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Did @Nian_Hu ‘Friend-Zone’ You? #FreeStacy: Feminism Is a Death Cult

Posted on | February 29, 2016 | 32 Comments


Perhaps you remember Harvard feminist Nian Hu, the Harvard student who declared: “I am a feminist. I believe in the equality of the sexes. For me, feminism means freedom,” and that among these freedoms was “freedom to have as many sexual partners as I want without being looked down on.” This inspired me to write “Harvard Sluts and the Thought Police,” pointing piy that what Ms. Hu was saying is that other people have no right to their own opinions. Everyone must approve of wanton promiscuity. The feminist freedom of Harvard sluts to get drunk and screw around would be infringed if they were to be “looked down on” because of their habitual and shameless fornication.

More recently, Ms. Hu wrote a Harvard Crimson column denouncing relationships between white men and Asian women as “yellow fever.” Apparently, being attracted to someone is the same as hating them, so if you are a white man who finds Ms. Hu attractive, you are “fetishizing” her race and also “objectifying” her. This inspired me to analyze the problem at length in “Feminism, Sex and Hypocrisy”:

“Let me tell you what to think” — this is the dictatorial imperative of feminism, a totalitarian regime of clever college girls who have decided the rest of us are wrong about everything. You need to be constantly lectured by angry young women, because she is oppressed and you are privileged. Therefore the only correct opinions are opinions approved by these tyrannical Ivy League brats who consider it a social injustice — “harassment!” “misogyny!” — if anyone dares to disagree with them. . . .
Petted and pampered and repeatedly told how wonderful they are (because being admitted to an Ivy League school is proof of their superiority to mere mortals), the insolent youth at schools like Harvard arrive on campus as freshmen convinced that they are smarter than God. The faculty apparently believe their task is to confirm, rather than contradict, their students’ grandiose narcissistic self-regard. . . .
The Ivy League Is Decadent and Depraved, and we can say of Harvard University what Obi-Wan Kenobi said of Mos Eisley, that it is a “wretched hive of scum and villainy.” . . .

You can read the whole thing. What offends me about the current wave of feminism is the insufferable arrogance of these young women who, although their own lives are generally a Great Dismal Swamp of Perversion and Despair, consider themselves entitled to deliver sermons to the rest of us. What have they done, other than taking a few Gender Studies classes, that would qualify them as Official Experts?

Never mind. Young fools have never let their paucity of experience and knowledge deter them from insulting their elders, and ignoring the counsel of the wise. When I was Ms. Hu’s age, I was arguably more foolish than she is, the difference being that in 1979 there was no Internet to provide me a free platform from which to lecture the world. In the 21st century, every 19-year-old with a YouTube account and a Tumblr blog imagines we are in need of her feminist sermons, and no one ever seems to question their authority to preach at us about the Sin of Misogyny.

“Mind control (also known as ‘brainwashing,’ ‘coercive persuasion,’ and ‘thought reform’) refers to a process in which a group or individual systematically uses unethically manipulative methods to persuade others to conform to the wishes of the manipulator(s).”
Michael D. Langone, “Cults and Mind Control”

Feminism is a cult. Unless you study how cults operate, and analyze feminist ideology as a quasi-religious worldview — a sort of gnostic heresy — you cannot hope to confront it effectively. There is no point, for example, in trying to have a reasonable conversation with the cult leaders.

Anita Sarkeesian is a totalitarian ideologue, who treats all critics as contemptible inferiors. To disagree with Anita Sarkeesian is to condemn yourself as a misogynist, and there is no court to which you may appeal her verdict. Feminism Is a Totalitarian Movement to Destroy Civilization as We Know It and, as such, feminism attracts to its banner alienated, degenerate and embittered young women who are natural-born fanatics — The True Believer, as Eric Hoffer called them.

What is important, when encountering totalitarians, is to deny them what they most desperately crave: Moral authority.

