Why Do Drunk Sluts Get Drunk?

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“Campus sexual assault is an all-hands-on-deck epidemic in America.”
— Rep. Nancy Pelosi, July 7, 2015

Pardon the deliberately provocative clickbait headline, but the campus “rape culture” discourse keeps avoiding this issue. There is an obvious connection between (a) claims that sexual assault is an “epidemic” among college and university students; (b) the phenomenon of binge drinking among students, most of whom are below the legal drinking age; and (c) the adamant insistence of feminists that it is “slut-shaming” and “victim blaming” to suggest how (a) and (b) are most likely related.

A blog post is probably not an appropriate forum to conduct a psychology seminar, but anyone familiar with the research knows how promiscuity correlates with low self-esteem, and how alcohol abuse correlates with depression. It is not necessary to consult the work of academic experts, however, to know that drunks commonly wake up with hangovers and feelings of profound remorse for the irresponsible behavior they engaged in during their night of extreme inebriation.

“The plural of ‘anecdote’ is data,” as they say. There is a negative feedback loop of low self-esteem, drunkenness, impulsive behavior, shame and depression involved in the typical downward spiral of the alcoholic’s life. Getting the drunk to sober up and stay sober is usually just the beginning of recovery, because there are always unresolved emotional issues related to this pattern of irresponsible behavior.

What does it tell us, then, when we repeatedly see stories about alleged “sexual assault” which, when subjected to close scrutiny, turn out to be variations on the same familiar tale of youthful misadventure? Two drunk teenagers hooked up, then the female drunk teenager claimed (often months after the incident) that she was raped by the male drunk teenager? This is actually becoming part of the “consent” message:

Jake was drunk. Josie was drunk.
Jake and Josie hooked up.
Josie could NOT consent.
The next day Jake was charged with rape.
A woman who is intoxicated cannot give her legal consent to sex, so proceeding under these circumstances is a crime.
It only takes a single day to ruin your life.
Think about it! Be responsible.

Are you kidding me? While we may say it is always “irresponsible” to get drunk and have sex, this is something college kids do quite routinely. When two people are both in “these circumstances,” how can anyone fairly assert that the male is guilty of a felony, while a drunken hookup makes the female a helpless victim? How does such a claim — that males bear 100% responsibility in heterosexual encounters, and that females never bear any responsibility — comport with the idea that feminism is about men and women being equal? Am I the only one who sees how “social justice” in this context becomes the exact opposite of justice?

[University of Minnesota student body president Joelle] Stangler describes yes means yes policies as “common practice.” But these policies are anything but common practice. People don’t have sex by asking “May I kiss you?” “May I touch you here?” etc. . . .
Really, anything the accuser decides later they didn’t like can become grounds for an accusation. And if the accuser was drinking, consent is automatically negated, even if the accused had been drinking as well (and would presumably therefore be unable to consent). The policy shifts the burden of proof onto the accused, meaning they have to prove a crime didn’t happen, which, short of a video recording, is impossible in a he said/she said situation.

Under “these circumstances” — where radical feminists are demanding the implementation of policies that have the effect of criminalizing heterosexuality on campus and denying male students their basic civil rights — every college boy who hooks up with a college girl should be advised to seek psychiatric treatment immediately, because any guy who has sex on campus in 2015 must obviously be crazy.

Any attempt to discuss the “affirmative consent” agenda, especially in the context of due-process rights and the climate of anti-male hysteria feminists have created on campus, results in skeptics being branded “rape apologists.” Shrugging off this slander is easy enough for an adult — what do I care what a left-wing Minnesota college kid thinks of me? — but what we must take seriously is how this rhetoric functions as a terroristic intimidation tactic that silences dissent on campus. Ms. Stangler’s student government produced a 20-page report entitled “Guys Don’t Get Consent” (PDF) which made no mention of false accusations and said nothing at all about the psychological factors involved in binge drinking and sexual promiscuity among college-age females. Instead, the UM report blamed “masculinity” and asserted (based on a survey of about 60 male students and focus groups with 18 of those) that male students at the university are all clueless creeps:

“Telling guys to ‘stop at no’ is useless. They already know that no means no. What they don’t know is that not-yes also means no. The idea of affirmative consent is foreign.”

