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The Failed Heterosexual

Posted on | June 24, 2016 | 48 Comments

“Difficult.”

That word came to mind today while I was reading a woman’s account of how, at age 30, she suddenly decided she’s a lesbian.

Before quoting any of her story, let me say that there is a phrase popularized by the pickup artist (PUA) community,”hit the wall.” This term describes the point in a single woman’s life when awareness of her declining sexual market value (SMV) causes her to realize that “riding the carousel” (casual sex and/or short-term relationships) is likely to yield diminishing returns, and she panics about her lack of marriage prospects:

When a woman asks “where have all the good men gone?”, she has hit the Wall.

Thus saith the manosphere.

Now, feminists can whine about “misogyny” and “double standards” all they want, but what they can’t do is change human nature. Nor can the PUAs, despite all their strategizing to beat the odds, because science!

Sex is about reproductive biology. Human beings are mammals, and any eighth-grader can figure out what that means in terms of sex.
Once you understand this scientific definition of sex, everything else is just details. Young people have to figure out how to attract potential partners, how to choose a good partner from among the prospective candidates, and how to negotiate a relationship that will lead toward lifelong monogamous pair-bonding — i.e., a successful marriage — because this is the ideal situation in which to raise children.

Being a Christian, I’m a “be fruitful and multiply” kind of guy. If it were up to me to tell people what to do — and if people would actually do what I told them to do — the typical 30-year-old woman would be married with three kids. However, people don’t pay me for advice and I’ve learned it’s a waste of time to give away good advice for free, so I’ll just point out that atheists are losing at their own game. If Darwinism is about survival of the fittest, where are all these big happy atheist families, huh? Why is it that Bible-thumping hillbillies (not to mention Islamic fundamentalists) produce so many more babies than secular humanists who mock the idea of a divine Creator? If a belief in evolution was so much more powerful than a belief in God, wouldn’t you expect adherents of Darwinism to have far more reproductive success than Christians? But the opposite is true.

This brings us to the 30-year-old woman whose response to “hitting the wall” seems to have been to decide she’s a lesbian. Her backstory:

I’ve always dated boys. Lots of them. At least, lots of first dates. A handful lasted a few months, but rarely, if ever, would they amount to lasting relationships.

Hmmm.

As I say, people don’t pay me for advice, but if a woman has had “lots of first dates,” but her relationships never last more than “a few months,” I would advise that she hit the panic button long before she nears 30. We understand that not everyone marries their high-school sweetheart, but if you reach age 21 and have never dated anyone longer than “a few months,” you may be headed toward the Darwinian dead end.

 

The “check engine” light is flashing on your dashboard, OK? Most people start dating in high school and, somewhere between age 16 and 19, form their first “serious” relationship. Maybe this adolescent romance doesn’t become Endless Love — cue the Diana Ross-Lionel Richie duet — but if you’re 21 and have never had a relationship that lasted at least a year, you have a problem, and that problem is you. The most common cause of this particular problem is failure to accurately assess your own attractiveness.

This is a typical problem for loser guys, the kind of dude who is below average, but doesn’t realize it. He’s seen too many Seth Rogen movies, in which Seth Rogen ends up with a hot chick, despite being Seth Rogen.

Hollywood is always making movies where the hapless schlub somehow manages to win the heart of a chick who’s way out of his league. The classic of this genre was When Harry Met Sally — a truly great comedy, but let’s be brutally honest: Guys who look like Billy Crystal do not end up with women who look like Meg Ryan, at least not often enough that you actually expect to see such a pairing in real life.

Women who look like Meg Ryan do not date mere mortals.

Nevertheless, clueless losers latch onto the foolish idea that they’ll hit the jackpot and woo a Meg Ryan lookalike and, as a result of this absurdly unrealistic delusion, guys get stuck permanently in Loserville.

Women sometimes make similar miscalculations, although for slightly different reasons. Every woman begins her dating career with one highly valuable commodity — youth. Whatever her other attributes may be, the 18-year-old girl always has the advantage of being 18. If she is even above-average in attractiveness (rating 6 on a scale of 10) the 18-year-old girl never has a shortage of dating opportunities, and if she rates as high as 8 or 9, guys are practically swarming her. It’s easy for any cute college girl to imagine her youthful popularity will last forever. Susan Patton’s famous 2013 letter to Princeton women — advising them to find a husband before they graduate — can be seen as a warning against this error.

Anyway, back to the 30-year-old lesbian:

I started to think something was wrong with me. Maybe I’m too picky?

(Yes, this is exactly your problem, but continue . . .)

Maybe I’m incapable of having a real long-term relationship? One where two people love each other unconditionally, want to spend all of their time together and are attracted to each other in every way possible (physically, emotionally, spiritually, sense of humor-ly, etc.).

(See? You expect too damned much. This Eternal Soulmate fantasy is as unrealistic as Seth Rogen scoring a hot chick, but continue . . .)

