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Common Man-Hating Feminism

Posted on | February 11, 2015 | 69 Comments

“I’m so tired of masculinity. And male aggression. And male voyeurism. And male arrogance. And male mediocrity. And how we’re conditioned to normalize it.”
Zuriya at

What inspired that declaration? That 24-word anti-male outburst was published on Tumblr a week ago and has already acquired more than 3,000 likes or reblogs. The young woman who posted it is the child of Eritrean refugees, living in Southern California, and has absorbed from her American education many typical progressive attitudes inculcated by our public school system. She is a Muslim, and does not seem to recognize (or at least does not acknowledge) that the anti-male attitudes of her feminism are fundamentally incompatible with Islam.

“Why am I not solely dating women at this point in my life like men have so little good to offer this world.”

Good luck getting your imam to sign off on that idea, Zuriya. Now, let’s hear about your actual relationships with men:

I was talking about my boyfriend/partner/whatever . . . to a good friend a few weeks ago and like, I don’t get giddy about men. I never have. I have never seen men as an essential and important and necessary part of my life. If we broke up, I’d just keep it pushin TBH. I was with a guy for five years and I hardly felt butterflies. It just isn’t my demeanor. Men are overwhelmingly to some extent f–kboys and I’m just not concerned with getting into my feelings about them. Idk, outwardly displays of overzealous affection are just corny AF me.

And some more:

I love being in a long distance relationship. I have horrible anxiety and depression and have been trying through medication and lifestyle changes to get that under control. Right now, my priorities include work, school, my bills, friends and then my relationship. I’m grateful for this indefinite separation because it gives me time to get my life together. I’m not getting married for another few years at least, until I have my Masters and life set together . . . I need to be committed to myself before I can commit to someone else and this solitude gradually allows me to do that.

Well, there it is again, you see?

How often have we noted the correlation between feminism and mental illness? Depression and anxiety seem to be nearly ubiquitous in the feminist movement. Self-harm and eating disorders are also common, and we occasionally encounter diagnoses of personality disorders as well. There is a clear pattern: Young women who view men as irresponsible and untrustworthy “f–kboys,” women whose emotional instability is serious enough to require psychiatric intervention — such are the unhappy women who find that feminism’s hostility to the existing social order offers a rationalization of their discontents.

Have they never read Eric Hoffer’s The True Believer: Thoughts on the Nature of Mass Movements? Do they not recognize themselves as the frustrated misfits Hoffer described?

Those who see their lives as spoiled and wasted crave equality and fraternity more than they do freedom. If they clamor for freedom, it is but freedom to establish equality and uniformity. . . .
Those who clamor loudest for freedom are often the ones least likely to be happy in a free society. The frustrated, oppressed by their shortcomings, blame their failure on existing restraints. Actually their innermost desire is for an end to the ‘free for all.’ They want to eliminate free competition and the ruthless testing to which the individual is continually subjected in a free society.

So it is that the feminist movement attracts to its banner frustrated women “who see their lives as spoiled and wasted,” women who require a scapegoat to “blame [for] their failure” and who find in feminism’s anti-male ideology a ready-made excuse for their unhappiness. Yet for every miserable misfit grumbling about “masculinity . . . male aggression . . . male arrogance . . . male mediocrity” on the Internet, there are many more happy women going about their normal lives, without mental illness and without feminism. If we compared the objective circumstances of any two women, one self-identifying as feminist and the other rejecting the “feminist” label, what difference would distinguish them?

Are anti-feminist women on average more “privileged” than the militant man-haters? I seriously doubt it. In fact, I think generally the opposite is true: One does not commonly encounter working-class women reading Judith Butler and ranting about the gender binary and the heterosexual matrix. Whatever the normal woman’s complaints about her relationships with men, she does not construe her problems in terms of academic theory and political ideology.

Understanding the ‘F–kboy’ Syndrome

There isn’t a lot of theory in Zuriya’s feminism. She cites no authors and does not sling around trendy academic jargon. Rather, she expresses anti-male attitudes in the rhetoric of popular culture. For example, the term “f–kboy” seems to have originated as a homophobic putdown, suggesting effeminate weakness, but was adapted by women as an all-purpose slur, so that “f–kboy” is now “a pejorative toward men who are perceived as oversexed or disrespectful toward women.”

Is Zuriya correct? Are men “overwhelmingly to some extent f–kboys”? No, but a wise woman is naturally cautious toward any man who shows an interest in her, lest he prove to be a “player” who wants to run his game on her. Anyone observing the behavior of young men on the prowl recognizes the “f–kboy” type who seems to think himself entitled to an unlimited supply of enthusiastic partners for casual sex, and who has no interest in a committed relationship.

The question feminists cannot answer is, “Whence does this f–kboy attitude arise?” Where do these guys develop the attitude that every woman they meet is irrepressibly horny and ready to go?