Feminist crusaders like Ms. Stangler seem to believe new laws and mandatory lectures about “affirmative consent” are the solution, but parents of male college students can implement a far more effective solution: Tell your sons to avoid female students, period.

When your sons return to campus this fall, they will enter a climate where all male students are viewed as rape suspects, where new federal policies encourage rape accusations, where accusations are treated as tantamount to proof of guilt, and where university officials are under heavy pressure from the Obama administration to increase the number of punitive procedures against male students. Any heterosexual activity on campus poses a grave risk for male students in this climate of frenzied hysteria, where feminists are hunting for rapists with more fanatical zeal than 17th-century Puritans hunted witches in Salem.

Responsible parents must sternly warn their sons going off to college not only to avoid sex with female students, but also never to speak to any woman on campus. The feminist campaign against masculinity, as evidenced in the University of Minnesota report, will have the effect of producing accusations of “harassment” against male students who attempt to flirt with female students, or who say or do anything that any female student may find offensive.

What do feminists find offensive? Men having sex with women.

“That consent rather than nonmutuality is the line between rape and intercourse further exposes the inequality in normal social expectations. . . . If sex is ordinarily accepted as something men do to women, the better question would be whether consent is a meaningful concept. . . .
“Sexuality, then, is a form of power. . . Women and men are divided by gender, made into the sexes as we know them, by the social requirements of heterosexuality, which institutionalizes male sexual dominance and female sexual submission.”
— Catharine MacKinnon, “Feminism, Marxism, Method, and the State: An Agenda for Theory” (1982)

The Feminist-Industrial Complex of Women’s Studies programs on the 21st-century campus teaches female students to hate and fear men. Before parents send a son off to college, they should advise him to expect that he will be viewed with contempt and suspicion by every female on campus. No matter how handsome he is or how popular he was in high school, your son would be a fool to presume that any female college student might ever find him attractive. Your son’s confidence in his judgment, based on his previous romantic successes, could be the hubris that precedes nemesis in so many campus tragedies.

If anyone thinks I am exaggerating the dangers facing male college students, let them consider what happened to Paul Nungesser, what happened to Daniel Kopin, and what happened to Joshua Strange. Or consider the cases discussed by Professor K.C. Johnson at Minding the Campus. Over and over, we have seen these stories of male students who had no idea that they had encountered nemesis in the form of a female student whose emotional problems would result in accusations of sexual assault. Nor did these male students realize that such an accusation — often many weeks or months after the incident — would put them into the Kafkaesque nightmare of campus disciplinary tribunals where an accused student has none of the civil rights afforded to any common criminal in a court of law. Feminists have a cynical contempt for truth and no regard at all for the rights of innocent men destroyed by such false accusations. This dishonest campaign of deliberate cruelty is making more and more males casualties “in the Obama administration’s war on men,” as James Taranto of the Wall Street Journal said.

Promiscuity is rampant among female college students, many of whom are infected with sexually transmitted diseases. Wesleyan University’s Ella Dawson is infected with herpes, which is incurable, and a footnote on page 7 of Paul Nungesser’s lawsuit mentions that his accuser Emma Sulkowicz was reportedly treated for chlamydia. “According to Stanford University’s Sexual Health Peer Resource Center, 1 in 4 college students have an STD,” Dr. Laura Berman reports, and parents must warn their sons against this danger. Even if he were willing to accept such a grave risk to his health, however, the male student must be warned that many females on campus are psychologically disturbed.

Joelle Stengler reports that 25 percent of University of Minnesota students have mental health problems, and college-age women are particularly prone to these disorders. The student newspaper at the University of Michigan profiled a mentally ill female student they called “Maria” who has been twice arrested for assaulting police officers while in drunken blackouts. Maria is being treated with four different drugs:

The Klonopin treats her anxiety. The Lomictal and Seroquel act as mood stabilizers. The Vyvanse helps her focus. . . .
Over the last decade, it has become more and more common for college-aged women to be on the types of medication that Maria takes. The chance of a major depressive episode in 18 to 29-year-olds is three times higher than in individuals 60 years or older, according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.
Most of these episodes occur in females. A quarter of American women take a drug for a mental health disorder, compared to 15 percent of men. The ratio of women to men on anti-anxiety meds is 2 to 1.

