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Fear and Loathing of the Penis

Posted on | February 13, 2015 | 196 Comments

“All women are prisoners and hostages to men’s world. Men’s world is like a vast prison or concentration camp for women. This isn’t a metaphor, it’s reality. Each man is a threat. We can’t escape men. . . .
“[H]eterosexuality doesn’t exist and our ‘urges’ to bond with [men] emotionally or sexually aren’t natural drives but normal PTSD reactions to years of abuse and mind-programming.”
— Radical Wind, August 2013

When I think back on how this project began, I recall the woman whose screed against intercourse (“PIV is always rape, OK?”) led me deep into this swamp of radical feminism. It was, however, another rant by that same blogger which made me seriously explore the ideological psychosis of which her rant was a symptom.

“No woman is heterosexual.”

That four-word sentence sent me off on an investigation of her sources, especially including Professor Dee Graham, whose 1994 book Loving to Survive theorized female heterosexuality as a response to male-inflicted “sexual terror,” akin to post-traumatic stress syndrome. Understanding this claim in turn required me to examine the sources cited in Graham’s bibliography, including lesbian feminists like Marilyn Frye, Adrienne Rich, Mary Daly, Audre Lorde and Charlotte Bunch. Graham even managed to work in a citation to “Starhawk” (neé Miriam Simos), the lesbian feminist who was the founding high priestess of a California-based pagan witchcraft cult known as Reclaiming. From such dubious sources Graham had propounded her theory of sexuality, based in a view of men as violent oppressors and women as victims suffering under tyrannical male supremacy. After several months of further research, I’ve begun to refer to this feminist worldview as Fear and Loathing of the Penis.

You see this in the counterfactual “rape epidemic” hysteria on college campuses, with activists at Columbia University trying to frighten prospective students — high school kids — with protests about “gender-based violence on campus.” Robert Tracinski at the Federalist examines the possibility that “rape culture” discourse represents “an attempt to create a scapegoat for the emotional dark side of promiscuity.”

It is evident that these women’s dread and contempt of masculinity arises from specific circumstances. Feminism does not cause women to hate and fear men; feminism is the political rationalization of these women’s anti-male feelings, permitting them to believe that their own unhappiness is not merely personal. It is the explanatory power of feminist theory that attracts women who do not wish to consider themselves responsible for their misfortunes, disappointments and failures, offering them a convenient scapegoat for their problems: Patriarchy.

To give you an idea of what I’m talking about, consider this recent post on Tumblr.com by an Australian woman named Kate:

I think that most of the times I feel afraid of the world, it is because there are men in it.
Men who want to hurt women; men who don’t want to hurt women but do not realise that they are doing so anyway; men who don’t want to hurt women, but do not care when they do, because whatever they want from the situation is intrinsically more important to them.
Men who you can tell are bad just by looking at them or listening to what they say; men who you instinctively feel could be bad, but you second-guess yourself because you want to believe and trust that they are good; men who you would never guess are bad in any way — whose badness doesn’t show for years, and when it does it is near-invisible to anybody else.
Men who make you feel threatened when they don’t get their own way; men who lash out and shift the focus when they don’t get their own way; men who spin every word when they don’t get their own way; men who act like children and make you their mother figure when they don’t get their own way; men who control you to get their own way, men who take what they want anyway when they don’t get their own way.
Men who do not listen to women’s words the same way they listen to other men’s; men who turn you invisible unless they want to f–k you; men who only want to be your friend because they want to f–k you; men who call you ‘intellectually dishonest’ for using emotion and context to argue a point; men who back you into corners physically, emotionally, verbally.
Men who call you ‘crazy’; ‘hormonal’; ‘irrational’; ‘emotional’, men who will not allow your anger to be recognised as a valid emotional response, or your sadness, your distrust.
Men who make you feel the most loved, safe, and cared for after they have abused you.
Men who make you question your reality by telling you with conviction that it is wrong.
Men who take away your sense of independence and self by controlling your every move, and by telling you a better way to do every little thing you’ve taught yourself.
Men who dissolve your self esteem by belittling and insulting you, and calling you names.
Men who tell you that your reasonable emotional reactions are abusive, and infringe on their rights to do whatever they want to do.
Men who do not stop whatever they are doing to you when you ask.
Men who look you in the eyes and lie to you every day to protect their double lives.
I am so tired of absorbing all of this.

