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Another Feminist ‘Success’ Story

Posted on | October 28, 2014 | 49 Comments

Tobias Hill-Meyer (@Tobitastic) is the son of two proud lesbian feminist mothers. You ask: “How lesbian feminist are they?” Toby was born after his mother went into labor at a Sweet Honey in the Rock concert in 1983. From a 1988 essay his mother Jennifer Meyer wrote:

When my first son was born, I promised myself that I would never be ashamed of who we are as a family. That I would counter the shame that society would try to force on us with a fierce pride. . . .
When my son was three, he reminded me of that promise with his own openness. While traveling, we’d stopped for lunch in a small town in Washington state . . . When the waitress approached our booth, Toby stood up and announced, “My name is Toby and these are my two moms: Mama J and Mama Kate.” . . .
I vowed again never to hide.
Luckly, we live in a place where that is possible. Santa Cruz [California] is relatively open and accepting — not exactly Utopia, but not the Bible Belt, either. . . . Toby’s teachers are careful to say “parents” instead of “mom and dad” and to recognize all kinds of family unites when discussing families. And the kids in Toby’s class think Toby is incredibly lucky and special to have two moms.

You can read the rest of that about the “societal oppression” Jennifer Meyer congratulates herself for “battling” all her life. Well, it looks like your battle was a success: Your son’s a shemale now!

Tobi was 20 when she first explained to my partner, Kate, and me that she was questioning her gender. She wasn’t sure o much, except that she could no longer be the boy we had raised and would appreciate it if we would use female pronounces when referring to her. . . .
Two years later [i.e., in 2006], Tobi now considers herself a “transwoman.” She’s on a regimen of female hormones and has legally changed her name from Tobias to Tobi. . . .

After describing the experience of being “lesbian mothers on the forefront of the ‘turkey-baster age,'” Meyer condemns those who think “the lack of a male role model” could lead to “gender-confusion and homosexuality.” (Haters!) But please, tell us more:

As important as it was for us to affirm ourselves as an average American family, we also felt it was our duty to counteract gender stereotyping. To raise our boys to value emotion and sensitivity, to avoid the honing of aggression that is usually imposed on male children.

And you succeeded! Way to go, lesbian feminist mom! I’m sure you must have been proud to read this 2005 article about Tobi:

Hill-Meyer read works drawn from her thesis-zine, “A New Language of Gender and Desire,” as well as an essay recently published in the book “Getting Bi.” . . .
Hill-Meyer said that sex is often equated with gender but that sexual orientation is not all about sex. Instead, she and other bisexuals find many different factors influencing sexual attraction.
For example, Hill-Meyer said she was pretty sure she was a straight male in high school, but in college she became less sure of herself.
“More realistically, I was 95 percent attracted to feminists, and there weren’t any feminist men at my high school,” she said. “That’s what I’m really attracted to.”
Instead of being attracted to men and women, as people assume when Hill-Meyer tells them she is bisexual, she said the more gender-deviant a person is and the more in between the two sexes, the more she will be attracted to them, which is why “bisexual” is an often confounding term for Hill-Meyer. It suggests only two genders, when really she sees many more, she said.

Tobi is “attracted to feminists”! Way to go, Mom! Except that your “sensitive” son seems to have some issues with . . . lesbians:

An Open Letter to Jennifer Meyer and Kate Hill
Dear Jennifer and Kate –
Hello. My name is Cathy Brennan, and I am a lesbian activist in Baltimore, Maryland. . . .
I want to ask you to do something now that will also take amazing courage — please tell your daughter, Tobi Hill-Meyer, to stop terrorizing Lesbians. . . . . Tobi has taken it upon herself to tell Lesbians that we are bigots for shunning penis. Perhaps you don’t know this? She also has perpetuated the myth that Lesbians as a group secretly crave penetration by males – because some Lesbians use dildos. And Tobi, aided and abetted by would-be helpers who think they are waging a noble battle against “bigotry,” willfully violates the boundary established by Females for Female-only space. . . .

You can read the rest of that.

Guess what? Tobi Hill-Meyer is now working in that ultimate expression of “emotion and sensitivity,” the porn industry:

Why do I make porn
I came of age in sex positive communities where I saw people’s sexuality being celebrated in amazing and positive ways — but it was always a cis person or sometimes a trans guy. Trans women were tolerated in my communities, but not really expected to participate on that level. I wanted so badly to see someone like me being celebrated for being sexual, and although I couldn’t have that when I needed it most, I realized I could be that for someone else. So after getting the boot from mainstream porn because my body won’t ejaculate, I set out to make my own and create opportunities for trans women to represent ourselves in ways we actually wanted to be represented.