A woman becomes a feminist for the same reason other people join ISIS. Islamic terrorist groups offer the alienated young Muslim a belief system that rationalizes his sense of personal failure, and provides a sense of group solidarity in taking action against the demonized scapegoats their ideology blames for all the evil in the world. When the Ayatollah Khomeini denounced the United States as “The Great Satan,” this told you everything you needed to know about the basic worldview of radical Islam. Feminism is really no different, except that the feminist’s Great Satan is called “the patriarchy” — or “sexism,” or “male supremacy,” or “misogyny,” or any other sort of jargon they use to describe men, masculinity and male behavior. Feminism is the belief that men are always wrong. Everything a man does is “sexist” because (a) he is a man, and (b) women are oppressed victims of male supremacy.

“Women are an oppressed class. . . . We identify the agents of our oppression as men.”
Redstockings Manifesto, 1969

“We are angry because we are oppressed by male supremacy. We have been f–ked over all our lives by a system which is based on the domination of men over women.”
Ginny Berson, “The Furies,” 1972

“In terms of the oppression of women, heterosexuality is the ideology of male supremacy. In order for men to have a justification for exploiting women and an ability to enforce that exploitation, heterosexuality has to become, not merely an act in relation to impregnation, but the dominant ideology. . . . Heterosexual hegemony insures that people think it natural that male and female form a life-long sexual/reproductive unit with the female belonging to the male.”
Margaret Small, “Lesbians and the Class Position of Women”, in Lesbianism and the Women’s Movement, edited by Charlotte Bunch and Nancy Myron (1975).

“Heterosexuality is the institution that creates, maintains, and supports men’s power. . . . And heterosexuality has its ramifications at all levels of society; it is the source of all other oppressions.
“Heterosexuality is the pivot on which men have based the norm and created the origin and measure by which all relationships are structured. . . . Men, through heterosexuality, have devised their own concept and thereby constructed a system that generates all oppressions.”

Ariane Brunet and Louise Turcotte, “Separatism and Radicalism,” in For Lesbians Only: A Separatist Anthology, edited by Sarah Lucia-Hoagland and Julie Penelope (1988)

“Sexuality is to feminism what work is to Marxism: that which is most one’s own, yet most taken away. . . .
“The organized expropriation of the sexuality of some for the use of others defines the sex, woman. Heterosexuality is its structure, gender and family its congealed forms, sex roles its qualities generalized to social persona, reproduction a consequence, and control its issue.”

Catharine MacKinnon, “Feminism, Marxism, Method, and the State: An Agenda for Theory” (1982)

“From the beginning of second-wave feminism, sexuality was identified as a key site of patriarchal domination and women’s resistance to it. . . .
“While heterosexual desires, practices, and relations are socially defined as ‘normal’ and normative, serving to marginalize other sexualities as abnormal and deviant, the coercive power of compulsory heterosexuality derives from its institutionalization as more than merely a sexual relation.”

Stevi Jackson, “Sexuality, Heterosexuality, and Gender Hierarchy: Getting Our Priorities Straight,” in Thinking Straight: The Power, the Promise, and the Paradox of Heterosexuality, edited by Chrys Ingraham (2005)

“Heterosexism is maintained by the illusion that heterosexuality is the norm.”
Susan M. Shaw and Janet Lee, Women’s Voices, Feminist Visions (fifth edition, 2012)

“All women are prisoners and hostages to men’s world. Men’s world is like a vast prison or concentration camp for women. This isn’t a metaphor, it’s reality. Each man is a threat. We can’t escape men.”
Radical Wind, August 2013

“Feminism is about the collective liberation of women as a social class. Feminism is not about personal choice.”
Anita Sarkeesian, 2015

“Only when we recognize that ‘manhood’ and ‘womanhood’ are made-up categories, invented to control human beings and violently imposed, can we truly understand the nature of sexism. . . .
“Questioning gender . . . is an essential part of the feminism that has sustained me through two decades of personal and political struggle.”

