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Feminists, and How to Avoid Them

Posted on | August 12, 2015 | 115 Comments

 

Miriam Mogilevsky (@sondosia on Twitter) doesn’t like men, but evidently those sexist oppressors won’t leave her alone:

I started to understand my frustrations with my male friends, roommates, and partners much better, because these imbalances have touched every single relationship I’ve ever had with a man. Male partners have consistently ignored glaring issues in the relationship so that I had to be the one to start the difficult conversation every single time, even though they supposedly had as much of a stake in the relationship as I did. Male roommates have made me beg and plead and send reminder texts to do even the most basic household management tasks. Male friends have tried to use me as a therapist, or drawn me into worrying about their physical health with them while refusing to see a doctor even though they had insurance.
Well-meaning men of varying roles in my life have consistently ignored my nonverbal cues, even very visible ones, forcing me to constantly have to articulate boundaries that ought to be obvious, over and over. . . .
This is why being in relationship with men, even platonically, is often so exhausting for me. As much as I love them and care for them, it feels like work.

You can read the rest. Miriam Mogilevsky is a feminist because she doesn’t like men, and yet men won’t take the hint. This is a persistent problem. Some males actually believe that feminism is about equality. They think, “Well, I believe in equality, so I’m a feminist, too,” and then intrude themselves into the lives of feminists like Miriam Mogilevsky, who don’t want to be anywhere near a man, ever. Merely being in the presence of a male is “exhausting” to feminists. They have made abundantly clear what feminism requires of men:

A. Shut up;
and
B. Go away.

As soon as a woman indicates that she is a feminist, this should be a cue to any man to avoid her as much as possible. No male should ever speak to a feminist. In fact, the feminist expects males to be completely silent in her presence. How much more clearly can Miriam Mogilevsky make her point? Everything that men do is annoying to her. Attempts by males to befriend Ms. Mogilevsky are unwelcome. She is a feminist, and therefore dislikes having to share the planet with males, because of “the fear and anger with which some men respond to women’s emotional unavailability.” Ms. Mogilevsky is a feminist, and therefore has no emotion toward men except disgust and contempt. Why can’t these men understand what Miriam Mogilevsky is trying to tell them?

Emotional labor is reassuring my partner over and over that yes, I love him, yes, I find him attractive, yes, I truly want to be with him, because he will not do the work of developing his self-esteem and relies on me to bandage those constantly-reopening wounds. Emotional labor is letting my partner know that I didn’t like what he did sexually last night, because he never asked me first if I wanted to do that. Emotional labor is reassuring him that, no, it’s okay, I’m not mad, I just wanted him to know for next time, yes, of course I love him, no, this doesn’t mean I’m not attracted to him, I’m just not interested in that sort of sex. Emotional labor is not being able to rely on him to reassure me that it’s not my fault that I didn’t like the sex, because this conversation has turned into my reassuring him, again. . . .
Emotional labor is managing my male partners’ feelings around how often we have sex, and soothing their disappointment when they expected to have sex (even though I never said we would) and then didn’t, and explaining why I didn’t want to have sex this time, and making sure we “at least cuddle a little before bed” even though after all of this, to be quite honest, the last thing I f–king want is to touch him.

Miriam Mogilevsky does not like sex with men, because she does not like men, and she is tired of doing the “emotional labor” of pretending otherwise. She is tired of men with low self-esteem who expect her to pretend she is capable of “love” for a male and being “attracted” to a male, although no male “partner” ever does anything right.

Guys, what part of shut up and go away don’t you understand?

Emotional labor is when my partners decide they don’t want to be in a relationship with me anymore, but rather than directly communicating this to me, they start ignoring me or being mean for weeks until I have to ask what’s going on, hear that “I guess I’m just not into you anymore,” and then have to be the one to suggest breaking up. For extra points, then I have to comfort them about the breakup.

This is “because most men have been intentionally deprived of the language and tools to even think about these sorts of issues,” Ms. Mogilevsky complains of her ex-boyfriends. Even when the guy takes the hint — shut up and go away — he does it wrong.

