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Do You Want to Be a ‘Male Feminist’?

Posted on | March 30, 2015 | 106 Comments

“Feminism is organized insanity. Why be merely crazy, when you can turn your mental illness into a political movement?”
— Robert Stacy McCain, Jan. 29

If there is anything feminists hate more than Christianity, heterosexuality, America and capitalism, it’s a “male feminist.”

The quotation marks are required because “male feminist” is an oxymoron, a contradiction in terms. Feminism is a women’s movement, organized for women and led by women, and there is nothing any man can do that will qualify him for membership in the movement.

However, this self-evident truth does not prevent “progressive” males from trying to leverage feminism to their own advantage. The “male feminist” denounces his fellow men — you know, those hateful misogynists over there in the patriarchy — in an effort to persuade feminists that he is an exception to the rule. He is not a sexist oppressor. He does not view women as sex objects. He just wants equality (and a “liberated” girlfriend who doesn’t demand monogamy or a long-term commitment or any of that other bourgeois “responsibility” stuff).

The prototypical “male feminist” was Hugo Schwyzer, a deranged professor who routinely slept with his community college students, nearly killed a woman and had a psychotic meltdown after he was called out for his gross misconduct.

Feminism is based on the belief that all men (collectively) oppress all women (collectively), so that humanity is divided into two groups, male oppressors and female victims. As members of the oppressor group, males are by definition part of the problem (variously termed “patriarchy,” “male supremacy” or “misogyny”) and only women, as members of the victim group, can be permitted to have any voice or influence in defining the solution to this problem. Karen Ingala Smith has explained that anything a man says about feminism contributes to the “silencing of women in the public sphere,” which means that “women’s subordination is reinforced.” Men only seek to be recognized as “feminists” so they can play a role of “leadership and power”:

Those who have power and benefit from it in varying degrees generally do not cede it and share it — they protect and reinforce it. . . .
[Women] are entitled to demand our rights without apology, without reference to how this affects men, without sorting out all the men’s problems too. . . .
That is not to say there is no role for men, just not the role they are used to of leadership and power. Men are very welcome to say that they support us and to consult with us to see in what way they can be most useful to the cause and we will tell them.

In other words, guys: “The First Rule of Feminism Is Shut Up.”

Nevertheless, “progressive” males continue begging for scraps from the feminist table and feminists sometimes give them answers:

Question: Do you believe that there is anything men can do to aid feminism despite not being able to be feminists themselves?
Answer:  Oh, there’s plenty men can do! Unfortunately (for men), none of that gets you the hero status and women fawning over you that most men seem to be after when they decide to engage in feminist causes. Some things that men can do to help are:
– Confront other men in male-dominated spaces when they display sexist behavior (even if there’s no woman looking).
– Do not watch porn or participate in the sex industry in any way. Tell your male friends to do the same.
– Donate money to institutions dedicated to helping women.
– Listen to women and believe them without questioning or playing devil’s advocate when they talk about their experiences.
– Use your privileged voice to create opportunities for women. For example, you can recommend a female coworker for a promotion to your boss, or make sure he pays attention to her work. Women are often invisible or ignored.
– Understand the importance of female-only spaces and protect those spaces. Do not try to invade them and do not let other men do the same.
– Do not let the women in your life do more than their share of housework. Clean your stuff, wash your dishes, change your kid’s diapers, cook your food, and do all of that without being asked to or expecting special praise.
– Respect women’s boundaries and spaces. Do not take more than your share of a seat on a bus or a train, for example, and do not push women around verbally. Women are socialized to be accomodating and will often not enforce their own boundaries for fear of male violence, even if they’re terribly uncomfortable, so you have to recognize this discomfort and back off.
– Do not judge a woman for her appearance. Avoid commenting on it, and never compare her to another woman. If you want to praise a woman, prefer to focus on her intelligence or skills.
– Work to dismantle male supremacy from the inside. Combat your own male socialization, your own entitlement and your own tendency to violence and aggression. Question everything that’s gendered. And do not become defensive or try to justify yourself when a woman calls you out on your male-dominant behavior. Do not use tired cliches like “not all men are like that!” or “but I’m a nice guy!”. Instead, examine your behavior and try to understand why you’re being called out.
– And more important of all, do all of the above without expecting any special reward! Your reward is to be participating in creating a better world that’s fair for everybody. You don’t get to be a “special” man, you don’t get free passes for anything, you don’t get to stand out for being decent. If you feel you deserve anything extra for being a decent human being, that’s your male entitlement at work. Afterall, if you’re helping women to make yourself look good, you are not helping at all.
Hope the info’s useful!

