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Guys: Leave @Jindi Alone

Posted on | May 18, 2016 | 37 Comments


Jindi Mehat (@jindi on Twitter) is a radical feminist and digital project manager for the Vancouver-based web services firm

Ms. Mehat despises liberal feminists:

Liberal feminists stop debate by crying “choice” when radical feminists unpack the context and impacts of choices — especially choices that reinforce male supremacy. . . .
Unquestioningly celebrating “choice” helps women feel good about themselves while they avoid confronting the system of patriarchy and even, in some cases, uphold it. It allows them to earn the benefits society gives women who don’t challenge male supremacy while comforting themselves with the idea that their behavior — no matter how problematic — is feminist.
There are real and dangerous consequences when women do misogyny while thinking they’re doing feminism. Convinced they’re on the side of women without critically examining the behaviour they are supporting and beginning the real work of feminism, they lash out in anger at radical feminists who ask them to consider that they might actually not be on women’s side. . . . Instead of directing their anger at patriarchy and male entitlement, third wavers pile on radical feminists who dare ask the difficult questions that need to be answered if we are to bring about actual change.

Got that? Real feminism is inherently radical — it’s about “confronting the system of patriarchy,” to “challenge male supremacy,” directing “anger at patriarchy and male entitlement . . . to bring about actual change.”

On this, Ms. Mehat and I are in complete agreement. The difference is, Ms. Mehat thinks radical feminists, by virtue of being “on the side of women,” are going to bring about an egalitarian utopia, whereas I recognize radical feminism as a dangerous Death Cult Ideology.

Radical feminism is akin to the Symbionese Liberation Army, the Khmer Rouge, Jonestown, the Branch Davidians, Heaven’s Gate and every other doomstruck paranoid kook squad you’d care to name. The radical feminist worldview flourishes on university campuses, where tenured professors teach it to rich girls spending Daddy’s money to get their Women’s Studies degrees. Subsidized by taxpayers, the university campus is a bubble of make-believe where feminist gender theory — the social construction of the gender binary within the heterosexual matrix — is protected from criticism by speech codes, and where its practitioners can avoid contact with the facts of human life as it exists in the real world.

Everywhere she looks, the radical feminist perceives herself threatened by the sinister forces of patriarchy — misogyny, objectification, heteronormativity, male privilege, rape culture, etc. — and views men with paranoid suspicion. Her hostility toward “the system” feeds paranoid delusions of persecution. She lashes out at male scapegoats with constant accusations of “sexism,” convinced that she is always being unjustly victimized by oppression. The only way a man can avoid offending her is to avoid her altogether. Never talk to a feminist. Unfortunately, some guys think they can be exceptions to the rule and these “Male Feminists” are always causing trouble. Men know nothing, the feminist believes, and therefore he has nothing to say that she needs to hear.

Jindi Mehat hates “Good Guys”:

One of the most frustrating parts of talking with men about sexism is the amazing ability so many of them have to remain absolutely convinced that they are “Good Guys” while they behave in ways that reveal their sexist beliefs.
You know these guys. They are the ones who tell sexist jokes and then chastise you for objecting because “it’s just a joke.” They are the ones who constantly interrupt and dismiss women but definitely aren’t sexist because they “love women.” . . .
It’s like these men keep a list of the most abhorrent, misogynistic behaviour possible and, as long as they don’ t regularly do those things, believe they can confidently declare themselves Good Guys and wash their hands of this whole sexism business, while continuing to behave in ways that harm women. These self-identified Good Guys are convinced they needn’t bother with silly things like listening to what women say about the impacts their behaviour has on us, or working to challenge the messages they’ve absorbed that allow their problematic behaviour to continue.

Ms. Mehat offers a list of 25 questions for “Good Guys,” including:

1) Do you get annoyed when women aren’t as nice or quiet as you think we should be instead of recognizing how the expectation that women are nicer and quieter than men is harmful? . . .

4) Do you interrupt women when we’re speaking? . . .

11) Do you stare at women you find attractive, instead of considering how threatening this feels to most women? . . .

18) Do you think a woman you’re in a sexual relationship with should have sex with you even if she doesn’t want to?

19) Do you pout or try to convince her if she doesn’t? . . .

24) Do you think it’s women’s responsibility to make sure you understand sexism?

You can read the whole thing, but you get the idea here. What Ms. Mehat implies is that women should be rude to men and men should never notice their rudeness; that once a woman starts talking, a man’s job is to shut up until she’s finished lecturing him; that men should never so much as look at an attractive woman; that men should never have sex with women, nor even think about having sex with women, never mind trying to convince a woman to have sex with him; and that men should understand all these rules without women having to explain them.

