Sexual Disorientation

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Caitlin Stasey (@caitlinstasey) is a 24-year-old Australian actress who became a child star at age 12 in a series called The Sleepover Club. Her smiling face, however, concealed a world of inner emotional turmoil. Growing up in a sex-obsessed society seems to be a profoundly frightening experience for many girls nowadays. The decline of marriage and the destruction of moral norms are part of a cultural syndrome that produces what I have called “a sort of social epidemic of bipolar hysteria, in which minds unmoored from cultural tradition constantly shift between utter confusion and radical certainty.”

Both confusion and certainty are evident in the account Ms. Stasey shares with readers at her new feminist site Herself.com:

I had an oddly dichotomous upbringing, my father an atheist, my mother agnostic & my education Catholic. I was sent to a Catholic school primarily because of class sizes. . . . After entering high school (also Catholic) I abandoned the notion of God in the Christian sense; I couldn’t reconcile the church’s stance on sexuality with my own views. I became incredibly hateful of religion & am now resolute that it is one of the greatest tragedies to befall mankind. . . .
My parents were incredibly thoughtful, attentive & loving but there was certainly no love lost between them. It felt as though every moment of peace was heavy with the anticipation of another fight between them. . . . [G]rowing up around that much resentment was incredibly stressful. I think I may be one of few children to feel relief upon hearing my parents were divorcing. My exact words, according to my mother, were “Good.” . . .
Puberty was devastating for me. I suddenly had stretch marks all over my body, cellulite, hair, lumps, acne. . . . I was embarrassed by the changes I was going through and I had no real outlet for my confusion but, more than anything, I was embarrassed by my interest in sex, one that was present in me LONG before puberty. . . .
I would have vivid dreams about other women. Every night I’d drift off into this utopia of women being available to me & knowing nothing other than my desire for them. There was no one in my life who also expressed these desires, no one in the entertainment I consumed, the books I would read, the company I kept. A lack of monumental events shaped my sexuality, masturbating in secret, telling no one, saying nothing, concealing all sexual queries or thoughts. . . .
I’ve known I was mostly gay ever since I can remember. I know it troubles many people for me to refer to myself as a lesbian considering I have a male partner. . . .

FULL STOP. Ms. Stasey is currently in a relationship with actor Lucas Neff, 29, recently notorious for his hatred of Republicans:

‘Guns kill people. Men murder women.’
Actor Lucas Neff’s anti-gun rant goes ‘beta’

‘Anti-choice’ ‘scumbag women’: Actor Lucas Neff
says more female GOPers don’t make party less sexist

So girls who grow up masturbating to lesbian fantasies are into guys like Lucas Neff. Go figure. Back to Ms. Stasey’s account:

My vagina has been an unending and constant source of turmoil for me — not that vaginas are intrinsically female, it’s just happened to be a big part of womanhood for me personally — [urinary tract infections], PH imbalances, sexual dysfunction, pain, discomfort. Sexual education is no way near comprehensive enough as all of these things I’ve had to learn myself, treat myself & diagnose myself. I’m still struggling to gain control over my body, over my vagina. . . .
Growing up in dueling worlds — Catholic & secular — my relationship to my sexuality was constantly in flux. I tried not to think about it unless I needed to masturbate. Instead of it being a part of me it felt like a weird compulsion I had to take care of every now and then and then try to forget about. I used to pray every time I touched myself and I would cry myself to sleep, fearful of the wrath of God, guilty for my sins etc. etc. . . .

FULL STOP. Notice that in the conflict between her “dueling worlds,” Ms. Stasey is certain that it’s the “wrath of God” part that’s wrong, rather than her own perverse compulsions. Because I’m not Catholic, I have no idea what Ms. Stasey was taught in her schools. Growing up Baptist, I learned that humans are naturally sinful and can only be saved through grace. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus” (Romans 3:23-24). Furthermore, “we know that all things work together for good to them that love God” (Romans 8:28). Knowing this, through all my backsliding and wickedness and troubles, I never lost faith nor doubted the righteousness of God.