I knew I had a lot to offer someone, so what was the problem?
I was searching for the wrong person.
I come from a liberal family, have a great group of open-minded friends and I live in West Hollywood (one of the gay capitals of the world). So, why did it take me so long to figure out that the problem wasn’t that I was incapable of loving, or that I couldn’t find the right guy? . . .
When I turned 30 last June, I discovered that I wanted to be with a woman. Literally, on my birthday, I had a gay epiphany. . . . So many of my friends are gay, my sister is a lesbian, my uncle is gay, other members of my family are gay and it’s possible my dog is gay. I’ve always been surrounded by gay. It just never occurred to me that I might be gay, because gay just never felt right to me. . . .

OK, let’s pause here and ask ourselves: Does this story even make sense? At age 30, she “discovered” her lesbian self which she previously never suspected could exist while she was dating guys — lots of guys — and living in West Hollywood? Oh, her sister is a lesbian and her uncle is gay, but she had zero clue that homosexuality was an alternative? Maybe you’re buying that explanation, but my cynical hunch is that her 30th birthday “epiphany” was a result of her “hitting the wall,” recognizing that her SMV had declined to the point that her best days as a carousel-rider were gone. With no potential husbands on the horizon, she saw that she was doomed to a Crazy Cat Lady future and . . .

I fell in love with a woman, and I’m still in love with that woman. We are going to get married, have kids and do life together forever. I have no desire to be with a man, but I also have no desire to be with another woman. So, for me, it’s not about being gay or straight. It’s about being in love.

What. Ever.

Readers might have noticed I had not previously linked this column, because I didn’t want to spoil the surprise. The writer’s name is Jill Layton, and she’s a writer for a website called HelloGiggles “a positive online community for women.” And you can read the rest of that column if you want — or not, because that’s not the surprise.

Here you can see photos of Jill Layton’s 2015 wedding to Becky Hartman and, uh, guess which one’s Jill? (Hint: Not the cute one.)

This goes back to what I was saying about guys who end up in Loserville because they overrate their own attractiveness and imagine that they’ll meet a Meg Ryan lookalike, make a few clever jokes and — boom! — she will realize that he is The One She’s Been Dreaming Of. If any young man is indulging such fantasies, all I’ve got to say is, “What’s Plan B?”

Dreams are dreams, and real life is real life. Sure, there are ugly ducklings and late-bloomers and high-school losers who don’t hit their stride until a little later in life, but as a general rule, by the time a guy is 21, the best-looking girl he has ever dated is likely to be the best-looking girl he will ever date, period. That is to say, if a college senior expects the future to bring a major improvement in the general quality of his female companions, he’s apt to be disappointed. And if you have a problem getting or keeping a girlfriend, the problem is you.

Remember that Eternal Soulmate fantasy, where Jill Layton waxed poetic about a relationship “where two people love each other unconditionally, want to spend all of their time together and are attracted to each other in every way possible”? That’s the chick version of loser guys dreaming of a Meg Ryan lookalike. However intense the attraction between two people, however unconditional their love, real relationships require realistic expectations. It takes more than mere sentiment to hang in there during the hard times and, while people don’t pay me for advice, I would advise parents to warn their daughters against expecting real relationships to be the way romance is portrayed in novels, movies and TV shows.

Frankly, I’d bet $100 that Jill Layton’s lesbian marriage won’t last 10 years, and $20 says it doesn’t last five years. The recent gay-marriage boom will inevitably be followed by a gay-divorce boom, and the odds of a Layton-Hartman divorce are pretty good, because Jill Layton is difficult.

What do you think you would learn if you could survey all of Jill Layton’s ex-boyfriends? How do you think her relationships ended? Do you suppose any of her exes were brokenhearted, devastated by her departure? Or do you suppose they were glad to be rid of her? Do you think any of her ex-boyfriends would describe her as . . . difficult? Or some other synonym like selfish, demanding, erratic, irrational?

Men are called “sexist” when we point out that not all women are good women. Feminism is basically the belief that men are 100% to blame for everything wrong in the world because (a) all men are evil, and (b) all women are perfect. Therefore, no man can ever be permitted to express a negative opinion of any woman. Be that as it may, I know enough about women to recognize certain types, and Jill Layton is not a good type.

Heterosexuality is better off without her. She will not be missed.