Whereas emotionally unbalanced young women were once institutionalized in psychiatric wards, now they are on university campuses and, like Maria at Michigan, many mentally ill female students “self-medicate” with alcohol. How can any male student know whether the girl he hooks up with at a college party — drinking, dancing, seemingly eager to be his sexual partner — is among the 1-in-4 with mental health problems? Wouldn’t he be safer if he operated with the assumption that every girl at the party is a psychiatric basket case, a deranged crazy-bomb just waiting to explode?





 

69 comments

  1. If josie is considered not responsible for her actions re: consented to sex because she’s drunk, why is jake considered responsible for his actions re: believing josie HAS consented to sex and proceeded on that assumption while drunk? Isn’t being drunk a presumption that you can’t make rational decisions?

    Why is the man given no “out” if he’s drunk? Men are consistently perceived as being under control and in control at all times. But women get to opt out because they’ve had a drink or two.

    I tell ya, any man who dates any college girl should think twice about any sex at all even under strict conditions of consent agreed in writing, notarized and witnessed. It’s just too dangerous.

    Taking a woman at her word is a crap shoot.

    Just go jack off, it’s easier, faster and many times it’s more satisfying with less trouble.

    And women wonder where all the good men are.

  2. “And women wonder where all the good men are.”

    Exactly. Having done everything possible to demonize, discourage and demoralize men, feminists constantly complain that the men they meet are untrustworthy, incompetent or simply uninteresting. Feminists do not recognize their own responsibility for this state of affairs for the simple reason that feminism is a rationalization that denies that women are ever responsible for any unhappiness in their own lives.

  5. Ms. MacKinnon, sex is something that men and women do TOGETHER. If this is how you see it:

    …something men do to women…

    then you’re doing it wrong.

  7. The feminist premise that they are now codifying can be summarized as follows:

    “Whenever a woman is any way possibly compromised by some kind of influence or duress, then any apparently consensual transactions she committed must actually be coercive and violent assaults upon her.”

    So if any woman consumes any amount of alcohol and appears to consent to whatever sexual transactions, that consent is invalid and she was actually raped.

    One wonders why this should only apply to sexual matters. Suppose that a drunk woman is walking home from a party and passes a panhandler. Because she is drunk, she gives the panhandler a large amount of money, which she probably would not do while sober. Under the feminist standard, her decision to give money was invalid, and the panhandler would have to arrested and charged for robbery.

    And if a woman who just smoked a bunch of marijuana goes to the convenience store to buy $100 worth of junk food, her decision could also be invalid. Arrest that store clerk for robbery too!

    Then again, it is not as if the feminists are going to limit their definition of what invalidates consent to just chemical influences. If a woman is bipolar or depressed, and sometimes engages in ill-advised encounters, then clearly every man she met during her manic period must be prosecuted for rape.

  8. When I was a young man I once visited a foreign city I won’t name except to say it started with ‘T’ and ended with ‘juana.’ While sitting in a bar there, a lovely young woman sat down beside me. And, to make a long story short, she simply would not take NO for an answer.

    Fortunately I had been drinking Cokes, and was sufficiently in control of myself to call a police officer and charge her with attempted rape.

    Many young men have been less fortunate than I, though, due to a lack of sobriety. Beware! young alcohol-drinking man. Learn from the experience of a near-victim. Avoid all foreign cities the name of which start with the letter ‘T’ lest you end up a victim of non-consensual physical intimacy.

  9. In these days of ‘equality,’ any drunk hook-up should be equally the responsibility of the female. In fact, men should be screaming rape, because I’m pretty sure they didn’t provide affirmative consent.

    Equality and rape culture does not compute.