Excuse me for preaching, but some people can’t seem to get their minds around this concept of total human depravity and salvation by grace. Dude, back in the day I dealt dope in felony weight. I worked as a strip club DJ. I’ve seen total human depravity face-to-face, and have survived to tell you Jonathan Edwards was right: We are sinners in the hands of an angry God, deserving nothing but destruction, with no hope at all but grace. We can never deserve salvation by our own merit (“filthy rags” Isaiah 64:6) and thus can have no pride or self-righteousness. Yet despite our utter wretchedness, we are called to the service of the Lord of Heaven and Earth. “If God be for us, who can be against us?”

Well, Caitlin Stasey is certainly against us:

What is your political stance on women’s reproductive rights?
No one anywhere ever should EVER be able to tell a woman what is right for her body regarding her reproductive rights. If you’re pro life/anti contraceptive, swell, just keep it to your f–king self & practice it, don’t enforce it on others.
Are you pro life or pro choice?
Super duper pro pro pro SUPER PRO choice. I volunteer at a clinic that performs clinical abortions & escort patients to the waiting room from their cars, just to help them avoid harassment & so that they can see that they are supported.
What are your feelings about contraceptives? Their availability, cost, stigma, usage?
Contraceptives should be free, they should come in a wide variety pertaining to the needs of the individual & should be available on every f–king street corner.
What are your feelings on casual sex?
As long as it’s consensual, casual sex is an incredible tool to empower yourself with, help you learn your own body & its needs. Just BE SAFE.
Are you in a relationship(s)?
I am in a somewhat open relationship with the love of my life. We are not polyamorous but do not limit ourselves physically.
What are your feelings on marriage?
As an archaic institution it’s just awful, as a modern culture it’s even worse. The wedding industry is exploitative & gendered & drives the women who feel compelled to participate to madness. However, I’m an advocate of empowering women to do what THEY want & as long as they’re getting married because they TRULY believe it’s what THEY want & not what is expected OF them, then go for it. . . .
What are your feelings on monogamy?
It’s so pointless, painful & archaic. If it works for you and you genuinely find true contentment within monogamy then by all means endure it, but the fact that it’s the status quo is truly discriminative.

You can read the whole thing, which is illustrated with naked photos of Caitlyn Stasey, but I’m sure no Christian would be tempted to sinful lust for her after reading the hideous madness that pours forth from her disordered mind full of “vile affections” (Romans 1:26).

In my studies of radical feminism for the “Sex Trouble” series, I’ve noticed that this combination of personal confusion and political certainty is so common as to be typical. Kate Millett, Andrea Dworkin, Joyce Trebilcot, Laurie Penny — these are all “broken people,” as Professor Reynolds said, sharing the radical conviction that those of us who are normal, sane and happy are the real problem in the world.




 

170 comments

  1. What a disturbed and broken individual. She has totally bought into the culture of death, depravity, decadence and moral turpitude; not to mention the whole gamut of leftist groupthink.

    And, I’m still having trouble processing: “…not that vaginas are intrinsically female…”

  4. The thing is people get taught a lot of really weird stuff. I can’t really blame anyone for hating Christianity because I did for a long time. She has severe problems of a type that are now normally described as psychological, but are probably better thought of as spiritual and existential. Pray for Caitlin Stasey.

  6. BTW–Baptists think to believe there is something profoundly different between Roman Catholicism and being Baptist. There isn’t. Oh doctrinally there are differences, for sure, but culture wise they are similar.

  7. What is happening is that as marriage declines — and recedes, with more and more people postponing marriage until their late 20s or 30s — young people see yawning before them this vast landscape of SEX SEX SEX (as hyped in media) and it frightens and confuses them. Peer pressure combined with the influence of pop culture is horrific and, in the two-career household or the single-parent household, their parents often don’t have time to help counteract these influences.

    This is why feminism of a particularly weird and angry variety is flaring up: You’ve got angry girls tired of being mistreated by angry boys who are tired of being mistreated, all of them pointing the finger of blame at each other, and none of them with the slightest idea how to fix the part of the problem they can control: THEMSELVES.

  8. Wow, this is really effed up. No wonder she’s with a guy, despite identifying as a lesbian; under her rules, women are always losers. I thought I understood feminist misogyny, but she just raised (lowered?) the bar. Amazing, brilliant, and horrible.

    What do you think are positive ways the world views women?