Shemale porn produced by a shemale! I’m sure Tobi’s lesbian feminist mother is proud that her emotional and sensitive son grew up to be a “daughter” who still has a penis but who has been effectively neutered by hormonal treatments so that his/”her” genitalia is so completely dysfunctional he/”she” can’t work in “mainstream” shemale porn.

Feminists everywhere must applaud this kind of parenting “success.”

The Hill-Meyer family must be so proud of their son/”daughter,” but I’m pretty sure his/”her” lesbian mothers can relax and stop worrying that anyone might ever call them “Grandma.” The feminist success story concludes with a Darwinian dead end.



49 Responses to “Another Feminist ‘Success’ Story”

  1. Eidolon
    October 28th, 2014 @ 1:26 am

    So a Christian person might have said that being raised in a family which didn’t give a young boy a clear understanding of himself, his role in the world, and what healthy masculinity might look like would result in a kid with a seriously screwed up view of himself and his sex. One might even guess that if one is raised by outspoken feminists who complain about men that he might develop issues relating to his own identity as a male, perhaps even attempting to dissociate himself from masculinity.

    I’m curious which of the following common arguments these people would use if one were to say that to them.

    1. How dare you suggest that families with non-traditional gender arrangements could result in a child that’s confused about its gender identity! These arrangements are no more likely to cause any problems or confusion of that kind than other marriages!

    2. These relationships are just more open and understanding about the child’s potentially different gender identity, and they are more willing to allow the child to express these differences freely. Of course it may be more likely that the child will identify as a different gender identity in this situation, but only because the typical arrangement squashes their individuality.

    I feel like you’re equally likely to get either argument, even though they’re saying directly opposed things. And they’ll be self-righteous about it in either case, even though they might just as well be saying the exact opposite of what they’re actually saying. And people who say the one certainly wouldn’t criticize the other, even though they can’t possibly both be true, and even though each is implying the thing the other self-righteously states is untrue.

  2. Fail Burton
    October 28th, 2014 @ 2:24 am

    I am increasingly understanding why people don’t write as much science fiction as they used to. What would be the point? Even C.M. Kornbluth’s “Marching Morons” never marched this far, though they would all reside at the bottom of a cliff were it not for oppressive normal people with brains.

    John Varley’s short stories from the ’70s of space stations full of lesbians look like Ma and Pa Kettle compared to this cauldron of idiocy and madness. Who can keep up?

    And to further the Marching Morons analogy, if you object you’ll be put on a hate-watch or something while free-wheeling takedowns of whites by Jessica Valenti and Arthur Chu are “Yaaay social justice.”

    I guess the good part is that if you’re a capitalist you could sell such people their own spit or Borneo. I have an idea called the “Silly Car” which runs on fumes of arrogance and stupidity. The PC could run around the world several times in that baby, if not the galaxy. I’ll sell a kajillion units and retire to Hell’s basement.

  3. Fail Burton
    October 28th, 2014 @ 2:27 am

    There is no such thing as child abuse, even when they come to celebrate Fisting Day, Dildo Christmas or Your Own Fingers in a Blanket One-Time Only Banquet.

  4. Funeral guy
    October 28th, 2014 @ 2:38 am

    Tobi-Hill Myer, dead by self-inflicted gunshot wound. Film at 11.

  5. Adobe_Walls
    October 28th, 2014 @ 2:39 am

    Mainstream shemale porn. Wow, now I’m sure we’re going to be alright.

  6. concern00
    October 28th, 2014 @ 2:51 am

    Yeah but apparently it can’t do money shots, so I’m guessing there might be a bit of fisting.

  7. concern00
    October 28th, 2014 @ 3:10 am

    This is like a liberal’s wet dream. Lesbian feminist parents, raising the kid in ‘sex positive’ environment with lots of sex being celebrated (and probably viewed, if not participated in). This leads to ‘gender questioning’; then goes on to pretend to be a woman, but clearly doesn’t have the balls to have them removed. Gets into empowering porn; obviously enjoys a bit of kinky sex.

    This is the absolute antithesis of wholesome (thanks Nabisco) and yet it is the pinnacle of liberal achievement. O.M.G.

  8. G Joubert
    October 28th, 2014 @ 3:16 am

    “Santa Cruz … is relatively open and accepting — not exactly Utopia, but not the Bible Belt, either. . . .”

    Notice the world view which filters everything: Utopia and the Bible Belt are polar opposites.

  9. Adobe_Walls
    October 28th, 2014 @ 3:25 am

    Well at least that makes the Bible Belt somewhere.

