Feminist Tumblr: Human Train Wreck Offers Online ‘Support’ to ‘Survivors’

Posted on | June 7, 2015 | 145 Comments

Maybe somebody should start a Tumblr blog called “Getting S**tfaced Drunk at College Parties Is Probably a Bad Idea,” because that’s the kind of advice Lilly at “Survivor Support” needed before she went to college. However, such advice is what we call “common sense,” and Lilly calls herself a feminist, so what’s the use? Feminists hate common sense.

Lilly is taking legal action against Pace University:

Pace University forced the victim of an alleged sexual assault into an investigation, found the alleged rapist not responsible without saying why, and then attempted to require both students to attend a program on alcohol and date rape, a complaint filed with the Education Department claims.
The student who filed the complaint, and who asked to remain anonymous due to the private nature of her experience, received word in July that the department’s Office for Civil Rights would look into her grievance. . . .
The Pace student said she had no intention of reporting the Feb. 14, 2014, incident, but did disclose it to a doctor at the New York university’s health center on Feb. 27 when she went to get tested for sexually transmitted infections. The doctor fetched another colleague, who agreed they needed to inform campus security, who would in turn have to start an investigation, the student said.
“I said I don’t want an investigation, don’t want the police involved at all, don’t want an in-school investigation, but they told me it had to happen,” the student said to The Huffington Post. “I did not want to report my rapist, because it is a very miserable and tedious process in which the victim rarely gets justice.” . . .
After Pace University staff talked to the student in an exam room for two hours — she didn’t feel she could leave — the student agreed to cooperate, figuring that if it had to happen, the investigation might as well be done right, according to the complaint. She submitted a written account of her version of events the following day, and the university issued a no-contact order between the two students involved. . . .
On March 31, Marijo Russell-O’Grady, Pace’s dean of students, told the reported victim and the accused assailant that the school was dropping the charges, according to a copy of the decision letter obtained by HuffPost. The reported victim said she never received an explanation why the school was finding him not responsible. Pace did determine that both students should be required to attend training on alcohol and substance abuse and on date rape.

The extra-judicial process for dealing with sexual assault cases involving college and university students is, on the one hand, required as a consequence of federal policy and yet is, on the other hand, a huge part of the problem that feminists have spent months protesting about, i.e., so-called “rape culture” on campus.

DON’T GET S**TFACED DRUNK AT COLLEGE PARTIES

Does that advice need a “Trigger Warning”? Perhaps it is traumatic to college girls who, despite solid GPAs in high school and high SAT scores, are nevertheless too stupid to understand why college guys want to get college girls drunk. Do I need to draw you a diagram, ladies? Whatever else is going on at these parties, sex is certainly near the top of the list of desired outcomes, so if you don’t want to have sex, don’t go to the party. However, if you choose to ignore that advice, and go to the party even though you don’t want to have sex, there are all kinds of common-sense strategies that smart girls use to avoid misfortune. On the other hand, if you’re a feminist, common sense doesn’t matter, and offering smart advice is “blaming the victim.” So . . . Trigger Warning!

Lilly’s Tumblr blog “Survivor Support” may not offer smart advice, but it does give us insight into what kind of hopeless idiots are being admitted to college nowadays. From Lilly’s “About Me” page:

My name is Lilly and I am 23 years old. I went to college at Susquehanna University for 2 years in nowheresville Pennsylvania. The school was not a good fit for me at all, because I really didn’t like the students or the location. In addition to the school not being a good fit, I was raped three times during my freshman year there.

(Raped three times during your freshman year? How does that happen? We’ll get to that part, but for now keep reading.)

I developed PTSD… and I abused alcohol. My therapist once asked me if I tried to kill myself with alcohol when I told her how much I could drink in a night. I also started self harming. . . .
During my sophomore year, on February 24th, 2012, my older brother died. He had been very ill for about 12 years. He overdosed. He was 26.
I decided to go back to school to finish up the semester after my brother’s death. It was really difficult. My PTSD was through the roof and I was mourning. I was also really suicidal and depressed. . . . I barely did manage to finish the semester. But I did.
Over the summer of 2012, I was hospitalized twice for my depression and suicidal ideation. I was in the hospital for 6 weeks, receiving ECT (shock treatment). I dropped out of college. I took a year off to recover.