Laurie Penny, “How to Be a Genderqueer Feminist,” 2015

It should not be necessary to explain, to any intelligent and literate person, how the bizarre beliefs of the Redstockings and The Furies, once considered radical and extreme, are the same as those promoted by Professor Shaw and Professor Lee in Women’s Voices, Feminist Visions, a textbook assigned in introductory Women’s Studies classes at colleges and universities all over the United States. Nor should it be necessary to explain how feminism’s anti-male/anti-heterosexual ideology inspires young feminist Laurie Penny’s claim that “gender” is itself a form of oppression “violently imposed,” so that destroying the “made-up categories” of male and female “is an essential part” of feminism.

This is the cult ideology of feminism, its esoteric doctrine, and yet young fools like Harvard’s Nian Hu seldom understand exactly what they are promoting. Feminists do not want “equality,” they want power — complete power, the kind of hegemonic authority that includes the power to silence opposition and inflict punishment on their enemies.


Feminism’s implacable hostility toward men and heterosexuality — “the ideology of male supremacy,” as Margaret Small called it — is what has inspired the phony “campus rape epidemic” hysteria that has resulted in more than 100 federal lawsuits by male students who say they were falsely accused of sexual misconduct and deprived of their due-process rights in campus kangaroo court tribunals, under rules imposed by the authority of the Obama administration’s official “Dear Colleague” letter. Promoting the false claim that 1-in-5 female college students are victims of rape is part of a systematic campaign to stigmatize males, per se. Women are now 57% of college undergraduate enrollment in the United States, but decades of academic discrimination against men has not satisfied feminists. Evidence suggests that declining male enrollment is actually harmful to women, but anti-male fanatics like Jaclyn Friedman and Alexandra Brodsky do not care about evidence. The purpose of feminist “rape culture” discourse is to make clear (if it was not already clear) that heterosexual males are not welcome on university campuses.

Like the “queer feminist” Melissa Fabello, fanatics like Friedman and Brodsky are promoting anti-male hate propaganda, and this brings us back to Harvard’s Nian Hu. On Feb. 19 she published a new column that drew the attention of our friends at the College Fix:

Have you ever shown romantic interest in a friend who didn’t reciprocate and then felt sore about it?
If you’re a man and your friend is a woman, you’re automatically sexist — and in the same league as a murderer.
That’s the curious argument made by Harvard Crimson columnist Nian Hu, who thinks so little of men that she assumes they feel “entitlement over women’s bodies” by using the common term “friend zone”:

They simply wanted to get with the woman, did all sorts of nice things to try to woo her, and then accused her of friend zoning him when she turned him down. In this case, being friend zoned is nothing more than a euphemism for rejection — one that places the blame on the woman, rather than on the man’s own undesirability or incompatibility.
In my experience, women are much less likely to complain about being friend zoned.

It seems to have never occurred to Hu that a man might want to be romantically involved with a woman for any other reason than bedding her:

The friend zone suggests that women are machines that men can put kindness tokens into until sexual favors come rushing out. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works: women are humans who are attracted to some people and not others. Whom they choose to have sex or not have sex with is their own decision, and it’s one that other people ought to respect.

She even blames the friend zone for the murder spree by Elliot Rodger . . .

You can read the whole thing, but perhaps you see the point: Because she is a feminist, Nian Hu has no interest in males, except to demonize them. Nian Hu loathes men as dangerous predators who feel “misogynistic entitlement to women’s bodies.” Because all men are oppressors, and heterosexuality is “a system that generates all oppressions,” any man who expresses romantic interest in a woman is a “sexist,” desiring to exploit, dominate and control her. When feminists like Nian Hu accuse a man of failing to understand rejection in terms of his “undesirability or incompatibility,” what they omit from the discourse is that feminists view all men as undesirable, and consider men and women inherently incompatible. Nian Hu hates all men, and any man is a fool who thinks himself an exception to feminism’s categorical condemnation of males.