 

Category: Sex Trouble

In The Mailbox: 06.23.16

Posted on | June 23, 2016 | 2 Comments

— compiled by Wombat-socho


OVER THE TRANSOM
Proof Positive: Any Resemblance To Real Democrats…
EBL: Democrat Stooges Stage A Silly Sit-In And Slumber Party
Twitchy: Escaped ISIS Sex Slave Drops Brutal One-Liner On Obama Administration


RIPPED FROM THE HEADLINES
American Power: SCOTUS Blocks Obama’s DAPA Illegal Alien Amnesty
American Thinker: AR-15 Speaks!
Da Tech Guy: The Real News From Mohammed Malik’s Story That You Might Have Missed
Don Surber: “Clinton Seems To Fancy Herself The Cher Of Politics”
Jammie Wearing Fools: Democrat During House Temper Tantrum Says “I Think The ISIS Issue, While Alarming, Is Basically Irrelevant”
Joe For America: Obama Administration To Release Hillary E-Mails…In 75 Years
JustOneMinute: On A Watchlist, Buying A Gun, And Then What?
Pamela Geller: Watch Muslim Mob Violence In Lawless Paris
Shark Tank: Patrick Murphy’s “Exaggerated”, “Misleading” Business And CPA Background
Shot In The Dark: Scenarios
The Jawa Report: FBI Moves Against Indianapolis Terrorist
The Lonely Conservative: Orlando Shooter’s Wife Still Missing
The Political Hat: Greatest Fear Of A Pregnant SJW? Having A White Baby
This Ain’t Hell: Shocker! NY Residents Not Registering Their Rifles
Weasel Zippers: AG Lynch To Muslims – “You Are Under Our Protection”
Megan McArdle: Republicans Have A Shot At Replacing Obamacare


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Category: Linkagery

The World Has Gone Mad

Posted on | June 23, 2016 | 18 Comments

 

The site Medium.com is an interesting platform, which I have not previously used, but this topic seemed appropriate for a first effort:

The rise of transgender mania — for which Bruce “Caitlin” Jenner is the celebrity poster boy/girl — can best be understood as a belated consequence of culture shifts that occurred 40 or 50 years ago, especially in the field of psychology. Whereas once heterosexuality was officially understood as normal, and homosexuality defined as deviant, this understanding was cast aside by the American Psychiatric Association in 1973. If there was no such thing as normal sexual behavior, then it was no longer possible to describe any sexual behavior as abnormal. Pandora’s Box had been opened, and the potential results of this were difficult to predict.
Parents who have more or less traditional expectations for our children find ourselves compelled to protect our children against a culture which increasingly condemns “normal” as a synonym for oppressive. Progressive intellectuals consider you a very bad parent if you expect your boys to be masculine and your girls to be feminine, and you are simply hateful if you expect your children to be heterosexual. . . .

Please read the whole thing at Medium.com.




 

 

Category: Sex Trouble

In The Mailbox: 06.22.16

Posted on | June 22, 2016 | 2 Comments

— compiled by Wombat-socho


OVER THE TRANSOM
EBL: Lefty Journalist Neil Steinberg Denied An AR-15 Because He’s A Drunken Wife-Beater
Michelle Malkin: Horror And Hush-Up In Twin Falls, Idaho
Twitchy: Did Rep. John Lewis’ Commitment To Civil Rights Have An Expiration Date?


RIPPED FROM THE HEADLINES
American Power: Diablo Canyon Nuclear Power Plant To Shut Down
American Thinker: Senator Sessions Says Trump Is Right On Muslim Immigration Ban
Da Tech Guy: Baldilocks – Remembering A 2008 Entitlement War
Don Surber: Trump Hillary
Jammie Wearing Fools: Hilarious House Dems Stage Temper Tantrum Over Gun Control
Joe For America: Migrants On Welfare Protest – Their Demands Will Piss You Off
Pamela Geller: Muslim Former FBI Agent Who Refused To Wiretap Fellow Muslims Now Homeland Security Adviser
Shark Tank: Marco Rubio’s Running For Re-Election
Shot In The Dark: One For Your Mental Library
The Jawa Report: Sandcrawler PSA – Islam Has Nothing To Do With Islamic Terrorism
The Lonely Conservative: Obama’s Economic Predictions Vs. Reality
The Political Hat: Being Raped Is Now Jewish Privilege
This Ain’t Hell: Marines Toughen Physical Standards For Combat Jobs
Weasel Zippers: Clinton IT Specialist Pleads The Fifth 125 Times In 90-Minute Deposition On E-Mail Scandal
Megan McArdle: Maybe Pharmaceutical Reps Aren’t Actually Bribing Doctors
Mark Steyn: “Steyn Was Right And I Was Wrong”


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Category: Linkagery

More Feminist Tumblr Stupidity

Posted on | June 22, 2016 | 7 Comments

Here is a classic in the annals of bad logic:

I’ve never met a self-identified men’s rights activist in real life and I’m guessing that’s due to any combination of the following reasons:
1. They realize that their passionate crusade against a fictitious version of feminism doesn’t hold up outside of their Reddit/4chan/meme troll internet culture of mostly male aggression/entitlement, so if they bring it up in person they really can’t just attack anyone who points out “hey that’s pretty fucked up” without the personal displacement of a keyboard and back up from other members of the environment that nurtures the toxicity
2. They just don’t go outside and interact with the actual social current buzzing around them while they complain about feminists and SJWs online
3. God loves me and is actively keeping them away from me

Where to begin? First, feminists hate God:

It was Mary Daly who celebrated the feminist movement as “the Second Coming of female presence not only as Antichrist but also as Antichurch,” as a “rising woman-consciousness” to destroy the “Christocentric cosmos.” Mary Daly was an influential professor, so if she declared feminism to be the Antichrist, who am I to disagree?