    It’s funny, this question once struck me as innocent enough until I started asking women it. I found that EVERY answer they came up with had a seed of male gaze within it, and of course that’s the case. If you think of the patriarchy as a tree, its roots tainted by male privilege & oppression, then all the fruits of that tree are tainted as well, no matter how prettily it’s dressed up. To state that “being a woman is good because of…” is to separate us into categories that are arbitrary and socially inflicted anyway. If being a woman, by today’s standards, benefits you then you aren’t benefiting. You’re merely feeding back into a system that lets you down.

  9. Well! If Laci Green can’t convince you that a boy can have a vag, then no one can. You’ll have to face some extreme fast-talking nonsense with a nice rack to make it go down smooth, but if you can just treat her like a used-car saleswoman, then you might be able to get through it and understand a tiny fraction of what our host has to deal with on a regular basis.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5sHBAVjahp8

  12. Her parents were atheists, but they sent to a Catholic school, because of the class sizes? Didn’t either of them consider that they’d be undermining the very education that they were paying for?

    Right off the bat, this girl was in trouble!

  13. “I am confused.” Answer: “Religion and all of history and the world is confused.”

    Radfem 101. Thank you.

  14. From now on I’ll tell my PC friends I’m gay and explain my girlfriends by pointing to radfems like Miss Downunner. I’ll amass oodles of streetcred and goodwill while still hating the women I prefer. Because if I loved women I’d be with a… man… or… something like that there.

  16. What are your feelings on marriage?
    As an archaic institution it’s just awful, as a modern culture it’s even worse. The wedding industry is exploitative & gendered & drives the women who feel compelled to participate to madness. However, I’m an advocate of empowering women to do what THEY want & as long as they’re getting married because they TRULY believe it’s what THEY want & not what is expected OF them, then go for it. . . .

    Now arriving on track 5 …

    http://i.imgur.com/2YUZd8G.gif

  20. As a Baptist who grew up knowing a number of Catholics well (and married an ex-Catholic), let me just say that it “depends”. If you’re comparing a Roman Catholic and Baptist to, say, the subject of this piece, absolutely – but that’s taking a very broad view without looking at details at all.

  27. Ms. Stasey is the end result–the poster child, if you will–of the decades long effects of Postmodern Deconstruction upon our society, though she would scarcely recognize it. When one’s core beliefs include a definition of “Truth” which malleable, is it any wonder that one’s life is filled with innumerable contradictions? It is a life based upon whim; upon momentary personal expediency. There is no anchor or “solid rock” upon which to build one’s life and allow one to weather life’s vicissitudes. Ms. Stasey is one of many, and I fear that our philosophical heritage and its benefits will never again be seen.

  28. You would be surprised at the number of non-Christian parents who send their children to Christian schools. They do so for a variety of reasons, including quality of the education, an atmosphere wholly different than the public schools, and the ability to be taken seriously when dealing with administrators and teachers.

    Probably five percent of the kids in my children’s Lutheran high school are atheists or come from non-Christian backgrounds, i.e. Jewish, Hindu, Buddhist or whatever. They’re not exempt from chapel services, small discipleship groups or theology classes. I know a number of them who’ve wound up accepting Christ and leading their families to Christianity as a result.

  29. I don’t think they can control themselves. I have written about this myself. The girl is a victim of all kinds of false teachers, religious and “secular”. The only answer is Jesus and I hope and pray she finds her way there somehow.

  30. I agree but view it as more of a lux et tenebrae sort of thing. Pulchritude combined with an appalling base ideology.
    See Ephesians 5: 8-14 for more on that theme

  31. Consider the Q & A in order from the link:

    Where do you feel unsafe as a woman?

    It may seem dramatic but everywhere.

    Where is somewhere you can exist without fear?

    My home, when I’m with my boyfriend. It sickens me to have to admit to feeling secure when I’m with a man. It’s because I know people are far less likely to harass me if I’m accompanied.

    Do women treat you differently than men?

    Women are more empathic, considered, honest & tactile. The more I experience the men the more I’m experiencing their bias & privilege.

    So, she’s afraid everywhere and only feels safe “with her boyfriend.” Yet, “experiencing” men means “experiencing” men’s bias and privilege.

    WTF does that mean? Men are shits, but I can only feel safe with one? How does her brain not shake apart from cognitive dissonance like the Tacoma Narrows bridge?

  32. So many treat sexuality as all-important and defining (in this poor girl’s case, replacing God and becoming one itself), yet practice it so casually (“Casual sex is an incredible tool …”). Little wonder this thinking leaves to a confused life and, sadly, a confused culture.