As I explained in March 2015:

What kind of man would listen while a feminist tried
to “convince” him to believe in “the equality of the sexes”?

Even if she’s attractive, what is to be gained
by listening to her angry feminist lecture?
She’s either crazy or a lesbian or both.

“Nah, baby,” he says. “I don’t
believe in equality. I believe in love.”

And then just walk away.

It is impossible for a feminist to love a man, because no feminist can ever admire, respect or trust a man. Because her ideology requires her to despise all males as sexist oppressors, why would any feminist be interested in some old-fashioned phallocentric heteronormativity, so to speak? And why should any man give it to her? To settle a grudge?

Far be it from me to endorse fornication as a means of spite, but no other rationale could explain why a man would be interested in a woman who advocates the Death Cult Ideology of Feminism.

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Robert Stacy McCain





“There are no Christian feminists, because feminism is a sort of narcissistic idolatry, wherein women deny God and instead worship themselves as their own divinity.”
Robert Stacy McCain, Dec. 17


32 Responses to “Did @Nian_Hu ‘Friend-Zone’ You? #FreeStacy: Feminism Is a Death Cult”

  1. RS
    February 29th, 2016 @ 7:27 pm

    I recall some thirty plus years ago being “friend-zoned.” I don’t recall being “sore,” as in angry. Rather, I was disappointed. Of course, about a year later, she realized she’d made a mistake, proceeded to sabotage another relationship I was in, ultimately prevailed.

    We’ve been married over a quarter century now, interestingly enough.

    Meanwhile, I give you Corie Hammers of Macalester College in Minnesota:

    I take up Butler’s lesbian phallus to de-idealise and thus challenge this privileging of the penis operating within this strain of queer – as only phallic sexual economies can, it seems, deliver the very annihilation we (all) seek.

  2. RS
    February 29th, 2016 @ 7:32 pm

    BTW, the only times I ever heard a male friend being angry about the so-called “friend zone,” were those times when a woman would lead the male on. There were a number of occasions where women would try to keep their options open and not be honest about their true intentions. Perhaps women using one man to make another jealous doesn’t happen anymore.

    Now if you’ll excuse me. I need to take a call from Haven Monahan.

  3. robertstacymccain
    February 29th, 2016 @ 7:52 pm

    Me, I learned to read signals.

    The “Nice Guy” type, who is the focus of Nian Hu’s column, is socially awkward. He is also usually a perfectionist (probably a lot of those at Harvard) who has some romantic ideal — only a certain type of woman is good enough for him — that causes him to proceed too cautiously.

    Because I do not wish to reveal any proprietary secrets of romantic success, there is only so much I can say in terms of how a loser can learn to win. Maybe.

    Learn to accept rejection as part of the game. You flirt with 500 women, your winning percentage goes down, but your number of wins increases. And experience is the best teacher. Flirt with every woman you meet. Flirt with your teachers, flirt with the waitress — not “hit on,” flirt. Be friendly, cheerful and confident. “Hi, how you doing? … You’re adorable, but I guess you didn’t need me to tell you that, right?” And then you move on, as if this was just idle chitchat — inconsequential, devoid of meaning.

    Learn to take it easy. Lower the stakes. Consider it a “win” just to be able to talk to a girl for a few minutes over lunch.

    There are 3.5 billion women on this planet, and uglier dudes than you are getting laid. Don’t sweat it, man.

  4. Fail Burton
    February 29th, 2016 @ 7:54 pm

    You don’t have to be a genius to figure out how hate speech was mainstreamed in Nazi Germany. But you do have to be a congenital moron or a sociopath to participate.

    I’m hoping the day comes when people like Sarkeesian and Fabello are sitting in front of the nation under oath and explaining their hate speech to a Senate committee. That can include the President of every major university in America explaining the Tweets and text books put forward by there own gender studies professors.

    I never thought I would see this day come in America and this sort of thing mainstreamed as nobility and social justice. It is a disgrace.