If the Tumblr feminist thinks God is doing her favors, she must be under the influence of “strong delusion” (II Thessalonians 2:11-12), as feminists generally are. If God is keeping “men’s rights activists” (MRAs) away from a feminist, it’s because he is doing the MRAs a favor.

As for the claim that MRAs “just don’t go outside and interact,” I’d wager $100 that most MRAs have a more active social life than the typical Tumblr feminist who fills her blog with angry rage because the producers of an obscure cable TV show killed a lesbian character.

If we can exclude from our theories (a) divine intervention and (b) the stereotype of MRAs as basement-dwelling geeks with no social life, this brings us to (c) the characterization of MRAs as engaged in a “passionate crusade against a fictitious version of feminism doesn’t hold up.” In other words, the Tumblr feminist believes MRAs are fearful, or intellectually incapable, of engaging in real-life arguments with actual feminists. This is also likely a mistaken belief. More likely, MRAs are wise enough to simply to avoid feminists. Most women are not feminists, certainly not of the batshit-crazy Third Wave SJW Queer Feminist type who congregate on Tumblr. Avoiding mentally ill women with facial piercings, tattoos and strange hairstyles is much easier in real life than it is on feminist Tumblr. There are still plenty of sane heterosexual women in the real world, even on college campuses, so why would any intelligent man waste time talking to the kind of angry tattooed weirdos who major in Gender Studies?

 

Every feminist believes that men are hopelessly stupid, and that men are therefore incapable of rationally pursuing their self-interest. Despite their talk about “equality,” every feminist is arrogantly convinced of her own intellectual and moral superiority to all men. The only way a feminist ever looks at a man is down, and her hateful anti-male prejudice is readily apparent to any man who is unfortunate enough to encounter her.

It’s not hard to detect a feminist, even if she doesn’t advertise herself with “The Deliberate Ugliness of Feminism.” A general attitude of paranoid hostility toward men is one common trait of feminists, who radiate an aura of fear and hate. If, however, a man ignores these signals and engages in a conversation with a feminist, he will notice her tendency to employ condescending sarcasm toward him, conveying her belief that he is an inferior unworthy of respect. Most men are smart enough to cut short a conversation with any woman who exhibits the characteristic arrogance of a feminist, but if he isn’t shrewd enough read the initial signals and walk away, he will regret it. Sooner or later, her irrational anti-male rage will be turned against him. I’ve explained how this works:

Feminism provides an analytical framework within which almost any aspect of male behavior can be viewed as “problematic” — yet another example of misogyny, “male entitlement,” etc. — so that every man the feminist encounters is viewed as a suspect, a likely perpetrator of sexism, and she is a detective on the case, gathering evidence to indict him. . . .
All men are her moral inferiors, the feminist believes, but the evidence of their inferiority can be difficult to find, because their sexism is not always overt. There are subtle shades and degrees of sexism, and the feminist injustice collector becomes an expert at detecting the tiniest bits of evidence, like a forensic investigator scrutinizing a murder scene for latent fingerprints and microscopic traces of DNA.
This suspicious mentality, rooted in an attitude of profound resentment toward males, is apt to metastasize into dangerous irrationality.

All men are bad and everything a man says or does is always wrong — this is the basic core of feminist belief. This is why feminist rhetoric is an endless monologue of insulting accusations against men, who are generally demonized and scapegoated, blamed for everything wrong in the world — objectification, harassment, “rape culture,” etc. This is the psychological warfare tactic of Kafkatrapping:

One very notable pathology is a form of argument that, reduced to essence, runs like this: “Your refusal to acknowledge that you are guilty of {sin racism, sexism, homophobia, oppression…} confirms that you are guilty of {sin, racism, sexism, homophobia, oppression…}.” I’ve been presented with enough instances of this recently that I’ve decided that it needs a name. I call this general style of argument “kafkatrapping” . . .
The aim of the kafkatrap is to produce a kind of free-floating guilt in the subject, a conviction of sinfulness that can be manipulated by the operator to make the subject say and do things that are convenient to the operator’s personal, political, or religious goals. Ideally, the subject will then internalize these demands, and then become complicit in the kafkatrapping of others.

Once you learn to spot this tactic, you refuse to be intimidated by it, and feminists are apt to respond with apoplectic fits of shrieking fury. Most guys don’t want to waste time playing these games, and the far easier thing to do is simply to avoid feminists. That’s probably why the Tumblrina was ranting about never meeting an MRA in real-life. Maybe she has, and just doesn’t know it, because as soon as they spotted her as a feminist, they shunned her. This is what I’ve advised men to do:

Never talk to a feminist.
Guys: Learn to take a hint. Learn to walk away.
If a woman tells you she is a feminist, say nothing and walk away.
No feminist wants to hear what a man has to say, and life is too short to waste your time taking to feminists. Just walk away.
Leave feminists alone, and then they can complain about that.