Quite useful, indeed! This was written by a young blogger who describes herself as “The Angry Hairy Lesbian Feminist they’ve warned you about,” and her point is exactly correct: No man can ever expect praise from a feminist, because nothing any man does can ever qualify him for the admiration, trust or respect of a feminist. Because he is male (and therefore, by feminist definition, an oppressor) he is undeserving of love from any female (who is, by definition, his victim).

Someone should write a book to explain this to you guys . . .




 

Category: Feminism, Sex Trouble

Comments

106 Responses to “Do You Want to Be a ‘Male Feminist’?”

  1. Jeanette Victoria
    March 30th, 2015 @ 11:18 am

    Why would anyone even go to a university these days unless it was for specific career. A trade school gets one into the work force faster and without the looniness

  2. texlovera
    March 30th, 2015 @ 11:24 am

    “Male feminists” are just wimps by another name.

    Nobody likes a wimp…

  3. texlovera
    March 30th, 2015 @ 11:32 am

    Well, this is interesting!

    That shooting this morning at the NSA in Fort Meade? It happened when a security guard at the gate confronted two men, dressed as women, who rammed an SUV into the gate trying to get in.

    Obviously male feminists!!!

  4. M. Thompson
    March 30th, 2015 @ 11:36 am

    It’s why I’m on the CPA track.

  5. trangbang68
    March 30th, 2015 @ 11:37 am

    That heifer couldn’t get Chris Dodd and the late Teddy Kennedy to make a sandwich with her.

  6. Art Deco
    March 30th, 2015 @ 11:39 am

    Broad doesn’t need anyone making sammichs for her. Can you make it up to us by posting something comparatively elegant and handsome, an old picture of Cass Elliot, perhaps?

  7. Art Deco
    March 30th, 2015 @ 11:39 am

    Can Chastity Bono be a ‘male feminist’?

  8. texlovera
    March 30th, 2015 @ 11:39 am

    I guess she’s good for something after all, then?

    Gotta love these idiots who dress/act like freaks to get attention, then bitch about being called freaks.

  9. texlovera
    March 30th, 2015 @ 11:41 am

    Mama Cass did have talent at least.

    If this woman would at least wear orange, she could work as a construction barrel…

  10. Evi L. Bloggerlady
    March 30th, 2015 @ 11:50 am

    I am not being fair to Varys (he was mutilated against his will), but to be a male feminist means voluntarily removing your male parts and handing them over. http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-qXX-GKrll2k/VRl-DRcg6lI/AAAAAAAAs34/WanbGOIRbkU/s1600/Male%2BFeminist.PNG

  11. Evi L. Bloggerlady
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:00 pm

    Hey, using “heifer” in that context is h8 speech! Why are you attacking my bovine species?

  12. Finrod Felagund
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:01 pm

    Do not watch porn or participate in the sex industry in any way. Tell your male friends to do the same.

    So they’re against the one industry with highly profitable jobs where women make significantly more than men (averaging 3x, IIRC).

    Sure, that makes sense– in Crazytown.

  13. arcadius
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:04 pm

    “Women are often invisible”

    Seems like that could actually be pretty useful. But now that I think about it, how do I know there aren’t invisible women watching me right now..?

  14. Adobe_Walls
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:05 pm

    What’s the point of being helpful is one is to lumped in with the rest of the Patriarchy (blessed be it’s name) anyway?