(Shock treatment? Six weeks in a psych ward?)

I then transferred to a college in NYC called Pace University. I was having a very difficult time making friends and was very depressed the entire time I was there. I was raped again on Valentines Day, 2014. The school forced me into an investigation that I did not want. My anxiety, depression, PTSD was just awful. I wanted to drop out of school and not finish the semester. . . .
I decided to leave Pace after the semester ended. I am now at another small school in NYC. I study photography and sociology.
I am currently suing Pace University for the forced, botched, and very illegal investigation. My rapist graduated.
Pace University tried to silence me, but I refuse to be silenced. . . .
I am also a very outspoken feminist. I am very liberal. And very political.
I currently suffer from major atypical depression, chronic suicidal thoughts, general anxiety disorder, complex PTSD, and complicated grief. . . .
And I fear men. I actually believe that I am more gay than I used to be. I was bi-leaning-straight, but now I’m bi-leaning-gay. At this point in my life, I cannot handle college. I fear college. So I am taking time off once again.
I am a survivor of harassment, abuse, assault, and rape. I created this blog to help create some form of a community. I wanted to prove to you that you are not alone.

In other words, “You think your life sucks? Ha!” However crazy you may be, Lilly’s much crazier. So there’s that.

Lilly has a page called “My Stories,” but instead of putting the stories in text form, she has uploaded them as images, and I’ll save you time by summarizing these stories briefly.

LILLY’S STORY NUMBER ONE — Her childhood sucked. When she was 8 years old, her brother developed a serious illness, which was very stressful on her family. Her mother and father fought a lot, sometimes violently, and her father had an affair with a former college girlfriend.
LILLY’S STORY NUMBER TWO — Her adolescence sucked. She fell in love with Sam in sixth grade, but he rejected her. She contemplated suicide. Beginning in her freshman year of high school, Lilly was “involved with other boys, and girls,” but by senior year, she renewed her romance with Sam. She “almost lost [her] virginity” to Sam, but meanwhile, she found out Sam was “hooking up” with her friend Steven, as well as “seeing other girls.” She “kept asking him if he was gay.” Much drama ensued.
LILLY’S STORY NUMBER THREE — Her freshman year at Susquehanna sucked. At the start, she met a guy named Brian. They hung out and “fooled around,” but Brian “had a girlfriend . . . and refused to have sex with me, even though I wanted to lose my virginity to him.” So then she started dating Larry, even though Larry “wasn’t really [her] type.” One Friday night in November, she went to a party: “I wanted to get drunk.” Larry was at the party with another girl. After she “had about 4 drinks,” Lilly started dancing with “a tall skinny black guy” named Jeremiah who “was very drunk.” They started kissing, because Lilly “wanted to make Larry jealous.” She told Jeremiah she “was a virgin” and “did not want to have sex that night.” However, they went to Jeremiah’s place, where he took off her pants and digitally penetrated her. “I was fine with this,” Lilly said, “but then all of a sudden” he inserted his penis into her vagina. Sexual intercourse was very painful. Jeremiah kept trying to contact Lilly afterwards, but she was not interested.
LILLY’S STORY NUMBER FOUR — She was drunk at a frat party and danced with a drunk guy who groped her.
LILLY’S STORY NUMBER FIVE — At a party, she got “completely wasted” from vodka and “jungle juice” and was dancing with a bunch of guys. She dry-humped a “nice boy” on the couch “in front of everybody.” After the party, Lilly and her friends went “back to the dorms to smoke weed.” She had a very unpleasant sexual experience with a “random guy” named Eric. It was so bad she “actually had to ice my vagina for three days.” Months later, Lilly decided that what happened with Eric was actually rape.
LILLY’S STORY NUMBER SIX — This is the Pace University rape story. On the night of Feb. 14, 2014, Lilly drank “the majority of a bottle of rum, roughly about 8 vodka shots, a cosmo on the rocks, and a few cups of white wine.” She was with a guy named Rainer, and they “kissed on and off during the night.” She was “heavily intoxicated” and her memory is “foggy,” but she ended up in the dorm bathroom, where Rainer expected her to perform oral sex on him. She complied, but it wasn’t very good for either of them. At a later point, she blacked out and “the rape happened sometime before 3:30 AM on the 15th.” Lilly woke up with “vaginal pain and a a hickey on [her] right breast.”