Who are these men who do these things to Kate? We don’t know.

She doesn’t name them, but she is apparently surrounded by them, and we are thus unable to offer any advice or assistance to her. She is a helpless victim of men — men! men! men! — and it would seem she offers this catalog of masculine “badness” in the expectation that other women will recognize the pattern. Yet we might notice how Kate lists men’s reactions when they “don’t get their own way,” as if she can’t see that the entirety of her complaint involves her own dissatisfaction because she can’t get her own way with them. Men don’t behave the way Kate wants them to behave, men don’t say and do things the way Kate wants things to be said and done, and their failure to live up to her expectations — their unwillingness to comply with the imperious demands of Queen Kate — is proof that she is a victim of male oppression.

She is inviting us to a pity party where she is the guest of honor. If men reject that invitation, this just proves how bad men are, because they “will not allow your anger to be recognised as a valid emotional response, or your sadness, your distrust.”

Why wouldn’t male contempt for her be “a valid emotional response”? Men are the way we are in part because we must be that way in order to be recognized as men, as responsible adults. Nobody wants to hear a man complain about his problems. Women can be especially merciless in their contempt for any man who expresses a sense of emotional suffering, and many women are deliberately sadistic toward men. Some women enjoy nothing better than to insult a man and then mock him as a “whiner” if he takes notice of the insult. Women who take pride in their own cruelty toward men are invariably the same women who complain when men fail to treat them with solicitude and kindness. Such women are never able to admit that they are even partially responsible for their inability either to attract good men or to sustain relationships with the men they do attract.

Fear and Loathing of the Penis — a paranoid resentment of men, characterized by irrational suspicion — is the underlying mental condition that feminism turns into a political ideology. What disturbs me, after months of studying this phenomenon, is that this madness is both contagious and incurable. Feminism is a sort of cultural virus that, once it takes hold in a woman’s mind, makes it impossible for her to relate to men in a normal manner and, because misery loves company, she feels compelled to share her hateful anti-male attitudes with other women. If left untreated, the effects of this dangerous malady are well known.




 

 

“There are no Christian feminists, because feminism is a sort of narcissistic idolatry, wherein women deny God and instead worship themselves as their own divinity.”
— Robert Stacy McCain, Dec. 17

 

 

UPDATE: Welcome, Instapundit readers! As to envy, I have always thought Freudian psychology — “penis envy,” “Oedipus complex,” “castration anxiety,” etc. — to be a lot of mythical pseudo-scientific humbug. However, Freud did say this:

“Women have but little sense of justice, and this is no doubt connected with the preponderance of envy in their mental life.”

Like so much else Freud said about women, this seems insulting if read as a general statement applicable to all women. We should remember, however, that much of Freud’s practice involved treating neurotic women, the unhappy wives and daughters of the upper classes. As a description of a certain type of woman, his statement is certainly true. Envy is a poisonous emotion, and is antithetical to a sense of justice. The characteristic rage of feminists — their angry insistence that every advantage enjoyed by men is an unearned “privilege,” and that all women suffer oppression because of “male supremacy” — is entirely consistent with Freud’s observation of how “the preponderance of envy” manifests itself in the behavior of neurotic women.

UPDATE II: Linked by That Mr. G’s Blog, Brian Cragin and Doug at Daley Gator — thanks! — and our friend Doug apparently felt a need to pour salt in the wound. It should be sufficient to report facts and let people draw their own conclusions.

Of course, some conclusions are more obvious than others.

