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Their Agenda, and Hers

Posted on | July 2, 2014 | 31 Comments

Kelsey Miller (@mskelseymiller) is the kind of feminist who is not a lesbian. She has a boyfriend, which indicates she is open to the possibility that not all men are part of a patriarchal conspiracy to oppress her.

In other words, she’s not actually a feminist, yet.

Even as she continues to cooperate with the patriarchy’s heteronormative agenda, however, Miller thinks of herself as a feminist because (a) she is a professional writer, (b) she has a vagina, and (c) all writers with vaginas are supposed to be feminist nowadays, in the sense that they’re pro-abortion, talk about rape a lot and vote Democrat.

She’s got a book deal and she’s been on TV, talking about “intuitive eating,” which is the subject of her column, “The Anti-Diet Project.”

So, now that you know a little about Kelsey Miller, let’s talk about her going to Detroit to cover the Men’s Rights Conference. This conference turned out to be surprisingly successful, as I’ve mentioned, which did not interfere with Kelsey Miller’s profound sense of indignation that such a conference could even exist:

I’d been emailing with Dean Esmay, operations manager and managing editor of A Voice For Men, since April. The organizers of the conference, AVFM has been one of the leading publications and online meeting points for MRAs [Men’s Rights Activists] since its creation in 2009 under founder Paul Elam. Both Esmay and Elam were immediately responsive to my request to attend, and polite and willing to chat when I introduced myself, which took a few deep breaths. Not only was Paul the head of this organization, he’s known to be prolific when it came to attacking his critics online, and not one to shy from calling such women “c*nts,” “b*tches” and “stupid lying whores.” It was a strange relief to find that, as ever, humans are a lot more humane in person than online. . . .

(Never mind the possibility that some of Paul Elam’s critics may in fact be “stupid lying whores.” Men aren’t allowed to express anger at women. If a woman is stupid and dishonest, the man who takes notice of these traits is guilty of hate.)

Here is what makes the MRA movement so hard to talk about: There are real issues facing men today. Of course there are — men are human beings and human beings face adversity. Furthermore, gender bias is a two-way street. Women’s issues do not exist to the exclusion of men’s. But, in training their crosshairs on feminism, MRAs have chosen the wrong enemy. . . .

(See? You guys need her to “femsplain” your problem.)

A brief discussion on the panel concluded that there may indeed be okay individual feminists, but as a group it is evil incarnate, the end of progress. [British politician Mike] Buchanan added, with emphatic shakes of the head, that “the only form of feminism which has been of any damned consequence for more than 30 years has been radical feminism. It’s a hate-driven female supremacy ideology.” Sure, us equity feminists may have good intentions, but we have to get through “the gatekeepers” as Suzanne Venker (author of The War on Men) called them. It was Venker who truly helped me understand The Enemy, as it was. “The reality is [feminism is] a political movement. It is a force,” she explained. It doesn’t really matter how you define “a feminist,” because it’s those gatekeepers of Big Feminism that pull all the strings. “They’re in very high up places: Hollywood, the media, our universities.” The girl-power Illuminati.

(This “Illuminati” wisecrack is intended to imply that anyone concerned about the influence of feminism is paranoid. Next, Miller discusses the harassment by feminists that led to the conference being moved from the Doubletree Hotel — harassment that Miller wishes readers to believe was an imaginary threat.)

Dean [Esmay] told me the calls were anonymous, but AVFM [the website A Voice for Men] naturally believed it to be the “ideological feminists” making these threats. Furthermore, they had screenshots from a Facebook group of people planning to protest outside the DoubleTree, and were able to pinpoint the one person they suspected was behind it all: Emma Howland-Bolton.
Howland-Bolton is a fifth grade teacher in Detroit with a history of activism. She’s participated in sit-ins to protest the closing of city libraries and networked with women’s shelters and Take Back The Night. . . .

(Gosh, a feminist “with a history of activism” on the Detroit city payroll; maybe she’s part of the “girl-power Illuminati.”)

She’d only become aware of the conference in recent weeks. It had become a much bigger story after the Isla Vista shootings led news media to draw conclusions about Elliot Rodger and his connection to various MRA communities. Like most reasonable people, Emma understood that Rodger’s actions were those of a mentally ill person, and yet could not discount that his rhetoric regarding victimhood and ostracism by women echoed claims made by the Men’s Rights Movement. She joined a Facebook group petitioning the DoubleTree not to host the conference — but she was not the leader.
Emma was as surprised as anyone when the letter [identifying her as the leader ofthe FAcebook group] went up on AVFM. Her friend Joel actually created the group, yet Emma was the one whose job was suddenly in jeopardy as calls came in to her superintendent, decrying her as a criminal, a violent woman, and a threat to the children she educated. Still, she planned to protest with the rest on June 7. “I love this city. I love teaching here. I love living here. To have a hate group come here because of what they feel Detroit represents, I find really offensive.” . . .