What can we say of this tale of endless woe? Are these guys — Jeremiah, Eric and Rainer — all equally guilty of rape?

No, none of them are guilty of anything, because you can’t convict somebody of rape merely on the basis of what a drunk girl said happened while she was “completely wasted” or “heavily intoxicated.” If you asked Jeremiah, Eric and Rainer, each would have his own story of innocence to tell and so, without any other evidence, not guilty. Case dismissed.

When drunk college girls and drunk college boys get together, situations like this inevitably occur. What are you going to do? Do we expect that Eric — who saw Lilly dry-humping a guy on the sofa in front of everybody at a party — is going to treat Lilly with courtesy and respect? Shouldn’t we point out also that (a) college freshmen are underage for drinking and (b) they were also illegally using marijuana? “Hey, let’s completely rearrange the world to make it safe for drunk teenage dopeheads,” said no sane person ever.

Let the feminists call me a slut-shamer and a victim-blamer for asking, but does Lilly bear no responsibility at all?

Think about what Lilly says happened with Jeremiah. She seems to have been rather desperate to lose her virginity. She nearly got her high-school crush Sam to do the honors, but no luck there. Then she went to college and wanted Brian to deflower her, but he turned her down. She was willing to settle for Larry, but he showed up at the party with another girl, so Lilly danced with Jeremiah, then went back to his place where she took off her pants and was willing to have Jeremiah do everything to her except vaginal intercourse. Lilly was drunk and naked with a stranger — she had never met Jeremiah before that night — and anybody with ordinary common sense would say that this was a very bad decision.

Ordinary common sense seems to be quite rare on college campuses nowadays, however, and you’ll be called a “rape apologist” if you warn teenage college girls against very bad decisions.

DON’T GET S**TFACED DRUNK AT COLLEGE PARTIES

And since Lilly raises the issue of her sexuality — formerly “bi-leaning-straight, but now . . . bi-leaning-gay” — can we be honest and say she is just lonely, confused and pathetic?

Look, you don’t need a “sexuality.” You need love.

You don’t need an unrealistic crush on a guy who doesn’t reciprocate your feelings. You need to have some sense of your own human dignity. You need to get your act together, and stop being so emotionally needy that you’re willing to do anything just to have a guy (or girl) pay attention to you. In short, you need to grow the hell up and at least attempt to conduct yourself like a responsible adult.

Feminist Tumblr is never going to give you that kind of advice, and that’s a huge problem. It seems that young people believe that the only place to get advice is from their peers, including basket cases like Lilly at “Survivor Support.” Never listen to successful grown-ups! Listen to Feminist Tumblr! Because feminists on Tumblr know everything!

Follow their directions closely, kids. Because the one thing feminists on Tumblr know best is the shortest route to Hell.

UPDATE: A predictable reaction:

‘We Need to Get Him Off the Internet’

Feminism tells them that they are never responsible for anything. Therefore, feminists require a scapegoat to shoulder the blame. And what the heck, why not me? Let them screech all they want at me.

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Comments

145 Responses to “Feminist Tumblr: Human Train Wreck Offers Online ‘Support’ to ‘Survivors’”

JoeEmpire
June 8th, 2015 @ 12:46 pm

Yeah, I’m with you. If men want to pay women to step on them with stiletto heels, and put cigarettes out on them, that’s their bag, but findom seems, oh I don’t know….bad. they’re nasty individuals, too. feminists have now co-opted findom in order to collect money from whiteen as some sort of reparations, and for their time on Twitter, if you can believe that crap.
JoeEmpire
June 8th, 2015 @ 12:47 pm

*white men
DeadMessenger
June 8th, 2015 @ 1:04 pm

Your stalkers seem to have a reading comprehension issue. Among other issues.