 

Category: Fear. Loathing., Feminism, Sex Trouble

Comments

196 Responses to “Fear and Loathing of the Penis”

  1. kilo6
    February 13th, 2015 @ 7:12 pm

    “Fear and Loathing of the Penis — a paranoid resentment of men, characterized by irrational suspicion — is the underlying mental condition that feminism turns into a political ideology…”

    I heard there was a sequel to Fear and Loathing of The Penis…

    http://i.imgur.com/uEuZXJg.jpg

  2. RS
    February 13th, 2015 @ 7:49 pm

    So much in the World According To Kate:

    . . . men who you would never guess are bad in any way — whose badness doesn’t show for years, and when it does it is near-invisible to anybody else.

    If it’s invisible to everyone else, maybe it’s you.

    . . . men who call you ‘intellectually dishonest’ for using emotion and context to argue a point;

    In other words, arguing from your feelings and not objective facts or truth and changing your responses to situations based upon momentary expediency instead of absolute core values.

    . . . men who will not allow your anger to be recognised as a valid emotional response

    Newsflash: Sometimes anger is not a “valid emotional response,” as in “getting mad at the car for stopping on the highway when you forgot to fill the gas tank.”

    Men who make you question your reality by telling you with conviction that it is wrong.

    Well, you got me there. Guilty as charged. Still, alas, solipsism is only a decent philosophy if one is alone on a desert island, a la Tom Hanks in Castaway.

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  4. darleenclick
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:17 pm

    I’ve never gotten a straight answer from any Vagina Warrior that if women are only reacting to their “traumatic abuse at the hands of the Patriarchy” then are they are accusing all fathers of hating their own baby daughters …

  5. Adobe_Walls
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:20 pm

    We don’t reflect on the genius of our caveman forbears often enough. Their prescience, the foresight they demonstrated in structuring the more subtle forms of Patriarchy, developed when at the time brute force would do. Just imagine where we’d be, or not be, if they had allowed women to figure out that “[H]eterosexuality doesn’t exist and our ‘urges’ to bond with [men] emotionally or sexually aren’t natural drives ”

  6. Phil_McG
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:22 pm

    men who turn you invisible unless they want to f–k you

    Here’s the invisible girl herself:

    (Note the SJW / mentally-ill girl uniform of tats, neon hair dye, and piercings)

    http://40.media.tumblr.com/ff7f15a1411dd678d1c6276e42f2bb0a/tumblr_njlhadMcBF1qbs3vko1_1280.jpg

  7. Adobe_Walls
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:23 pm

    They are.

  8. robertstacymccain
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:23 pm

    My God. She’s a stereotype.

  9. Phil_McG
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:29 pm

    “From the author of Apeshit” !

  10. Adobe_Walls
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:31 pm

    Note the glassy eyes.
    Rode hard and put away wet a few times too many.

  11. Dana
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:38 pm

    Even Stevie Wonder wouldn’t want to f–k her!

    Living proof that a picture really is worth a thousand words..

  12. Dana
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:40 pm

    I’ve always wondered how heterosexuality can be some sort of artificial construct of Teh Evil Patriarchy™ when it exists in every sexually reproducing species. When, exactly, do these feminist geniuses believe that homo sapiens mutated away from the necessary heterosexuality that allowed earlier humans to reproduce?

  13. Jim R
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:49 pm

    AAAAHHHHGGGG!!!! My eyes! Jebus, man, put a frickin’ WARNING on it next time: NSFA (Not Safe For Anywhere).

    Bleach! I must have bleach!

  14. Jim R
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:52 pm

    I’m sure that, if asked, they would claim to be card-carrying members of the Fact-based Community(TM).

  15. Dana
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:56 pm

    Judging by her picture, cleaning her room is about as high on her priority list as shampooing her hair.

  16. Dana
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:57 pm

    Uhh, nobody rode that; she drank her way into that look.

  17. Quartermaster
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:57 pm

    Nobody sober, anywayz.

  18. Quartermaster
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:58 pm

    Indeed!