Feminism is an express train to Crazy Cat Lady Land.





 


Category: Sex Trouble

Did Atheist Reddit Save Her Soul?

Posted on | June 22, 2016 | 43 Comments

There was a rather notorious incident in 2011 when a 15-year-old girl using the handle “Lunam” posted the photo above on the Reddit atheism forum, showing a copy of a Carl Sagan book her “super religious mother” bought her for Christmas. This being Reddit during its Wild West heyday — when the infamous troll “Violentacrez” was still in action — the reaction to Lunam’s photo was, uh, memorable. Which is to say, it was an atrocity, a human rights violation, worse than the Holocaust.

If you’re going to denounce sexism, go all-out, I say.

Rebecca Watson did a post in which she cited some of the predictably atrocious comments, e.g., “Well 15 is legal many places, including my country, so I’ll only have to deal with abduction charges.” To which another commenter responded with a meme: “You call it kidnapping. I call it surprise adoption.” There were comments even worse than these which got “upvoted” hundreds of times, which showed that Reddit is “a whole community of people who congratulate one another for being awful,” Watson concluded. And maybe her conclusion was correct.

On the other hand, maybe the average cubicle-dweller lives such a dehumanizing existence — crunching code, responding to inter-office emails, attending pointless staff meetings, etc. — that when he finds an unrestricted Internet playpen where he can say whatever he wants behind the screen of a pseudonym, his inner adolescent inevitably emerges.

Eight hours a day, five days a week, the cubicle-dweller does whatever it is he does to pay the bills, and there are all these rules, see? The 21st-century office environment is quite hostile to free expression. The list of Things You Can’t Say grows longer every day, and the cubicle-dweller’s inner adolescent must be strenuously repressed, lest he accidentally say or do something “offensive” that will get him written up or fired for violating the human resources policy. This regime of repression, I suggest, is why so many guys delight in saying rude things in any Internet venue where anonymity protects them from consequences.

Making rape jokes about a 15-year-old? Obviously this is a very bad thing to do, but what do you expect on a Reddit atheism forum?

The 2011 “Lunam” incident was cited by prominent atheist author Richard Carrier when he issued a manifesto in August 2012:

There is a new atheism brewing, and it’s the rift we need, to cut free the dead weight so we can kick the C.H.U.D.’s back into the sewers and finally disown them, once and for all.

What is a “C.H.U.D.”? “Cannibalistic Humanoid Underground Dweller,” a reference to a 1984 horror/sci-fi movie. Anyway, Carrier’s call for a “new atheism,” free from the “dead weight” of scummy Reddit types, did not make him any friends among the scummy Reddit types. Carrier was much hated as a fun-spoiling douchebag because of his pretentious call for “building a system of shared values” in order to “start marginalizing the evil in our midst, and grooming the next generation more consistently and clearly into a system of more enlightened humanist values.”

“Eat your broccoli, kids — it’s good for you!”

The recent downfall of Richard Carrier — banned from Skepticon because of sexual harassment allegations — inspired widespread celebration not only among feminists within the atheist community, but perhaps even more by anti-feminists. Carrier’s enthusiastic devotion to feminism had made him obnoxious to male atheists like Phil Mason, who feel feminists have hijacked atheism. What feminists have done in recent years is to attempt to redefine opposition to feminism as “hate speech,” so that being against feminism is equivalent to being a neo-Nazi, and thereby justify silencing dissent. Contrary to their constant claims that they are being “silenced” by online “harassment,” feminists are in no danger of losing their positions as university professors of Women’s Studies, as authors and newspaper columnists, as employees of non-profit feminist organizations. Their security within the Feminist-Industrial Complex is nearly absolute. And no one is trying to “silence” feminists. Who has quoted feminists more often than I have? Only by quoting feminists can I demonstrate how dangerously crazy they are, and I can’t very well quote them if they are “silenced,” can I?

“Truth is great and will prevail if left to herself . . . she is the proper and sufficient antagonist to error, and has nothing to fear from the conflict, unless by human interposition disarmed of her natural weapons, free argument and debate, errors ceasing to be dangerous when it is permitted freely to contradict them.”
— Thomas Jefferson, Virginia Statute for Religious Freedom, 1786

This is what I believe — that “free argument and debate” are necessary if truth is to prevail. And it is strange how things happen when free speech is permitted. Remember how “Lunam” was a teenage atheist, proud to get a Carl Sagan book for Christmas? She posted her picture with the book on Reddit and the forum erupted in rape jokes because, hey, it’s atheists on Reddit, and what do you expect from such people? And . . .

So I’m a Christian now! Weird huh? 😀
It’s a big step up from Christmas when I made the top of r/all with an atheism post. I’m just excited and wanted to tell the (reddit) world!
Have a wonderful day.