But even if someone DID say the things they claim or worse, in what way does that excuse their behavior? Saying something online that someone doesn’t like is not reasonable cause for stalking. Indeed, there is NO reasonable cause for stalking, at all, ever. Anyone with a shred of brain cell activity would just stop…now. But those two are psychotic and need to be institutionalized, stat.
Jeanette Victoria
June 8th, 2015 @ 1:17 pm

Thomas A Mix is especially stupid as @NicoleBonnett1 has been using him for two years now. When she says liking the Vero Beach page on Facebook is staking he falls for it. She has convinced him that my noticing and posing links to their abusive posts is targeted harssment.

LOL he is convinced he can sue me for simply mentioning his name. Of course his claiming that I am a felon, pedo, human trafficker and criminal stalker etc all of which untrue and defamtory is A-OK
DeadMessenger
June 8th, 2015 @ 4:08 pm

I think he needs to take some nice psychiatric drugs, and take a rest. Also, do any of these people have jobs, I’m wondering?
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June 8th, 2015 @ 4:49 pm

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Lulu
June 8th, 2015 @ 6:24 pm

I don’t remember 18 year old girls getting turned down when I was in college unless they were trying for some guy way out of their league but with alcohol involved it’s hard to believe a teen girl would be turned down by a teen boy
Lulu
June 8th, 2015 @ 6:28 pm

Are these people making up these stories for the attention plus being a victim seems to be popular in this generation — I’m starting to think they make these stories up then start to believe them
Lulu
June 8th, 2015 @ 6:36 pm

exactly was this girl going alone to parties and getting drunk with strangers then going to their rooms? that’s a willing victim — as it keeps happening to her she seems to want to repeat the experience
Lulu
June 8th, 2015 @ 6:41 pm

true compassion is wanting her to stop doing the things that leave her open to victimization and that requires not enabling bad choices or behavior but giving her the advice that all girls used to get from their families, friends and society at large — here is the honest truth about life: no one has the right to steal your car but if you leave it in a high crime neighborhood unlocked with the keys inside what is going to happen — same way no one has the right to have sex with you against your wishes but if you get drunk and naked with strange men or even acquaintances that’s what is going to happen — so smart girls learn to be responsible for their personal safety not exist in a fantasy world that is free of human nature
Grandson Of TheGrumpus
June 8th, 2015 @ 7:38 pm

DM:
In reference to point #1, The Wife and I have never found our marriage to prevent pregnancy (happily).

But then, having almost a baker’s dozen (including adoptions) presents its own difficulties.

I pity anyone who tries to tell The Wife that managing a household isn’t real work!

Thinking about these people, the special snowflakes, I’m coming to the conclusion that they have too much time on their hands.

There’s no cure for melodrama quite as good, effective, or satisfying as wrestling w/building a life.
Jeanette Victoria
June 8th, 2015 @ 8:17 pm

Obviously there is an emotional pay off for being a victim
DeadMessenger
June 8th, 2015 @ 8:32 pm

I should have said pregnancies outside the marital union. I almost said “unwanted pregnancies”, but frankly, I can’t wrap my head around any baby being unwanted.

I would also never claim that managing a household is not real work. I’m a wife and mother who works 50 hours a week on my “day job”, manages the household, does a LOT of housework, works additionally for two volunteer ministries, AND I still take the time to come out here and annoy you guys, lol. I am woman, hear me roar (or whimper, as the case may be).
bloodandtea
June 8th, 2015 @ 9:32 pm

Please, remove yourself from society.
bloodandtea
June 8th, 2015 @ 9:34 pm

And you’re a victim blaming scumbag. Have you ever been raped mr. mcain? Do you know what it’s like? No? Then you need to check yourself and keep your mouth shut about things you’ve never experienced in your lifetime. Of course, people like you never really know when to keep their mouths shut, do they? You’re pathetic.
bloodandtea
June 8th, 2015 @ 9:37 pm

I think honestly that may apply a bit more to the author of the article considering that his blatantly shitty views are garnering less and less support in the public sphere and he’s afraid of being phased out so he needs to harass random women on the internet and call them failures when he appears to have nothing better to do with his life lmao.

