Crazy People Are Dangerous
Posted on | May 13, 2019 | Comments Off on Crazy People Are Dangerous
Hailey Burns (left); Michael Wysolovski (right).
On May 23, 2016, Anthony and Shauna Burns discovered that their 16-year-old daughter Hailey was missing from their home near Charlotte, N.C. The front door was unlocked and the teenager, who had been diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome, left behind a diary that detailed her plans to run away with a man she had met in an online forum:
“He gradually wormed his way into her good graces, he coerced her into listening to him and not following our directions and the next thing I knew my daughter wasn’t communicating with me,” her father told WBTV. . . .
“My daughter was troubled and had psychological problems that were diagnosed and clouded her judgment. I was working very closely with her to get her on track spending evenings trying to bond with her and feeling as if I was making some progress . . .”
Speaking to WSOC-TV, Anthony Burns said one of his daughter’s friends had heard about the man prior to her disappearance.
“He told me that my daughter had been talking to a 30-year-old man for over six months who was trying to convince her to talk to him, and saying that he would be her friend and she could come to him,” her father alleged.
For more than a year, Hailey’s whereabouts remained unknown, until a woman in Romania who had been chatting online with Hailey contacted her parents, sharing a photo the girl had sent her. The family passed the information to the FBI, and the next day, June 25, 2017, agents found Hailey in the Duluth, Georgia, home of Michael Wysolovski, 31:
Investigators said he met Hailey Burns online, then kept her locked inside an upstairs bedroom and controlled every aspect of her life, down to the number of calories she ate each day.
“He manipulated me heavily, taking advantage of my mental illness to push me closer to his desires,” Hailey said.
Wysolovski sat without emotion as Hailey described how she was abused, starved at times as part of his twisted sexual fantasies.
“He lowered my self-esteem greatly and led me to believe I’d never be loved or have a proper life if I gained any weight,” Hailey said. . . .
Wysolovski targeted Hailey through an eating disorder website and eventually lured her away from her home in Ballantyne just after she turned 16 years old.
Channel 9 learned Hailey was given a fake ID and told to lie about who she really was.
The state attorney struck a plea deal in the case that the family agreed to, saying a trial would not have brought a guaranteed conviction.
Many people were outraged that prosecutors gave Wysolovski a deal that let him off with time served — he spent eight months in jail before making bond — but the relevant laws as applied to the circumstances of the case could have made it difficult to convict him at trial. Age of consent is 16, and Hailey had initially consented to the relationship:
The victim and Wysolovski agreed to enter a “consensual non-consensual” sexual relationship, a type of BDSM (bondage, domination, submission, masochism) relationship in which the partners agree to simulate non-consensual sex acts, prosecutor Michael DeTardo said during the plea hearing. Over time, Wysolovski violated the set boundaries for this arrangement, refusing to use “safe words” and using “excessive force” including biting and physical violence. The victim, who was anorexic, initially encouraged Wysolovski to control her eating habits and kept journals detailing her desire to lose weight, DeTardo said. Wysolovski later used food to punish the victim or force her to perform sexual acts.
He kept her locked in a dog cage for much of her captivity. She repeatedly attempted suicide after she was rescued. In her statement at his sentencing, Hailey described herself as “irreparably broken,” having suffered “psychological damage . . . beyond imagination.”
One of the most disturbing aspects of this story is that the perpetrator is a blank slate, with no previous criminal record, and none of the news stories provides any background to explain how or why this guy turned into a sadistic monster. Were I the prosecutor in such a case, I would require as part of any plea bargain that the perpetrator undergo extensive psychological evaluation. A report of this evaluation would become part of the public record, not only to function as a sort of warning notice to the public after the criminal was released from custody, but also to help increase awareness of the psychological causes of such deviant behavior.
People who engage in BDSM behavior, either as sadist “masters” or as masochist “submissives,” are pathologically perverted, and the fact that this perversion was the subject of a bestselling book and hit movie, 50 Shades of Grey, should be interpreted as evidence that our culture has entered a disturbing condition of degeneracy and decadence. When you get to the point where a freak seeking a perfect victim for his sick fantasies is lurking on an Internet forum for girls with eating disorders, and he seems to have no trouble finding a volunteer for this arrangement, you have to worry about the size of the submerged iceberg of craziness, of which this case is merely the visible tip.
It’s sort of like the NXIVM sex cult case: How is it that so many women, including heiress Clare Bronfman and actress Allison Mack, could willingly participate in the sadistic fantasies of Keith Raniere, which involved among other things forcibly branding the cult’s sex slaves? What could explain such behavior? Why do so many women evidently get off on being used and degraded this way? How did they get so twisted?
Here’s a possible hint from Rollo Tomassi:
Women reward not goodness, but strength. And strength is amoral, meaning it can be either just or unjust, good or bad. The guy with strength can either be the villain or the hero — it makes no difference to women. They can’t tell the difference and in truth don’t care anyway.
(The Rational Male: Positive Masculinity, p. 249.)
Honestly, I don’t want to believe that, but there is so much evidence supporting this “red pill” perspective that it’s difficult to ignore. If women are just naturally turned on by strength — forcefulness, aggression, power — and if their hard-wired psychosexual response to this is indifferent to whether a man’s strength is used for good or evil, what influence will women’s “empowerment” have on our culture? On our politics?
Be afraid. Be very afraid.
(Hat-tip: Kirby McCain on Twitter.)