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Memo From the National Affairs Desk: 1,071 Miles to Orlando — How About $30?

Posted on | May 2, 2019 | 3 Comments


Billed as “The World’s Ultimate Event for Fathers,” the 21 Convention in Orlando begins Friday, and I’m leaving this morning to drive there in a rental car — 1,071 miles one-way, 2,142 round-trip. So far as I know, I’m one of only two journalists — along with Mike Cernovich — invited to cover this “red pill” manosphere gathering.

My wife and I recently celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary, and if readers would like to make a $30 hit to the tip jar, that would go a long way to ease Mrs. McCain’s concerns about the family budget.

If there is any “red pill” secret to a successful marriage, it can be summarized rather simply: Get yourself a good wife.





“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. . . . Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.”
Proverbs 31:10-12, 30 (KJV)

Because I believe in the power of intercessory prayer, I’ve always felt that my Grandmother Kirby’s prayers on my behalf may have had something to do with my good fortune in finding a God-fearing wife. Secular readers will dismiss this as superstition, I suppose, but how else to explain the miracle whereby I not only married this wonderful woman, but have stayed married to her for three decades? Other men, perhaps much better men than me, have fared far worse in their marriages, and as I am basically Calvinist in my theology, I must interpret the blessing bestowed on me as evidence of unmerited grace — not what I have deserved, but what it has pleased God to grant me, making manifest His mercy.

Readers may ponder this mystery, while I call attention to a reaction to Tuesday’s blog post, “Insta-Whores,” in which I talked about how social media is enabling prostitution. This prompted some commentary from “red-pill” blogger Dalrock:

But this also raises the question of what we expect young (and not so young) women to do while they delay marriage. Nearly all people are troubled by the idea of a woman marrying at 18, 19, or even in her early 20s, and most would be troubled to learn that she did so without having sex with other men first. How can she be ready to marry if she lacks “life experience”? . . .
But again, what do we really expect young women to do in the interim, as the median age of first marriage continues to advance?  In theory they are supposed to be looking for their soulmate, but while busily sampling their options are also not supposed to find him too soon.

You can read the whole thing, and Dalrock’s point is correct. Most Americans do expect their daughters to delay marriage and, consequentially, they at least tacitly endorse pre-marital sex (fornication). Even many self-professed Christians have adopted this attitude, deeming college education and a professional career (the usual reasons for postponing marriage) more valuable than virtue.

Having contemplated this problem, I have no one-size-fits-all solution to offer, except to say that we need to change our expectations, and warn our children against this amoral and materialistic view.

Sin happens — we cannot change human nature — but: “Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil.” This is what’s happening in our upside-down culture, where fornication flourishes, marriage is declining, and abortion is celebrated as a “right.” Whether these subjects will be addressed this weekend in Orlando, I don’t know, but I do look forward to interviewing the “red pill” guys who are at least trying to find common-sense (i.e., non-feminist) answers to these problems.

Well, I’m running late to pick up that rental car, so there’s only time to remind you of the Five Most Important Words in the English Language:




3 Responses to “Memo From the National Affairs Desk: 1,071 Miles to Orlando — How About $30?”

  1. Lectionary 3 May 19 | Dark Brightness
    May 2nd, 2019 @ 8:05 pm

    […] This world does not see the glory of the Lord. They discount this, looking instead to earthly pleasures. […]

  2. Word has it there is a tip jar. | Dalrock
    May 3rd, 2019 @ 4:16 pm

    […] just noticed that I missed a response yesterday by The Other McCain to my post Insta-Whores: Is money the real […]

  3. Insta-Whores: Is money the real problem? | Dalrock
    May 3rd, 2019 @ 4:26 pm

    […] Update:  See The Other McCain’s response here. […]