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Feminism’s ‘Rape Culture’ Insanity

Posted on | April 29, 2015 | 152 Comments

Does anyone else remember the “Culture War” of the 1990s? Conservatives like Bill Bennett and Robert Bork argued at the time that the decadence of popular culture — as evidenced in everything from gangsta rap to video games to Quentin Tarantino movies — was corrupting morality, inciting violence and sexual perversion. Here we are, two decades later and feminists are saying basically the same thing.

This is part of what the whole “rape culture” discourse is about. Whereas most of us think of rape as a criminal act perpetrated by individuals, feminists want to indict culture — or “misogyny” or “male supremacy” or some other way of blaming larger societal forces beyond the act of the individual rapist. Therefore, feminists now adamantly insist, it’s the way we talk about sex, or the way sex is depicted in advertising, movies and TV shows, which causes rape. So now the Speech Police patrol the Internet, ready to denounce as a “rape apologist” anyone who contradicts the feminist narrative. No one can be permitted to express doubt toward the Scientific Truth of the Feminist-Industrial Complex. After Christina Hoff Sommers spoke at Georgetown University, the student newspaper published an editorial that accused the College Republicans (who hosted Sommers’ lecture) of having “knowingly endorsed a harmful conversation on the serious topic of sexual assault.”

Merely to have a conversation is harmful on the 21st-century campus.

What sort of conversations are students permitted to have? Feminists apparently had no problem with the Foucault-influenced postmodern gibberish spewed by Emma Sulkowicz in a “Sexual Assault Awareness Month” event at Brown University:

“There does not exist a scientific way to prove non-consent. . . . When it comes to sexual violence, scientific proof is impossible. . . . If we use proof in rape cases, we fall into the patterns of rape deniers. . . . When a person claims that their theory is a science, they disqualify other types of knowledge. . . . Let’s change the question from ‘Did she consent that night?’ to ‘Did she have the power to consent that night?’ . . . This is not about physical strength. . . . This is about historical power. . . . Seeing is the origin of interpretation. Interpretation is the origin of knowing. . . . If truth is scientific, then art cannot access truth. But perhaps there is something beyond the truth.”

Uh, “something beyond the truth”? Something we might call a lie?

This is pretty much what Paul Nungesser’s federal lawsuit says: “Emma Sulkowicz Is a Vindictive, Dishonest and Crazy Slut — Allegedly.”

Far be it from me to presume to know what transpired between Nungesser and Sulkowicz on the night of Aug. 27, 2012. She claims he held her down, choked her and forcibly sodomized her. There is no evidence at all to support her claim, however, while Nungesser says that everything between them was consensual and quotes Facebook messages from her that would appear to suggest that Sulkowicz was quite enthusiastic about sodomy (see paragraph 16 on p. 5 of Nungesser’s lawsuit). As for a possible motive for Sulkowicz to lie, Nungesser’s lawsuit offers a credible explanation in paragraphs 30-31, p. 10:

As is evident from Emma’s Facebook messages to Paul during the summer prior to their sophomore year, Emma’s yearning for Paul had become very intense. Emma repeatedly messaged Paul throughout that summer that she loved and missed him. She was quick to inquire whether he was in love with the woman he was seeing abroad.
Thereafter, she continued pursuing him, reiterating that she loved him. However, when Paul did not reciprocate these intense feelings, and instead showed interest in dating other women, Emma became viciously angry.

“Hell hath no fury,” etc. This is an entirely plausible scenario, if you are familiar with a certain kind of high-maintenance young woman — what I call the “Daddy’s Precious Darling” type — who believes herself to be so special that she deserves to have whatever she wants. If Sulkowicz thought her hookups with Nungesser were about love, and if he treated this as just something casual? Yeah, you could see how she would feel herself to be “the woman scorned” and decide to avenge herself by falsely accusing him of rape seven months after the night in question.