That’s what “Lunam” wrote in August 2012, about eight months after her famous Reddit moment, and don’t you think that the raw sewer of filth spewed at her by those Reddit trolls may have influenced her against atheism? Let people be who they are and say what they think — remove the repressive force of political correctness — and sometimes things happen that are so amazing we almost might call them miracles.

It’s easier to believe in miracles than to believe in coincidences, when atheists on Reddit end up leading young souls to Jesus.





 


Category: Religion

God and Man at #Skepticon: Atheist @RichardCCarrier Gets Banned

Posted on | June 21, 2016 | 60 Comments

Richard Carrier mocks Christianity at Skepticon 2011.

“I am a feminist because feminism is simply the belief that women should be treated as fairly as men, and there is no factual or rational reason to want the world to work any other way.”
— Richard Carrier, 2012

“The accusations specifically against Richard Carrier are, sadly, not so surprising to the Skepticon organizers. . . . What has been made clear by the recent discussions is that our attendees’ well being and comfort is put at an unacceptable risk by Carrier’s presence, and so we are officially prohibiting Richard Carrier from attending any future Skepticons.”
— Lauren Lane, “Keeping Skepticon Safe Richard Carrier to Be Banned,” June 20, 2016

Women who hate God also usually hate men and sex, and the influence of feminism has proved the undoing of the “New Atheist” movement, as Ph.D. scientist Phil “Thunderfoot” Mason said in a December 2015 video: “Make no mistake, it wasn’t the religious who effectively destroyed the atheist movement, it was feminists, who infiltrated, derailed and effectively destroyed what, until then, had been an exciting and vibrant new atheist movement.” This was a subject I wrote about a few years ago after Rebecca Watson denounced atheist men who “sexualize” her.

Atheist women are soulless monsters incapable of normal affection. Hate is the only emotion atheist women ever feel, and they especially hate atheist men who are “creepy” — a feminist synonym for heterosexual.

 

Richard Carrier has a Ph.D. from Columbia University and is the author of several anti-Christian books. He spoke at the very first “Skepticon” event in 2008 at Missouri State University, and returned to speak at the conference every year thereafter through 2013. Carrier was also a frequent speaker on college campuses, where his appearances were sponsored by the Secular Student Alliance. Even as he rose to prominence in the pantheon of New Atheist celebrities, however, Carrier’s fame as an anti-Christian was becoming problematic. In 2012, Carrier declared himself a feminist. Around the same time, when he was in his mid-40s, he began having extramarital affairs. In 2015, Carrier announced he was divorcing his wife of 20 years, explaining he “had a few brief affairs, because I found myself unequipped to handle certain unusual circumstances in our marriage.” At the same time he announced:

I am polyamorous.
I have, and will continue to have, multiple girlfriends who are likewise poly or aware of my being so, and that will be the way of my life from now on.

Being “polyamorous” is what used to be called “swinging,” which has always been a notoriously creepy scene full of dangerous perverts — voyeurs, exhibitionists, bondage/sadomasochism freaks, etc. Carrier’s divorce and “coming out” as polyamorous came a few years after the Rebecca Watson incident, which caused Vox Day to mock atheist men:

No wonder they’re so furious at God. He created all those lovely women with those beautiful breasts and they aren’t even allowed to even talk to them.

Whatever else feminism may include, it always includes implacable hostility toward male heterosexual behavior, which feminists condemn as “sexism,” “harassment,” etc. Not all feminists are lesbians, but all feminists condemn men’s sexual attraction to women. Any male who expresses admiration of female beauty is engaged in “objectification,” and any man who flirts with a woman is guilty of “harassment” if she decides his interest is “unwanted” or “unwelcome.” (See “The Queering of Feminism and the Silencing of Heterosexual Masculinity.”)

Men cannot even be allowed to talk to women, according to the ideology Professor Daphne Patai exposed in her 1998 book, Heterophobia: Sexual Harassment and the Future of Feminism. This radical anti-male/anti-heterosexual ideology has become increasingly evident in feminist rhetoric. “Feminism is about redefining our social value system,” Anita Sarkeesian explained in May 2015, and elsewhere proclaimed: “Feminism is about the collective liberation of women as a social class. Feminism is not about personal choice.” The feminist agenda of “the collective liberation of women” requires that male/female differences be eradicated. “The gender binary is an entirely artificial and socially constructed division of male and female,” Sarkeesian declared in a 2013 video, denouncing the “false dichotomy” of viewing men and women as “two distinctly separate” kinds of human beings. This attack on the “gender binary” and the agenda of “redefining our social value system” are aimed toward a goal Richard Carrier probably did not understand when he called himself a “feminist.”

