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Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

Posted on | March 13, 2010 | 18 Comments

That seems to be the story of the latest American jihadi:

Last Easter, Jamie Paulin-Ramirez, a 31-year-old mom with a $30,000-a-year job as a medical assistant, announced to her family that she had converted to Islam. A few months later, she began posting to Facebook forums whose headings included “STOP caLLing MUSLIMS TERRORISTS!”
On Sept. 11, she suddenly left Leadville, Colo., a small town in the Rocky Mountains, for Denver, then for New York, to meet and marry a Muslim man she connected with online, her family says. . . .
Now, she is in the custody of the Irish police, along with six other individuals, arrested as part of an investigation into a conspiracy to commit murder . . .
Ms. Paulin-Ramirez is the second American woman to be linked to an alleged plot to kill a Swedish cartoonist who made fun of the Prophet Mohammed. . . .
Relatives of Ms. Paulin-Ramirez said they’re distressed because her son was with her in Ireland. The boy’s father is Mexican and hasn’t seen the child in about 5 years, said George Mott, Ms. Paulin-Ramirez’s stepfather, who lives in Leadville with her mother.
Ms. Paulin-Ramirez and her new husband had recently changed the child’s name to Wahid. . . .

Next time my kids start complaining, I’ve got the perfect comeback: “Hey, be grateful for what you got. It could be worse. You could be a half-Mexican kid named ‘Wahid’ living in Ireland.” 

But here’s the real punchline to the story:

Ms. Paulin-Ramirez had married several times over the years — some of her relatives estimated she was married four times.

Lady, when your relatives have to estimate the number of times you’ve been married . . . I don’t know. At some point maybe you should start asking yourself, “Is being alone really that much worse than getting married to the next in a long series of scummy douchebags?”

But don’t let me dissuade you. Maybe Mr. Wonderful is right around the next corner. Good luck with Hubby No. 5.

I hear Charles Manson is available. Just sayin’ . . .

Category: Foreigners, Religion, Terrorism

Comments

18 Responses to “Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places”

  1. Reaganite Republican
    March 13th, 2010 @ 9:56 am

    “Is being alone really that much worse than getting married to the next in a long series of scummy douchebags?”

    Everything’s relative, lol- this lost and confused person is not exactly a catch either, who needs a Fatwa declared over where you put your dirty sox last night?

  2. Reaganite Republican
    March 13th, 2010 @ 4:56 am

    “Is being alone really that much worse than getting married to the next in a long series of scummy douchebags?”

    Everything’s relative, lol- this lost and confused person is not exactly a catch either, who needs a Fatwa declared over where you put your dirty sox last night?

  3. Dandapani
    March 13th, 2010 @ 12:54 pm

    That’s nothing. My sister-in-law has been married 7 times, twice to the same man.

  4. Dandapani
    March 13th, 2010 @ 7:54 am

    That’s nothing. My sister-in-law has been married 7 times, twice to the same man.

  5. Dave C
    March 13th, 2010 @ 2:57 pm

    After the third marriage starts to fall apart, chances are it’s not the other person.

  6. Dave C
    March 13th, 2010 @ 9:57 am

    After the third marriage starts to fall apart, chances are it’s not the other person.

  7. AngelaTC
    March 13th, 2010 @ 3:26 pm

    “Is being alone really that much worse than getting married to the next in a long series of scummy douchebags?”

    Just a wild guess, but I would guess that the scummy douchebag is the serial marriage killer.

  8. AngelaTC
    March 13th, 2010 @ 10:26 am

    “Is being alone really that much worse than getting married to the next in a long series of scummy douchebags?”

    Just a wild guess, but I would guess that the scummy douchebag is the serial marriage killer.

  9. Robert Stacy McCain
    March 13th, 2010 @ 5:23 pm

    After the third marriage starts to fall apart, chances are it’s not the other person.

    Exactly. Or, as has been observed:

    “Wherever you go, there you are.”

    Some people lack the self-awareness to understand that they are the cause of their own problems. They wallow in self-pity or project blame on others, and thus the problems only become worse.

