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The ‘Male Feminist’ Problem

Posted on | April 11, 2016 | 71 Comments

How many times must I say it? Never talk to a feminist:

Guys: Learn to take a hint. Learn to walk away.
If a woman tells you she is a feminist, say nothing and walk away.
No feminist wants to hear what a man has to say, and life is too short to waste your time talking to feminists. Just walk away.
Leave feminists alone, and then they can complain about that.

There is no point arguing with a feminist. There is nothing to discuss. The feminist has complete contempt for males. She considers men useless and irrelevant. She has no respect for you. The fact that you are a man means you are automatically wrong about everything. She is the judge, jury and prosecutor, and all men are guilty. Case closed.

 

Jocelyn MacDonald is a feminist in Seattle who declares: “Men are parasites. Separatism is the first step to feminism.” Citing lesbian feminist Marilyn Frye, MacDonald argues that “male privilege makes men thieves of [women’s] mental, spiritual, and physical energy”:

Throughout patriarchal history, men have had virtually unlimited access to women’s bodies. They have engineered and maintained this through marriage, denying access to abortion, and undervaluing women’s labour, among others too numerous to list off.

Can she possibly make the point any clearer? Males are “parasites” and “thieves.” Feminists are anti-marriage, anti-motherhood, and do not believe any man should ever have “access to women’s bodies.”

However, Ms. MacDonald did not always feel this way. She was not always a lesbian separatist. Once upon a time, she fell in love with a man:

The man in question, Adam [a pseudonym], was a PhD candidate at the University of Rochester. . . .
I met Adam when I was 19 and he was 26. We got to know each other going to protests: an anti-Nazi rally in Buffalo, a picket at the border patrol on Lake Ontario, a few house parties hosted by the International Socialist Organization. . . .
With him, I felt like a real person again, and it was as a complete and whole person that I had sex with a man for the first time, feeling neither that I was losing something or giving something away.
A few months later, we decided to get married. Because what could be funnier than a couple of queer, ethically nonmonogamous, Marxist atheists redefining traditional marriage in a small ceremony in a Quaker meetinghouse? The answer is nothing. Except that I loved the living hell out of him and definitely wanted to bear his math-prodigy, prematurely balding, little Lenin look-alikes. And I believed that for him, I was the one so impossible not to love that he thought about marriage like it wasn’t a social construct designed to replicate the modes of production. . . .

Perhaps you see the basic problem here. What are the odds of “a couple of queer . . . Marxist atheists” having a happy-ever-after romance? Well, they went to her mother’s house for Christmas. The prematurely balding math prodigy was aloof, while Ms. MacDonald got drunk and then, the day after Christmas, her little Lenin look-alike made an announcement:

In the morning, I woke up and crawled in Adam’s bed, excited, cuddly, happy. “I missed you,” I said.
“I’m flying to Rochester in an hour and a half,” he said. “And we need to talk.”
He walked me back to my room where we sat on my bed.
“Remember when I said it would be impossible not to love you?”
“Yes,” I said, pleased.
“That’s still true. I find it impossible not to love you, and that’s why I don’t want to see you anymore. Because I don’t want to be in love. I want to be alone.”
It was unbelievable to me, because I was doing all the work. I’d made love like it was a choice, you just keep saying yes to love. I was doing all that needed to be done to accommodate him and he was saying both that it was working, that he loved me back, and also that it was for that reason that he never wanted to see me again.
I was shattered. He had stopped believing in me, in our love. Our marriage was a revolution yet-to-be imagined, and he was no longer convinced.

Tough luck for the queer Marxist atheist girl, because the queer Marxist atheist guy does not want to be in love. He’d rather be alone.

Here we see the “male feminist” problem in stark relief. A major reason feminists hate men so much is because these are the only kind of men they associate with. What kind of guy spends his spare time at “house parties hosted by the International Socialist Organization”? You’d meet a better quality of men at a Toby Keith concert or a monster truck rally.

This is why parents must warn their daughters never to become feminists. Next thing you know, she’ll be dating a Marxist weirdo and, when that falls apart, she’ll move to Seattle and become a lesbian separatist.

Also, there’s a high rate of herpes among feminists.

Remember what 21st-century feminism is all about:

Until I started studying radical feminism, I never thought of “normal” as an achievement, but Feminism Is Queer, as Professor Mimi Marinucci has explained. Feminist theory condemns heterosexuality as “the ideology of male supremacy,” and denies that behavioral differences between men and women are natural. Any apparent differences between men and women are socially constructed by the gender binary within the heterosexual matrix (see Judith Butler, Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity, 1990). Feminism seeks to abolish gender in order to achieve “equality” by establishing an androgynous society in which the categories “male” and “female” cease to have any significance.

