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Does Lynn Messina Grasp The Damage She’s Doing To Our Culture?

Posted on | January 21, 2013 | 17 Comments

by Smitty

Bottom line up front: “XX” != ” XY”.

Anybody who thinks that the moral fiber of the United States has been diminished since feminism and the sexual revolution disgraced our shores  can find a contemporary example of the disease here, emphasis mine:

Start to complain about your preschooler adopting gentlemanly behavior and you quickly discover how out of step you are with the rest of the world. Almost everyone I mention it to thinks it’s lovely and sweet. What’s the harm in teaching little boys to respect little girls?
The implication, of course, is that I’m overreacting, and as a parent, I’ll admit to being prone to the occasional bout of hypersensitivity. For months, I grumbled that the inappropriately breathy tone of Cinderella on Emmett’s LeapFrog Princess laptop was warping a generation of impressionable young minds.
But I don’t think it’s an overreaction to resent the fact that your son is being given an extra set of rules to follow simply because he’s a boy. His behavior, already constrained by a series of societal norms, now has additional restrictions. Worse than that, he’s actively being taught to treat girls differently, something I thought we all agreed to stop doing, like, three decades ago. That the concept of selective privilege has been introduced in preschool of all places — the inner sanctum of fair play, the high temple of taking turns — is mind-boggling to me. How can you preach the ethos of sharing at the dramatic play center and ignore it 20 feet away at the toilet?
Yet as much as this double standard offends me as a mom, it’s nothing compared with how much it infuriates me as a feminist. Forty years after the tender, sweet, young thing in “Free to Be You and Me” gets eaten by a pack of hungry tigers after asserting that ladies should go first, we are still insisting on empty courtesies that instill in women a sense of entitlement for meaningless things. Many women see gallantry as one of the benefits of their sex; I see it as one of its consolations.

As we peer into the wreckage of our culture, wondering how we went from greatness to corruption, we need to point to the Lynn Messinas as the flies in the soup. Thanks to the internet, we can underscore  just how false your ideas are Messina, and share some information about the origins of your jacked-up thinking.

This ‘notion of rules’ and sense of  ’treating girls differently’ does not end in a ‘sense of entitlement for meaningless things’, as events in Aurora tragically underscored. Without doing a thorough survey, how many of the recent spate of atrocities were undertaken by men who’d enjoyed a stable family life? How many featured a father who, understanding traditional values as pillars of strength rather than the bars of a prison, led the family in traditional roles of worship, character development, and masculine nurturing? I’d fall well short of connecting dots on anything here. I’m not making any correlation-equals-causation argument. Rather, I’m pointing out that the fundamentally good things Messina rejects are not, themselves, apparent drivers for evil at Newtown, Aurora, VA Tech, and so on.

Furthermore, if you ever want to develop the kind of men you need when the fertilizer truly hits the air circulator, you had better read every word Messina writes and proceed to do the opposite as parents. Denouncing the sort of idiocy she seems to encourage is among the minor reasons I blog at all. We, as a culture, need to stand up and oppose people that are throwing Western Civilization under the bus.  They seem comfortable making room, not only for abortion, but for the kind of barbaric cultures that can genitally mutilate girls and then dress them in a bags when grown. If Messina was worthy of the attention, one should like to drop her somewhere in Asia for a year or so, as sort of a “homeland appreciation tour”.

As a case in point, we have the World’s Youngest Blogger.

As this blessing is on loan from the Good Lord Almighty, I can affirm that he will be raised with the utmost attention to all aspects of healthy moral, mental, and physical development. He may grow to frustrate his parents mightily, but I can guarantee it won’t be from exposure to the kind of falsehoods Messina peddles without being instructed as to their diabolical source.

via Insty

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Comments

  • http://twitter.com/thatMrGguy Mike G.

    Good essay.

    Rather, I’m pointing out that the fundamentally good things Messina rejects are not, themselves, apparent drivers for evil at Newtown, Aurora, VA Tech, and so on.

    The fundamental good things that Messina rejects are a precursor to the events that happened at Aurora, VA Tech, etal.