  19. Dana
    February 13th, 2015 @ 8:59 pm

    But she does have the friend that you’d expect!

    http://41.media.tumblr.com/83001121a7674d44c10b752dedde64a9/tumblr_njmv7w7G171qbs3vko1_1280.jpg

  20. Quartermaster
    February 13th, 2015 @ 9:00 pm

    No bleach is strong enough. I’d recommend sulfuric acid, but teh side effects are pretty extreme.

  21. Dana
    February 13th, 2015 @ 9:04 pm

    And another picture, one which shows that her tats are not restricted to areas which can be covered by normal business attire. She has, for all intents and purposes, made herself unemployable for anything beyond the minimum wage.

    http://40.media.tumblr.com/c259f4f69c02769eb170abdf45d87eb9/tumblr_nhyoq3q21m1qbs3vko1_1280.jpg

  22. Jim R
    February 13th, 2015 @ 9:09 pm

    Can’t possibly be worse than what I’ve just experienced.

    When I was in basic, they had us watch VD films. The Army could save time with current recruits and just show them her photo: better than saltpeter in the food.

  23. Adobe_Walls
    February 13th, 2015 @ 9:13 pm

    I’ve seen that look, more likely heroin or something similar. She hates men almost as much as she hates herself.

  24. Dana
    February 13th, 2015 @ 9:16 pm

    I can go along with that.

  25. Bee Dubya
    February 13th, 2015 @ 9:22 pm

    “Hipster Gaia of the Pious Priapean”.

  26. darleenclick
    February 13th, 2015 @ 9:24 pm

    BTW there’s a way to rock blue hair (from one of our shoots)

  27. Quartermaster
    February 13th, 2015 @ 9:24 pm

    The Navy didn’t make us watch VD films. They had a Corpsman and a Chaplain give us “the talk.”

    A guy I used to work with had two scales to rate women. One was the wild Horse scale – how many wild horses it would take to drag him of the girl. The other, the Budweiser scale – how many it would take to make her a babe. That chick is at least 100 cases on the Bud scale, and I’m not sure you could drink enough to make her beautiful.

  28. ripple947
    February 13th, 2015 @ 9:45 pm

    She looks pretty damn burned out and aged for someone presumably in her 20’s. Too much sex, drugs, and perhaps EDM.

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  30. TTC
    February 13th, 2015 @ 9:55 pm

    I’m writing an essay on Simone de Beauvoir and feminist philosophy right now. It’s a shame I can’t cite the Sex Works series in it.

  31. Mike G.
    February 13th, 2015 @ 9:59 pm

    I’m sure you probably could with the author’s permission.

  32. M. Thompson
    February 13th, 2015 @ 10:02 pm

    Use Mr. McCain’s research to your advantage.

  33. M. Thompson
    February 13th, 2015 @ 10:04 pm

    Not Safe for Sanity.

  34. M. Thompson
    February 13th, 2015 @ 10:06 pm

    Poor cat. Doesn’t deserve to be any where near a human like that.

  35. IceBerg77
    February 13th, 2015 @ 10:29 pm

    It’s amazing that feminists still argue that they don’t hate men.

  36. Fail Burton
    February 13th, 2015 @ 10:39 pm

    I’ve mentioned several times I’ve been closely following this cult in the science fiction community. The cult is often called “political correctness,” or falsely called “liberalism,” “Leftism” or even “Marxism.”

    It’s none of those things, but a precise reflection of the same resentment and irrational suspicion of men and also whites that Mr. McCain has found. To say these people have mental health issues is an understatement. They are sublimely unaware of how far over the edge they are.

    The powers that be that hand out SF awards are an analogue to a university culture swathed in gender studies and that in turn worships the disabled non-white lesbian as the most noble of the reverse hierarchy which puts ignorant peasants at the top of the food chain. Everyone is subject to the star chamber swarming shaming treatment at a moment’s notice and usually fall back into line over some innocuous joke or other sin.