Besides, all humans are deserving of compassion. if something genuinely horrible — like rape, were to happen to the author, despite the fact that I think he’s a disgusting example of a human being — I would feel compassion for him. Because that’s what humans do.
theoldsargesays
June 8th, 2015 @ 10:26 pm

JV I sure hope that you are choosing to poke fun at yourself because aside from not knowing or caring, I would never go there.
RS
June 8th, 2015 @ 10:30 pm

. . . so he needs to harass random women on the internet. . .

Define “harass.” He read a public document. He commented on his own blog. How does that constitute “harassment?” You (and she) seem to think that disagreement is harassment; that you’re entitled to nothing but accolades and rose petals strewn about in response to your early-twenties, “I know everything” wisdom.
RS
June 8th, 2015 @ 10:38 pm

Well, that comment will show Lulu. Gotta hand it to you. That was a real zinger, that was. Boy howdy. You sure do give the great wits like Bertrand Russell a run for their money.
RS
June 8th, 2015 @ 10:39 pm

But remember. When a prospective employer discovers that photo and her blog on the internet and runs screaming for the hills, it won’t be her fault.
Mr. Saturn
June 9th, 2015 @ 2:47 am

Thanks for the laugh. You know you would be overjoyed if someone you hated had such an experience. Though I figure Mr. McCain wouldn’t lie about it and try to use it as chance to be the poor oppressed victim and get all of your “compassion”.
Daniel Freeman
June 9th, 2015 @ 4:00 am

That’s a really nice bedframe. Intricate pattern on the coverlet, framed prints at an aesthetic spacing — not too cluttered, not too spare — and a nighty that looks satin. All indicating a life of taste and means.

Of course I noticed the two vessels first, as I’m fond of both kinds, but then the rest jumped out at me.
Steve Skubinna
June 9th, 2015 @ 5:53 am

“If everyone you encounter is a jerk, maybe you’re the jerk.”
Steve Skubinna
June 9th, 2015 @ 5:57 am

Had a friend who liked crazy girlfriends. He told me “The sex is great!” and I asked if that were worth never turning your back and always furtively inventorying the kitchen knives.

Eventually he made some major changes, lived off the grid in Montana for a year, and is now married to a sane woman and works as a professional fire fighter.

So maybe the crazy is fun for a while, but eventually a guy, if he’s not nuts himself, starts asking what is important in life.
Steve Skubinna
June 9th, 2015 @ 6:03 am

You are an enabler. So if she kills herself, congratulations for pushing her down that path instead of intervening.
Steve Skubinna
June 9th, 2015 @ 6:05 am

Ah, there’s that compassion you brag about. Knew you had it in you.
Steve Skubinna
June 9th, 2015 @ 6:07 am

Yeah, that picture just oozes balance and self control. Not crazy at all.
Jeanette Victoria
June 9th, 2015 @ 8:47 am

Of course I was poking fun at myself I’m fat and I hate dieting
Finrod Felagund
June 9th, 2015 @ 9:22 am

“I want to see more of you around the lab.”
“Okay, I’ll gain weight.”
Finrod Felagund
June 9th, 2015 @ 9:24 am

You put yourself in stupid places
Yes I think you know it’s true
Situations where it’s easy to look down on you
I think you like to be the victim
I think you like to be in pain
I think you make yourself a victim almost every single day

— Everclear, Everything To Everyone
Finrod Felagund
June 9th, 2015 @ 9:26 am

You first, hater.
JoeEmpire
June 9th, 2015 @ 5:07 pm

She wasn’t raped, you useless little asswipe. That’s the point. Her lack of common sense, poor judgment, and self destructive behavior is not a free pass, and to be put on someone else as a rape charge in order to get sympathy. You confuse “victim blaming” with accountability and that’s why you’re a shutbag feminist enabling that deluded human train wreck. And don’t hand is that shit, that you’d feel bad if something like that befell one of us. You hate us, and would be overjoyed. Now piss off back that Internet mental asylum you call tumblr, dummy, and grow up. Your useless, self pitying generation is a plague.
JoeEmpire
June 9th, 2015 @ 5:12 pm