  10. How does all this fit in with two lesbians getting drunk and having sex? Can that be considered rape? Or since their its no male involved , rape is considered impossible?

  11. But remember: when male students begin to refuse to interact with female students for fear of having lives ruined, the reason for such behavior will be misogyny in academe.

  13. It’s actually worse than that. Consider any transaction between males and females where–until now–both would be considered on equal footing. Say, buying a car. The new standard presupposes that females are inherently weaker than males on any number of levels. Thus, because of the disparate power between males and females, females are incapable of providing consent or agreement to any transaction where a male is involved.

    The delicious irony of this, of course, is that feminists now advocate setting back the clock by at least two centuries where women were under various legal disabilities because they were the “weaker” sex.

  14. [Petition to end Women’s Suffrage] “We’ve had 1,000 signatures since last night. Students want an end to this barbaric practice w/o delay!”
    There may be a problem, relying on students for legitimacy.

  18. You might be joking (hard to tell these days: Poe’s Law) but I would guess the latter. Just like critical race theory (embraced by Obama’s DoJ) says that Blacks cannot be racist, and Whites are not entitled to the equal protection of anti-discrimination laws.
    All these Marxist-derivate sh*ts hang together.

  19. There is a coterie of bitter malcontents like Catharine MacKinnon who know exactly what they were/are doing.
    They are very intentionally trying to agitate a schism between the sexes. Not only for political power, but let’s be honest, also in order to prey upon a fresh crop of newly-created young lesbians.
    They are every inch the PREDATORS that they claim men are.

  20. When two people are both in “these circumstances,” how can anyone fairly assert that the male is guilty of a felony, while a drunken hookup makes the female a helpless victim? How does such a claim — that males bear 100% responsibility in heterosexual
    encounters, and that females never bear any responsibility — comport with the idea that feminism is about men and women being equal?

    “Receptionist:
    How do you write women so well?

    Melvin Udall:
    I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability.”

    Emphasis on accountability. Joan Didion wrote a generation ago that the feminist verbiage her contemporaries produced revealed nothing so much as a flight from adult responsibility.

    ‘Feminism’ is less an ideology than a series of forensic and rhetorical improvisations meant to deny accountability (for women) and to transfer the charges (to men), or, as Helen Smith put it, ‘women have options; men have obligations’. The ‘feminist’ is someone who frames discussion of social relations with that assumption controlling. There are some subsidiary points wherein masculinity and masculine skills may be ignored, denied, treated as a pathology, or covertly admired depending on circumstances. There are a number of idioms in which feminism may be expressed. The moderator has focused on the higher education headcase idiom. There is also the Goodman/Quindlen women’s mag idiom. Mr. Dalrock has elucidated the evangelical idiom. There’s also a pop-psych idiom.

    We certainly do not need to be putting young women with problems in living in asylums, nor was this done in 1955. Asylums were filled with schizophrenics, the senile, the retarded, those mad from tertiary syphilis, and a scatter of others. The generically troubled were not there except for brief periods.

    What might help is assiduously educating young women about their personal agency. It has to be assiduous because it’s in opposition to the kultursmog.

  21. When I was a student, I would have been aghast at the thought of calling women’s suffrage a “barbaric practice” — but then, unlike today’s students, I wasn’t an idiot.

    Now that I’m old, I not only agree, but insist, that women’s suffrage is a “barbaric practice” that needs to end. And, hey! it will end, one way or another: either our whole civilization will collapse, driven in large part by women’s suffrage, or we will admit the reality and as a society voluntarily end women’s suffrage before it ends us.

  23. There’s another problem here: the use of the residential college as a means of sorting the labor market and signaling within it conjoined to the maintenance of the young in a state of elongated dependency conjoined to the abolition of in loco parentis conjoined to a general decline in inhibition. Very toxic brew this.

    1. Abolish the baccalaureate degree and the vocational masters unrelated to undergraduate work. Replace them 1, 2, 3, and 4 years in discrete (vocational or academic) subjects leavened with pre-professional and vocational certificate programs that may run anywhere from a few months to two calendar years and include a mix of classroom instruction and internship. You can cut the amount of time youngsters spend in college by 20% just with this strategem.