Feminism is a cult. Once young people get involved in this weird ideology, it becomes impossible for them to think or behave normally.

 

That nose-pierced weirdo, believe it or not, grew up in a conservative Christian family and attended Bible college, but dropped out after she became involved in feminism and decided gender theory is more important than the Bible. Allie McDougall now attends the University of Ottawa, where her boyfriend is co-chair of the university chapter of the socialist New Democratic Party. She now attends St. Albans, a “progressive” Anglican church that performs “liturgies” for renaming transgendered people. Anyway, you might want to read what Ms. McDougall has to say about her “life partner” Davis Whittington-Heeney:

My partner Davis is a feminist ally, and a very committed one. In all of his political activities, he strives for gender parity. He listens to and amplifies women’s voices whenever he can. Ours is an egalitarian relationship and he respects, uplifts, and affirms my lived experience. And it makes me so sad when people tell me how lucky I am, how rare he is, and how I should be so proud that my boyfriend actively works with and for feminist activism. Yes, I am lucky; yes, he is great and probably a rarity; but why the hell is it so countercultural for him to actually put his money where is mouth is and use his male privilege to amplify my voice and the voices of other women? I believe this is all rooted in the depressingly low standards of acceptable behaviour that men have inherited as a by-product of their patriarchal advantage.

OK, what are the odds of a happy-ever-after ending here? Do you detect a pattern, dear reader? When we recall that “God is not the author of confusion” (I Corinthians 14:33),  we must conclude that the father of lies (John 8:44) is responsible for this pattern. More from Ms. McDougall:

I struggle with feelings of anxiety and inferiority. I’ve forgotten completely periods of time that were my darkest. I’ve made regrettable decisions that have harmed my relationship with my partner . . .
I’ve scheduled appointments to meet with a registered psychotherapist to help start down the road of progress and recovery.

Where do you think that road will lead? Do you think Allie McDougall might end up like Jocelyn MacDonald, arguing for lesbian separatism? Do you see why the “male feminist” is such a problem? Every time a guy plays along with this game — nodding in assent while feminists denounce “male privilege” and “patriarchal advantage” — he lends credence to this cult ideology. It encourages feminists to believe that all men could be the Davis Whittington-Heeney type, and that the only thing preventing us from becoming Male Feminists is our own ignorance or desire to cling to our “male privilege.” However, even if this were possible for us all to become the Davis Whittington-Heeney type (which, thank God, it is not) our civilization could not survive such a transformation. A society in which all men were the Davis Whittington-Heeney type would be overrun by barbarians. Frankly, this is what’s happening in Germany, where Muslim “refugees” are raping women and girls with impunity (and feminists won’t say a word about it). The Radical Theology of Feminism has crippled the West, convincing many people that “progress” requires the destruction of our civilization, wrecking families and ruining lives, and steering young people toward The Darwinian Dead End.

Feminists despise men as “parasites” and “thieves,” and have the effrontery to expect men to agree with these insults.

Learn to walk away. Never talk to a feminist. Seek companionship elsewhere, and leave her alone, with her ideology and her cats.

 


Comments

71 Responses to “The ‘Male Feminist’ Problem”

  1. concern00
    April 11th, 2016 @ 3:57 am

    I feel like such a failure as a husband for never having affirmed my wife’s ‘lived experience.’ Oh woe is me. I might have to self medicate to get over this.

    Seriously how can anyone live as a perpetual victim?

  2. Fail Burton
    April 11th, 2016 @ 5:56 am

    Another nut who proves how much intersectional radical lesbianism is a safe-house for life’s failures. In every instance they seem to be women who Mary Sue their personal “lived experience” (I wrote that before I saw her quote because predictable) which may be mental illness, sexual deviancy or poor character onto the fabric of American life. Get enough of that pointed sexualized narcissism and self-pity together and you have an ideology which attracts thousands of women. In fact that and this nut’s gripe sounds exactly like the 1969 Redstockings Manifesto: “We regard our personal experience, and our feelings about that experience, as the basis for an analysis of our common situation.” The key word there is “common.” Otherwise, there’s not a hint of fair play or principle; it’s just a KKK in redstockings.