  10. 98ZJUSMC
    October 28th, 2014 @ 4:34 am

    Had the exact same thought about halfway through the post. What a mess…..

  11. 98ZJUSMC
    October 28th, 2014 @ 4:36 am

    why people don’t write as much science fiction as they used to.

    Yeah, we’re living it.

  12. Phil_McG
    October 28th, 2014 @ 4:46 am

    The Bible Belt, where they cling to their God and their guns… and their kids don’t end up as tranny porn actors.

  13. Phil_McG
    October 28th, 2014 @ 4:49 am

    Reminds me of all the freaks and degenerates cavorting and slithering around in ‘Cabaret’, and by the time “Tomorrow Belongs To Me” starts the Nazis seem like a breath of wholesome fresh air in comparison.

  14. Phil_McG
    October 28th, 2014 @ 4:55 am


    “It’s not like I’m some porn mogul living in an LA mansion – My income is just a few hundred a month these days.”

    Poor bastard was screwed from the moment someone stuck a turkey baster in his mother.

  15. Phil_McG
    October 28th, 2014 @ 5:01 am

    Here’s another pair of lesbians in California with custody of a boy.

    And whaddaya know? He started a sex change. Aged 8.

    If you can stomach reading the story, notice how heartbreakingly miserable the boy looks. And look at the two dykes who have him injecting female hormones. No boy could survive being raised in an environment like that without severe emotional distress.

  16. Phil_McG
    October 28th, 2014 @ 5:03 am

    Change you can believe in!

  17. Fail Burton
    October 28th, 2014 @ 5:41 am

    More likely by self-inflicted fisting.

  18. Fail Burton
    October 28th, 2014 @ 5:42 am

    “Here’s fisting of you, kid.” – Casadildo

  19. Fail Burton
    October 28th, 2014 @ 5:45 am

    “Fist that thing and let’s get out of here!” – Fist Wars

  20. Fail Burton
    October 28th, 2014 @ 5:46 am

    “Frankly my he/she, I don’t fist a damn.” – Gone With the Dildo

  21. Fail Burton
    October 28th, 2014 @ 5:47 am

    I think she meant “Fistopia.”

  22. Fail Burton
    October 28th, 2014 @ 5:48 am

    But don’t let your kid walk around the corner on a cold day without a jacket. Child Protective Services will come to call.

  23. John Rose
    October 28th, 2014 @ 6:52 am

    Aw, hell, they could still be Grandmas. At the rate things are going, I’d expect the Benevolent State to confiscate babies from WrongThinkers to provide desired children to upstanding Shemale Porn Producers.

    It’s only fair, after all.

  24. Dan Levitan
    October 28th, 2014 @ 7:02 am

    Toby Hill-Meyer went to the University of Oregon. I had the mispleasure of dealing with him as he was a senator on the Student senate.

    He tried to shut the Oregon Commentator, the alternative-conservo/libertarian newsmagazine on campus (side note: also where WFB reporter CJ Ciamerella got his start), because of unflattering stuff regarding Hill-Meyer. I fought hard against it, and he went off into defeat.

    He graduated in 2005, and ever since, I always wondered where the he/she disappeared to. Now I know that it is a porn star. Great and joyous (/sarc)

  25. Durasim
    October 28th, 2014 @ 10:14 am

    Hill-Meyer must have been rubbing the lotion on its skin the entire time it was in college.

  26. RS
    October 28th, 2014 @ 10:37 am

    As I said in the prior thread: Collateral damage in the Prog war to destroy civilization.

  27. Matt_SE
    October 28th, 2014 @ 12:29 pm

    It seems like every single one of these people are psychological wrecks.

  28. DeadMessenger
    October 28th, 2014 @ 1:42 pm

    “…Toby’s teachers are careful to say “parents” instead of “mom and dad”…

    Toby’s teachers were careful to walk on eggshells around him, lest his clearly psychologically damaged “parents” (if you want to call them that) have them fired. OTOH, there was probably some pretty lively conversation in the teacher’s lounge at that school.

  29. DeadMessenger
    October 28th, 2014 @ 1:53 pm

    “I wanted so badly to see someone like me being celebrated for being sexual…”

    Why should someone expect to be “celebrated” for “being sexual”? That’s got to be one of the most asinine statements of all time. It’s an effed up world when “being sexual” – the natural state – is supposed to be “celebrated”, but abstinence is mocked. The human carrion who raised this guy damaged him pretty thoroughly…I feel sorry for him. I’ve counseled cultists before, and that’s what’s happened to Toby – he was raised by psycho cultists, the poor guy.

  30. richard mcenroe
    October 28th, 2014 @ 1:59 pm

    Can I be can be celebrated for breathing?