Miriam Mogilevsky is 24 years old. She got her bachelor’s degree in psychology from Northwestern University in 2013 and recently completed a master’s degree in social work at Columbia University. She takes a sadistic pleasure in inspiring fear in men, and evidently believes that what the world needs most is more feminist lectures from Miriam Mogilevsky. She is a walking stereotype of the self-important narcissistic Millennial who expects us to be impressed that she is “passionate about social justice, feminism, sexuality [and] atheism,” as if there weren’t at least 10,000 young feminists exactly like her on Tumblr.

They are a dime a dozen, these fervent young progressives, providing an endless supply of “social justice” that far exceeds anyone’s actual demand. One wonders why they bother to go to college at all, as no special training is necessary to whine and complain, which is all they ever do. When they get out into the real world and discover how hard it is to make a living, they’ll whine and complain about that. Miriam Mogilevsky whines and complains that men are craving her companionship, compelling her to engage in “relationships” in which she is expected to perform “emotional labor.” And this a social injustice.

Guys: Learn to take a hint. Learn to walk away.

If a woman tells you she is a feminist, say nothing and walk away.

No feminist wants to hear what a man has to say, and life is too short to waste your time talking to feminists. Just walk away.

Leave feminists alone, and then they can complain about that.




 

Comments

  • http://www.journal14.com/ Dana

    Our frustrated host wrote:

    One wonders why they bother to go to college at all, as no special training is necessary to whine and complain, which is all they ever do.

    But ’tis so much more intellectual when they whine and complain with a Mistress of Arts degree in Women’s Studies. It legitimizes their whining and combitching, because while all they can do is work at a convenience store, they can say that they are qualified to do so much more, and are just being held down by white cisheteronormative patriarchists.

    I mean, gee, if all they had was a high school diploma, why someone might say, “Well, missy, the convenience store is all you’re qualified for!”

  • http://www.journal14.com/ Dana
  • http://www.journal14.com/ Dana

    I’ll admit it: I have been Trained™ to put the toilet seat down.

    I’d leave it up, and then I’d hear BAM! when my darling bride just slapped it down. It didn’t take me long to figure it out: when it finally broke, I’d be the one who had to change it. “Twas easier to put it down myself.

  • arcadius

    Neurotic self-loathing Jewess is neurotic and self-loathing.

  • arcadius

    It’s a dirty job, but someone’s got to do it.

  • Art Deco

    She isn’t self-loathing in any obvious way. It’s others she dislikes.

  • DeadMessenger

    Prolly depends on whose house the couch is in. I’ve been in an apartment where two guys were living, and you didn’t want to sit down in there, let alone lay down. And if you had to use the bathroom, better to go down the street to a gas station or 7/11. Couldn’t be worse, that’s for sure.

  • The original Mr. X

    This is “because most men have been intentionally deprived of the language and tools to even think about these sorts of issues,” Ms. Mogilevsky complains of her ex-boyfriends.
    So wouldn’t that mean that her complaints are actually victim blaming?

  • http://o.com CaptDMO

    Proudly BLAMING the VICTIM:
    Oh, sweetie, did you ever stop and think “Maybe it’s you?”
    Kinda’ up there with “ALL men are PIGS! Not ONE that I’ve dealt with responded in the way I deserve!”

  • Ilion

    Opposite in specifics, but the same in the underlying dynamic — “Oh! You’re just a man!” You’re *supposed* to suffer if a woman doesn’t care about your needs or desires.

  • Ilion

    *grin*

  • Ilion

    Yeah, attitude is like paint.

  • http://unix-jedi.livejournal.com Unix-Jedi

    Want to have fun?

    Insist on the lid being closed. (Used to have a cat who liked to hop up and sit on the toilet lids. So all of them in the house needed to be closed, so I didn’t have to chase a sodden cat through the house if she missed the jump)

    Suddenly, it’s “ridiculous” and “silly” to have *that* as the standard for the toilet.

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  • http://www.fighting4fair.com/ Crusty Theprawn

    “Leave feminists alone, and then they can complain about that”. And they do … travel to Asia and see for yourself … http://www.fighting4fair.com/uncategorized/dont-look-at-me-no-wait-look-at-me/