All of that, however, was a preamble to this: Robby Soave at Reason magazine wrote an article with the following headline:

Student Accused of Rape By ‘Mattress Girl’ Sues
Columbia U., Publishes Dozens of Damning Texts

A fair summary of the case, but when it was posted to Tumblr.com, a certain segment of feminist readers went berserk, including one 22-year-old who unleashed this:

Okay, I have something to f–king say about this sh*t, as someone who was raped and isn’t the “ideal” victim.
Like, yes, they had an ongoing sexual relationship.
However, he forced her to have anal sex against her will. Rapist seems to think that previous discussion of anal sex = consent. It is f–king not. You can be having sex with someone and if you start to do something to them they didn’t consent to, that they don’t want, that’s f–king rape.
She still texted him afterward? With “yearning” messages? Oh, wow. I can’t believe real humans who experience emotions are pegging this as evidence that she’s a filthy liar. When you have an established relationship with your rapist, it’s very f–king complicated. I allowed my rapist to torture me for 2½ years. We were dating. I loved him! Maybe, just f–king maybe, this woman continued to care about the man who raped her. That is NOT uncommon at all. And society tells women that when you care about a man, you have to please him. I would send my rapist “sexy” messages because I thought that’s what I had to do to get him to continue caring about me so I wouldn’t have to keep thinking about the rapes and have to cope with it.
f–king f–k all of you, holy f–king SH*T

Do you see the problem here? This anonymous Tumblr blogger says she was tortured by a rapist because she “loved him!”

Maybe I’m hopelessly naïve. Maybe I’ve led a sheltered life.

Maybe the world has changed in the past 30 years, and maybe there are lots of young women who date rapists and let themselves be tortured for 2½ years. “I loved him!”

Or maybe these women are crazy.

Also, maybe, conservatives were right about the Culture War. Maybe raising young people with no religious faith, letting them fill their minds with violence, noise and graphic sex is a bad idea.

Furthermore, the British Independent reported in August 2014:

A study on why teenage heterosexual couples may engage in anal sex has revealed a climate of coercion, with consent and mutuality not always a priority for the boys who are trying to persuade girls into having it.
Researchers at the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine interviewed 130 teenagers aged 16-18 in three sites across the country to “explore expectations, experiences and circumstances of anal sex among young people”.
The qualitative study found that anal heterosex appeared to be “painful, risky and coercive, particularly for women”, while males spoke of being expected to persuade or coerce reluctant partners.
“Anal sex is increasingly prevalent among young people, yet anal intercourse between men and women—although commonly depicted in sexually explicit media—is usually absent from mainstream sexuality education and seems unmentionable in many social contexts,” the study, published on BMJ Open, says.
It found that some young people normalised “coercive, painful and unsafe anal sex,” in an issue that needs to be addressed by health workers and schools in sex education.

Guys: DON’T DO THIS. Stop watching “sexually explicit media” (i.e., porn) and remember that sexual fantasy is called “fantasy” for a reason. All that weird and kinky stuff — especially stuff that is painful, degrading and unsanitary — is not what she wants.

Or if she does want it, she’s probably so crazy you don’t want her.

See paragraph 16 on p. 5 of Nungesser’s lawsuit.

Also, notice the footnote at the bottom of p. 7: Chlamydia.

Feminism and porn are both bad ideas. Butt sex? Bad idea. False rape accusations? Bad idea. You know who likes bad ideas? Crazy women.

Just in case you haven’t been persuaded yet:

A woman diagnosed with herpes at the age of 20 has written an emotional essay about living with the common condition to fight the stigma surrounding it.
Ella Dawson, now 22, said she had never had unprotected sex and thought she “wasn’t the sort of person STDs happened to” when the symptoms first appeared during her time at university in the US.
She found the diagnosis days later devastating, feeling a “tidal wave of shame” hit her in the student health centre. . . .
Six months after being diagnosed, she decided to start telling more people she had herpes to help herself get over the mental block.
Ms Dawson says she never had a negative reaction dropping the “herpes bomb” at parties and in class discussions at the Wesleyan University in Connecticut.

Wesleyan University, annual tuition $47,972. Ella Dawson graduated last year with a bachelor of arts in Feminist, Gender, and Sexuality Studies with a concentration in feminist media analysis.

There is a word for this, and the word is crazy.





 

Category: Sex Trouble

Comments

152 Responses to “Feminism’s ‘Rape Culture’ Insanity”

  1. RS
    April 30th, 2015 @ 5:11 pm

    But I thought fathers were unnecessary to children’s well-being?

  2. Wombat_socho
    April 30th, 2015 @ 7:59 pm

    Stranger things have happened.

  3. Wombat_socho
    April 30th, 2015 @ 8:01 pm

    There’s oppression, then there’s oppression, and then there’s degradation.

