Because @kmcdonovgh Knows You’re a Victim of Heteronormative Patriarchy

Posted on | February 22, 2014 | 77 Comments

Salon.com assistant editor Katie McDonough:

Evangelical Christianity makes visible — through purity pledges and doctrine assigning women the role of man’s “helpmate” — the norms and expectations about female virginity and subservience that so often remain hidden in the secular world. While it may be tempting to draw a red line around Christian fundamentalist views on gender and sexuality to distinguish them from supposedly evolved “secular” culture, there is considerable, uncomfortable overlap between the two. . . .

(Watch out! Heteronormative patriarchy is comin’ to get ya!)

Susan Patton is a joke, but she’s not the only person arguing in mainstream publications that women who have sex outside of marriage are setting themselves up for disaster and heartbreak. (Hi, Ross Douthat!)
In an opinion piece for the Wall Street Journal last week, Patton warned single women, “The grandmotherly message of yesterday is still true today: Men won’t buy the cow if the milk is free.”
This is purity culture passed off as “commonsense” wisdom, which was published in a “serious” and secular paper.

Well, she goes on from there, all of it inspired by an article by Kiera Feldman in The New Republic, about which I’d written a few hundred words that got gobbled up by a computer glitch, and I don’t feel like re-writing it. Basically, if you don’t want to travel The Strait and Narrow Way, there are many on-ramps for the Highway to Hell. The idea that somebody is forcing women to adhere to a Christian moral code is one of those persecution fantasies that feminists cherish as justifying their eternal vigilance for “choice.”

Matt Barber takes a whack at the feminist piñata:

In what amounts to little more than an anti-Christian hit piece on Patrick Henry College . . . Ms. McDonough says that it’s time for American women to reject all those biblically imposed “gender complementarian” norms and do away with our “toxic purity culture” once and for all.

Nobody is trying to stop Katie McDonough from whoring around, so why does she feel threatened by “purity culture”? Why do feminists reject moral criticism of fornication — that’s “slut-shaming”! — but accept criticism of fornication by radical lesbian feminists who denounce heterosexual PIV (penis-in-vagina) as “always rape“?

If you study feminist writing carefully, you discover that the ideology presents young women with two alternatives:

Have sex with lots of men, because that’s “empowering”!
or
Be a lesbian, which is even more “empowering”!

The one option feminism emphatically condemns is traditional Judeo-Christian moral teaching about pre-marital chastity.

“[T]he idea of ‘virginity’ in our culture . . . [is] an extremely problematic concept, bolstering up a highly heteronormative hierarchy of what is and isn’t defined as sex.”
— Jess McCabe, “‘Virginity’ is an outdated concept”

“Even the way we see sexual intercourse is male-defined! . . . What we understand about this concept of virginity, in a sense, invalidates queer sex. . . .
“Society has embedded within our minds that when a woman loses her virginity, she loses something . . . All of this isn’t such a surprise of course when we remember that for centuries, women have been seen as property and not individual human beings. The concept of virginity reinforces this idea, that a woman’s worth is intrinsically linked to her sexuality.”
— Hew Li-Sha, “A Feminist Interpretation of the First Time”

“The idea of your first penis-in-vagina sexual encounter being something significant and life altering (well, for women anyway) has origins in women being considered property.
“That is to say, virginity is a social construction that came about because of the commodification of women. . . .
“Virginity is heteronormative.
“Virginity assumes that penis-in-vagina sex is somehow a special type of sex that is different from all others.
“This means that there is an assumption that engaging in heterosexual vaginal sex is the standard (and should be) for your sexual activities.
“Heterosexuality is the norm, and virginity just works as reinforcement to this.”
— Erin McKelle, “Losing Virginity for Good”

Take notes — this will be on the final exam. The basic feminist idea is that if you have moral objections to screwing around, you’re not only a victim of the patriarchy, you’re a gay-bashing hater, too. You’re invalidating “queer sex” and “bolstering up a highly heteronormative hierarchy.”

Is it a coincidence that this rhetoric sounds like it belongs in a book, Lesbian Pick-Up Lines for Women’s Studies Majors?

Category: Feminism

Comments

77 Responses to “Because @kmcdonovgh Knows You’re a Victim of Heteronormative Patriarchy”

K-Bob
February 22nd, 2014 @ 6:27 pm

Reminds me of the “Praise the Lord anyway” magnet that’s been on my Mom’s fridge for thirty years.
MattRoss
February 22nd, 2014 @ 7:06 pm

They’ll call it a “re-education camp,” Yeah, that’s it.
DaveO
February 22nd, 2014 @ 9:34 pm

You loathe rad fems, but hate conservatives. Prop 8 in Cali was overturned by leftists who go to Christian churches, in combination with leftists who go to Mormon churches. So, is it conservatism that you hate, or moral law?
cmdr358
February 22nd, 2014 @ 10:36 pm

Ahhh…the voice of liberalism.

