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Curb Your (Sexual) Enthusiasm

Posted on | June 29, 2015 | 84 Comments

In case you haven’t noticed, feminists are (a) trying to increase the number of rape accusations by (b) changing the concept of “consent” in such a way that (c) any unhappiness with a sexual encounter justifies a woman claiming that it was coerced or otherwise less than fully consensual, as part of (d) an obvious effort to make heterosexual activity less common, if not altogether illegal.

People think I’m joking or exaggerating when I refer to “Feminists Against Heterosexuality,” but it is becoming difficult to ignore how the anti-male ideology of feminist gender theory is reflected in “rape culture” discourse. Consider what one web site calls “101 stuff about consent”:

  • Sexual consent is an active ongoing process that involves free, non-coerced choice and shared responsibility about when, whether, and what to do sex-wise.
  • Consent has to be clear, explicit, communicated well and checked in on a lot.
  • Enthusiastic consent is mandatory before engaging in anything of even a mildly sexual nature.

Have these lunatics consulted any sane adults about how normal sex actually happens in the real world? Or do you see how, because “feminist gender theory . . . requires the de-normalization of everything,” this insistence on “active” and “explicit” consent is part of an agenda that seeks to inspire impressionable young people with a paranoid hostility toward normal sexual behavior? Note well that enthusiastic consent must be obtained before even “mildly sexual” activity and it is “mandatory” that there be an “explicit” negotiation process toward a sort of verbal contract as part of this “active ongoing process.” Yet any normal person who has ever had normal sex knows quite well that if two people are genuinely “enthusiastic,” no such negotiation is necessary. It is an insult to the intelligence of any sexually experienced adult to pretend that this is how sex normally happens, and it is disturbing to think that young people are being lectured in this manner.

Do young people no longer have desires, instincts, urges? Have words like “passion” and “seduction” and “romance” lost all meaning? Does anyone expect hormone-addled teenagers parking in the moonlight on Lovers Lane to conduct their adolescent trysts like diplomats negotiating a trade agreement? Is there no longer any expectation or hope for spontaneous magic in human sexual behavior? What kind of dingbats are giving kids this wretched advice about sex?

QueerTips
The best queer sex ed class you were never offered.
Run by the kickbutt people of Planned Parenthood of the Southern Finger Lakes’ Out For Health initiative.

This is a Planned Parenthood initiative in upstate New York, with offices in Tompkins County, Chemung County, Schuyler County and Steuben County — an area in and around Ithaca, site of Cornell University. Is anyone surprised to find this perverse “Queer Tips” nonsense being promoted in the vicinity of an Ivy League campus?

In the 21st century, where elite universities are hives of LGBT activism, we would be shocked to learn that any student at Cornell was interested in normal sex. Cornell students are highly intelligent, and only an extremely stupid student would attempt to engage in normal sex on an elite campus in the current climate of “rape culture” hysteria. A heterosexual male can expect to be expelled from Cornell if a partner claims rape two months after their drunken hookup, on the basis of an administrative tribunal in which he is deliberately deprived of the due-process rights that the Constitution guarantees any common criminal.

Ah, but he is not a common criminal! He is a heterosexual male on a university campus, where heterosexuality is seen as inherently oppressive to women, and males are denounced as oppressors. And where, of course, Feminism Is Queer as I explained:

[T]his is not “fringe” feminism or “extreme” feminism. This is simply what feminism means for university students in the 21st century. Feminism is Queer is a 2010 textbook whose author, Mimi Marinucci, is a professor of Women’s and Gender Studies at Eastern Washington University.

If anyone wishes to argue that I’ve dredged up an example of feminism that is not “mainstream,” let them make their arguments to the legislators and other officials who sanction the propagation of this ideology in America’s universities. Let the defenders of “mainstream” feminism examine the syllabi, textbooks and faculties of Women’s Studies programs and see what students are actually being taught and by whom.

If anyone is skeptical about this agenda, let them turn their attention to “Introduction to Feminist Theory” as taught at the University of Buffalo, where a student was overheard to exclaim: “Every time I walk out of this class I just become more sexually confused!”

You cannot blame teenage college students for this kind of confusion, when they are being bombarded with with radical ideology. Sexual confusion is everywhere, so that Planned Parenthood — a taxpayer-funded organization most people think of as a provider of contraceptives — now offers “QueerTips” on how to negotiate “enthusiastic” consent before doing “anything of even a mildly sexual nature.” Evidently people in upstate New York are so stupid they don’t even know how to fornicate without advice from these self-appointed “experts.”