    So in an analogy to this situation, a black guy robs her convenience store and blacks become “parasites,” and the story fit for that bastion of feminist Nazism, Xojane. She mentions she went to an anti-Nazi rally and my first thought was – “why?”

    If men were as these nutty women say, we would’ve been sending them in fake bombing runs over Nazi-occupied Europe to act as a distraction while the real manly bombers went in. It’s women who would’ve expended Confederate ammo at Fredricksberg by acting as bullet-absorbers until it was safe for the men to go in. Maybe we would’ve used them as floating pontoon bridges, like ants do. This woman certainly fits the bill to be a part of a phantom army unit know as “The Fat Red Line.” First in, first with the glory. You want to be in adventure movies and books, go out and earn your keep feminists.

    Award for Best Stupid goes to her line “We sat in his closet and watched a Bergman movie on a laptop,” because of course you did.

  3. RS
    April 11th, 2016 @ 6:36 am

    With him, I felt like a real person again . . .

    I suppose I could click over and try to determine what she means by that statement, but I’ve better things to do this morning. What’s fascinating is that her readers are supposed to learn some “serious, you guys” lessons from the experiences of a nineteen year old, who leaps into a lifetime commitment after five months of acquaintance because her fiance has slathered himself up with a patina of neo-Marxist jargon. Occam’s Razor is useful in these situations. Her problem is not some nefarious, omnipotent Patriarchy conspiring to destroy her life. The problem is/was that she was a nineteen year old dumb ass.

  4. CrustyB
    April 11th, 2016 @ 7:02 am

    …a couple of queer, ethically nonmonogamous, Marxist atheists redefining traditional marriage

    This is why, since June 2015, I will never acknowledge or attend a “wedding” in this sick country. It is ruined.

    “You’re all dressed up. What’s the occasion?”
    “I’m going to a wedding.”
    “Nice. Who’s the lucky couple?”
    “Nobody. My cousin died.”
    “Uh, I don’t understand.”
    “I’m actually going to a funeral but if I don’t call it a ‘wedding’ I get in trouble with the courts.”

  5. daialanye
    April 11th, 2016 @ 7:03 am

    If I understand this correctly, 1) Jocelyn MacDonald made a very bad decision regarding a certain man, 2) no male relative of hers beat the living crap out of this man, and 3) therefore all men are bad.

    Have I missed anything?

  6. utroukx
    April 11th, 2016 @ 7:17 am

    “Her problem is not some nefarious, omnipotent Patriarchy conspiring to destroy her life. The problem is/was that she was a nineteen year old dumb ass.”

    That is just awesome, and really sums up feminists in general. “The ‘Patriarchy’ isn’t your problem, you’re just a dumb ass.” Ha!

  7. M. Thompson
    April 11th, 2016 @ 7:35 am

    2b) No male relative of his taught him how to treat a woman correctly.

  8. M. Thompson
    April 11th, 2016 @ 7:36 am

    I reccomend scotch as the cure. The older the better.

  9. robertstacymccain
    April 11th, 2016 @ 8:55 am

    If you’ll read MacDonald’s article, you will find that Adam’s parents are divorced and he doesn’t have much contact with them. Also you will find that MacDonald refers indirectly to her own parents’ divorce by mentioning her “stepfather.”

    Parental divorce puts children “at risk,” as the experts say, of various bad outcomes, including an inability to form successful relationships of their own.

  10. robertstacymccain
    April 11th, 2016 @ 9:00 am

    “… her readers are supposed to learn some ‘serious, you guys’ lessons from the experiences of a nineteen year old …”

    “The personal is political,” as Carol Hanisch says, and this genre, The Feminist Memoir, has been a cliche for 20 years. Ask yourself, “Why don’t I read any stories by MEN relating their experiences with WOMEN?” The answer is that feminism does not benefit from men telling their own side of the story, and any man would be denounced as a misogynist if he told his own stories like this. Besides which, there is still some semblance of the old-fashioned rule that a gentleman does not kiss and tell.

  11. robertstacymccain
    April 11th, 2016 @ 9:03 am

    “We sat in his closet and watched a Bergman movie on a laptop”

    Beware of men who will sit through art films.

  12. Fail Burton
    April 11th, 2016 @ 9:40 am

    I had a girlfriend once and things didn’t go very well after awhile so ARISE MEN AND UNITE AGAINST THESE FILTHY FEMALE PARASITES!!!!!