In summarizing her argument, Ms. Mehat asserts that “the behaviours that define masculinity are inherently misogynistic ones”i.e., to be masculine is to hate women. Quod erat demonstrandum.

Guys, do you see why I keep saying never talk to a feminist?

When a woman tells you, “I am a feminist,” what she is actually saying is:

  1. Shut up,
  2. Go away,
  3. Leave me alone.

If a guy is in a room and Jindi Mehat walks in, this is his cue to walk out of the room — quietly, without making eye contact. If possible, men should never go anywhere near Vancouver, rather than risk the chance of an accidental encounter with Jindi Mehat. You have been warned.



37 Responses to “Guys: Leave @Jindi Alone”

  1. Steve Skubinna
    May 18th, 2016 @ 7:25 pm

    Right. Because the first thing that comes to mind for me when thinking “radical feminist” is “person working for a cruise ship company.”

    Fer chrissakes, you stupid scrunt, go live in a damn lesbian commune in Colorado or something. Stop supporting the capitalist patriarchy.

    Or don’t. Whatever. We’ll manage fine regardless.

  2. concern00
    May 18th, 2016 @ 7:30 pm

    Well at least she isn’t actively promoting her lesbianism, mental illnesses and STDs…or did I miss something?

  3. RS
    May 18th, 2016 @ 7:36 pm

    Everywhere she looks, the radical feminist perceives herself threatened by the sinister forces of patriarchy — misogyny, objectification, heteronormativity, male privilege, rape culture, etc.

    Damn. It would appear Ms.Mehat has acquired a copy of the Patriarchy’s standing items of our regular agenda. I think this needs to be discussed at the next meeting, Monday night, 7:00 PM in the basement of the Grange Hall in Sydney, Nebraska. (BYOB, as always, though the Ladies Auxiliary will be providing set-ups.)

  4. Fail Burton
    May 18th, 2016 @ 7:44 pm

    Another “Mental Jillness” with puffed up delusions of grandeur, shaggy dog haircut and just enough sanity to not forget how to breathe.

  5. RS
    May 18th, 2016 @ 9:04 pm

    In pondering Ms. Mehat’s writings, what strikes me is that there seems to be nothing and no one in this world which/who does not carry with it/him the potential for pissing her off. I cannot imagine how emotionally exhausting that must be; to go through life with “the personal is political” mantra tattooed on your forehead without an “off” switch. Imagine trying to navigate the world while being constantly on guard for some “problematic” action or utterance or something which falls short of the requisite ideological purity, so that you can instantly deploy a denunciation to prove your bona fides. Freud may have been generally full of crap, but his adage “sometimes a cigar is just a cigar” is pretty apt.

  6. Joseph Shmeau
    May 18th, 2016 @ 9:09 pm

    She was working for Expedia, meaning she was in an office doing some sort of work related to a computerized travel reservation system.

  7. Steve Skubinna
    May 18th, 2016 @ 9:18 pm

    Oh, I dunno. I just thought “Expedia CruiseShip Centers” sounded awfully bourgeoise.

    In any event, not exactly striking a blow against the patriarchy. Unless maybe she was making a point of booking straight white males in inside cabins.

  8. Steve Skubinna
    May 18th, 2016 @ 9:19 pm

    It’s implied.

  9. Steve Skubinna
    May 18th, 2016 @ 9:20 pm

    Egads! Fly at once, all is discovered!

  10. DarkstarSF
    May 18th, 2016 @ 9:24 pm

    D@MN it, I TOLD them to use a ROBOTS.TXT file. Now look at what happened.

  11. concern00
    May 18th, 2016 @ 9:25 pm

    If you check out her linkedin and yellowpencil profile, she’s keeping the whole feminism stuff pretty low key. She is, after all, one of the few rad-fems that seems to be holding down a real job.

  12. Steve Skubinna
    May 18th, 2016 @ 9:25 pm

    Don’t be so judgmental.

    For one thing, sanity is not required to breathe. All you need is a functioning medulla oblongata.

    I think that’s also the part that governs literally not being able to even.

  13. Steve Skubinna
    May 18th, 2016 @ 9:27 pm

    So she is self aware enough to realize that being barking batshit insane is a hindrance to holding down a steady job?

  14. Steve Skubinna
    May 18th, 2016 @ 9:30 pm

    The deal is, you spend your time looking for stuff to be outraged by, you spend your time being outraged.

    Sure, there’s plenty of stuff to piss off a normal person, but actively seeking it out or making more of it up? Yeah, fine, whatever floats your boat sweetheart. Have a miserable life, if that’s what you really want. No skin off my nose.

