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‘Girls Can Rape Girls’: @MelanieLBBH and Why Some Stereotypes Are True

Posted on | December 25, 2017 | Comments Off on ‘Girls Can Rape Girls’: @MelanieLBBH and Why Some Stereotypes Are True


Melanie Martinez is a singer who skyrocketed to fame at age 17 when she appeared on the NBC talent-show series The Voice, making it through eight episodes before being eliminated. She released her first single in 2014, released an album in 2015 and then went on tour, where one of her opening acts was a duo called The Dresses, consisting of Jared Maldonado and a female singer named Timothy Heller. Why anyone would name their daughter Timothy is a mystery, but that’s what the Hellers did, and Timothy Heller says she became “best friends” with Melanie Martinez. Did I mention that Melanie Martinez is mentally ill?

In fact, both Ms. Heller and Ms. Martinez have openly admitted to being mentally ill. In September, Ms. Martinez lashed out at those who say her work “glamorizes mental health issues”:

If you have issues with my music and art and judge it so harshly to the point of making up your own reason as to what my intentions [were] when making it, you should just stop watching it. Because quite frankly, you. Just. Don’t. Get. It.

See? The 22-year-old pop singer claims to be Beyond Judgment. Ms. Martinez’s 2015 album Crybaby has been interpreted as a celebration of borderline personality disorder. Martinez “paints a picture of herself as a sensitive soul among ignorant ‘normals’ who cannot understand her,” and sings: “I’m f***ing crazy, need my prescription filled.”

This is the kind of person that any sane parent would warn their children not to hang around with, but Ms. Heller’s parents — well, they named their daughter “Timothy,” see? She became “best friends” with the self-described “crazy” singer and, as the kids say, Ms. Martinez was “thirsty”:

Many powerful men have been accused of sexual misconduct ranging from harassment to rape, but former The Voice contestant Melanie Martinez has been accused of rape by her former best friend. In breaking news, Martinez has a second accuser.
Timothy Heller, whose Twitter profile reads “yes I’m a girl named Timothy,” accused Martinez of performing non-consensual oral sex and penetration with a sex toy via a #MeToo-inspired tweet [Dec. 4].
“The only reason I do this now is because I’m hoping because of recent events, people will believe me,” musician Heller wrote in her statement. “If you begin to doubt the abuse taking place in this story, I beg you to imagine her role in this being a man. Girls can rape girls.”

Having read the entirety of Ms. Heller’s account, I’ll spare you the details, but during a two-night sleepover, Ms. Martinez (allegedly) refused to take “no” for an answer to her sexual interest in Ms. Heller.

For the sake of argument, let us cede Ms. Heller’s point — the feminist #MeToo movement’s reaction would be merciless if a male had been accused of doing anything like what Ms. Martinez (allegedly) did. There is no need here to plead in defense of typical heterosexual male behavior (cf., “Paradise by the Dashboard Light”) because that is not what is at issue in Ms. Heller’s account. No, what her account highlights is a certain harmful stereotype — the predatory homosexual.

This was what enraged many in the gay community about Kevin Spacey’s reaction to the accusation that he had, uh, seduced teenage boys. Spacey chose that occasion to finally “come out” as gay and, as Gabriel Malor said on Twitter: “Hey, way to be a stereotype for the gay predator, @KevinSpacey. Really helping.” Here, it might be helpful to quote radical feminist Andrea Dworkin: “Seduction is often difficult to distinguish from rape. In seduction, the rapist often bothers to buy a bottle of wine.”

No? Not helpful, you say? Then perhaps my friends in the LGBT community should consider how feminist rhetoric demonizes heterosexual men simply for being (a) male and (b) heterosexual. More or less anything a man might do in pursuit of heterosexual activity is condemned by feminists, who then mock men as “clueless” when we complain about their relentless demonization of males:

Is there any way men can speak up about sexual harassment and the #metoo movement without sounding stupid, sexist and part of the problem? . . .
It’s this same attitude that posits it is now “dangerous” to flirt with women, or to offer female colleagues compliments, lest you be “accused” of harassment. . . .
[F]lirtation is an unserious, usually verbal, dance between two equals. Harassment is the unwelcome imposition of one person’s desire on another. If you can’t tell the difference, you shouldn’t be playing the game.