  • http://evilbloggerlady.blogspot.com/ Evi L. Bloggerlady

    Thank goodness most lefty elites do not believe in having children being breeders.

  • Steve Skubinna

    “something I thought we all agreed to stop doing”

    Who exactly is “we,” and when did “we” agree to this? I must have been out of the country when “we” made this decision. I am certain that I was not consulted.

    Melissa would hate being around a group of servicemen. Not that she would ever degrade herself so, but the unfailing courtesy the troops display towards civilians, especially women, would grate on her precious sensibilities. I’d love to see her reaction the first time some young Marine or GI called her “ma’am.” And the second and third times.

  • HMSLion

    There’s the other side, though. Teaching boys to gbe gentlemen is fine…but must be balanced by teaching girls to be ladies.

    Which they, and our entire society, fail to do.

  • http://twitter.com/richard_mcenroe richard mcenroe

    I think you mean rejecting them is the precursor.

  • Finrod Felagund

    Ten years from now, when her son is hanging out with hoodlums, staying out all night, ignoring everything she’s telling him, I doubt she’ll realize that it’s that he learned her lesson too well to not respect women.

  • http://evilbloggerlady.blogspot.com/ Evi L. Bloggerlady

    Who down dinged me? Was it some lefty who did not like me pointing out the obvious? That condescending term “Breeders” is a favorite of many on the far left and gay communities.

  • Finrod Felagund

    Not me, though I will admit that I’ve used the term to refer to the kind of parent that think their kid should be the most important thing in your life, too.

  • Steve Skubinna

    No, in that case it will be yet another legacy of the eeeeeevil Republicans and their war on women.

  • http://getalonghome.com/ GAHCindy

    In our house, we do have the boys play by a different (not extra) set of rules, because boys work differently. They have different strengths and different needs. I certainly never “agreed to stop doing” that. I prefer reality, and biology wins. We don’t have spoiled, entitled girls. I am a hardworking Mama, and I lay down practically every moment (that I’m not spending commenting on blogs where nobody cares much about my opinion anyway ;-) ) in the service of my family. I do this in a feminine way. My daughter is learning to work hard, too, and not to be entitled to anything she doesn’t deserve. My husband does the traditional man thing and teaches our boys the same. We do it because it works, and we’re wired to do it.

    Sense of entitlement? Like the one demonstrated by “feminists” who think that everyone else should pay for their birth control and abortions? Different set of rules? Like the rule that says that men are obligated to care for their young, no questions asked, yet women may kill them any time they like during the first 9 months of their lives? Treat girls differently? Like how men have to mind their p’s and q’s around women in the workplace, lest they be accused of sexual harassment for noticing that one lady is very pretty in front of another who is, sadly, not? Sounds to me like her son is simply being taught by others how to live in the monstrous world her feminism created.

  • http://thecampofthesaints.org Bob Belvedere

    I thought it was quite witty. Throw it back in their damn’ed faces, I say.

  • http://thecampofthesaints.org Bob Belvedere

    Damn well put. ‘Monstrous world’ is exactly what it is, a place where basic Humanity is absent.

  • http://thecampofthesaints.org Bob Belvedere

    That poor, poor boy.

  • pabarge

    My husband does the traditional man thing…
    Contrast with the OP where there was not mention of any father, not to mention any adult male.

    Voila, la difference.

  • SDN

    This ‘notion of rules’ and sense of ’treating girls differently’ does
    not end in a ‘sense of entitlement for meaningless things’, as events in Aurora tragically underscored.

    And how many women walked out of that theater ALIVE because their dates for the evening had been taught those rules Ms Messina so despises, and in obedience to the gentleman’s code put their bodies between the gunman and the women they were taught to respect? We know there were some who were among the injured and the dead because they rejected the teachings of a feminist in the Ms Messina mold.

  • http://twitter.com/thatMrGguy Mike G.

    Thank you Sir, may I have another. You’re right, of course. Should have re-read it three more times before I posted it, eh.

  • http://alanye.com/ Dai Alanye

    “…something I thought we all agreed to stop doing”

    What you mean, WE, white woman?