Posted on | March 10, 2014 | 54 Comments
On an elevator in the lobby of the Gaylord National Convention Center during CPAC, I spotted a smiling girl wearing a T-shirt that indicated she was a volunteer for the event. She was carrying a stack of books, and when I commented about this, she explained that she had received them as freebies, distributed in the volunteer room. “Would you like one?” And how could I possibly refuse?
This explains how I got a copy of the 2010 essay collection, Proud to Be Right: Voices of the Next Conservative Generation, edited and with an introduction by Jonah Goldberg. It includes 22 essays by young writers, some of whom you likely already know — e.g., Bretbart.com editor Joel Pollak and documentary filmmaker Evan Coyne Maloney — and others you probably don’t. Nathan Harden is author of God & Sex at Yale and editor of The College Fix, and his essay in Proud to Be Right is entitled “The Girls I Knew at Yale”:
Sex in college exists apart from and, occasionally, as a prelude to love. Many girls engage in sex with the hope that it will lead to “something more.”
At Yale, a guy shows up at a party and meets a new girl. They have a few drinks, nod to the music, ask each other, “What’s your major?” and “What college are you from?” (At Yale, dorms are referred to as “residential colleges.”) Maybe they dance. At this point, if the two are getting along, it is not considered unreasonable for the guy to expect oral sex at the end of the night.
Men, I would argue, do not benefit spiritually or morally from such a promiscuous culture. But women receive the worst end of the bargain. . . .
At Yale, caring about love is a weakness. If a girl resists, doesn’t get with the program and get into bed, another girl will take her place. Expectations are so slanted toward casual hook-ups that any girl who holds out for a meaningful relationship is in danger of being left out altogether. It’s either “friends with benefits” or another Friday night spent alone. As a result, many girls go further and faster sexually than they really want to go. . . .
You can buy the book and read the whole thing, but you see the point: This is not “empowerment.” This is not “autonomy.”
This is desperation, loneliness and peer pressure. And rather than address the underlying personal problems involved in what Nathan Harden calls the “promiscuous culture” on campus, the intellectual class instead offers lectures against “slut-shaming.”
But sluts should be ashamed, because their promiscuity doesn’t only harm them, it also harms other girls by encouraging boys’ expectations of casual drunken hook-ups and “friends with benefits.”
In such a toxic environment, it’s hard to blame college girls who become LUGs (Lesbians Until Graduation) simply to avoid creeps who expect a blow job from any girl who talks to them at a party.
BTW, the girl on the elevator who gave me the book wasn’t from Yale. She was a nice girl from Oregon. Nice girls don’t go to Yale.