    I don’t know anything about mental health issues but these people seem fanatic and obsessive in an unhealthy way but that seems to soothe them in some manner. Their daily Twitter ritual of lighting up men and whites is at least equal to their interest in writing, which in turn reminds me of people who wash their hands 100 times a day. No one is turned away, no matter how crazy or racist they are as long as the target is straight white men. By contrast, using the word “lady” can land one in a women-hating KKK.

    I don’t know what the solution is other than quoting them and signal-boosting their madness. Gender feminism is no more complex than a nutty KKK and it’s important to keep talking about it in those terms. There seems little doubt it is the most psychotic pop culture movement in American history.

  37. trangbang68
    February 13th, 2015 @ 10:39 pm

    I notice a couple of Beta eunuchs in the crowd. Probably wearing buttons that read “cut mine off, please”

  38. trangbang68
    February 13th, 2015 @ 10:41 pm

    that meth is a terrible drug

  39. trangbang68
    February 13th, 2015 @ 10:41 pm

    Looks like she spent a fortnight at Hell’s Angels summer camp

  40. Fail Burton
    February 13th, 2015 @ 10:54 pm

    The sad thing is if they feel like this in their prime with opportunity and at least some fantasy of multiple futures ahead of them, what happens as they age and those tomorrows close one by one? That’s tough for even a stable person to deal with if they don’t seize the day when it’s there to be seized. I feel compassion for such people but it tends to evaporate when them make me a target. I’m not a punching bag for these people, so they’re on their own. Imagine if I blamed every bad feeling I had on women and obsessively wrote about it. Yup, that would be me being a mental case. The question is, how can you indulge in that level of self-pity and unfairness towards others and not be aware of it? Find some other scapegoat lady, maybe your own lack of character.

  41. Fail Burton
    February 13th, 2015 @ 10:55 pm

    Why not?

  42. Fail Burton
    February 13th, 2015 @ 10:57 pm

    Odd coincidence she apparently has a problem with men calling her “crazy.” Has it ever occurred to her that’s not the problem of a bunch of men but an honest and accurate reaction?

  43. Isa
    February 13th, 2015 @ 11:11 pm

    i was wondering if i had witnessed anything like this in my own life to sympathize. then something shot right to the front of my brain:

    comics. mainly the big western superhero comics, y’know, Marvel and DC Comics? feminists and SJWs EVERYWHERE.

    their influence has become especially apparent with Marvel’s recent controversial character changes and DC’s “New 52” universe, which received an overwhelmingly negative response from most long-time fans.

  44. M. Thompson
    February 13th, 2015 @ 11:18 pm

    But this is a pretty girl, who’s not afraid to be so. In this case, it does not detract from her appearance.

  45. TTC
    February 13th, 2015 @ 11:44 pm

    I’m using his stuff like I use wiki, as a primer and a resource to find stuff.

    The problem, to be frank, is RSM’s noteriety and blog format. Despite its virtues, I don’t think it would be accepted as a scholarly work, and I think the risk of engendering the hostility of my professor is too great if I were to cite RSM in any capacity except of condemnation.

  46. DeadMessenger
    February 13th, 2015 @ 11:56 pm

    The baphomet horns are a nice touch. She must be on the rag.

  47. DeadMessenger
    February 14th, 2015 @ 12:09 am

    And a shirt that reads “Now, where did I leave that again?

  48. Pat Dooley
    February 14th, 2015 @ 12:09 am

    It was rape all the way down to single-cell amoeba. Get with the program.

  49. DeadMessenger
    February 14th, 2015 @ 12:15 am

    Dear Radical Wind,

    Why do you constantly say stupid things that fly in the face of common sense, rational thought, science, sociology, anthropology, and 6000 years of human history? I’m embarrassed for you; people are pointing at you and laughing.

    So please reflect upon this seriously when I tell you that YOU are the one for whom Proverbs 26:11 was written: “As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly.”

    Toodles,
    DeadMessenger

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