism in 2012. Unhappy women embrace feminism because it tells them that their unhappiness is not their own fault. Instead, feminists believe they are victims of male supremacy — externalizing responsibility by scapegoating men — and they wage war on human nature in order to destroy the system of “patriarchy” that these unhappy women blame for their own misfortunes.

“If you would be loved, love, and be lovable.”
— Benjamin Franklin

This is the problem that feminism can never solve, because feminists refuse to accept responsibility for their own unhappiness. Bitterness and envy are not attractive qualities. Feminists are not loved because they are not lovable. They make their own selfishness the basis of a political movement and, when this produces a negative reaction, they claim that this confirms that their analysis is correct: “Men hate me because I’m a feminist, and therefore more feminism is necessary!”

The circularity of this solipsistic theory never seems apparent to them. Nor do they ever seem to notice that other women succeed and achieve happiness within the “gender-based assumptions” that feminists blame for their own failure and unhappiness. These failed women presume their superiority qualifies them to tell the rest of us how to raise our children, and they want to teach this in schools:

Dreams of Feminist Education
Tadashi Dozono, Ileana Jiménez, Cheyenne Tobias
Two teachers of color, both feminist and queer, will share their dreams for feminist education in schools. Moving from theory to action, Ileana and Tadashi work alongside their students using various feminisms such as women of color feminism, global feminism, trans-feminism and queer theory. Their pedagogical practices incorporate restorative and social justice, inspiring innovative curricula that are intersectional and interdisciplinary. In collaboration with Cheyenne Tobias, feminist artist and Ileana’s former student, Tadashi and Ileana will bring us on a visual journey through two different school contexts via the successes they’ve had and the challenges they face in bringing a feminist vision to their respective classrooms. Calling us to action through their own personal storytelling, Ileana and Tadashi will urge us to consider the role of feminism in schools and the role that schools play in feminism.

Lesbians earn 20% more than heterosexual women in the U.S., which proves women are oppressed by heteronormative patriarchy!

Of course, if you’re a feminist, everything proves that women are oppressed by heteronormative patriarchy.

Category: Feminism, Sex Trouble

Comments

65 Responses to “Should You Let Feminists Tell You How to Raise Your Children?”

Fail Burton
February 23rd, 2015 @ 4:28 pm

On the day this cowardly and lying bigoted ideology goes and occupies draft offices and insists on diversity and equal death, that’s the day I’ll listen. Until that time I’ll treat it like the con game it is.
concern00
February 23rd, 2015 @ 4:30 pm

Thanks for using the word ‘normal’ in an appropriate context!
marcus tullius cicero
February 23rd, 2015 @ 4:34 pm

Lesbians earn more than normal hetero women because they scare the sh*t of everyone…but I know for a fact that they are despised and predisposed to quit or be fired!
theBuckWheat
February 23rd, 2015 @ 4:44 pm

While the average young progressive woman goes on the pill or Depo and deliberately disables her ability to conceive in order to seek fulfillment in a gender-inclusive workforce, young EuroMuslim women submit to their husbands to be his “tilth” as the Quran commands in 2:223 and bear them many children.

So, to what demographic end does this progressive world view take western society? It should be clear that it is not a free, nor prosperous nor safe one.
#Oscar Whiners | Regular Right Guy
February 23rd, 2015 @ 4:45 pm

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McGehee
February 23rd, 2015 @ 4:46 pm

Should You Let Feminists Tell You How to Raise Your Children?

NJNBHN.
robertstacymccain
February 23rd, 2015 @ 4:58 pm

Most feminists don’t realize that feminism has been funded for more than 40 years by major foundations (Rockefeller, Ford, etc.) whose interest is not “women’s right” but population control. The Ford Foundation spent millions of dollars to help fund the creation of Women’s Studies programs at major universities in the 1970s and ’80s. The eugenic consensus among these plutocratic elites — who want to suppress the fertility of the “underclass” — is ignored by most feminists because if they complain about the population control agenda, they will lose their funding.
texlovera
February 23rd, 2015 @ 5:00 pm

I see many, many cats in this woman’s future….
texlovera
February 23rd, 2015 @ 5:04 pm

“Unhappy women embrace feminism because it tells them that their unhappiness is not their own fault. Instead, feminists believe they are victims of male supremacy — externalizing responsibility by scapegoating men — and they wage war on human nature in order to destroy the system of “patriarchy” that these unhappy women blame for their own misfortunes.”

Step 1: DEMAND A LIFE FREE FROM MEN!!

Step 2: REFUSE TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR NEW “LIFE”

Repeat as necessary until your house is full of cats.
Fail Burton
February 23rd, 2015 @ 5:11 pm

I’m assuming her experience comes from successfully de-gendering her cats.
Fail Burton
February 23rd, 2015 @ 5:12 pm

Oh, no, not that Soylent Green thing again.
Michael Spangler
February 23rd, 2015 @ 5:16 pm

I see you to are well versed in the intricacies of the “Cat Lady” formula.
Evi L. Bloggerlady
February 23rd, 2015 @ 5:23 pm

Population control is a huge issue on the left…mostly funded by rich white guys.