  33. If I never thought of parenthood as a job requiring the utmost diligence and concern for my daughter’s future mental as well as physical well-being, I sure do now.

    I would hate to be her father.

  34. Biology is competing with ideology for control of her brain.

    Sorry to say that biology, despite a valiant effort, is coming off second best.

  35. See her quotes section at IMDB:

    I’m really just looking forward to the day when a woman’s orgasm isn’t scary.
    —–
    We are the fairer sex. We are pure. We are not earthly creatures… And I think to put us in the midst of all of it, to see that we are in fact just as sexually driven as men, is kind of confronting. Also the fact that we are largely, nowadays, not reliant on men to provide pleasure for us.
    —–
    [on the TV show Reign] I hope women that watch it can at least take with a grain of salt the level of importance that is placed on our virginities and on our male counterparts. I would hate for any
    young girl to watch and be like, ‘This is the standard by which I will set my life’. I think they’ve done an incredible job of creating female
    characters who are really empowered by the times rather than restricted by them. Or, at least, empowered enough within the restrictions that they find themselves in.
    —–
    I bore this great shame. And I would pray every time before I’d
    masturbate. I was like, ‘Dear God, this is the last time, except maybe
    three more times on the way to Queensland.’ I was so scared.
    —–
    ‘Broad City’ is how I wish we could all be, whereas ‘Girls’ is maybe a more accurate representation of how things are. There is still
    this expectation, there is still this reticence and fear, but I think that [Girls creator] Lena Dunham and [Broad City creators] Ilana Glazer and Abbi Jacobson are forging the way forward.

  36. “… the utmost diligence and concern for my daughter’s future mental as well as physical well-being …”

    Yeah, my keen interest in the Culture Wars could probably be traced to that day in 1989 when I learned my first child would be a girl. She graduated college summa cum laude, married a lawyer and is now teaching the children of Haitian refugees. Meanwhile, I have five younger children, including a 12-year-old daughter who is growing up in The Age of the Selfie.

    Obviously, “the utmost diligence” is required.

  40. “not that vaginas are intrinsically female…”
    If a vagina is not intrinsically female, then I don’t know what is.

  42. The cultural stuff is usually less religion and more…well culture. Irish Catholics are way closer to Scot-Irish than Italian Catholics. Italian Catholics culturally are more similar to Jews (especially Sephardic Jews).

  44. So she lives in two worlds, even though she rejected religion from the beginning? This sounds to me like a privileged narcissist in search of a cause.
    Also not lost on me is the usual dichotomy of a feminist decrying the patriarchy while posting nude pictures. Who is that supposed to appeal to? It’s just weaponized sex.

  46. My first born was/is a daughter. There’s nothing that sobers a man up more quickly than seeing that. Like our host, she’s now a lovely women, summa cum laude, Phi Beta Kappa and gainfully employed.

    The proudest moment of my life was when I heard that her boyfriend described me as “bad ass.”

    : )

    Vaya con Dios, my friend.

  47. “Actor Louis Neff’s anti-gun rant goes beta”. Hah hah! Dosen’t this sum it up for male supporters of feminism/lesbianism?

  48. Reading that all I came away with is what an awful, selfish, stupid, spoiled human being she is. It’s way beyond her politics too, which, yes, feeds into it, but’s it’s far deeper than that. She’s despicable and ugly at core.

  49. Concern00:
    What I can understand from her “…vaginas…intrinsic…” statement— in as much as any statement so patently nonsensical and absurd can be understood— is in her world “female” and “male” are entirely “so?called “social constructs”! I.e., mutually agreed?to mass hallucinations… probably also including chromosomal differences, (after all, Science and Biology are part of/serve the “Patriarchy Conspiracy”! Correct?)!
    I feel only pity for her: she is the current author of her own dissatisfaction w/life and the world, and her own unhappiness.
    It is really sad.

  50. Daniel:
    Her whole point, whether she’s aware or not, is that she’s fighting what’s both a biological and spiritual imperative. Looking at her quote that you’ve provided, she’s doing what she has previouly hinted she hates in others: defining terms and boundaries as she sees fit, then imposing that shlock on others.
    I find the “seed of male gaze” statement particularly instructive…

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