What is being lost is the voice of common sense. Feminist ideologues, gay activists, legal authorities, education bureaucrats, academic theories — these are the people controlling the discourse about sexual behavior, and all of them in one way or another have their own personal and political axes to grind. The voices of normal people happily leading normal lives, and who hope their children can also grow up to find this kind of normal happiness, are silenced and marginalized because common sense is dismissed or derogated by the cultural intelligentsia. Remarking on the effect to enact the “yes means yes” or “affirmative consent” standard as legislation, Judith Shulevitz of the New York Times observes that “criminal law is a very powerful instrument for reshaping sexual mores”:

It’s one thing to teach college students to talk frankly about sex and not to have it without demonstrable pre-coital assent. . . . It’s another thing to make sex a crime under conditions of poor communication. . . .
“If there’s no social consensus about what the lines are,” says Nancy Gertner, a senior lecturer at Harvard Law School and a retired judge, then affirmative consent “has no business being in the criminal law.”

What neither Shulevitz nor Gertner nor any of the other intellectual critics of “affirmative consent” are willing to acknowledge that it seems specifically targeted at punishing heterosexual males. The feminist purpose, we can perceive, is to make the risk of a rape accusation so high that men will become afraid of sexual involvement with women under any circumstances. Already on most campuses, any male who expresses sexual interest in a woman is subject to the accusation of “harassment.” Should he actually attempt to initiate romantic activity — a kiss or a hug — this can be construed as “sexual assault” if the woman finds his advances “unwelcome” or “unwanted.” Yet even if she welcomes his interest and appears to be a willing participant in sexual activity, the man is still at risk that she will afterwards decide she was raped. Paul Nungesser’s lawsuit against Columbia University argues quite plausibly that Emma Sulkowicz was in love with Nungesser and that she falsely accused him of rape as an act of spiteful revenge because he was not interested in a romantic relationship with her.

Many young women are now full of such insane rage against males — really, you need to read my Feminist Tumblr series — that it is difficult to imagine why any boy smart enough to get into college would dare so much as speak to any of his female classmates, much less try to have sex with one of them. This climate of sexual fear and hostility has been deliberately incited by campus feminists to enhance their own power and influence, as well as to create a political issue that can be exploited by Democrats. One would have to be absurdly naïve to think it a coincidence that “rape culture” emerged as a topic of controversy at the same time Hillary Clinton’s presidential campaign began gearing up for 2016.

Love is dead. Feminists killed it.

Having made it impossible that men and women could ever love each other — for how can the helpless victim of male supremacy be expected to love her oppressor? — feminists are now determined that sex should also be eradicated. Nevertheless, even while the feminist crusade to abolish collegiate heterosexuality reaches a fever pitch, students are being told it is “mandatory” to negotiate “enthusiastic consent.”

Somewhere at a university this fall, a boy and a girl will step outside a crowded frat house party and embrace beneath the autumn moonlight. She will nod her assent to his suggestion that they should pursue the matter further. Then the young man will look into her eyes and say, “Well, we could go back to my place. However, before we do, the university’s affirmative consent policy requires me to tell you exactly what I’m going to do to that hot little body of yours . . .”

That should make for an interesting conversation. Who knows? They might fall in love. It’s not illegal yet. Not even at Cornell.





 

Category: Sex Trouble

Comments

84 Responses to “Curb Your (Sexual) Enthusiasm”

  1. Evi L. Bloggerlady
    June 29th, 2015 @ 9:37 pm

    You should be mandatory reading for any male considering college…

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  3. M. Thompson
    June 29th, 2015 @ 10:32 pm

    “1984” was a warning, not an instruction manual.

    They have formed the Junior Anti-Sex League, and are in the process of driving the oldthinkers out.

  4. Sonja Tyson
    June 29th, 2015 @ 11:13 pm

    Our society is being shaped more and more by those who were or would be failures in normal society. My question is, why do their arguments have so much resonance with younger people?

  5. McGehee
    June 29th, 2015 @ 11:51 pm

    Too young to know success from empowered failure.

  6. RKae
    June 29th, 2015 @ 11:59 pm

    Young’uns absolutely adore the idea that they’re the generation that is finally – FINALLY! – fixing what’s been broken for 6,000 years.

    Remember: they believe “We are the ones we’ve been waiting for!”

  7. RKae
    June 30th, 2015 @ 12:00 am

    Love the sign: “F*ck rape culture.”