  15. Evi L. Bloggerlady
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:07 pm

    Most male feminists are annoying low T eunuchs. Hugo Schwyzer is not a male feminist, he is a sexual predator and sociopath. The irony is he used feminist terms and memes to prey on feminists.

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  17. Adobe_Walls
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:25 pm

    Not to mention all the empowerment it provides.

  18. trangbang68
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:33 pm

    I denounce myself

  19. trangbang68
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:35 pm

    Why not, it’s mom is still impersonating a skank at 80 years old or so.

  20. Fail Burton
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:35 pm

    Emma Watson?!?!!

    “Nutsaxiamos!!!!”

  21. trangbang68
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:36 pm

    The only way Miss Chubby in the photo would be invisible is in the middle of a King Ranch cattle drive

  22. Fail Burton
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:38 pm

    Do not look porn directly in the eyes. Do not handle porn without goggles.

  23. Jeanette Victoria
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:38 pm

    I’m sure SOMEONE is feeling micoagressed

  24. PCachu
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:50 pm

    But … the goggles do nothing!

  25. Evi L. Bloggerlady
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:52 pm

    And feminists like these sort of males just so they can say: “See you can’t trust any males, they are all creepy sexual monsters…”

  26. JohnnyL53
    March 30th, 2015 @ 12:59 pm

    Purple hair seems to = crazy.

  27. JeffS
    March 30th, 2015 @ 1:00 pm

    Male feminists are just beta males working another angle in order to get laid.

  28. Quartermaster
    March 30th, 2015 @ 1:03 pm

    Shameless plug alert 🙂

  29. Quartermaster
    March 30th, 2015 @ 1:06 pm

    I took Science and Engineering meself. So did my son.

  30. magic1114
    March 30th, 2015 @ 1:13 pm

    Male Feminists can usually be found shopping for new underwear in the women’s section of the local J.C. Penny’s…

  31. Dana
    March 30th, 2015 @ 1:17 pm

    Concerning the illustration, remember what was said: if Mama Cass had just given Karen Carpenter that ham sam’mich, they’d both be alive!

  32. kerrari1898
    March 30th, 2015 @ 1:34 pm

    To sum up:
    Give us your money
    Work tirelessly for other people’s benefit without expecting anything in return, not even acknowledgement of your efforts
    If you are attacked, don’t yourself. Instead, spend time thinking up rationalisations as to why their abuse is your fault
    We will look upon you with open contempt no matter how hard you try
    Sure, why not. Having dignity and self respect is overrated anyways.

  33. trangbang68
    March 30th, 2015 @ 1:55 pm

    I think I’ll go to Walmart. At least it’s mostly trashy people and fat heterosexuals there

  34. DeadMessenger
    March 30th, 2015 @ 2:15 pm

    It was a nice segue though. =)

  35. Fail Burton
    March 30th, 2015 @ 2:17 pm

    I can’t believe a woman that rotund would make a sign like that and not realize she’s funnier than the sign. Why didn’t she just wear a pig nose?

  36. Phil_McG
    March 30th, 2015 @ 2:29 pm

    “The Angry Hairy Lesbian Feminist they’ve warned you about” datasheet:

    * Physically unattractive – yes
    * Obsessed with cats – yes
    * Obnoxious personality – very yes
    * Claims to love the muff but is still preoccupied with lecturing heterosexuals – Meg Ryan in When Harry Met Sally YES!
    * Pretends to F’king Love Science; obviously doesn’t have a clue about science – yes x ?
    * On Tumblr – do you even need to ask?

    It’s like they all come from the same factory.

  37. Phil_McG
    March 30th, 2015 @ 2:30 pm

    If she had self awareness, she wouldn’t be a SJW, would she?

  38. Dana
    March 30th, 2015 @ 2:31 pm

    Look more closely; I think she has one naturally.