  4. Wombat_socho
    April 30th, 2015 @ 8:03 pm

    After a point, as you’ve observed, you don’t have to go looking for it any more; it comes from all directions thanks to social media, 24x7x52.

  5. Wombat_socho
    April 30th, 2015 @ 8:03 pm

    There’s an understatement for the ages.

  6. Wombat_socho
    April 30th, 2015 @ 8:06 pm

    If Groucho Marx could reach you, he would hurt you. >_<

  7. JosephBleau
    April 30th, 2015 @ 8:06 pm

    “Water is the essence of wetness. And wetness is the essence of beauty!” – Derek Zoolander

  8. Wombat_socho
    April 30th, 2015 @ 8:08 pm

    I don’t think it’s ignorance. Remember that on top of porn, you have mainstream magazines like Cosmo encouraging this sort of thing. For empowerment!

  9. JosephBleau
    April 30th, 2015 @ 8:11 pm

    You’ll get a Yugo and like it!!

  10. Robert What?
    April 30th, 2015 @ 9:24 pm

    “Rape Culture” is a new religion in the same way as Global Warming. No amount of evidence can move the devotees. In fact this new religion even has human sacrifices: college aged heterosexual white males.

  11. Taxpayer1234
    April 30th, 2015 @ 10:33 pm

    I grew up in Hammond, went to Ball State. Yeah, Muncie is “normal,” LOL.

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  13. Dindu nuffin
    May 1st, 2015 @ 4:53 am

    Cosmo IS porn for women (and romance novels)

  14. Dindu nuffin
    May 1st, 2015 @ 4:55 am

    Sorry,
    I think its gross, too

  15. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 5:40 am

    Bitter clingers all.

  16. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 5:40 am

    Barking batshit nuts is, I believe, the actual clinical term.

  17. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 5:43 am

    I think Madonna had a similar epiphany. That’s why she relocated to England, to raise her children away from the media culture she so expertly exploited to gain wealth and fame. Most of her fans did not have that option.

  18. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 5:47 am

    A friend and coworker years ago was complaining that his girlfriend wouldn’t let him try anal sex. I suggested that he go to a gay bar and select a young, flexible young man willing to take a submissive role. He protested “But I’m not gay!”

    I replied “So what? An anus is an anus. Don’t tell me you think there’s a difference between a man’s and a woman’s.”

    He never brought up the topic again. Either I ruined the whole idea for him, or he concluded that it was not a safe subject of discussion in my presence.

  19. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 5:49 am

    Oh, I dunno. I hear Trabants are going to be hip and edgy any minute now.

  20. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 5:56 am

    In college I knew a woman who had worked at a woman’s crisis center. Once I asked her why she’d left.

    Two reasons. One, she could no longer deal with the same women coming in again and again, having either gone back to the abusive man or found his doppleganger and two, the center was taken over by a group of lesbian separatists and she could not accept their prescriptions for “fixing” society.

    And this was in the mid seventies. Somehow these damaged people are becoming mainstream.

  21. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 5:58 am

    Actually, yes. I have read furious feminist comments regarding that silly “woman walking in NYC being addressed by low status black and brown men without her permission” video. They actually refer to catcalling as “audible rape.”

    I shichu not.

  22. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 6:01 am

    She can trade stories with Cindy Sheehan in the Cast Off Progressive Icons Club.

  23. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 6:02 am

    When I was at UCSD in the seventies, a standard catch phrase when caught doing something spectacularly stupid or illegal was “F*ck off, this is a performance art project!”

  24. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 6:05 am

    Hell, check out the Rosenberg’s sons. After eventually finding it impossible to claim their parents were not Communist spies, they shifted the story to claiming they were following a higher allegiance.

  25. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 6:09 am

    We only want you to think you’re onto us.

    I’ll leave it to you to consider what our game really is. Be warned though, it will require logic to work out, which is why we’re confident that no woman will ever crack it!

    Bwahahahahahaha!

  26. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 6:10 am

    Ummmm… sorry, did you mention tits?

  27. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 6:13 am

    I think you’ve beaten the living crap out of Poe’s Law. Post that anywhere but here and watch the sisterhood cheer… or make jazz hands anyway.

  28. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 6:15 am

    I think he’s the only man who ever told Chuck Norris “no.” The Most Interesting Man In the World says to him “Really? And then what happened?” Scarlett Johanssen says “Dude, I’d hit that!”