    2. Have colleges run on three-term year-round schedules and allow students to pick from a menu of options regarding their seasonal and intra-term schedule under the understanding that the modal student is a commuter whose primary activity is working.

    3. If you do have a residential college, have no co-ed dorms. Have the men’s dorm supervised by a housemaster drawn from the ranks of retired military, retired cops, and retired construction workers: men past their prime but still able to mix it up. And gate those kids if they’re past curfew.

  25. Having dropped out of the U several years ago, I just have to ask: So, will she be proposing that Sally’s, the Big 10 (home to great sandwiches though), Stubb and Herb’s (where my grandfather did drink), the Library, Blarney’s, etc. be sued as an accessory to rape?

    What about the Greeks on University Avenue?

    Will she also demand sanctions anyone who goes to Madison to party?

    The problem here is that we have a class that does not understand why rules were set up.

  26. Amplifying this a bit, the thing which separates the legally disabled, e.g.children, from adults under the law is the ability to consent to various arrangements with other adults. As we have discussed in other contexts on these pages, there is an irrebuttable presumption that children (and others who are legally disabled) are incapable of consent. Feminists seek to establish such a disability on college campuses with respect to females.

    The begged question is whether such a disability applies to things like student loans, choice of courses, parental access to educational records, etc.? This is the reason that feminists wish to avoid the entanglements of the legal system. The regressive nature of their demands would be laid bare.

  28. …Cheaper to send your kids to Community College…Public Universities are cesspools and they charge $$$ for you to stay there!

  30. Something I heard a number of years ago from an old preacher:

    “Where there’s light, there’s bugs.”

  31. “Whereas emotionally unbalanced young women were once institutionalized in psychiatric wards, now they are on university campuses and, like Maria at Michigan, many mentally ill female students “self-medicate” with alcohol. ”
    Or, they’d deal with their issues without meds and be better for that.

  32. The good men got scarce as the good women vanished: when the default for college women is sex by the second date, you wind up with a campus full of women who’ve got dozens, if not hundreds, of notches on their bedposts, and a campus full of men who think that getting laid is simply the norm if they go out with a woman. The phrase about cows and free milk applies here.

    The goal of dating used to be to find a good husband or wife. Thanks to the sexual revolution, the goal is simply to copulate, often aimlessly, and then people wonder why marriages are falling apart so frequently.

  33. “In a sort of ghastly simplicity we remove the organ and demand the function. We make men without chests and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honour and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful.” — C.S. Lewis

  34. Males would be wise to never attend any college or university with a Women’s Studies department. At least that will tend to reduce the level of ideological provocation of the women in the student body.

  36. 1000 students is a drop in the bucket at the University of Minnesota. I’m not even sure it’s 1% of the student body, if you include grad students, students from other colleges taking classes at the U, etc.

  37. I dunno if this is better or worse than having to vacuum out the spam filters three times a day.

  38. College guys need to turn this around on campus feminists and start claiming rape based on their yes means yes guidelines. Start with saying, “I was drunk, and she kissed me”, or “while we were making out she undid my pants without asking first, and I was terribly traumatized by it. Now I need to quit school, and be on medication forever”. I’d love to see how long it takes before they try to have the entire program squashed?

  39. One of the reasons there used to be such close adult supervision of kids through to college was the idea that if you give a human an inch they’ll take a mile. Kids need to be civilized for obvious reasons. Even a rich 16 yr. old won’t explore the Amazon or oversee the removal of land mines in Cambodia. The problem with colleges is kids appear to feel they need to teach the teachers about civilized human behavior. The lack of experience aside, the most feral activists demonstrably have mental health issues, a combined recipe for disaster since arrogance has never been a system of success.