  39. Dana
    March 30th, 2015 @ 2:33 pm

    In the end, the feminists are deathly, deathly afraid that men, specifically heterosexual white men, really are superior to them. Real women, conservative women, aren’t afraid of that, because they recognize that men and women are complementary, and not competitors.

  40. Phil_McG
    March 30th, 2015 @ 2:46 pm

    It’s a weird inferiority complex. Sure, men are better than women at some things. My wife doesn’t want to have to kill her own spiders, bring money into the house, or give our boys a loving smack when they’ve been naughty – that’s what Daddy’s for.

    But if it were left to just me and the boys we’d be living in a filthy, pizza-box-strewn mess within days. Women are better than we are at making a house a home, and making a pack of unruly male brutes act like respectable people.

    Has Paint Your Wagon taught us nothing?

  41. Dana
    March 30th, 2015 @ 2:57 pm

    “Twouldn’t really matter: if she were thin and dressed normally, she’d still be ugly.

  42. Dana
    March 30th, 2015 @ 2:58 pm

    Perhaps you meant Lord of the Flies.

  43. Dana
    March 30th, 2015 @ 3:08 pm

    It’s only when you realize the complementary nature that anything makes sense. When the feminists decided that the only way to be equal with men was to compete with men, they set themselves up for failure. Men are, on average, simply bigger, stronger, faster, tougher and more durable than women, and those things lead to real competitive advantages. Women certainly can compete with men in the brainpower fields, but even there, they are at a biological disadvantage due to the nature of human reproduction, and women choose not to compete with men in a lot of the intellectual fields.

    These things will not change, because they aren’t somehow constructs of Teh Evil Patriarchy, but are the natural results of biology. Sexual dimorphism is simply the norm for almost all species of mammals.

  44. Vicky Fisher
    March 30th, 2015 @ 3:15 pm

    When the subject of male feminist come up I can’t help it but the original one comes to mind. Alan Alda standing with Gloria Steinem proudly forever supporting the ERA – Abortion rights the sacrament of the left.

  45. Southern Air Pirate
    March 30th, 2015 @ 3:42 pm

    This is a no win situation for males and a negative feedback loop for the feminists.
    No win for the men because if you sit in the back of the bus and shut up, then your in trouble for not being a love dispenser or fetish dispenser for them. Speak up and even use support tones and your a bigot. The same is true of those hetronormative females that identification is being feminist. Where they are sad there are no “real men” like [insert fantasy male here], since the man either doesn’t pay them attention or doesn’t live up to the fantasy. So they begin to hate even more and will eventually go to being a rage filled stereotype that sees all men as evil and bigots.

  46. TimeandtheRani
    March 30th, 2015 @ 3:47 pm

    “Listen to women and believe them without questioning”

    Sorry, this is just not going to happen. I don’t believe anyone without bringing my knowledge and cynicism to the table. That goes for anyone, men, women, Hillary Clinton and Robert Stacey McCain. Any movement that demands acceptance without thinking is insane. It is, of course, a cult movement.

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  48. Jason Lee
    March 30th, 2015 @ 3:50 pm

    “Feminism is based on the belief that all men (collectively) oppress all women (collectively), so that humanity is divided into two groups, male oppressors and female victims.”

    This dangerous attitude is widespread now, e.g., black vs white, “cis” vs “trans”, etc.

  49. Squid Hunt
    March 30th, 2015 @ 4:01 pm

    The best part about feminists is how seriously they take themselves. As if they were actually intimidating and had something important to say.

    Also, the ugly chick at the top spelled sammich wrong. And I think she’s had enough.

  50. Grandson Of TheGrumpus
    March 30th, 2015 @ 4:03 pm

    Individual men excel at somethings, individual women at others. This is both natural AND satisfying!

    Yep. Both mrs grandson & I can cook: I learned to bake from Grumpa, and no one is as good as I w/a wok, making gravies/sauces, or constructing sandwiches.
    Mrs Grandson roasts, broils, and grills better than anyone I’ve met! She makes the salads… NOT wimpy greens, but robust pasta or meat salads!

    Together we set a fine table!