    Using the language of rape culture kind of shows you that rape culture has won, don’t you think?

  8. Fail Burton
    June 30th, 2015 @ 12:10 am

    Couldn’t women wear panties that light up and make a loud buzzing sound to signal consent when they thumb a remote control in their hand? Lights off means “don’t do that” and lights on means “yes, oh, ooh, I like that.” A cowbell worn around the neck should be adequate to signal enthusiastic consent.

    There’s also the choice of having a neutral referee in the room with a whistle in their mouth who watches the proceedings like in high-school wrestling.

    Prostitutes may involve less legal risk in the long run and have probably had fewer sexual partners than the mattress with arms and legs. Why not an on-campus whore house… taxpayer funded?

  9. CDM
    June 30th, 2015 @ 12:22 am

    Ten years ago this was something that could be laughed about. However, we can take this as advice for today’s climate.

  10. concern00
    June 30th, 2015 @ 2:03 am

    Wow so much to read, but I’ll just comment on two issues:

    The inventors of ‘affirmative consent’ are obviously not getting any and are basing it all on theory.

    Love is dead? No, SCOTUS just equated it to pretty much any sexual activity and most especially the more perverted ones.

  11. concern00
    June 30th, 2015 @ 2:03 am

    To permanently quash the ‘considering’ aspect?

  12. concern00
    June 30th, 2015 @ 2:05 am

    Imagine being told that you are failing not because of anything you’re doing but because of oppression, and as an officially recognized victim, please take this handout and don’t bother working…in fact try the speaking circuit.

  13. Daniel Freeman
    June 30th, 2015 @ 3:09 am

    I was going to ask why their elders weren’t correcting them, and then I realized that’s the same as asking why Boomers aren’t condemning narcissism. To ask the question is to answer it.

  14. Dana
    June 30th, 2015 @ 6:42 am

    Negotiation? The word itself implies that one partner must somehow persuade the other, which is, in itself, a contradiction of the notion of “enthusiastic” consent.

    More, it is a word which reduces copulation to prostitution: “if I let you do this with/to me, you must do this with/for me.”

  15. Dana
    June 30th, 2015 @ 6:45 am

    Elaine and I have been married for 36 years, one month and 11 days now; I suppose that I should not only thank God that he sent her to that Seven-Eleven where we met — if there had been just one more Mountain Dew in the refrigerator at the time, I’d never have met my wife! — but that we met back when sex was normal, and romance commonly understood.

  16. Dana
    June 30th, 2015 @ 6:46 am

    I s’pose if the failures in normal society can encourage other people to be failures as well, maybe they won’t feel so bad about being failures themselves.

  17. Dana
    June 30th, 2015 @ 6:48 am

    The idea of illuminating thong panties is a good one, but what happens to the signaling system when they come off?

    And if the girl is going commando, how will we ever know . . . ?

  18. Gunga
    June 30th, 2015 @ 6:54 am

    But you have to admit that it’s an effective “How To” for all things totalitarian… Add it to The Prince and you have a one-two punch that would make Stalin envious…

  19. robertstacymccain
    June 30th, 2015 @ 6:56 am

    “Empowered failure.”

    Oh, I’m stealing the hell out of that phrase.

    When I do, remind me where I got it.

  20. Fail Burton
    June 30th, 2015 @ 7:06 am

    You’re forgetting when Rick said to Elsa “we’ll always have that cowbell.”

  21. Gunga
    June 30th, 2015 @ 7:20 am

    …which is why I’m all for more cowbell. In fact, I’ve got a fever…

  22. Evi L. Bloggerlady
    June 30th, 2015 @ 7:36 am

    They learned that from being told what special snowflakes they are. Let’s face it, millennials are more narcissistic than boomers.

  23. Evi L. Bloggerlady
    June 30th, 2015 @ 7:38 am

    Mike Rowe’s dirty jobs is important reading/viewing too.

  24. Jim R
    June 30th, 2015 @ 7:54 am

    Rather adds another dimension to The Talk that parents have with their kids when the kids reach a certain age, doesn’t it?

  25. thesickmanofeurope_com
    June 30th, 2015 @ 7:59 am

    …Rather adds another dimension to The Talk that parents have with their kids

    Parents? What is that?

  26. Jim R
    June 30th, 2015 @ 8:05 am

    Cisheteronormative patriarchal institution by which a male oppresses a woman by using her as breeding stock and an unpaid domestic servant.

    And a taxi service.

