The Precocious Feminist Replies

Posted on | July 13, 2014 | 66 Comments

The Ouija-board girl has written a lengthy response including this:

I’m totally with you on the idea that radical feminism is a f–king disease which needs to be eradicated. It’s what gives feminism a bad name and is quite frankly bulls–t. Glad we could find something that we really agree on. However, I’m not a radfem. I don’t think penile-vaginal intercourse is rape. I don’t think men are inherently evil, and I don’t think women are inherently good.

Oh. Then she’s not really a feminist. Yet. On the other hand . . .

For the record, the Ouija board incident which is referenced here wasn’t anything of a demonic nature. The lights didn’t flicker and I didn’t feel a cold force come over me. Wanna know what did happen? The Ouija board said I would f–k a girl, and my friends got uncomfortable. That’s all. . . .
Okay, let’s get something straight right now.

(No pun intended, I’m sure.)

I don’t know what surprise you thought I was referring to (the surprise of the fact the board worked, maybe?) but I was referring to the surprise that I’m bi. So, yeah, my friends were in fact really surprised, because they’re homophobes who are terrified of girls being in love with them. Just wanted to clear that up for ya.

It was clear to me all along. However, I didn’t mention in my blog what the Ouija board said about her, because pursuing that tangent might have required another 500 words I wasn’t in a mood to write. So I merely alluded to it indirectly, remarking that “it is admittedly weird to discover a high school kid writing about ‘heteronormativity.’” Yet she seems to wish to discuss it further. Very well, then . . .

Let’s see: She’s not old enough to get a drivers license, but is already (a) questioning heteronormativity, (b) professing her own bisexuality, and (c) condemning her friends as homophobes.

If she keeps traveling that trajectory, where will she be at 18 or 19? Considering her expressions of disgust with her ex-boyfriend and her resentment of her father, doesn’t it seem possible that her disdain for males might become more generalized in the future?

But wait — this is crazy!

Her self-declared “bisexuality” is purely speculative, a matter of imagination. Her situation illuminates the problem with how young people are now being indoctrinated to think about sex. All this chatter about sexual orientation and gender identity emerging from academia and promulgated in pop culture is profoundly confusing to many young people. A teenage girl whose “sexuality” so far has been limited to some clumsy kissing and fondling with her ex-boyfriend nevertheless identifies as “bisexual” on what we might call a theoretical basis. This identification then qualifies her to denounce her girlfriends as homophobes because they “are terrified of girls being in love with them.”

In that context, isn’t “homophobe” just a synonym for heterosexual?

Given the direction our culture is heading, one can imagine a scenario in which anyone who rejects a homosexual advance — “No, thanks, I’m straight” — is accused of being a homophobe, so that society is effectively divided into two groups: Gays and Haters.

Nor is this a problem we need only imagine in the distant future. We can see how this attitude is already beginning to take hold among teenagers. The precociously “bisexual” feminist at Please Excuse My Vagina may indeed be an omen of the liberal future.

UPDATE: She continues to volley: “Please, don’t put my identity into quotation marks.” The reason I put “bisexual” in quotation marks is because, by her own account, she has not actually acted on her same-sex attractions. Her self-declared “identity” therefore exists in the imaginative realm of Tommy Flanagan’s wife, Morgan Fairchild.

Furthermore, the “B” of bisexuality in the LGBT acronym has always struck me as dubious. One does not encounter militant bisexuals demanding their equal rights to . . . Well, whatever it is they may choose to be or do on any particular occasion.

Indecisive ambiguity doesn’t lend itself very easily to political sloganeering: “We’re here! We’re queer! Or maybe not, this week!”

Category: Feminism

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66 Responses to “The Precocious Feminist Replies”

Matt_SE
July 13th, 2014 @ 8:17 pm

“Bi-curious” is a gateway behavior, like smoking pot.
Whatever this girl’s intentions, she’s already painted a huge target on her back.
She will be preyed upon if she continues to put out these signals, and her assailants will use “homophobia” to shame her into gay sex.

This is as obvious as the sun rising.
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July 13th, 2014 @ 9:03 pm

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DeadMessenger
July 13th, 2014 @ 9:11 pm

Because you have self-identified as “bisexual”, some might think that you are not. That’s the problem with choosing an “identity” instead of just being yourself. For instance, I’m 55, and have never used the term “identity” in relation to myself except in terms of being carded. I’d wager that the majority of people reading this blog regularly have not, either.

Can’t you just be Sophia, honey, and whatever Sophia is, is what you are? You don’t have to choose sides, you know. And you don’t have to be quick to lose your innocence…just spend some time being a teenager. That’s enough for right now.
Akira
July 13th, 2014 @ 9:57 pm

Get a grip. And your fantasies about what homosexuals are like is laughable. Gay people don’t shame straight or bi people into sex by calling them homophobes. Obviously you don’t know any gay people, or God forbid hit on by one.
Akira
July 13th, 2014 @ 9:59 pm

Good advice.
Wombat_socho
July 13th, 2014 @ 10:00 pm

Thank you for coming here and engaging Stacy and the commenters. Not every teenager is tough, patient, and smart enough to hang with this crowd.
Wombat_socho
July 13th, 2014 @ 10:03 pm

It’s a big world out there, and the likelihood that you know how all gay folks behave is logically pretty close to zero. Gay people talk about being shamed into straight sex and not enjoying it; are we to believe there are no cases of straight people being shamed into gay sex?
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July 13th, 2014 @ 10:03 pm

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William_Teach
July 13th, 2014 @ 10:20 pm

Is this the same father you call an asshole?

Your life is yours. You’re young. Perhaps you should ease up on the hardcore stuff and go with the flow instead of placing labels. Things can look much different with the perspective of age, and you’ll realize all the things that have been lost.
Sophia Hudson
July 13th, 2014 @ 10:21 pm

This is, in fact, the same father I call an asshole. When I say my parents, I mean my mom and stepdad. I don’t consider my father to be much of a parent, really.
Matt_SE
July 13th, 2014 @ 11:07 pm

Perhaps “shamed” was too direct a term. It won’t happen from someone saying to her “do it, or you’re a homophobe…and I’ll tell everyone!” *gasp*

She’ll be subtly peer-pressured; steered into “the right circumstances.” Probably involving alcohol, of course.

The homophobic threat will never be mentioned, but it will be there. She’ll probably even end up thinking it was her idea.

As I said, “preyed upon.”

In this sense, the motivations and tactics of lesbians are no different than those of frat boys. Yay, equality!
Matt_SE
July 13th, 2014 @ 11:19 pm

And remember, we’re not even talking about a straight person being shamed into gay sex.
We’re talking about a self-professed “bi-curious” person.
She’s already halfway there.
William_Teach
July 14th, 2014 @ 11:08 am

Do you think it’s appropriate, much less proper, to pre-judge your friends as “homophobes”?
Escher's House
July 14th, 2014 @ 11:17 am

Irony is tough, without voice inflections and facial expressions.
Bob Belvedere
July 14th, 2014 @ 8:46 pm

Tis.
Moneyrunner
July 15th, 2014 @ 7:44 am

I won’t see this girl’s kind of mental groping ending in a killing spree. But the culture she inhabits, like the culture Rodger inhabited, seems to totally dominate her mind. Sexual fantasies provided by popular culture, (down to the constant use of “fuck”) projected on a mental screen are apt to leave this girl screwed up. A poster at The “Frisky” advises us that the object of college is to screw as many people as you can. I have the feeling that if she does not have a come-to-Jesus moment, that will be her fate. Disposable.