“Women under patriarchy are raped or romanticized — often both simultaneously. Partly for this reason, radical feminists argue that, under patriarchy, heterosexuality itself is oppressive to women. . . .
“Apart from the pressure it puts on women to suppress the lesbian side of their sexuality, patriarchal norms of heterosexuality define masculine and feminine sexuality in such a way that the woman is an object for the man.”
— Alison Jaggar, Feminist Politics and Human Nature (1988)

“It is women’s subordination within institutional heterosexuality which is the starting point for feminist analysis. It is resistance to this subordination which is the foundation of feminist politics.”
— Stevi Jackson, Heterosexuality in Question (1999)

“Heterosexism is maintained by the illusion that heterosexuality is the norm.”
— Susan M. Shaw and Janet Lee, Women’s Voices, Feminist Visions (fifth edition, 2012)

“Gender is a hierarchical system which maintains the subordination of females as a class to males through force. Gender is a material system of power which uses violence and psychological coercion to exploit female labor, sex, reproduction, emotional support, etc., for the benefit of males.”
— Rachel Ivey, 2013

“All women are prisoners and hostages to men’s world. . . . Each man is a threat. We can’t escape men. . . .
“Being around any man constitutes a threat to us, because they are our oppressors. Being wanted by a man and him treating you as if you were his is inherently violent.”
— Radical Wind, 2013

“Heterosexuality and masculinity . . . are made manifest through patriarchy, which normalizes men as dominant over women. . . .
“This tenet of patriarchy is thus deeply connected to acts of sexual violence, which have been theorized as a physical reaffirmation of patriarchal power by men over women.”
— Sara Carrigan Wooten, The Crisis of Campus Sexual Violence: Critical Perspectives on Prevention and Response (2015)

Once you understand feminist gender theory, you see that feminism is simply incompatible with heterosexuality. Feminists condemn men as “oppressors” who impose heterosexuality as an “institution” that enforces “women’s subordination” through “patriarchal power.”

Richard Carrier evidently never bothered to study feminism before swearing his allegiance to the movement. In August 2013, when one atheist blogger complained that feminists were “attempting to redefine flirting as sexual harassment and sexual intercourse as rape,” Richard Carrier responded by asserting how pro-sex the atheist movement is:

Indeed, many of my friends in the atheist community are polyamorous, or actively participate in the BDSM or swinging communities, some even have orgies and sex parties . . . at atheist conferences! . . .
Polyamory and swinging and even the attending of orgies requires more ethical behavior and more careful attention to boundaries and consent than traditional sexual relationships do.

That paean to the “ethical behavior” of orgy-goers was about two years before Carrier’s divorce and “coming out” as a polyamorist. (A memorable reaction to that disclosure: “Dr. Richard Carrier, PhD — A creepy, dishonest hypocrite.”) Carrier’s behavior at atheist conferences, however, had caused others to label him “creepy,” as he admitted in a June 2015 blog post where he confessed to what he called “failures” involving “bad flirtation” and situations where he “behaved awfully.”

Now, if you were in benefit-of-the-doubt mode, favorably disposed toward Richard Carrier, you might read his mea culpa as motivated by sincere remorse over a few incidents of behavior that was mildly offensive or inappropriate — “relatively small and correctable,” as he said. However, despite his claims about the wild swinging “pro-sex” attitudes of the atheist movement, Richard Carrier had become a target of feminists who were not favorably disposed toward him and who did not consider his misbehavior “correctable.” Carrier allegedly crossed the line after a speaking appearance at Arizona State University on April 3, 2015, when a student named Amy Frank said Carrier “sexually harassed me and touched me.” This was reported to the Secular Student Alliance, and Carter responded to the SSA by email:

“I did express interest in a student at an after event. And I recognized she did not appreciate that, and I apologized to her at the time. If she does want any further apology, I will definitely provide her one, so do relay that if that’s the case. But I don’t want to bother her by contacting her any further without her consent. I definitely felt bad about it. I thought the interest was mutual and I was very wrong. I won’t be doing that in future.”

SSA has a “zero-tolerance” policy, and responded by removing Carrier from their Speakers Bureau, although he continued to appear at SSA-affiliated events at Ohio State University (Nov. 16, 2015), University of California-Riverside (April 23, 2016) and Florida Tech (May 13, 2016).

Let us be clear that there is a difference between “expressing interest” in someone and “sexual harassment,” however, when a 45-year-old man is invited to speak on a university campus, for him to “express interest” in a student is inherently inappropriate. Here’s how Carrier describes it:

I did not touch her. Nor did the SSA tell me she had claimed so. And indeed, our interaction was more ambiguous than she makes out. Apart from publicly flattering her abilities as I would anyone as competent, we had one private conversation in which she expressed interest in opening her relationship with her then-boyfriend (or husband?), but noted he wasn’t sure about it yet. In response to that I mentioned that if she ever does, I’d be interested in dating her, and she should feel free to contact me if that happens. She smiled and said she would. That was the extent of our interaction that could be described as sexual harassment, and that only at quite a stretch. Amy also mentioned in that conversation that her then-boyfriend reads her private emails and messages. Implying I shouldn’t attempt to contact her. Even though I hadn’t said I would.