  13. CaptDMO
    April 11th, 2016 @ 9:48 am

    An odd paradox for the PUA.
    Walk away from feminists? But..but…they have CLEAR “daddy issues”!
    *sigh* NOW they’re going to have to “test” if the Penis Envy issues are borderline, or manic.
    Suggested test questions/”tells”?

  14. CaptDMO
    April 11th, 2016 @ 9:49 am

    Or own ferrets.

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  16. Joe Guelph
    April 11th, 2016 @ 10:19 am

    On a related note:
    There’s a huge online storm brewing now over the firing of Nintendo PR person Alison Rapp. Apparently it got out that this publicity person for a family-oriented company had publicly advocated legalizing child porn, so Nintendo quietly dismissed her, saying she had a second job in violation of the company’s anti-moonlighting policy.
    Intrigued by this bit of corporate butt-covering, the wisenheimers at online-loony observation-site Kiwi Farms did some digging, and found out that Ms. Rapp was hooking on the side as escort “Maria Mint.” Her excuse was that she and her husband were involved in a “polyamorous” relationship, and she felt free to publicly cuck him for $ and whatever else she could get from thirsty Seattle techies. (To prove what a righteous male feminist husband Jake is, HE took HER surname when they married.)
    I’m only scratching the surface of this ugly tale; for more detail, check these links:
    Alison’s story: https://kiwifar.ms/threads/alison-rapp.18002/
    Jake’s story: https://kiwifar.ms/threads/jake-rapp.19301/
    (RSM: Feel free to spin this one off as its own thread.)

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  18. texlovera
    April 11th, 2016 @ 1:04 pm

    “…in the closet…”

    Yeah, that’s not a tell…

  19. texlovera
    April 11th, 2016 @ 1:05 pm

    Jackpot.

  20. texlovera
    April 11th, 2016 @ 1:06 pm

    Comedy gold, Jerry!

    COMEDY GOLD!!!!

  21. kilo6
    April 11th, 2016 @ 1:17 pm

    😮

    wow, that’s more screwed up than I thought possible, and I already had a low opinion of Rapp. Although I guess it’s not as bad as a few years back when someone told me what a Clopper was (cf: Rule 34, and never Google “clopper” at work)

  22. GUEST
    April 11th, 2016 @ 1:24 pm

    Davis Whittington-Heeney is gay. I’m not saying that to be mean or as an insult or to be pithy. He is with a girl who looks like that and he parrots all that feminist mumbo jumbo (which he likely got from birth from his hyphenated family). He is going to leave that young lady for a guy. I’ll put money on it. Which is also probably what the queer, atheist, maxist Lenin lookalike has done to the other girl.

  23. Steve Skubinna
    April 11th, 2016 @ 1:57 pm

    With him, I felt like a real person again . . .

    Hmmm. So what she’s saying is that she needs this man’s affirmation to feel whole? Because a non-feminist woman saying that would be shrieked at as a gender traitor until she’d relinquished her false consciousness.

  24. Steve Skubinna
    April 11th, 2016 @ 1:58 pm

    Yeah, okay, sure.

    But only against the filthy ones, all right?

  25. Steve Skubinna
    April 11th, 2016 @ 1:59 pm

    So there was more to it than the pedophilia advocacy?

    Oh great, like the story needed to get any juicier.

  26. Steve Skubinna
    April 11th, 2016 @ 2:01 pm

    Years ago I heard somebody call someone a felcher. So I asked what that was.

    He was reticent to explain, but when he did I decided that I would never call anybody that, on the off chance that he wasn’t making it up.

  27. Steve Skubinna
    April 11th, 2016 @ 2:02 pm

    So they’re each other’s beards?

    Sounds about right. Because it would take a “special” kind of man to be with a woman like that.

  28. ChandlersGhost
    April 11th, 2016 @ 2:34 pm

    Dunno. Is it just me or does that dude look like a lady?

  29. Grampy_Bone
    April 11th, 2016 @ 2:39 pm

    What’s funny is these sorts of women’s’ revelatory ‘lived experiences’ are considered incontrovertible proof of the truth of feminism. Meanwhile, when a heartbroken dude shares a similar or worse tale of predatory women (e.g. Eron Gjoni/Zoe Quinn) he is declared a bitter loser who needs to be a man, suck it up, and get over it.

  30. CrustyB
    April 11th, 2016 @ 3:05 pm

    “Persona” seems like a depressing black & white version of what this blog is talking about, though.

  31. robertstacymccain
    April 11th, 2016 @ 3:17 pm

    While it would be foolish to speculate on matters of which I have no direct knowledge, the possibility you describe certainly had occurred to me.

