Posted on | February 22, 2014 | 77 Comments
Evangelical Christianity makes visible — through purity pledges and doctrine assigning women the role of man’s “helpmate” — the norms and expectations about female virginity and subservience that so often remain hidden in the secular world. While it may be tempting to draw a red line around Christian fundamentalist views on gender and sexuality to distinguish them from supposedly evolved “secular” culture, there is considerable, uncomfortable overlap between the two. . . .
(Watch out! Heteronormative patriarchy is comin’ to get ya!)
Susan Patton is a joke, but she’s not the only person arguing in mainstream publications that women who have sex outside of marriage are setting themselves up for disaster and heartbreak. (Hi, Ross Douthat!)
In an opinion piece for the Wall Street Journal last week, Patton warned single women, “The grandmotherly message of yesterday is still true today: Men won’t buy the cow if the milk is free.”
This is purity culture passed off as “commonsense” wisdom, which was published in a “serious” and secular paper.
Well, she goes on from there, all of it inspired by an article by Kiera Feldman in The New Republic, about which I’d written a few hundred words that got gobbled up by a computer glitch, and I don’t feel like re-writing it. Basically, if you don’t want to travel The Strait and Narrow Way, there are many on-ramps for the Highway to Hell. The idea that somebody is forcing women to adhere to a Christian moral code is one of those persecution fantasies that feminists cherish as justifying their eternal vigilance for “choice.”
In what amounts to little more than an anti-Christian hit piece on Patrick Henry College . . . Ms. McDonough says that it’s time for American women to reject all those biblically imposed “gender complementarian” norms and do away with our “toxic purity culture” once and for all.
Nobody is trying to stop Katie McDonough from whoring around, so why does she feel threatened by “purity culture”? Why do feminists reject moral criticism of fornication — that’s “slut-shaming”! — but accept criticism of fornication by radical lesbian feminists who denounce heterosexual PIV (penis-in-vagina) as “always rape“?
If you study feminist writing carefully, you discover that the ideology presents young women with two alternatives:
- Have sex with lots of men, because that’s “empowering”!
- Be a lesbian, which is even more “empowering”!
The one option feminism emphatically condemns is traditional Judeo-Christian moral teaching about pre-marital chastity.
“[T]he idea of ‘virginity’ in our culture . . . [is] an extremely problematic concept, bolstering up a highly heteronormative hierarchy of what is and isn’t defined as sex.”
– Jess McCabe, “‘Virginity’ is an outdated concept”
“Even the way we see sexual intercourse is male-defined! . . . What we understand about this concept of virginity, in a sense, invalidates queer sex. . . .
“Society has embedded within our minds that when a woman loses her virginity, she loses something . . . All of this isn’t such a surprise of course when we remember that for centuries, women have been seen as property and not individual human beings. The concept of virginity reinforces this idea, that a woman’s worth is intrinsically linked to her sexuality.”
– Hew Li-Sha, “A Feminist Interpretation of the First Time”
“The idea of your first penis-in-vagina sexual encounter being something significant and life altering (well, for women anyway) has origins in women being considered property.
“That is to say, virginity is a social construction that came about because of the commodification of women. . . .
“Virginity is heteronormative.
“Virginity assumes that penis-in-vagina sex is somehow a special type of sex that is different from all others.
“This means that there is an assumption that engaging in heterosexual vaginal sex is the standard (and should be) for your sexual activities.
“Heterosexuality is the norm, and virginity just works as reinforcement to this.”
– Erin McKelle, “Losing Virginity for Good”
Take notes — this will be on the final exam. The basic feminist idea is that if you have moral objections to screwing around, you’re not only a victim of the patriarchy, you’re a gay-bashing hater, too. You’re invalidating “queer sex” and “bolstering up a highly heteronormative hierarchy.”
Is it a coincidence that this rhetoric sounds like it belongs in a book, Lesbian Pick-Up Lines for Women’s Studies Majors?