Feminists are eager to blame “culture” and “society” for men’s bad attitudes toward women, because it would not advance the feminist agenda to admit that f–kboys are f–kboys because too many young women actually are irrepressibly horny and ready to go. These young women have adopted the ideas of sexual “empowerment” advanced by so-called “pro-sex feminists” and, abandoning all concern for their own dignity, pursued a false “equality” by enacting a simulacrum of what they suppose to be a male prerogative, shameless promiscuity. Ask any parent of teenage boys how it is. If your son is reasonably attractive and popular, he will be more or less besieged by lovestruck girls by the time he finishes middle school. Certainly, a good-looking teenage boy doesn’t need to expend any strenuous effort to land a girlfriend, and the reversal of customary roles (wherein the boy was the romantic pursuer and the girl was pursued) is so common that every day is now Sadie Hawkins Day.

This “Girls Gone Wild” culture of unrestrained female promiscuity, which “pro-sex” feminists have actively encouraged, creates an environment where the f–kboy attitude becomes commonplace. Lectures about “safe sex,” combined with a systemic hostility to religion and traditional morality, have the effect of turning public schools into training camps for sluts and f–kboys. Young people are taught that sex is only about hedonistic pleasure, and that any sexual behavior is acceptable so long as it is “safe.”

Schools now teach kids: “God is dead. Sex is fun. Use a condom.”

Parents in many cases actually endorse this attitude, because today’s young people were born in the 1990s, when “safe sex” became the prevailing mantra of public education.

Irresponsible parents raise irresponsible children, and the flight from responsibility — the childish desire to live in NerfWorld, where everything is padded to protect us against the consequences of our actions — produces f–kboys, selfish hedonists who cannot be trusted.

From a semi-humorous list of their habits:

He’s constantly begging for nudes.
F–kboys are hungry and desperate for female attention. They feed their f–kboy ways with nude pics from the dozens of girls they talk to on Tinder, OkC, Reddit, and other random sites. He hides his phone when he gets a Snapchat because he knows it’s gonna be some girl’s nudies. For every one nude pic you send, he’s getting like 10 others from other chicks. . . .
He’s disrespectful to his mother.
A man who doesn’t respect his mother is just a f–kboy you don’t have time for. If he treats his mom like sh*t, just think about how he’s going to treat you when the honeymoon phase wears off. Yes, it’s important to see how he treats both of his both parents, but how he respects his mother is a clear reflection as to how he views women in his life.
He never wants to be seen in public with you.
He always has some excuse for why you two can’t be seen together. He’s busy, doesn’t feel like going out, whatever. If a man isn’t proud to be seen with then obviously you’re just a sidepiece for this
f–kboy. . . .

Read the whole thing, and ask yourself: Where do guys get the idea they can treat women like that? Answer: From women who let themselves be treated like that. From women who have been taught that it’s “empowering” to be sexually promiscuous and pursue hookups, women who have been taught to scoff at virtue, women who have been taught that “equality” is the only moral standard.

The Inexorable Logic of ‘Equality’

Whether or not a regime of “sexual equality” is even possible, we ought to ask whether such equality is actually desirable.

“Wow, he’s so equal,” said no woman ever. A woman wants a man who is in some way her superior, a man she can respect and rely upon, someone who brings to a relationship personal attributes, economic assets and social status greater than her own. Of course, no woman wishes to be weak, helpless and dependent, and she does not want a man to treat her as his inferior, but she can never love a man she cannot also admire. A man must bring “value added” to her life.

Feminism’s advocacy of “sexual equality” actually deprives women of the opportunity for that kind of positive relationship. Feminists constantly derogate masculinity and express an ideological hostility to male achievement, viewing male-female relations as a competitive zero-sum game in which a man’s success can only be explained in terms of discrimination against women. If men achieve success only though the oppression of women, as feminists believe, then the most successful man must therefore also be the most oppressive man.

The logic is inexorable. If ending women’s oppression requires ending male supremacy, this will require the enactment of policies to deprive men of educational and economic opportunity, to redistribute wealth and social status from men to women. Men must be discouraged from pursuing high-paying careers in order that women may have a greater share of those careers, for how else is “equality” to be achieved?

Is it any wonder, then, that the young woman finds the men she meets are selfish, immature f–kboys whose only interest in women is whatever hedonistic pleasure they can provide? In a world where male-female relations are viewed as a remorseless power struggle between antagonistic competitors, what basis can there be for voluntary cooperation between men and women? Where are the incentives for men to be anything better than f–kboys?

Many problems facing young women today are actually caused by feminism’s “success” in destroying the social order. If feminism is the cause of your problems, the solution is not more feminism.