  27. thesickmanofeurope_com
    June 30th, 2015 @ 8:05 am

    …the man is still at risk that she will afterwards decide she was raped.

    Just follow the ONS Rules:
    1. ALL Women are Potential False Rape Accusers…(this should keep you on your toes)
    2. Get that smart phone out and record her enthusiastic and giggly consent.
    3. Get down to business.

  28. Dana
    June 30th, 2015 @ 8:18 am

    It’s one thing to get down to business, but it’s becoming pretty obvious that you had better take care of business while you’re at it!

  29. M. Thompson
    June 30th, 2015 @ 8:41 am

    True. I’ve seen too damn many of my supposed peers not get disabused of their foolishness.

  30. trangbang68
    June 30th, 2015 @ 8:58 am

    My new book is coming out on Amazon. It’s called “Queer Tips for Idiots”. It is one sentence long. It says, “I got a queer tip for you, cupcake. Don’t go there.”

  31. CrustyB
    June 30th, 2015 @ 9:02 am

    In 30 years America has gone from John Ford to John Waters.

  32. ConstantineX1
    June 30th, 2015 @ 9:16 am

    TL:DR version of this article:
    “Rape” is when the guy comes first…

  33. ConstantineX1
    June 30th, 2015 @ 9:17 am

    No doubt that Admiral John Ford spins in his grave.

  34. kilo6
    June 30th, 2015 @ 9:26 am

    Ah, but he is not a common criminal! He is a heterosexual male on a university campus, where heterosexuality is seen as inherently oppressive to women, and males are denounced as oppressors.
    Via my cousin who graduated college last year…

    http://i.imgur.com/kUK7TeP.jpg

  35. CaptDMO
    June 30th, 2015 @ 9:56 am

    “Have these lunatics consulted any sane adults about how normal sex actually happens in the real world?”
    I believe the problem lies in that they would HAVE to!

  36. Sort-Of-Mad Max
    June 30th, 2015 @ 9:58 am

    So I’m assuming when Emma ‘Mattress Girl’ Sulkowicz buys a house with the proceeds of her social quest, it will be known as The Mattress Pad?

  37. Jeanette Victoria
    June 30th, 2015 @ 10:17 am

    I denounce myself as this is inappropriate and microaggression

  38. Ilion
    June 30th, 2015 @ 11:22 am

    That was just too funny

  39. texlovera
    June 30th, 2015 @ 11:46 am

    The failure will proceed gradually, until it ends, suddenly.

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  41. Dana
    June 30th, 2015 @ 12:26 pm

    Maybe you’ll need to make a complete sex tape recording, just in case she claims that she withdrew her consent in mid-stroke.

  42. Grandson Of TheGrumpus
    June 30th, 2015 @ 12:30 pm

    Careful, Mr McCain! You’re coming awfully close to being labeled “a conspiracy theorist”… which is the same these days as “conspiracy nut”!

    The embedded socialists did an exceedingly thorough job of training a pavlovian-response to observations of collusion amongst the evil actors working to change us into a soul-dead proggie society.

    This, even though historically, conspiracy has been the downfall of many armies and states.

    Even when they weren’t successful, they still occurred, (the attempted assassination of Hitler, the many attempts on Churchill are only two examples…) denying their occurrence doesn’t make them go away.

    Neither will hiding our eyes make the modern collusion disappear.

  43. ConstantineX1
    June 30th, 2015 @ 12:50 pm

    How about hit the bars the cougars hang out at instead of going after the college teenyboppers?

  44. thesickmanofeurope_com
    June 30th, 2015 @ 1:02 pm

    Once the 12 Jurors see the recorded giggly enthusiastic consent..is game over….end of.
    How could anyone withdraw consent AFTER the consent was given? They can’t.

  45. Lulu
    June 30th, 2015 @ 1:12 pm

    yes they can — boys have been charged for not stopping during intercourse

  46. thesickmanofeurope_com
    June 30th, 2015 @ 1:14 pm

    Did they have a tape that shows her enthusiastic consent before sex?

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  48. Prime Director
    June 30th, 2015 @ 1:38 pm

    Yeah, because single middle aged-women are all attractive and sane.

    No boner-killing psychos in that cohort, no siree.

  49. Dana
    June 30th, 2015 @ 1:39 pm

    Uhhh, yeah, it can happen, and has. If a woman changes her mind, even in mid-copulation, and tells you to stop, what has happened before is OK, but you still have to stop, and go no further.

  50. HughdePayens
    June 30th, 2015 @ 1:52 pm

    hehehe….