Posted on | July 29, 2014 | 23 Comments
The NFL suspended a player named Ray Rice because of domestic violence. On ESPN, analyst Stephen Smith was discussing the case and, after saying that there is never a reason for a man to be violent with women, Smith said that he had also personally advised women not to do anything to “provoke” a man to violence.
The feminist covens went into Indignant Outrage Mode over Smith’s remark, and yesterday Smith was compelled to grovel on air:
“On Friday, speaking right here on ‘First Take’ on the subject of domestic violence, I made what can only amount to the most egregious error of my career,” Smith said in a low-key taped segment before the show shifted over to its typical debate format. “My words came across that it is somehow a woman’s fault. This was not my intent. It is not what I was trying to say.” . . .
“To say what I actually said was foolish is an understatement. To say I was wrong is obvious. To apologize — to say I’m sorry — doesn’t do the matter it’s proper justice, to be quite honest,” Smith said. “But I do sincerely apologize.”
This is another sad example of the harmful impact of feminism’s totalitarian impulse to suppress dissent. Anyone who has seriously studied domestic violence knows that, in many cases, bad relationships are characterized by toxic emotions on both sides. You’ve got two people with uncontrollable tempers — often drugs or alcohol are involved, and often one or both partners were raised in households where abuse and violence were a problem — and when they get into an argument, the argument turns into a physical fight.
Doesn’t anybody watch C*O*P*S? The police show up in response to a domestic disturbance call, and they encounter the scruffy tattooed brute and his foul-mouthed tattooed live-in girlfriend.
Both of them are bad drunk, and the police have to question them separately to try to figure out what actually happened: How did it start? Who hit who? Each partner points the finger of blame at the other, and the police have to sort out the evidence and testimony. Has one or the other partner got a bruise or a busted lip? Does one of them admit doing something that can be considered assault?
Most of the time, it’s the guy who gets handcuffed and put in the back of the patrol car, but as you watch these C*O*P*S episodes — unedited, unstaged — quite often your sympathy for the female victim is tempered by the fact that (a) she had, after all, chosen to move in with this wretched boyfriend, and (b) she’s not exactly a meek and helpless type. She’s drunk, she’s got a Marlboro hanging out of her mouth, and she’s cussing like a sailor. Lowlife women have a habit of gravitating toward lowlife men, and the fact that their relationships are fraught with ugly violence is an unfortunate but predictable reality. It is what it is.
So, after saying that men should never hit women, Stephen Smith said something about telling women — I get the idea he was speaking of the advice he had given his own daughters — they should not do “anything to provoke wrong actions,” and the feminist covens decided he needed to be burned at the stake. But what was he really saying?
Or rather, what did he actually mean to say?
“Boys never hit girls” is something my wife and I have drilled into our children’s heads. We have two daughters and four sons, and there are no exceptions to the rule. Our son-in-law would not dare hit our daughter, and she would never put up with it. A man hitting a woman is simply intolerable. Period. And I’ve advised my sons, in regard to their own relationships, that if you ever feel like you’re about to lose your temper with a woman, just leave — walk out.
This rule against boys hitting girls, however, should not be understood as giving girls permission to abuse boys. Having dated a few bad-tempered females back in the day — The Psycho Girlfriend From Hell — I know what it’s like to deal with women who mistake kindness for weakness. She gets mad and starts calling you every name in the book, she’s throwing things at you, she’s hitting you, and the thought crosses your mind: “Does she actually want me to hit her back? Is this what she was raised with? She psychologically needs a physical confrontation?”
Well, there’s a reason they’re ex-girlfriends. Like I say, a man can always just walk away and leave. But I think that what Stephen Smith was trying to say on ESPN, discussing the advice he had given his own female relatives, is: DON’T BE THAT WOMAN.
Don’t be the woman who is always having some kind of emotional drama and turning every disagreement into a screaming match. This kind of advice isn’t “victim blaming” — Smith wasn’t saying that any woman deserves to be hit — it’s just common sense.
Feminists hate common sense. And the pressure that compelled Smith to apologize is just another example of feminism’s totalitarian tendency to stifle free discussion of controversial issues.
Finally, as to the Ray Rice case: I hadn’t paid any attention to it, but when I asked my wife to read this post — just to make sure I wasn’t offending the only woman whose opinion actually matters — she said, “Have you seen that video? He knocked her out!” And she said, “He’d be six feet under if he had ever done anything like that to me. If I didn’t kill him, my brothers would kill him.”
Exactly. That’s the Domestic Violence Prevention Policy we endorse.