    Basically you have mad people institutionalizing an ideology of perversion and hatred. I just saw a woman on Twitter insisting you allow your children to choose their gender and otherwise treat them as neutral as possible as regards toys and clothes. If it weren’t so abusive it would be funny watching a mother pretend to not have an agenda when she so clearly does, since she is a blogger famous for only one thing: racial incitement and incitement to hate men. She is otherwise a non-working stay at home housewife who admits she cries for no reason and also to mental health issues, including being bi-sexual and bi-polar. It’s a sure bet she will either raise a mentally ill child or that child will come to break off their relationship at some point. Sociopathic madness is not a live and let live proposition; it is needy and obsessive.

    It is hard to feel sorry for a country that is so obviously bent on connivance in its own destruction as “justice.” The people who most obviously defend ghettoes, Islam and the Third World refuse to actually live in those places, and yet are attracted to them like moths to a flame. That is a suicide cult, not a thriving, healthy nation. If there is a naivete index for intelligence I think it’s safe to say America is stupider than at any time in its history. We are being torn down by people who cannot rise to our standards but who possess just enough cleverness to smell blood in the water. For some reason they can’t figure out they’ll be the first to suffer. The signs are all there but they continue to blame whites and men.

  40. Perhaps as a gesture of good will, it should be put to a vote of the UoM student body. Any female that votes would be required to pass a sobriety check (alcohol and drug) prior to voting to assure that they can legally consent to their cast vote. Also, since @PrezStangler truly believes that a not-yes is really a no, then any student not voting must be counted as a no vote as they did not affirmatively vote yes.
    Any questions?

  43. There are still good public colleges and universities out there where one’s kids can obtain an economical education without too much of the indoctrination. (Eldest graduated with liberal arts BAs and became immediately employed, all without donning a “Che Beret” or becoming a feminist lunatic. Middle is in STEM which has precious little time for all that nonsense. Nuclear Engineering doesn’t lend itself to that sort of thing.)

    The trick is, parents must take charge of the college search from early on. Find the good schools. Refuse to pay for or contribute to attending any school where this stuff goes on.

  45. I just saw a woman on Twitter insisting you allow your children to choose their gender and otherwise treat them as neutral as possible as regards toys and clothes.”

    And if you do this, you will raise a confused misfit who will be seriously disadvantaged in attempting to find happiness as an adult.

    Gender roles exist for a reason, people! If you, as a parent, hope to someday become a grandparent, then your child must be equipped with the habits and knowledge necessary to heterosexual success and marital happiness. You sons must become the kind of boys that girls like (and who knows how to get along with girls), and vice-versa for your daughters. Your children must be inculcated with respect for marriage and positive attitudes about parenthood. They must learn to evaluate potential romantic partners not merely for their looks, but more importantly to seek good character in a mate, to expect honest and kindness, and to refuse to associate themselves with anyone who doesn’t meet these basic standards.

    Sane, responsible parents don’t raise their kids according to some trendy theory, but then again, feminists are neither sane nor responsible.

  48. Poe’s Law clarification:
    I was goofing on the similarity between “suffrage” and “suffering.” Such is the illiteracy of today’s youth.

  49. It should be noted that the one form of personal agency that feminism most assiduously denies to women is the right to choose to be led by a man.

    And young women are experiencing an epidemic of anxiety. Coincidence? I think not.

  50. These idiots are on thin ice and only inches away from being laughed out of existence.

    That first poster, swap the sexes and look how stupid it seems, doesnt it seem farcical?

    We have a similar set here in Oz warning of pissy sex where they accidentally tried to use the same “shaming” images in a gender neutral way with the piccies. It just looked absurd, the picture of the drunken coupe “caught in the act” and covering up relies on trying to assign to the male the same sense of “shame” as the female is supposed to feel.

    Contrived and artificial.

    https://youngdumbanddrunk.files.wordpress.com/2012/09/party-bushes.jpg

    I think its time actualy to be a little honest instead of palying the ladies game.
    Fact: If you are under the age of consent (not heaps, but say…over 13) and you are a boy then you havent had a terrible experience, you are a deadset legend. Boys have sex with far less “consequences” than girls do. Keeping the age/punishments of consent the same is bull.
    To show that yes there are double standards, yes because we are different, might be a good way of showing how retarded the feminist agenda is.

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