  5. Adobe_Walls
    February 29th, 2016 @ 7:56 pm

    Most of us didn’t, but we should have.

  6. RS
    February 29th, 2016 @ 8:11 pm

    Reading signals is fine, provided the sender is not deliberately trying to obscure the message. If a person is honest, it’s not difficult to know that there’s zero romantic interest. Any pursuit after that is one’s own fault.

    The problem is, there are too many people who are not honest, and many of those are women. The current feminist mythos which blames men for all ills exists–in part–to provide women cover for their own boorish behavior.

  7. Finrod Felagund
    February 29th, 2016 @ 10:27 pm

    I remember reading the writings of a guy who was telling about a paper he’d written back for a college course that was about the legal justifications that the Third Reich used for what it did. There were apparently a lot of invocations of the type “the free and reasoned opinion of the German people”. Once they were able to define Jews as not being human beings, then that opened the floodgates.

  8. Daniel Freeman
    February 29th, 2016 @ 11:51 pm

    When I was young, I was horrible at perceiving IOIs and (by extension) the lack thereof. But one thing I did right was to never, ever sit still for a woman talking about her boy troubles.

    I may have been a sucker that some women used just to show off their value, and a chump missing signs of real interest from others. But one thing I have never been is anyone’s girlfriend.

  9. robertstacymccain
    March 1st, 2016 @ 12:13 am

    “IOI” = Indications of Interest.

    Man, I was a bulldozer back in the day. The slightest signal a girl liked me, I was in like Flynn. The thing is, I wasn’t afraid of getting shot down. “Never hurts to ask. The worse that can happen is they say ‘no.'” I could roll with the punches. Nobody likes “no” for an answer, but you learn to take rejection as routine. Sometimes you get your feelings hurt, but so what? There’s always tomorrow, always another girl.

    As for girls talking about their boy problems — think of this as an opportunity to gather intelligence, to get inside her mind and figure out what love looks like from the girl’s perspective. Mainly, it’s craziness. Women absolutely don’t know their own minds. The gap between what they say and what they do is a chasm as wide as the Grand Canyon. This is why it is important to watch their actions, rather than their words — which is true of all human behavior, of course. But too many guys make the mistake of listening to what women say they want in a guy, and trying to be that way. But look at who women actually end up going after, and so often the guy is nothing like what she says she wants.

  10. robertstacymccain
    March 1st, 2016 @ 12:17 am

    You’ve got to have a keen bullshit detector. I have a low tolerance for guys whining about their ex-wives. Like, dude, you married her. It may be true that she is an evil crazy bitch, but how come you didn’t figure that out before you gave her effective legal claim to half of everything you own?

  11. Unreliable Consent
    March 1st, 2016 @ 12:55 am
  12. Fail Burton
    March 1st, 2016 @ 2:01 am

    If we can have something like the Meese Commission look into pornography, why can’t we have that for these gender studies hate Madrases at universities? How many of you would like to see this insane woman and her teachers testifying under oath while their own Tweets, Tumblrs and passages from Judith Butler are read to them?

  13. DeadMessenger
    March 1st, 2016 @ 2:04 am

    At work, I’m nice and helpful to everyone – always have been – and why? Because you never know who you’re going to be reporting to tomorrow, that’s why.

    And, I consistently flirt with all men I encounter – always have – and why? Because you never know when you’re going to have a flat tire or need a jar opened, that’s why.

  14. DeadMessenger
    March 1st, 2016 @ 2:06 am

    That’s pretty philosophical coming from a guy wearing a diaper and a too-large hat.

  15. CaptDMO
    March 1st, 2016 @ 7:33 am

    Yellow fever? Jungle fever? Taco fever? Falafel fever?
    Mezuzah fever?
    Don’t the the pillow biting and scissor communities subscribe to “It’s all pink on the inside” as well?
    Amongst the multicultural/ multiple partner/ high recidivism (from Latin recid?vus “recurring”, criminal implication is only current “usage”) folk in MY earlier sphere of influence, I HAVE noted a certain tenacious discrimination, toward greater self confidence/ buoyancy/ wallet/and boot size.
    No “micro” about THOSE aggressions.