Question: Why would a college girl tell a 45-year-old man she was considering “opening her relationship” (i.e., polyamory)? Was this because Richard Carrier had a well-established habit of bringing up the topic of polyamory in cocktail-party conversation, as a sort of prompt to see if any women he’s talking to might be up for some action?

What does a middle-aged divorced atheist polyamorist consider “appropriate” behavior toward girls half his age? A commenter at Carrier’s blog, “Jimmy From Chicago,” raised this issue:

“Even if we’re to believe you and not believe her, you’re still the creepy middle-aged man who goes to the off-campus bar, hits on the students, and makes everyone uncomfortable. To do this at an event where you’re the invited speaker is unprofessional.”

To this, Carrier responded:

If you think ageism and infantilizing adult college students is better, I think we just have different values.
Meanwhile, I have many successful relationships with college students.

And furthermore Carrier added:

Except for some rare mistakes I have already publicly discussed, I only express interest in women when they have, or when they’ve made an indication it’s safe to. . . .
Their age and your age is completely irrelevant. That you think it is relevant is ageist; that you think young woman can’t make decisions for themselves and don’t want to be given the chance to, is infantilizing them.

So, girls half his age are fair game to the middle-aged atheist who has had “many successful relationships with college students.” It is “agesist” and “infantilizing” these girls to suggest that the age difference matters.

Far be it from me to play the judgmental pharisee here, and we know there are college girls who have no problem with a “sugar daddy” arrangement, but do we respect people who engage in such behavior? If slutty college girls actually are chasing middle-aged men, do we respect the girls? And if middle-aged men are chasing slutty college girls, do we respect the men? Even if such behavior is mutually consensual, it’s still not praiseworthy. The problem in the 21st century is that feminism has created a New Double Standard, where women’s can never be criticized for their sexual misbehavior (because that would be “slut-shaming”), yet men’s sexual misbehavior can destroy their careers.

So, Amy Frank made her complaint to the Secular Student Alliance, and this damaged Richard Carrier’s reputation, but her accusation was not made public until this month, when Amy Frank discovered that Richard Carrier was involved in Camp Quest, a summer event for atheist kids. This prompted Amy Frank to go public — big time:

Richard Carrier, the man who sexually harassed me and touched me a year ago after speaking at ASU is now an official employee of this organization. Camp Quest and the Secular Student Alliance are partners, and fully aware of what transpired last year. I’m not even close to being his only victim, and there are even more victims of other speakers of the SSA.
Want to know why he continues to be involved after being banned from being an SSA speaker? He is dating the wife of the Executive Director of the Secular Student Alliance. This woman is the head of Camp Quest.
Corrupt people continue to destroy what could be wonderful organizations. I am officially BOYCOTTING the national Secular Student Alliance until their leadership is completely dismantled. Students deserve to have an organization capable of handling sexual harassment and assault, with no conflicts of interest. Not only is abuse fairly common at SSA events, but the organization itself goes out of their way to undermine the reports of its very own members’ trauma.
I’ve held my tongue far too long. No more sweeping this shit under the rug. Time to own the fuck up and face the music. The victims have had enough.

Some would find the words “victim” and “trauma” here a bit much. However creepy and inappropriate Richard Carrier’s behavior may have been, what “trauma” is involved in brushing off a guy’s pickup line?

Ah, but remember feminist theory? All women are victims of “a hierarchical system which maintains the subordination of females as a class” through “violence and psychological coercion.” Feminism is about “resistance” to “women’s subordination within institutional heterosexuality.” Therefore, if a middle-age atheist guy tries to pick up a college atheist girl, she is a “victim” who suffers “trauma.”

THE PATRIARCHY IS OPPRESSING HER!

The many traumatized victims of Richard Carrier’s oppression have united, and he has now been banned from attending any future Skepticon, and his posting privleges at Free Thought Blogs have been suspended. He is now persona non grata in the atheist movement. This renders highly ironic the subject of a campus speech Richard Carrier gave in April:

Is Feminism Evil? What Feminism Really Is
& Why Movement Atheism Needs More of It
The internet has spread a mythology of sexism and misogyny that is now predominantly embraced by atheists, impeding understanding, and progress towards women’s equality. Like racism in the South, anti-feminism is now spread not always explicitly, but often through code words, fake concerns, and subtle bigotry. And its effects are being felt within movement atheism.
Feminism is about understanding and fighting this, and finishing what the Enlightenment started. Resistance to this is not rational, as we can see by the illogical and ill informed ways atheists attempt to claim they do not harbor outmoded sexist ideas, and thus end up perpetuating the very sexism they claim doesn’t exist. Personal stories, documented facts, and published science verify all of the ways women are still being treated unequally, and what to do about it.

Yes, feminism is evil, Dr. Carrier. You learned this too late.




 

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In The Mailbox: 06.21.16

Posted on | June 21, 2016 | Comments Off on In The Mailbox: 06.21.16

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