69 Responses to “Common Man-Hating Feminism”

  1. Jim R
    February 12th, 2015 @ 10:09 am

    I absolutely lust for love tall women, 6′ women. (I’m 6’2″ myself).

    Of course, my wife is 5′ nothing, but I wouldn’t trade her in.

    I suggest that this demonstrates something that feminists and f*ckboys (two sides of the same battered and worthless coin, IMO) don’t get:

    There is a LOT more to a healthy relationship between a man and a woman than physical attraction and sex.

    You say that you wouldn’t trade in your 5′ nothing wife despite your attraction to taller women. Would I be wrong in believing that it’s because her personal qualities – personality, intellect, sense of humor, sense of responsibility, common sense, &c. – trump your attraction to a taller woman?

    It seems to me that the f*ckboy hasn’t figured out that a woman is a whole lot more than just a body to be enjoyed… and the feminist hasn’t figured out that a man isn’t going to be attracted to her – much less “good” to – her just because she’s got a… um… just because she’s female.

    Strange how our stodgy, prudish, hypocritical ancestors seems to have understood this better than we do…

  2. DeadMessenger
    February 12th, 2015 @ 12:17 pm

    That article was awesome! Thanks for linking it!

  3. RKae
    February 12th, 2015 @ 12:30 pm

    “Male voyeurism.”

    Must be tough being a feminist. You have to be a leftist, which means not stifling other people’s sexuality, but you also have to decry men’s love of porn.

  4. Evi L. Bloggerlady
    February 12th, 2015 @ 1:09 pm

    Did you ever see Dead Calm with Nicole Kidman all naked on that boat?

    Enough said!

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  6. Fail Burton
    February 12th, 2015 @ 2:10 pm

    I honestly don’t see anything “leftist” about these people. People disconnected from reality and love will use any shill in a storm to most effectively hide their madness and hatred. That just happens to be pop culture notions of what “leftism” is.

    This is not a political issue but goofs who have claimed that. It’s easier to assert men are an oppressive ideology than admit you have a hatred and phobia of men and heterosexuality. That’s the whole point of the doubletalk. “We’re here to help you” or “We come in peace” have disturbing overtones in the hands of these madwomen.

    They say “equality” and “diversity” on TV and to each other say straight out the entire thing has to burn and that they have no interest in being equals in a system that is corrupt in every way imaginable. People always make up “reasons” they saw an alien in their bedroom. They’re here doing experiments, they are observing us, they don’t show themselves because of human violence. Saying gender is performance isn’t politics but madness.

  7. Dana
    February 12th, 2015 @ 2:26 pm


  8. Dana
    February 12th, 2015 @ 2:31 pm

    I don’t worry about the man-haters; I wasn’t planning on mating with them anyway.

    Our esteemed host is spending a lot of time writing about what is essentially a fringe movement; only about 2% of humans are homosexual, and that means that 98% of women are normal, and don’t hate men, because they love men. The 2% think that they can somehow recruit normal women into swelling their numbers, but nature is nature, and that’ll never happen.

  9. K-Bob
    February 12th, 2015 @ 2:53 pm

    Kind of like a Klein Bottle, philosophically.

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  11. Quartermaster
    February 12th, 2015 @ 4:31 pm

    2% are queer, but more are feminist without being queer. I don’t know how many are the latter, but would have to say that the 98% figure is probably a bit off. Maybe more along the lines of 95%, but that’s just a SWAG on my part.

    Before you go off the deep end on me, I’m not allowed a WAG since I’m an Engineer.

  12. Jeanette Victoria
    February 12th, 2015 @ 5:27 pm

    It’s gotten so if anyone tells me they have a university education I just assume that might as well be an idiot as they will beleive as gospel dozens of absurdities (like some women have a penis).

    Sadly parents PAY good money to have their kids made into automatons of irrational hate

  13. Jeanette Victoria
    February 12th, 2015 @ 5:32 pm

    And they won’t find a man then either. I remember when it was all over the news that older women were more likely to be killed by a terrorist. I hate to break it to the nay sayers a REAL feminine woman who likes men has NO problems finding men at any age.

  14. Jeanette Victoria
    February 12th, 2015 @ 5:33 pm

    He prolly has free access to both the TV and the internet unsupervised

  15. Squid Hunt
    February 13th, 2015 @ 1:36 pm

    And his own cell phone.

  16. Squid Hunt
    February 13th, 2015 @ 1:37 pm

    I’d even spot them a couple male feminists to do with as their society pleases.

  17. Jeanette Victoria
    February 13th, 2015 @ 1:56 pm

    With texting

  18. Mike G.
    February 13th, 2015 @ 10:11 pm

    That would ruin the whole premise of my statement, unless you mean to foist a few eunuchs on them. 😉

  19. Squid Hunt
    February 14th, 2015 @ 12:26 pm

    I think they’d still kill themselves off.