(Who told Emma Howland-Bolton that this conference was “a hate group”? Did she read that on the Internet? Does she believe everything she reads on the Internet? How does someone so naive and credulous get hired as a school teacher? Oh . . . it’s Detroit.)

On June 7, the DoubleTree protest went as planned and the hotel accepted the petition. Two days later, it announced it would not be hosting the conference. . . .

(Another triumph for the Girl Power Illuminati!)

[At the conference] I chatted with Mike Buchanan for a moment, waiting for the day’s presentations to begin. Smiling and friendly, he was clearly pumped for his upcoming speech on the political issues men face today.
“I can’t think of a single battle you ladies haven’t won,” he guffawed. Sitting right next to me, his tone was different than it had been from behind the mic. It felt almost like a high-five. I asked him again about his take on radical feminists and why he thinks they’re the problem.
“Radical feminists are typically quite psychologically damaged,” Mike explained. He waved his hand, gesturing at the various factors that might have contributed to this mental disorder. “Dad wasn’t in the picture…”
“Right.” Really, what was I supposed to say? I had two more days in this room. . . .

Well, you can read the whole thing. It is obvious that, like most women who call themselves feminists because they’re pro-abortion and vote Democrat, Kelsey Miller hasn’t studied feminism as a theory, or otherwise she’d realize that Mike Buchanan is absolutely correct: “Radical feminists are typically quite psychologically damaged.” Feminism is for such women a political substitute for therapy. They refuse to accept the possibility that their dissatisfactions and resentments are a result of their own failures, or that their sense of being victimized by men — whatever its basis in reality — can never be expunged by a campaign of political vengeance against all men collectively. Externalizing responsibility for their problems on the scapegoated male, these “psychologically damaged” women never have a minute’s peace, or let anyone else have a minute’s peace, either. Constant “activism” is like a Prozac prescription for them, although plenty of feminists are also on anti-depressants.

Scratch a feminist, and a kook bleeds.

I’d suggest that Kelsey Miller take time to read a Women’s Studies textbook, except that her boyfriend would never forgive me. Ultimately, feminist theory is incompatible with heterosexuality. A little bit of Adrienne Rich, Mary Daly, Sheila Jeffreys — it wouldn’t take much consciousness-raising, probably, before Kelsey Miller got over her “compulsory heterosexuality,” realized she was being exploited by her boyfriend, embraced her radical lesbian identity and decided to attend the FemiFest in London.

Because “PIV is always rape, OK?”



31 Responses to “Their Agenda, and Hers”

  1. Jeanette Victoria
    July 2nd, 2014 @ 11:38 pm

    Want to start a betting pool how long will it take her to dump the boyfriend and find a woman?

  2. Jason Lee
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 12:11 am

    “a sexual way of being unrelated to Male pleasure – Lesbian sexuality.”
    She’s kidding, right?

  3. guinspen
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 12:32 am

    “She has a boyfriend.”
    He’s only her other beard.

  4. Phil_McG
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 5:20 am

    “Kelsey Miller (@mskelseymiller) is the kind of feminist who is not a lesbian.”

    Are you sure that’s not a tranny?

  5. robertstacymccain
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 7:26 am

    You’re quoting Cathy Brennan’s riff from the link, which is derived from Adrienne Rich. They’re not kidding. They’re very serious.

  6. Dana
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 7:51 am

    Nahhh, ’cause her boyfriend might be really, really good. Without more information, it’s a sucker’s bet.

  7. Dana
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 8:10 am

    When I followed our host’s link to Miss Miller’s article about body image and “anti-diet,” and there was her picture (see below), somewhat plumper than pleasingly, though with kind of skinny legs, wearing a horizontally striped dress — fashion faux pas alert! — and perched on these ridiculous, extremely anti-feminist shoes.

    What Miss Miller really wants is to be a skinny, pretty girl, but to be that without having to diet. Sorry, but for some people, skinny comes naturally, while for others, Miss Miller amongst them, it does not.×250,80/1221625/w4ewu0swg8thaiwlgvyvq5tlbshig6qp5-wqcoxu9sw.jpg

  8. Mm
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 8:19 am

    “Feminism is for such women a political substitute for therapy.” Tammy Bruce has said as much of activists on the left.

  9. CrustyB
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 8:31 am

    “We were scheduled to have Kelsey Miller on the show today to debate against dieting. Unfortunately, she had a heart attack and died.”

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  11. Blake
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 11:36 am

    Just wait until Obamacare denies her treatment due to the fact she’s overweight.

  12. Phil_McG
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 12:14 pm

    Five pallbearers were rushed to hospital when the jumbo-sized coffin collapsed.

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  14. Missy
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 2:23 pm

    I can’t wait until Kelsey’s book comes out! The Anti-Diet Project has been so hugely inspirational. And she’s such a talented writer. Didn’t know about her Twitter though, will follow!