That’s from one feminist’s reaction to Matt Damon’s complaint that the current discourse around “harassment” has conflated comparatively minor offenses with serious crimes like rape. Jacqueline Maley doesn’t give a damn about the harm done by this discourse because (a) she imagines only heterosexual males will suffer as a result, and (b) anything that is harmful to heterosexual men is good, according to feminism. Ms. Maley’s column mocking Matt Damon serves the broader purpose of shaming any other man who expresses concern that the feminist crusade against harassment actually does make flirtation “dangerous.” Every intelligent man knows the answer to this question:

Q. When is it safe for a man to flirt with a female co-worker?
A. Never.

And the same is increasingly true on university campuses, where many male students are now afraid to speak to their female classmates for fear of the accusation of “harassment.” God forbid a college boy should actually try to get laid, and run the risk of a sexual assault inquisition. It is disingenuous of man-haters like Ms. Maley to pretend that the harmful effects of their anti-male rhetoric are unintentional. Feminists expect us to believe that they don’t know what they’re doing and, when men object to this insult to our intelligence, we are accused of being “clueless.” Well, I’ve got a few clues about the feminist agenda, but I digress . . .

What happened when Ms. Heller accused Melanie Martinez of sexually assaulting her? Ms. Martinez claimed she was the real victim, first suggesting that Ms. Heller had lied about the key issue of “consent”:

“She never said no to what we chose to do together.”

Translation: “She’s lying! She never said no! I’m not a predatory lesbian who took advantage of my heterosexual friend! This was ‘what we chose to do together’ — she’s as gay as I am!”

You see that the question of consent in this incident, which occurred in June 2015, involves Ms. Martinez — who had not, to my knowledge, previously acknowledged her homosexuality — implying that Ms. Heller is similarly inclined. However, Ms. Heller says otherwise:

“One night during a sleepover, she became increasingly interested in my sexual preferences. . . .
“She began asking me while in bed if I would have sex with her. . . . I had a boyfriend at this time, and she knew that. ‘He doesn’t have to know, it’s not a big deal!’ . . .”

Ms. Heller was in a heterosexual relationship, but says that Ms. Martinez responded to her protestations by invalidating the significance of that relationship, telling her, in effect: “Just because you’ve got a boyfriend doesn’t mean you’re not gay.” And isn’t this exactly the argument we would expect from a predatory homosexual? Oh, wait . . .

“Bisexual,” you say? You’re telling me that it is unfair to depict Ms. Martinez as a lesbian, because she’s actually bisexual? You say that I’m just a homophobic bigot trying to blame the entire gay community for the (alleged) wrongdoing of this one mentally ill pop singer? Gosh, what a coincidence — that’s how most heterosexual men feel when feminists implicate us as collectively responsible for Harvey Weinstein!

Guilt-by-association is a dirty game, and if feminists are going to demand that every man share the blame for “rape culture,” I don’t see why it’s unfair to say that the entire lesbian community has to answer for Melanie Martinez’s (allegedly) predatory behavior. If lesbians don’t want to take the blame, however, they can throw bisexuals under the bus.

So far as I know, Ms. Martinez has never labeled her sexuality, but her admission of having sex with Ms. Heller (“what we chose to do together”) certainly indicates she’s not heterosexual, and I think most people reading Ms. Heller’s account of this incident would interpret Ms. Martinez’s behavior as PFG — Pretty F***ing Gay. And do you think that Ms. Heller is the only person in human history to encounter a horny homosexual who didn’t want to take “no” for an answer? Do you think the “gay predator” stereotype just invented itself?

Far be it from me to engage in guilt-by-association smears, but now that the #MeToo hashtag is looking like the #YesAllMen hashtag — a universal collective indictment of every heterosexual man on the planet as complicit in “rape culture” — do you expect me to pretend that the scenario described by Ms. Heller is an extreme rarity? No, I’m not going to play along with that kind of make-believe game. Let me tell you what I believe is the real reason why there aren’t more same-sex harassment/assault stories on the #MeToo hashtag:

  • Shame — Most victims of homosexual molestation identify as heterosexual, and are ashamed to admit their same-sex experiences.
  • Political correctness — The victim might be accused of “homophobia” if they speak out about such an experience.
  • Fear — What if a victim accuses someone of same-sex harassment and/or assault, and the person they accuse retaliates?