    Whenever you hear a woman complain that men are all selfish jerks, or you hear a man complain that women are all evil bitches, it’s obviously a form of scapegoating, a defensive rationalization that has the suspiciously convenient advantage of exempting the complainer from responsibility for the success or failure of their own relationships.

    Some people are attracted to (or else have a knack for attracting) jerks or bitches. Wheneven you see a person with a pattern of bad relationships, you will inevitably find that they lack the self-awareness to see their own responsibility for this problem. The habit of blaming others for your own failures — a hallmark of the narcissistic personality — is not attractive, and sensible people will generally try to avoid relationships with someone who routinely engages in scapegoating rationalizations.

    So there is a vicious cycle: By their own habits, the narcissist eliminates from their pool of potential relationships anyone who is emotionally healthy and sensible. Attempts to explain to such people the nature of their own problems are rejected with hostility, because their problem is fundamentally rooted in their inability to recognize and accept responsibility for their own shortcomings.

  10. Robert Stacy McCain
    March 13th, 2010 @ 12:23 pm

    After the third marriage starts to fall apart, chances are it’s not the other person.

    Exactly. Or, as has been observed:

    “Wherever you go, there you are.”

    Some people lack the self-awareness to understand that they are the cause of their own problems. They wallow in self-pity or project blame on others, and thus the problems only become worse.

    Whenever you hear a woman complain that men are all selfish jerks, or you hear a man complain that women are all evil bitches, it’s obviously a form of scapegoating, a defensive rationalization that has the suspiciously convenient advantage of exempting the complainer from responsibility for the success or failure of their own relationships.

    Some people are attracted to (or else have a knack for attracting) jerks or bitches. Wheneven you see a person with a pattern of bad relationships, you will inevitably find that they lack the self-awareness to see their own responsibility for this problem. The habit of blaming others for your own failures — a hallmark of the narcissistic personality — is not attractive, and sensible people will generally try to avoid relationships with someone who routinely engages in scapegoating rationalizations.

    So there is a vicious cycle: By their own habits, the narcissist eliminates from their pool of potential relationships anyone who is emotionally healthy and sensible. Attempts to explain to such people the nature of their own problems are rejected with hostility, because their problem is fundamentally rooted in their inability to recognize and accept responsibility for their own shortcomings.

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    March 13th, 2010 @ 12:27 pm

    […] Robert Stacy McCain comments on the story, mentioning the lonely hearts aspect of the case. Perhaps by the end of her fourth marriage Paulin-Ramirez was getting desparate? […]

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    March 13th, 2010 @ 5:28 pm

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  15. Dave Lincoln
    March 13th, 2010 @ 10:32 pm

    I don’t trust anyone with a hyphenated name, be they a Jihadi or just ordinary trailer-trash or both.

    oops, I hope I didn’t offend our host. It is Robert Stacy McCain, not Robert Stacy-McCain, right? Man, I hope so, cause I ain’t backspacing over my first sentence this late in the game.

  16. Dave Lincoln
    March 13th, 2010 @ 5:32 pm

    I don’t trust anyone with a hyphenated name, be they a Jihadi or just ordinary trailer-trash or both.

    oops, I hope I didn’t offend our host. It is Robert Stacy McCain, not Robert Stacy-McCain, right? Man, I hope so, cause I ain’t backspacing over my first sentence this late in the game.

  17. Cousin Sam
    March 14th, 2010 @ 6:00 am

    What mystifies me more than the person who gets married 7 times (I get it, they’re loony-tunes) is the otherwise sane appearing person, who themselves has only 1 or even 0 marriages under their belt, who chooses to become the spouse of a 6-times-previously-married person. Can you not see the train coming down the tracks towards you at breakneck speed, engine roaring, horn blaring, bright headlights in your face? True, Love is Blind, but so is Stupid.

  18. Cousin Sam
    March 14th, 2010 @ 1:00 am

    What mystifies me more than the person who gets married 7 times (I get it, they’re loony-tunes) is the otherwise sane appearing person, who themselves has only 1 or even 0 marriages under their belt, who chooses to become the spouse of a 6-times-previously-married person. Can you not see the train coming down the tracks towards you at breakneck speed, engine roaring, horn blaring, bright headlights in your face? True, Love is Blind, but so is Stupid.