  31. DeadMessenger
    October 28th, 2014 @ 2:07 pm

    Sure, why not! I just went to the bathroom, and now I’m going to have a party! I’m going to invite my friends and family over to celebrate this milestone event with me. I’m going to expect people to celebrate my potty training every time I go, and if my employer doesn’t like it, I’ll sue him for being a bigoted, intolerant, racist, hatey-hater.

  32. DeadMessenger
    October 28th, 2014 @ 2:13 pm

    Can you imagine someday when Tommy’s birth mother has regrets and tries to find him? Then she discovers to her horror that these two cockroaches turned her son into a monster, when she thought a better home would be provided for him than she could provide.

    And we’re told that Catholic orphanages need to be shut down so that other vermin like these women can get their hands on small children.

    I also wonder if anybody at their synagogue of Satan has read, or even heard of, the Torah. I’m pretty certain it has something to say regarding this matter.

  33. Bob Belvedere
    October 28th, 2014 @ 2:47 pm

    Not quite. Both are just different forms of Depravity.

  34. concern00
    October 28th, 2014 @ 2:48 pm

    He was adopted as well. What a tragedy. So not only does he have to deal with the trauma of being adopted, which can be ameliorated by a loving adoptive mother and father, he also has to deal with being raised in a broken home with two perverts modelling a deviant lifestyle. Once again…wholesome.

  35. concern00
    October 28th, 2014 @ 2:51 pm

    Since it clearly has trouble functioning sexually, perhaps it is cause for celebration if it can get it up.

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  37. Funeral guy
    October 28th, 2014 @ 4:04 pm

    When my daughter was in H.S. We promised her she could go to any California school if she got the grades and some scholarships. She did and Chose Santa Cruz. If it weren’t for divorced dad guilt I’d have put my foot down the second I saw the big mural of Angela Davis. Four years of hippie culture. She could have come out worse, and I take some small comfort from friends that tell me that all California schools are like that. It was beautiful up there, I’ll give it that.

  38. Funeral guy
    October 28th, 2014 @ 4:14 pm

    Going into the bedroom with my wife, shutting the door with just the two of us is, I fear, considered freakish by an ever growing part of the population.

  39. Cathy Brennan
    October 28th, 2014 @ 4:56 pm

    Robert, I feel like you are in love with me, with the amount of time you spend on my blog. It is very odd.

  40. Fail Burton
    October 28th, 2014 @ 5:41 pm

    We live on a planet of love.

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  42. Steve Skubinna
    October 28th, 2014 @ 6:43 pm

    “As important as it was for us to affirm ourselves as an average American

    How delightfully clueless she is. Absolutely no concept of what the word “average” means. But surely the rest of her argument is more cogent and logical.

  43. Hodor
    October 28th, 2014 @ 8:28 pm

    Mr. McCain I’d wager your internet history from the past 6 months or so would be quite the eye-popper for anyone who didn’t know you were doing legitimate research. 🙂

  44. Dan Levitan
    October 28th, 2014 @ 10:46 pm

    With cries of ‘ze’ and ‘hir’, to boot.

    Even other liberals on the Student Senate got tired of it’s schtick, and voted to keep the Commentator.

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    October 29th, 2014 @ 7:33 pm

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  47. Daniel Freeman
    October 29th, 2014 @ 7:43 pm

    On the one hand, that looks like a preface to a creep-shaming threat narrative. On the other hand, with that bit about attention feeling like love, you invoked the stereotype of lesbians being prone to borderline personality disorder. So, it was kind of a wash.

  48. Daniel Freeman
    October 30th, 2014 @ 1:07 am

    Maybe she meant “literally” average. What’s the difference again?

  49. GrandsonOGrumpus
    November 2nd, 2014 @ 10:34 am

    Explain, please: “ze”, “hir”?

    I originally thought they might be variants of “he” and “her”— but that just seems simply a much too clumsy replacement: neither fall easily from the tongue (no pun intended!), regardless of the sentence construction.

    Is it a “self-imposed” speech impediment, perhaps?

    The whole subject of this article is one that seems simply beyond my meager ability to comprehend.

    Why any pair of lesbians …lesbians, btw, are women who by their own definition want a life exclusive of men… would desire to raise a boy seems a truly outlandish thought!

    To actually follow through on the notion, for eighteen years, seems beyond asinine!

    To start the eighteen year follow-through with a turkey baister or the arduous procedures leading to adoption on the behalf of a momentary fancy that they fixated on and opposes what lesbians state is a genetic compulsion (exclusion of men) seems just a tiny bit obsessive-compulsive to me.

    What a mess these feminists have created!