Really? How many women identify as feminists these days? How many believe rape hoaxer Emma Sulkowicz? How many see title 9 for the witch hunt it is? Just because your debauched, ideologue media allies have a larger microphone, and shriek louder, doesn’t mean you’re winning. I personally will vote for any legislation or candidate that takes a stand against feminist trash, like you.
JoeEmpire
June 9th, 2015 @ 5:20 pm

You first, moron. Take the rest of your little Maoist I’ll with you.
Bob Belvedere
June 10th, 2015 @ 6:29 am

A best friend of mine never cared for crazy – wanted a nice gal to marry. He married what he thought was one and…well…if you look-up the word ‘shrew’ in the dictionary, her picture is there. This friend finally divorced her – she took everything, but he didn’t care because he just wanted out.

He met this redhead, who was crazy, and he had a ball – just what he needed at that point in time. Luckily she wasn’t Fatal Attraction Crazy [she was a redhead who knew she had a tendancy to be crazy and acted accordingly]. They split after about a year, amicably

He went on to do as I did: marry a tough-on-the-outside / full-of-heart-on-the-inside half-Italian, half-Irish gal [he and I are both of Italian descent] and he’s one happy SOB – as am I [although, like all women, our wives have their scattered moments of crazy].
HouseofSuffering
June 10th, 2015 @ 10:22 am

As someone who has had some (albeit, fairly petty) internal struggles (although I won’t detail them because that would be gauche) I have to say that the lionization of those who surrender themselves to self-destruction is both shameful and unhelpful to those with actual problems. The culture of victim worship is a massive slap in the face to anyone who actually wants to live a normal, dignified and decent life while coping with personal difficulties. The constant advertisement of all sexual dysfunctions and mental illness also makes it very difficult to keep private problems private and to maintain dignity when you are constantly forced to reiterate the problems you have dealt with to prove that you have standing to discuss these issues. It would be much better if instead of celebrating people for sharing their struggles, people were allowed a bit of quiet dignity and reserve to handle their personal problems individually. I realize this is written rather badly, and my apologies for that, I took a Benadryl a couple of hours ago and my head’s still a bit foggy.
HouseofSuffering
June 10th, 2015 @ 10:23 am

Personally I’ve always felt that way about alcohol myself: “It tastes like crap and makes you act like an asshole!” could be the slogan for beer, and somehow a large percentage of teens hear that and say “Awesome!”
HouseofSuffering
June 10th, 2015 @ 10:33 am

I have to honestly say that I do feel an immense amount of sympathy for this person, she’s had a difficult life, and even if she is at least partially responsible for a fair amount of the terrible things which have happened to her, she merits more pity and sympathy than contempt. I truly do hope she gets herself straightened out and finds peace and happiness in her life, even if she never gives up her ideology (although I suspect that a large part of her unhappiness is the fact that she views life through a lens of perpetual grievance) I truly do hope that she finds somewhere where she can find some measure of tranquility.
Daniel Freeman
June 10th, 2015 @ 11:22 am
Grandson Of TheGrumpus
June 10th, 2015 @ 6:53 pm

I’m sorry: it sounds as if you took my comment as a serious charge!
I had meant to put a “smiley” at the end, but was called away from my comment and forgot!

From your comment it seems we have similar viewpoints.

My hat’s off to you and all you do!
However, I must admit that I’ve always been astounded at the efforts women are capable of— especially when unencumbered w/the modern version of shackles-and-deepsea-anchor: women’s “liberation”.
DeadMessenger
June 10th, 2015 @ 7:57 pm

Sorry I took you wrong. Easy to do that when you’re not talking face to face. And also I’m an idiot sometimes, so there’s that, too. MY shackles-and-deepsea-anchor is not feminism, it’s “derp”. Hahahaha!
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freeinaz
June 11th, 2015 @ 12:05 pm

There’s a whole lot of people that need to wear a t-shirt with the slogan, “Instant asshole, just add alcohol.”
freeinaz
June 11th, 2015 @ 12:09 pm

1.) Thankfully this gal didn’t get pregnant from these sexual encounters.
2.) Hopefully she NEVER does.
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