This isn’t hypothetical, you see. Ms. Heller waited two years before speaking out about her experience with Ms. Martinez (shame) and she went to great lengths to avoid being “judgmental” about Ms. Martinez’s sexuality (political correctness). And her fear of retaliation was well-grounded, as Ms. Martinez’s fans viciously attacked Ms. Heller, and then Ms. Martinez applauded them for doing so:

“I want to thank my fans who took the time to research the timeline, analyze past Instagram photos, and question the story being told, which reveals her false statements. I trusted so many people i9n my life who took advantage of that trust for their own personal gain. Please know that my intentions with everything that I do in my life are always pure and I would never be intimate with someone without their absolute consent.”

Translation: “Thank you for exposing that greedy lying slut.”

Not only did Melanie Martinez double-down on her insistence that Ms. Heller enthusiastically consented to their liaison (i.e., she implies Ms. Heller is homosexual, but too afraid to admit it), she further claimed that Ms. Heller “took advantage” of her. Whereas Ms. Martinez asserts that her own intentions “are always pure,” she says Ms. Heller is untrustworthy, a liar motivated by “personal gain.”

Classic DARVO — Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.

Need I remind readers of my experience with dangerous sociopaths? Look, I’m not a professional psychologist, but I know this for a certain fact: CRAZY PEOPLE ARE DANGEROUS.

Would you let your daughter have a “sleepover” with Melanie Martinez? No, you would not. The weirdo hairstyle, the pierced nose, the “Goth” makeup — it’s aposematism, a warning: “STAY AWAY! I’M CRAZY!”

Why didn’t Ms. Heller heed that warning? Because Ms. Heller is also mentally ill, and was drawn to Ms. Martinez like a moth to a flame. However, it seems Ms. Heller has since wised-up to the game:

“I assumed no one was going to take me seriously if I explained what she did. . . . I loved her even after it happened, and I had this sick need to protect her. . . . We remained friends for a while, but it was strange, obviously. I think I was invalidating my own experience for so long because she’s not a man.

Ms. Heller felt a “sick need to protect” Ms. Martinez because, hey, mentally-ill women have to stick together, right? Isn’t that the basic organizing principle of feminism? And it was difficult for Ms. Heller to think of herself as a victim of sexual assault — she was “invalidating” what happened — because Ms. Martinez is “not a man.”

Don’t you think Melanie Martinez knew Ms. Heller would feel this way? Am I the only one who sees how the feminist movement’s deliberate demonization of heterosexual males has the effect of giving women like Ms. Martinez carte blanche to behave as lecherously as they wish, certain that they will never be accused of harassment or assault?

It’s the one-sidedness of “rape culture” discourse that offends reasonable people, in the same way the one-sidedness of “gay rights” rhetoric offends reasonable people. No person intelligent enough (and concerned enough) to read feminist blogs needs to be told rape is bad, just like we don’t need to be told it’s wrong to bully gay people. Yet when the #MeToo hysteria inspires a woman to accuse another woman of sexually assaulting her, we are expected to believe either (a) the accuser is lying, or (b) what Ms. Martinez allegedly did to Ms. Heller isn’t as harmful as a heterosexual man doing the same thing because . . . Well, why?

Somewhere a Gender Studies major is shouting: “Patriarchy!”

In other words, it’s about politics. We’ve reached that final scene in Animal Farm, where the revolutionary slogan has been amended to declare that “Some animals are more equal than others.” And the feminist claim that women never lie about rape? That’s a lie. Because in the case of Heller-vs.-Martinez, at least one of them is lying.

“Girls can rape girls. Best friends can rape best friends. Friendship does not equal consent. Silence doesn’t equal consent.”

Alas, Ms. Heller learned that lesson the hard way, and a little too late. Crazy people are dangerous, and some stereotypes are true.

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