The racism is so strong, it burns!
Dana
February 23rd, 2015 @ 5:25 pm

This cisheteronormative patriarchist, along with my darling bride (of 35 years, 9 months and 4 days) somehow managed to rear two daughters, both of who were graduated from high school, never got knocked up, never got locked up, never were bought home by the police, and both in the United States Army, without the sage parenting advice of the childless Miss Bates.

How ever did we do it?
Dana
February 23rd, 2015 @ 5:28 pm

Once she achieves Step 1, I hope that she is able to find enough female plumbers and electricians and auto mechanics and farmers and truck drivers and garbage men and policemen to keep her life running smoothly.
Dana
February 23rd, 2015 @ 5:33 pm

It seems a bit odd to hear a complaining question like “How often do we heedlessly shower little girls with platitudes about prettiness and looks” from a woman who clearly uses lipstick, mascara, foundation and blush, along with bleaching her hair blonde, and wearing an oh-so-feminine pink scarf.

http://i1.wp.com/2.bp.blogspot.com/-heh4FkF1BPE/VJIaO5LS3lI/AAAAAAAAS-c/GC_IaUVMYbA/s1600/Laura_Bates_Feminist.JPG?resize=453%2C285
Jim R
February 23rd, 2015 @ 5:56 pm

When I found out that I was to become a father, I was pretty desperate for advice.

I think I’ll be giving people like this a miss.

Speaking of advice, can somebody explain just what the hell this means:

Moving from theory to action, Ileana and Tadashi work alongside their students using various feminisms such as women of color feminism, global feminism, trans-feminism and queer theory. Their pedagogical practices incorporate restorative and social justice, inspiring innovative curricula that are intersectional and interdisciplinary. In collaboration with Cheyenne Tobias, feminist artist and Ileana’s former student, Tadashi and Ileana will bring us on a visual journey through two different school contexts via the successes they’ve had and the challenges they face in bringing a feminist vision to their respective classrooms.
Jim R
February 23rd, 2015 @ 5:57 pm

HAH! Well-spotted!
RS
February 23rd, 2015 @ 6:02 pm

Their pedagogical practices incorporate restorative and social justice, inspiring innovative curricula that are intersectional and interdisciplinary.

Well, at least there’s no math.

The downside is, in their future humans are unable to cross a body of water because bridge design has become a lost skill.
texlovera
February 23rd, 2015 @ 6:05 pm

Perhaps we could isolate these “womyn” on an island, where no man would be allowed.

They could call it “Paradise Island”….
concern00
February 23rd, 2015 @ 6:39 pm

I stumbled into a feminist business party one time (free drinks!) only to carefully point out the prevalence of high heels…because they so wear them just for comfort.
Gleep Glop
February 23rd, 2015 @ 6:45 pm

“These failed women presume their superiority qualifies them to tell the rest of us how to raise our children, and they want to teach this in schools”

Which is why the debate over school choice (in all its forms) is so important.
Kirby McCain
February 23rd, 2015 @ 6:50 pm

Funny that we just the other day had a story about a 28 y.o. feminist crawling in to a High School girl’s bedroom window…
Zohydro
February 23rd, 2015 @ 7:01 pm

Or Chako Paul City…
Zohydro
February 23rd, 2015 @ 7:04 pm

Isn’t there a McCain in that very same army? R’uh r’oh, R’eorge…
kilo6
February 23rd, 2015 @ 7:12 pm

Always follow the money, and don’t forget Aldous Huxley

757: To Matthew and Ellen Huxley … 30 Sept, 1956

Dearest Matthew and Ellen

… First of all, let me thank you for the paper on Japanese abortions (of which I had heard a good deal from Harrison Brown). There is some hope that ‘Omnibus’ may do a TV film on the population problem. I have written a brief outline … Let us hope that Ford will put up the cash to get the thing done.

–The Letters of Aldous Huxley (1969) 1st U.S. Edition, Harper and Row, NY. Library of Congress Card Catalog #69-15263, Pg. 808

Matthew Huxley (1920-2005) was Aldous’ only child, Ellen (nee Hovde) was Matthew’s 1st wife and a documentary film maker.

The book has several references to the Ford foundation…

“… I have been seeing quite a lot recently of Bob Hutchins of the Ford Foundation. And what a strange situation there too! He keeps asking for ideas on which to spend the accumulating dollars. …”
-ibid pg 663

These are just two semi-random quotes that I have tagged in a huge book (964 pages) which came to mind when you mentioned the Ford Foundation. I’ve been going through it over the past year or so. It gives quite the insight into the Huxley family and the numerous cultural efforts they were involved in. Please bear in mind these words were very candid, Aldous’ personal letters were published 6 years after his death. There’s much more, but this is just sort of a hobby for me and I do not have a ton of time to invest into it.