  29. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 6:17 am

    The fact that both doctrines are unfalsifiable is a major tipoff that science is not involved.

  30. disqus_QL05BqU79X
    May 1st, 2015 @ 6:23 am

    “Rape culture” is sanctioned murder. Always has been. Here’s a little heretical truth for the weekend:

    Faking rape has been a weapon of war for millennia. The idea that men – always some nebulous “other” and never the men among our families and friends – will rape “our” women is the sharpest tool for riling up the natural, protective instincts in men. Get a manufactured threat going strong and, before long, men are hanging, shooting, butchering and battering innocent men; soliders, the KKK, the police, citizens…any group can lose their minds over the idea of “their” women being raped when the flames of indoctrinated irrationality are fanned.

    Every nation has used the suggestion of a foreign (or local) threat to our wives, mothers and daughters to stir up aggression. This ancient chivalric code has reached a new, modern peak in the last few years, as male-perpetrated sexual assaults in the West have pretty much bottomed out to virtually nothing (thank porn for that; it has pretty much killed off rape-by-men). Feminist need a strong fake cause, police and courts need to make money. Rape by men has never been more rare, but such rape cases are through the roof. Virtually all of them are fabricated, either by claimant or prosecutor. It’s a really profitable money-spinner. If you think this is conspiracy theory nonsense, you are very naive about the worst excesses of human nature.

    In truth, women here are almost never raped by men. Why would a man stoop to such a needless act unless suffering a combination of (a) childhood abuse victimhood (b) psychopathy; a biological lack of empathy or (c) utter loss of self-control, especially knowing that the punishment for such an act could conceivably be death by a mob, and within minutes?

    It’s a truly rare crime. Vastly more men are raped in prisons every year than women are raped by men, in any country. Women, however, can assault men and boys with impunity. And they do. It’s just almost impossible to report or punish, sadly. Women can even rape a male, and THEN claim they were raped. Kid yourself into thinking that doesn’t happen, I dare you. It does. All the time. It’s just so easy to do! All people are taught to believe only women’s lies and yet women lie about rape using reasons that would be your jaw swing. “Why did you miss this morning’s meeting?” “Umm…*fake tears* I got raped last night.” Really, it’s just staggering, the amount of casual rape nonsense we have to listen to.

    All populist research into rape, porn and so on is pure fiction. Even the most lauded charities have been caught falsifying research to satisfy profitable paradigms. Advocacy study is used to fund agencies who profit from fearmongering. It’s organised crime and should be recognised as such, so that the proponents of the manslaughter and imprisonment of innocent men can actually brought to justice.

    Virtually all rape cases coming through our courts now are fiction, statutory (and thus not actual rape) or simply exaggerations of already distorted claims by women, even by proxy. Feminism has battled hard to keep rape as its bastion of self-justification of its inhuman insanity – and it’s been so childishly easy to do. In fact, the core of feminism is indeed largely rape fantasy in the minds of certain women and an excuse for female-perpetrated rape as a bi-product. Our biggest demographic of rape, sexual assault and coercion victims are teenaged boys – culturally shamed and blamed young men who could not legally fight off an older woman, even if they wanted to.

    If you really want a slogan that reflects the truth about modern sexual assault in the West, try this:

    MEN USE PORN. WOMEN RAPE.

  31. Dana
    May 1st, 2015 @ 6:45 am

    Liberals and Greens drive Yugos; blue-collar working men like me drive trucks.

    You know what the difference is between a Chevy/GMC and a Ford is? Chevy and GMC make pick-ups, but Ford builds trucks.

  32. Dana
    May 1st, 2015 @ 6:48 am

    Oh, I don’t know about that. The only people who’d find a Trabant hip and edgy would be the ones who couldn’t fix anything on it, and you need to be a mechanic if you want to drive a Trabant.

    Let’s face it: a liberal couldn’t even change the oil in his own car.

  33. Dana
    May 1st, 2015 @ 6:48 am

    Heck, today’s libs couldn’t even check the oil in his own car!

  34. Dana
    May 1st, 2015 @ 6:54 am

    And this is a manifestation of immaturity.

    Yeah, there are times that I have f(ornicated) up, and wanted to blame someone else for my misgoofs, but I finally learned that it’s a lot simpler and wiser to accept the responsibility for your own errors. Eventually, and eventually usually isn’t all that long, everyone else is going to realize that the mistake was yours anyway, so you won’t really get away with it for long, and then you also have to endure the humiliation of getting caught in a lie. Admit your mistakes right away, and you get a lot more respect for it.