  32. Joe Guelph
    April 11th, 2016 @ 3:22 pm

    Which one?

  33. NRPax
    April 11th, 2016 @ 3:28 pm

    So Jocelyn doesn’t take marriage seriously, married a guy who doesn’t take it seriously and is brokenhearted that he didn’t take their marriage seriously.

    And my dad wonders why I dislike people in general.

  34. RKae
    April 11th, 2016 @ 4:28 pm

    I know lots of leftist loons like that. They want to “experiment,” but in doing so they destroy what’s good… and then they expect the good to still be there when they want to retreat to it for safety.

  35. NRPax
    April 11th, 2016 @ 4:29 pm

    They want a wedding not a marriage.

  36. RKae
    April 11th, 2016 @ 4:38 pm

    Yeah, they like a wedding for the production value of it.

    I’ve watched a lot of people get divorced, and from the absurdity of their actions and arguments it really looked to me like they were acting out dramatic scripts that they’d seen on TV; like it was “part of being a grownup”; almost like smoking cigarettes to be cool; a rite of passage; something “everybody does.”

    They appeared to love the extreme over-the-top melodramatic emotion of it all.

  37. NRPax
    April 11th, 2016 @ 4:56 pm

    Sadly, most of the divorces I have witnessed amongst my friends was because one or both thought it would be a cool idea to bring in a third person and then acting stunned when things went southward.

    As for this woman? I pity her the way you pity a wounded animal even if the wounds were self inflicted. As a friend is fond of saying “Marxism is intellectualism for stupid people.”

  38. Fail Burton
    April 11th, 2016 @ 5:43 pm

    ARISE MEN, WE ARE SINKING!!! GREAT CHTHULHU AWAITS!!!

  39. Lulu
    April 11th, 2016 @ 6:07 pm

    I’m pretty sure Davis is gay — look at that picture…

  40. RKae
    April 11th, 2016 @ 6:52 pm

    Every time you meet a “male feminist,” just show him this picture and inform him, “This is your very near future”:

    http://davidthompson.typepad.com/.a/6a00d83451675669e201a511756fd9970c-pi

  41. Steve Skubinna
    April 11th, 2016 @ 7:08 pm

    Ja? Und vat are you sinking about?

    Blood for the Blood God, skulls for the Skull Throne!

  42. Fail Burton
    April 11th, 2016 @ 7:31 pm

    “The History of Male-Female Relationships in America 1910-2016: I Had a Bad Experience With a Man.” by Alison Moronica

  43. Fail Burton
    April 11th, 2016 @ 8:05 pm

    Zap Comics cartoonist S. Clay Wilson did a comic story on that which is so vulgar I can’t even show the title. Hilarious though, but not friendly to Catholicism.

  44. Joe Joe
    April 11th, 2016 @ 8:29 pm

    “The ‘Patriarchy’ isn’t your problem, you’re just a dumb ass.” Ha!

    Well, admittedly her socialist boyfriend wasn’t much better. I totally agree that a Toby Keith concert would have netted her a much better man. The issue would then be if she deserved him.

  45. Adobe_Walls
    April 11th, 2016 @ 9:37 pm

    That’s right.

  46. Steve Skubinna
    April 11th, 2016 @ 9:44 pm

    I remember Zap Comics. There was a definite frisson of outlawry inherent in visiting the local head shop after school in the early Seventies.

    My favorite underground comic was Junkwaffel, by the late lamented Vaughan Bode. He’s better known for Cheech Wizard, probably because Junkwaffel only managed four issues before Bode offed himself in a spectacularly San Franciscan exit.

    After Bode, my favorite artist was probably Dan O’Neill, and his Odd Bodkins.

  47. Steve Skubinna
    April 11th, 2016 @ 9:47 pm

    “The Unified Field Theory of Everything: I Hate My Life.”

    “The Complete History of the World: The Early Years – From Creation to When That Bastard Dumped Me.”

  48. Steve Skubinna
    April 11th, 2016 @ 9:49 pm

    Irish is good, I recommend Jameson’s. Or a small batch Bourbon.

  49. Robert What?
    April 11th, 2016 @ 10:08 pm

    There is no question that “male feminism” is a strategy for getting laid. It is even more vile than the most jaded PUA. The PUA at least makes no secret of what he is after.

  50. M. Thompson
    April 11th, 2016 @ 10:28 pm

    Sadly, Scott Walker must remain on his skull throne in frozen Madison, rather than take it to DC.