However, the more of Huxley’s letters I read the more I believe Brave New World was an instruction manual rather than a warning. Perhaps it could be broadly considered to be both but I don’t believe he wrote it as a “warning”, he was up to his eyeballs in eugenic cultural manipulation and loving it.

See his family tree https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Huxley_family
kilo6
February 23rd, 2015 @ 7:19 pm

If you’re trying to deduce an ontology or anything rational, I recommend you give up now.
JeffWeimer
February 23rd, 2015 @ 8:10 pm

Crazy. Eyes.

She has them.
DeadMessenger
February 23rd, 2015 @ 8:12 pm

It means, “we’re wannabe Marxist indoctrinators and mind controllers”.
DeadMessenger
February 23rd, 2015 @ 8:16 pm

And they can only have stuff there invented by women. Hahahaha!
DeadMessenger
February 23rd, 2015 @ 8:18 pm

Well, if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it must be…
Jeanette Victoria
February 23rd, 2015 @ 8:27 pm

LOL Not only am I NOT a feminist I don’t even own a pair heels anymore. It’s either cowboy boots or Birkenstocks. But then I never wear pants either 🙂
Jeanette Victoria
February 23rd, 2015 @ 8:29 pm

Just another LUZER women trying to make herself important
trangbang68
February 23rd, 2015 @ 8:39 pm

Speaking of crazy bioches she looks a little bit like Mia Farrow. Maybe she can marry a pervert who will sleep with her daughter. Or she may have a son who’s so lame he gets fired by MSLSD
Adobe_Walls
February 23rd, 2015 @ 8:41 pm

It means they’re receptive of Moonbattery in all it’s many forms. It also means they want to make other peoples children just as crazy.
Jim R
February 23rd, 2015 @ 8:42 pm

your word is law

I think I already lost this one. My wife thought it was a hoot when Half-pint told me to brew her a cuppa last night, then told me to “hurry”.

I’ve been reduced to taking orders from a two year-old. Life is so hard…

😉
Adobe_Walls
February 23rd, 2015 @ 8:47 pm

According to Wiki she lives with her fiance.
DeadMessenger
February 23rd, 2015 @ 9:18 pm

In that case, I think you need to swing by my place and take the garbage out, my friend.
Daniel Freeman
February 23rd, 2015 @ 9:30 pm

It means that two of them are going to explain — with pictures! — how they taught their students to hate men, whiteness, heterosexuality, Christianity, capitalism, the West, and normalcy in general, right under the parents’ noses… and got away with it.
Jason Lee
February 23rd, 2015 @ 9:35 pm

Maybe they earn more because they have no children.
Julie Pascal
February 23rd, 2015 @ 9:37 pm

If I ever win the lottery I think I’ll start a school. It’ll be a weird school, but it won’t try to rewire children into passive proper-thinkers who are afraid of their own shadows or a PB&J bit into a gun shape. It will have more running around than schools do now, and teach the basics, and invented languages… Klingon for elementary, Esperanto for middle school, and Elvish for high school. All team sports and martial arts (including weapons by high school) will be performed in your language. And science will be focused on how to do basic survival things that no one knows how to do anymore. So will History courses. It’ll be different, and fun, and dirty, and loud. Boys will love it. Girls will too.
Jim R
February 23rd, 2015 @ 9:45 pm

[hangs head]
Fail Burton
February 23rd, 2015 @ 9:46 pm

How about “Dildo Atoll”?
DeadMessenger
February 23rd, 2015 @ 10:03 pm

Hahahaha!
marcus tullius cicero
February 23rd, 2015 @ 10:35 pm

Lesbians adopt a large amount of children, mixed race ones. I applaud it, except that then-like Kohn et al- want to turn them into Lesbians…
wbkrebs
February 23rd, 2015 @ 10:42 pm

I always suspected modern feminism was a genetic fail. From what you say, it’s an intentional genetic fail.
Daniel Freeman
February 24th, 2015 @ 12:57 am

The actual mechanics of getting married are not that complicated. Stupid people do it all the time. If they really wanted to get married, then that is what they would do, instead of acting like roommates with benefits and a thin veneer of hypothetical future commitment.

Sorry, I know that trial periods are all the rage right now, and some friends and relatives that I really cherish have done it, but it’s one of my pet peeves. Gays getting married can’t damage straight marriage more than was already done.
robertstacymccain
February 24th, 2015 @ 2:09 am

Lots of women live with their boyfriends whom they call “fiances.” Let’s see how the story ends.
robertstacymccain
February 24th, 2015 @ 2:13 am

You need to have a talk with your wife. Imagine that cherubic toddler as a 16-year-old who has never been told “no,” never been taught to respect adult authority. Once you get that terrifying picture in mind, you start looking for opportunities to teach these lessons, and it is important that PARENTS BE UNITED IN PURPOSE about this. Children can and will exploit differences and disagreements between parents.
Adobe_Walls
February 24th, 2015 @ 3:09 am

Diminishing our children’s sense of entitlement is one of our most important tasks.