  35. Daniel Freeman
    May 1st, 2015 @ 7:45 am

    I think it’s cumulative desensitization; if they’re a little more shocking, but not too much, then they’ll get more interest without putting people off. But the effect adds up over time.

    Or in other words, compare the porn of 40 years ago with the porn of today — and then project that trend out another 40 years. (Of course, technological advances may take the place of changes in content, but that’s a whole ‘nother can of worms.)

  36. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 7:56 am

    I just threw in the Trabant as a joke. However, check out Holga and Lomograph cameras. Both hip, trendy and edgy today, both plastic relics of Communism.

    Like the Trabant.

  37. Steve Skubinna
    May 1st, 2015 @ 7:57 am

    Oil? There’s oil in cars! ZOMG! EVERYBODY STOP DRIVING! CARS HAVE OIL IN THEM!!!11!!elebenty!!1!

  38. Neo
    May 1st, 2015 @ 8:40 am

    Please leave your trigger warnings privilege at the door
    #TriggerWarningsPrivilege

  39. Gunga
    May 1st, 2015 @ 8:49 am

    et tu Quartermaster?

  40. TinaTumblrina
    May 1st, 2015 @ 9:24 am

    Your doubting of the true rape status of auditory rape is credibility rape. I am appalled at your sexism. This is the world we live in.

  41. Art Deco
    May 1st, 2015 @ 10:48 am

    The Meeropol/Rosenberg brothers have an out Tony Hiss does not: their parents were executed, the judge in the case had dubious ex parte dealings with the prosecution, and their mother was certainly innocent of anything which would merit a capital sentence.
    The thesis that they were on the side of the angels anyway is one peddled by Ellen Schrecker, who, unlike the Meeropol brothers, is pirofessionally quite prominent (having served a term as president of OAH or AAUP, I forget which). Well, this notion was always latent in the writings of people like Victor Navasky.
    Much of the intelligentsia consists of people who are not your countrymen in any but a narrow legal sense. They should be treated as such and not given subsidized jobs by state governments.

  42. Professor BS Plumpbottom
    May 1st, 2015 @ 11:09 am

    As a BSU grad, I hope you got the “Muncie Normal” reference…

  43. Julie Pascal
    May 1st, 2015 @ 1:06 pm

    Women do seem to either stay with abusive guys or find another that’s abusive. I’ve had people say things like, “you were lucky.” No. I wasn’t *lucky*. Way back in high school I watched girls continue to date abusive guys they weren’t even married to, so it’s not like social pressure was making them stay in a marriage. I’ve talked to women who married a guy who got crazy and had NO trouble leaving him. I’ve talked to (and hopefully helped her leave) a woman who stayed with a guy because while *she* could hide from him, he “knew where her family lived.” A kid in my high school shot and killed his dad for beating his mom. I talked to a guy who said his brother treated women like sh*t and they just kept flocking to him. Like the worse he treated them the more they thought he must be worth it.

    Saying it’s complicated is almost trite. OTOH, parts really aren’t complicated. A woman who is “unlucky” in this way has to straighten herself out, somehow. Because it’s not luck.

  44. Dana
    May 1st, 2015 @ 1:33 pm

    Some of us even send him stuff when we find it!

  45. Feminism’s ‘Rape Culture’ Insanity |
    May 1st, 2015 @ 8:30 pm

    […] the Other McCain: Does anyone else remember the “Culture War” of the 1990s? Conservatives like Bill Bennett and Robert Bork argued at the time that the decadence of popular culture — as evidenced in everything from gangsta rap to video games to Quentin Tarantino movies — was corrupting morality, inciting violence and sexual perversion. Here we are, two decades later and feminists are saying basically the same thing. […]

  46. Steve Skubinna
    May 2nd, 2015 @ 5:22 am

    Um, let me guess… You can’t even?

  47. Daniel Freeman
    May 2nd, 2015 @ 7:38 am

    That would make everything odd.

  48. Steve Skubinna
    May 2nd, 2015 @ 7:48 am

    No, just her.

  49. Steve Skubinna
    May 2nd, 2015 @ 11:24 am

    Also, the sooner you admit them the sooner you can clean them up.

    And the sooner you can find new mistakes to make.

    Winning!

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