What kind of person trolls a website and ridicules the personal beliefs of a complete stranger?

Live and let live man. Nobody’s making you believe or do anything.

Don’t be such a loser.
storibund
February 22nd, 2014 @ 11:14 pm

While it may be tempting to draw a red line around Christian fundamentalist views on gender

What is it with lefties and their red lines?
Durasim
February 22nd, 2014 @ 11:46 pm

At first I thought “Slut Walks” were just degenerate gatherings where histrionic repellent females demanded that men must only praise and laud female promiscuity. That is bad enough in its own right. But some observers have noticed that these so called “Slut Walks” are really militant lesbian gatherings by another name.

http://www.the-spearhead.com/2011/07/25/how-many-lesbian-parades-does-portland-need/
Kirby McCain
February 22nd, 2014 @ 11:50 pm

There is none. A delusional person has a different reality constructed purely in their head. They can see the same thing as you or I but it gets incorporated into a fantasy world. I know that you know all this. But think about Manson’s Helter Skelter, how different is this? Crazy Charlie managed to infect quite a few with his insanity. He brainwashed them! Isn’t that what’s really going on?
Bob Belvedere
February 23rd, 2014 @ 12:29 am

And old Charlie, he brainwashed the ladies mostly.
Nan
February 23rd, 2014 @ 1:22 am

I can’t think when I see those words.
Käthe
February 23rd, 2014 @ 2:55 am

As gay marriage is a done deal and the march towards the “right” to acquire children even if you cannot produce them naturally is probably next on the list, my mind sometimes wanders into dystopian scenarios for what comes next. As a blue collar woman and mom of daughters, I wonder if in 20 years young working class women will be expected to consider providing offspring for elderly elite women and gay males a viable career path or maybe even moral obligation that must be fulfilled before being considered fit to parent their own children.
Nan
February 23rd, 2014 @ 3:01 am

We’re already on that path, with college girls being targeted to sell their eggs to provide fertility for an older or infertile woman; I don’t think they’d want any but beautiful or brilliant women (probably both) to bear their children.
Adjoran
February 23rd, 2014 @ 3:43 am

There is a difference between lust and attraction.

Learn it. Love it. Live it.
Adjoran
February 23rd, 2014 @ 3:44 am

Are you just an idiot? Who said anything like that? Your fevered imagination?
Adjoran
February 23rd, 2014 @ 3:46 am

It’s getting close to becoming a viable drinking game, though.
Adjoran
February 23rd, 2014 @ 3:48 am

Salon uses click bait, sure, but they don’t see it as wackadoodle or mentally unstable at all. Joan Walsh edits the . . . thing, and no one ever accused her of being insightful.
Adjoran
February 23rd, 2014 @ 3:49 am

Are animals subject to the heteronormative patriarchy, too? They also use the “rapey” PIV approach to perpetuate their species, the sexist bastards.
Käthe
February 23rd, 2014 @ 4:06 am

Well for the eggs, sure, they want beauty, wit, and a creepy level of ethnic purity. But to be a holding cell, they prefer economically desperate and humble. See the factories of “surrogates” they have already set up in India and other impoverished countries. Edited to add: also, Chinese aristocrats are hiring American women on the cheap to be surrogates, the baby then gets citizenship and a clear path into US colleges.
Eric Johnson
February 23rd, 2014 @ 10:36 am

In the real estate world of Realtors and lenders, those “red lines” are forbidden and harshly enforced. Odd that these ladies consider them OK for their usage.
Eric Johnson
February 23rd, 2014 @ 10:38 am

I’m still trying to find where the feminist have been on the evolutionary tree. I keep coming up with very short dead ends. Has anyone else had any better luck?

I mean, science and all.
Eric Johnson
February 23rd, 2014 @ 10:41 am

What? You mean that leftist rag of a website is a Capitalistic machine preying on lonesome readers for profits?

I’m shocked, I’m telling you… oh it’s Salon… nevermind…
MattRoss
February 23rd, 2014 @ 12:45 pm

it’s not a reality, it’s a contrived unreality.
Quartermaster
February 23rd, 2014 @ 3:46 pm

Which is why they are acting insane at this point. It’s a matter of desperation.
Quartermaster
February 23rd, 2014 @ 3:46 pm

You left off the “!”
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