  16. gunga
    March 1st, 2016 @ 7:59 am

    …“freedom to have as many sexual partners as I want without being looked down on” – is it wrong that my first thought at reading this was: ‘Well, that eliminates several popular positions…’? The English language is fun…which must mean that it is patriarchal. Feminists really need to create their own unique feminist language from scratch without all of the historic baggage and old world rapiness. Two big benefits: they’d stop corrupting English and the rest of us would be spared from mistakenly believing that we are communicating. …and we’d be safe in assuming that whatever noises they make in our direction translate as: “Shut up, rapist!”

  17. OrangeEnt
    March 1st, 2016 @ 9:50 am

    So she only screws Asian men, right?

  18. Daniel O'Brien
    March 1st, 2016 @ 9:55 am

    Tweeted article title and link…

  19. Animal
    March 1st, 2016 @ 11:30 am

    “Because you never know who you’re going to be reporting to tomorrow, that’s why.”

    Boy, ain’t that the truth. “Be careful about the toes you step on today, because they may be connected to the ass you have to kiss tomorrow.”

  20. Ilion
    March 1st, 2016 @ 11:32 am

    It may be true that she is an evil crazy bitch, but how come you didn’t figure that out before you gave her effective legal claim to half of everything you own?
    He didn’t see it because he was foolish enough to bed her before he wed her. Then, wanting to consider himself to be a “nice guy”, rather than a “player” or a “user” — even though using each other is exactly what both of them were doing — he married her out of inertia.

  21. Ilion
    March 1st, 2016 @ 11:33 am

    But I have never been anyone’s girlfriend.

  22. Ilion
    March 1st, 2016 @ 11:38 am

    betcha she has roundeyetis

  23. Dana
    March 1st, 2016 @ 1:10 pm

    There were a couple of times I tried to get out of the friend zone — a term I hadn’t heard of back then — and failed miserably. Girls know when a male friend wants to get more than friendly, and if she doesn’t go for it early on, she (almost) never will.

  24. Fail Burton
    March 1st, 2016 @ 1:23 pm

    Nazi “legal” justifications rested on the same basis as does Third Wave Feminism: If they’re not breaking the law, keep changing it until they do.

  25. Unreliable Consent
    March 1st, 2016 @ 1:35 pm
  26. Unreliable Consent
    March 1st, 2016 @ 3:03 pm
  27. Unreliable Consent
    March 1st, 2016 @ 6:00 pm

    Educate yourself: the public wants us to label men rapists

  28. WarEagle82
    March 1st, 2016 @ 8:00 pm

    She’s not even that cute! If I had run into her at a party in college I might have chatted her up but I doubt I would have been romantically interested.

    But advertising yourself as a slut is hardly a way to build your image as a strong, independent women. It is a great way to be accused of advancing by sleeping your way to the top.

    I vote we disband the whole Ivy League.

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  30. MC227
    March 2nd, 2016 @ 2:19 pm

    These stupid angry bitches follow the usual liberal playbook. If you are a man you are wrong, you are evil which means that they are always right and men are always wrong. It’s the same with the climate change crap all the lefties pop off about they changed the term from global warming to climate change to be sure to always be right. If it’s colder than usual it’s climate change if it’s warmer climate change, hurricane must be climate change. This allows these dimwits that are not capable of logic and reasoning to always be right and never have to defend their position because they can’t be wrong. Another example is the trillion dollar stimulus that was a bust the liberals say it would have worked it just wasn’t enough money. They are absolute kooks.

  31. MC227
    March 2nd, 2016 @ 2:22 pm

    I married someone that was sweet and kind and after 3 kids she turned in to a crazy lefty bitch. There is no way you can tell how a woman will behave after having children. She was all over the map.

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