  15. Julie
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 3:54 pm

    Even if you had made some valid points against her or her piece on the MRA (ya didn’t), you ruin them by stooping to a juvenile level and focusing on her weight problem. I bet all of you behind your usernames and internet anonymity aren’t exactly supermodels in real life. And if your best counterpoint to her piece is “whatever you’re fat” that’s not really saying much in your favor.

  16. Quartermaster
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 6:56 pm

    Actually, he did make valid points. You just don’t agree with the facts, and that’s a personal problem.

  17. daleyrocks
    July 3rd, 2014 @ 6:58 pm

    What weight problem?

    It just looks like she has big bones.

  18. K-Bob
    July 4th, 2014 @ 12:59 am

    My life is vastly superior to the life of a supermodel. And my wife says I’m good lookin’, too.

  19. Julie
    July 4th, 2014 @ 9:26 am

    Y’all can disagree with me on the issues at hand all day long. That’s what debate is all about. But just remember that the author you’re attacking is a human. I doubt you’d say any of these mean things to her face. What if it was your daughter or sister people were attacking on an online forum? I just think it’s so cruel to make jokes about her body type.

  20. Mimmly
    July 4th, 2014 @ 1:29 pm

    Fuck you and everyone on this comment thread. You people make me lose all hope for the future of humanity, although luckily a reasonable, kind, thoughtful person like Kelsey helps me keep some of it alive.

  21. Mark Jensen
    July 4th, 2014 @ 1:37 pm

    Wow. What hateful people you guys are.

  22. Jo Franco
    July 4th, 2014 @ 1:39 pm

    You’re vile. Seriously. Try not to get carpet burns on your knuckles.

  23. Mark Jensen
    July 4th, 2014 @ 1:40 pm

    I feel sorry for you. Who taught you to act like this?

  24. Quartermaster
    July 4th, 2014 @ 6:18 pm

    If she’s going to play the feminist game, she opens herself up to the full panoply of criticism and ridicule. It wouldn’t matter if she were my daughter, that’s just the way it is.

  25. Quartermaster
    July 4th, 2014 @ 7:19 pm

    The bottom feeders have some out strong on this comment.

  26. Quartermaster
    July 4th, 2014 @ 7:21 pm

    The first is quite likely true given what I have observed. The second, however, I can only say that your wife is either inebriated, or feels sorry for you. 🙂

  27. Quartermaster
    July 4th, 2014 @ 7:22 pm

    Only with libtard feminists. If they don’t like then they need to engage their brains. But, if they did, they would rapidly cease being feminists or libtards and would not present any sort of target as a result.

  28. Dana
    July 4th, 2014 @ 8:39 pm

    OK, and how does pointing out that “for some people, skinny comes naturally, while for others, Miss Miller amongst them, it does not,” take away your hope? Is my statement somehow untrue?

    Read her stuff: she comes right out and tells you that she wants to be thin!

  29. Mark Jensen
    July 4th, 2014 @ 10:18 pm

    It would be easier to debate with you if you wrote coherent sentences. And if you weren’t a jerk who pokes fun at women’s sizes (because let’s all talk about Rush Limbaugh) and threw around phrases like “libtard,” which shows SO MUCH character on your life. How does it feel to fail at life? I also find it interesting that you are all attacking a writer’s journalistic point of view (and her personal life) as opposed to the issue at hand. If you want to defend men’s rights, man up and do it. Picking on someone and calling her a lesbian doesn’t exactly make the point.

  30. Quartermaster
    July 5th, 2014 @ 11:32 am

    Poor, poor baby. You labor under teh misapprehension that I am debating you. If you don’t understand what I’m saying , that’s too bad for you.

    When you come out as a feminist, you open yourself up to the full panoply of ridicule and criticism. If she doesn’t like that, then she needs to spend some time in thought and critical thinking as to why people would hold her up to ridicule.

    I didn’t call her a Lesbian. But it seems that many of her “fellow” feminists hold that to be fully feminist you must be a Lesbian. If that bothers you, I’m not the one you need to be talking with.

    If you like the term “Libtard” then I would suggest you talk with somew of your fellow libtards and start engaging your brains and get a real education. I have no intention of humoring preening idiots who refuse to think for themselves.

  31. Kelsey Miller
    July 6th, 2014 @ 7:51 pm

    Could not be more thrilled to have been selected for this profile! Not sure how McCain managed to ascertain my voting record or stance on abortion (to say nothing of my as yet unrealized lesbianism), but it was kind of him to reference my work, regardless of how it may offend the audience. Though, I don’t see any comments here regarding men’s rights, only the very thoughtful notes regarding my weight, my boyfriend, and whether or not I’m a “tranny.”

    Glad that so many of you took the time to check out some of my pieces! Hope you read the full MRA post as well, though that one doesn’t include any fat-girl photos of me nor “anti-feminist shoes,” so may not be of interest to this crowd.