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Is the ‘Male Feminist’ Cuckold a Hoax?

Posted on | July 20, 2015 | 141 Comments

Of course, somebody called my attention to the New York Magazine story by “Michael Sonmore” (obviously a pseudonym) who uses feminist arguments to rationalize his wife’s adultery in their “open marriage.” I commented briefly on Twitter but wanted to ignore the story because (a) yuck, and (b) I suspect the story is a hoax. Like Rolling Stone‘s UVA rape hoax, “Michael Sonmore” tells a narrative that is too perfect in its exposition of feminist themes. For example, “Sonmore” describes himself as “an economically dependent househusband coping with the withering drudgery of child-rearing.” Really? Here is a guy in his 30s who is quite obviously well-educated, yet he is “economically dependent”? Times are hard, maybe, but surely they’re not that hard. Maybe a guy with a liberal arts degree can’t find work in whatever field he considers his specialty, but he can still work, right? Well, “Sonmore” tells us, he chose this dependency: “I quit working to stay at home with the kids,” which he describes as his “total withdrawal from the economy and the traditional sources of masculine identity.” See? Too perfect.

If a story seems too good to be true, it’s probably not true, and I suspect “Sonmore” is a hoax designed to elicit reaction — particularly, sexist reactions from men — which will then be cited as proof of what misogynistic pigs men really are. And here’s your big clue that the editors are pulling our collective leg:

She didn’t present it as an issue of feminism to me, but after much soul-searching about why the idea of my wife having sex with other men bothered me I came to a few conclusions: Monogamy meant I controlled her sexual expression, and, not to get all women’s-studies major about it, patriarchal oppression essentially boils down to a man’s fear that a woman with sexual agency is a woman he can’t control. We aren’t afraid of their intellect or their spirit or their ability to bear children. We are afraid that when it comes time for sex, they won’t choose us. This petty fear has led us as a culture to place judgments on the entire spectrum of female sexual expression: If a woman likes sex, she’s a whore and a slut; if she only likes sex with her husband or boyfriend, she’s boring and lame; if she doesn’t like sex at all, she’s frigid and unfeeling. Every option is a trap.

OK, that’s the point at which I called “bullshit” on this story. Whose “sexual agency” is “controlled” by monogamy? Both partners are equally obligated to fidelity in marriage, but to suggest that this is “patriarchal oppression” driven by “a man’s fear” of “a woman he can’t control” is a psychological projection, a reversal of reality.

It is the male’s (relatively) greater sexual independence — a natural fact of biology — that has been the underlying source of feminist resentment for more than four decades. Anyone who believes otherwise is deluded, and so we must ask, could there actually be a “Michael Sonmore,” a man so thoroughly brainwashed by feminist theory that he can’t see through this ideological falsehood?

It’s possible, perhaps. But this recitation of feminist jargon — “patriarchal oppression” and all that — is simply too perfect.

Ace of Spades calls our attention to the implicit racial context of this story. The wife is hooking up with “Paolo”? Too perfect.

UPDATE: Great minds think alike:

Never underestimate feminists’ infinite capacity for deception. Feminism is like a gigantic Ziggurat of Hatred built entirely of lies.




 

Category: Sex Trouble

Comments

141 Responses to “Is the ‘Male Feminist’ Cuckold a Hoax?”

  1. Mm
    July 21st, 2015 @ 5:08 am

    Nationality, not a race.

  2. Quartermaster
    July 21st, 2015 @ 5:17 am

    I think it was Theodore Roosevelt that something to the effect that “A man should have an open mind, but not so open as to allow the geese to wander through,.”

  3. Quartermaster
    July 21st, 2015 @ 5:19 am

    The ones we had were made of steel. None of this girly boy resin stuff for us.

  4. Dana
    July 21st, 2015 @ 5:32 am

    H8ful h8ey h8ers!

  5. Dana
    July 21st, 2015 @ 5:38 am

    I’m 62, and while I don’t plan on retiring for another 3½ years, if it came right down to it, I could retire today. Thus, I’m not nearly as worried about that as other people have to be.

  6. Ilion
    July 21st, 2015 @ 6:32 am

    What kind of *man* gushes about talking, talking, talking? and over “an ocean of red wine” at that?

    Naaaa, this was written by a, well, female of the human species (not a woman nor a man), who is or was a “women’s-studies major”.

  7. Ilion
    July 21st, 2015 @ 6:35 am

    One of our teachers *made* “clackers” for us (for a price), and for a while, everyone had to have some.

  8. PeterP
    July 21st, 2015 @ 7:13 am

    Hoaxes are necessary when there is a dearth of cases that prove the left’s latest cry of “crisis.”

  9. Gunga
    July 21st, 2015 @ 7:56 am

    A firm, “Sir, take your hands off me,” was definitely in order. After that, Butchy McBobjob could prove for himself that he aint no lady…

  10. Gunga
    July 21st, 2015 @ 9:23 am

    Yes, I think the author and editors are colluding to plumb the depths of reader credulity…and that they indeed have little regard for the intelligence of their readers. How else could you possibly explain something from “Letters to Penthouse” (circa 1977) showing up in a supposedly reputable publication? If only they had the dipstick listening to Tammy Wynette instead of L’retta…but, ‘Stand by Your Heteronormative Patriarchic Oppressor’ would give the whole charade away… Iowahawk is right…cat feces were heavy in the air when that was written.

  11. MichaelAdams
    July 21st, 2015 @ 11:19 am

    SPAM

  12. RKae
    July 21st, 2015 @ 11:52 am

    And don’t forget 1 Corinthians, 7:2:

    “…let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.”

  13. Matt_SE
    July 21st, 2015 @ 11:55 am

    …of Portuguese descent. Happy now?

  14. Flo
    July 21st, 2015 @ 5:47 pm

    possible

  15. Benschachar
    July 21st, 2015 @ 7:15 pm

    “Whose “sexual agency” is “controlled” by monogamy? Both partners are
    equally obligated to fidelity in marriage, but to suggest that this is
    “patriarchal oppression” driven by “a man’s fear” of “a woman he can’t
    control” is a psychological projection, a reversal of reality.”

    How is this different from typical feminism?

  16. Daniel Freeman
    July 21st, 2015 @ 8:58 pm

    I currently give it two to four years to The Doxening, five at the outside. But that’s the thing, if I’m right it will be everthing about everyone, including bank statements. Business owners will be looking at either changing their standards or not having employees.

  17. CeterisParibus
    July 21st, 2015 @ 10:28 pm

    I would add to the list would-be writers, many of today’s journalists and by all indications quite a number of internet bloggers and YouTubers. There is a general trend in ease of employment these days.

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  28. dicentra
    July 23rd, 2015 @ 2:12 pm

    As a dumpy old single broad with a cat, I totally vote FAKE.

    No testosterone-dominant human would accept “monogamy is the male controlling the female’s sexuality, ergo misogyny” without insisting on sauce for the gander.

  29. Joe Guelph
    July 23rd, 2015 @ 3:58 pm

    A thousand times, this. You’ve precisely described the types I’ve seen involved in polyamory. No Alpha males or trophy-wife material in sight — just physically ugly and baggage-laden folks desperate for *any* human contact, and kidding themselves that they’ve found their own personal harems/stud-farms. A recipe for emotional and biological disaster all around.

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    Pretty sure a lot of women would not go for cubicle life if “nurturing their own flesh and blood children” was a one month per year commitment.

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