    Don’t let my contentment harsh your mellow.

  15. CrustyB
    May 18th, 2016 @ 10:24 pm

    Do you get annoyed when women aren’t as nice or quiet as you think we should be

    I get annoyed when *anyone* isn’t as nice or quiet as I think they should be. Who the hell doesn’t.

  16. Fred_Z
    May 19th, 2016 @ 12:03 am

    Rule 1. She’s hot. She wins.

  17. Finrod Felagund
    May 19th, 2016 @ 1:48 am

    Living well is the best revenge.

  18. Joe Joe
    May 19th, 2016 @ 1:48 am

    I wish I could rec 1000 times. This is exactly the problem.

  19. Robert What?
    May 19th, 2016 @ 2:23 am

    How do I get in on this “male supremacy” thing? Is there a secret handshake or something?

  20. Scuttlebuttin'
    May 19th, 2016 @ 2:29 am

    Don’t you mean “mellow your harsh”?

  21. Scuttlebuttin'
    May 19th, 2016 @ 2:50 am

    I wanted to write something pithy in response, but then I read this:

    our feminine wiles somehow disable their ability to walk away from conflict without becoming violent.

    Get bent, @Jindi.

  22. mole
    May 19th, 2016 @ 2:55 am

    How dare you! Looking after an apartment full of cats on your own is a full time job!

  23. Eric Ashley
    May 19th, 2016 @ 5:14 am

    Better to live in an attic than in a big house with a loud woman. Besides, there are a lot of good looking chicks out there. So, no Rule 1.

  24. Steve Skubinna
    May 19th, 2016 @ 11:26 am

    Well… revenge is the best revenge. But only if you really care. In this case I am entirely indifferent to her sucky life.

  25. Steve Skubinna
    May 19th, 2016 @ 11:27 am

    I doubt my satisfactory life (to me) is any comfort to her, if she even knew of it.

  26. Steve Skubinna
    May 19th, 2016 @ 11:28 am

    If we did live in a rape culture, one where violence against women was expected, people like her wouldn’t be so mouthy.

    I wonder what keeps the cognitive dissonance at bay?

  27. Steve Skubinna
    May 19th, 2016 @ 11:31 am

    I had a friend who favored crazy women as girlfriends. I asked why, he said if you lived with a woman with anger issues the sex was terrific.

    I asked “What about the other 23 hours of the day? Do you get tired of constantly checking the contents of the kitchen knife drawer?”

    At some point it clicked for him. He cleared everything up, quit his job, lived off grid for a year, and then ended up in a coastal town in Oregon, where he’s a professional firefighter, happily married with kids.

  28. Steve Skubinna
    May 19th, 2016 @ 11:32 am

    Sorry, you’re right. I meant a paying job.

  29. Fail Burton
    May 19th, 2016 @ 11:34 am

    Did she mean huge flapping mouths they can’t control?

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  31. theBuckWheat
    May 19th, 2016 @ 2:34 pm

    “…Subsidized by taxpayers, the university campus is a bubble of make-believe where feminist gender theory — the social construction of the gender binary within the heterosexual matrix — is protected from criticism by speech codes, and where its practitioners can avoid contact with the facts of human life as it exists in the real world….”

    A physician’s axiom applies here: “obstruction begets infection”. Such academics are like the infection that builds beneath the obstruction that prevents the skin pore from properly draining. They have installed themselves into positions that are protected. They are protected from funding cuts, from moral rebuke, from academic criticism, from rational thought and so on. Their thinking has become grossly infected and is truly sick, in fact terminally ill.

  32. Steve Skubinna
    May 19th, 2016 @ 4:48 pm

    They’re like a Petri dish. Or maybe more like a terrarium, considering the rich and varied ecosystem they maintain within their cloistered confines.

    But reality is, as always, toxic to such cultures. That’s why, as somebody noted above, Ms. Jindi appears to keep her LinkedIn profile fairly low key. Be nuts where it’s expected, and be professional where it’s expected. Kind of like people with jobs who play wargames or go to Renaissance Faires or Steampunk conventions on the weekends.

  33. Durasim
    May 19th, 2016 @ 8:17 pm

    It appears that “Jindi” locked up her tweets.

  34. robertstacymccain
    May 19th, 2016 @ 10:27 pm

    I would advise young men today, if you find a sane woman, marry her. Sanity is increasingly rare.

  35. Quartermaster
    May 20th, 2016 @ 6:12 pm

    She doesn’t have a thing to worry about as I won’t bother her. I usually leave venomous vipers to themselves.

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