Feminist Tumblr: Still Crazy

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Because I’ve been busy the past week reading Women’s Studies textbooks (including Women’s Voices, Feminist Visions), I haven’t updated you on Lilly the Human Train Wreck. She is the mentally ill feminist Tumblr blogger who filed a federal complaint against her university, which forced her into an alcohol counseling program after she accused a fellow student of raping her. After I called attention to her “Support Survivors” blog — because every survivor needs “support” from a 23-year-old mentally ill alcoholic college dropout, right? — Lilly freaked out: “We Need to Get Him Off the Internet.” A week later, I’m still on the Internet and Lilly is still a trainwreck, but Sunday someone on Twitter pointed out that conservative blogger Gerard Vanderleun has waded into the digital swamp of crazy that is Tumblr, in an apparent attempt to confront these lunatics with facts, logic and other oppressive social constructs. Gerard responded to Lilly and I noticed in the “notes” of that post another feminist’s unhinged rant directed at me:

this incites a rage within me that i cannot even begin to explain.
“don’t go to college parties if you don’t want to have sex”
basically if you’re a woman, don’t leave your fucking house or do anything if you don’t want to have sex because men are so self-entitled that they will fucking do whatever they want anyway and then blame you if you speak up when they literally assault you.
this whole entire ‘article’ is complete bullshit. and don’t even get me started on the whole jibe about ‘not listening to successful adults’ because there are plenty of very successful adults who recognize rape culture and work against it. the ‘adults’ this asshole is listening to are victim-blaming shitlords and i would rather listen to educated people on social media than listen to ‘established’ people who have no fucking idea what they’re talking about.
i could seriously write a whole fucking essay about what complete shit this is, but i’m so fucking angry i just can’t rn.
i’m just so sorry that lilly has to deal with this bullshit when she’s already dealing with so much and helping so many people. lilly, you are a wonderful human being and i know so many people, including myself, are so grateful to you and proud of you.

See? She “could seriously” write an essay, not “rn” (right now), because she is so angry at “victim-blaming shitlords” like me. People who criticize feminism “have no fucking idea what they’re talking about.”

She’s so mad, she might even learn to capitalize properly.

It is necessary to remind you what I actually wrote:

Perhaps it is traumatic to college girls who, despite solid GPAs in high school and high SAT scores, are nevertheless too stupid to understand why college guys want to get college girls drunk. Do I need to draw you a diagram, ladies? Whatever else is going on at these parties, sex is certainly near the top of the list of desired outcomes, so if you don’t want to have sex, don’t go to the party. However, if you choose to ignore that advice, and go to the party even though you don’t want to have sex, there are all kinds of common-sense strategies that smart girls use to avoid misfortune. On the other hand, if you’re a feminist, common sense doesn’t matter, and offering smart advice is “blaming the victim.”

Please go read the whole thing. Maybe in recent decades, human nature has completely changed. Perhaps a spirit of humanitarian generosity is now the reason college guys cheerfully provide alcohol to underage freshman girls. Why, only a complete “shitlord” — someone who has “no fucking idea” — would suspect that college guys want to get 18-year-old girls drunk so they can have sex with them. Because college girls getting drunk at parties and having sex with college guys never happened at any previous time since the dawn of human history.

Facts, logic, caustic sarcasm — nothing can penetrate the rigid fanatical certainty of her totalitarian worldview. She buys into this belief system, and achieves Feminist Consciousness.

“In terms of the oppression of women, heterosexuality is the ideology of male supremacy. . . .
“What we are doing in revolutionary struggle is to make our consciousnesses different. When enough people’s consciousnesses are different, then we make a revolution.”
— Margaret Small, “Lesbians and the Class Position of Women,” in Lesbianism and the Women’s Movement, edited by Bunch and Nancy Myron (1975)

“Feminist consciousness is consciousness of victimization . . . to come to see oneself as a victim. . . .
“To apprehend myself as victim in a sexist society is to know that there are few places where I can hide, that I can be attacked almost anywhere, at any time, by virtually anyone.”
— Sandra Bartky, Femininity and Domination: Studies in the Phenomenology of Oppression (1990)

“All women are prisoners and hostages to men’s world. Men’s world is like a vast prison or concentration camp for women. This isn’t a metaphor, it’s reality. Each man is a threat. We can’t escape men.”
— Radical Wind, August 2013

“The threat of violence alone affords all men dominance over all women.”
— “Men and Violence,” March 27, 2015

Feminism teaches her that she is victimized by heterosexuality, the “ideology of male supremacy,” and she is induced into a state of anti-male paranoia: Fear and Loathing of the Penis!

Once she learns that every man is a threat, the young feminist experiences any overt expression of male heterosexuality — a glance, a smile, a confident masculine swagger in his walk — as psychologically traumatic. It is specifically those traits that any normal woman finds attractive in a man that the feminist is taught to view with fearfulness and resentment. For example, a muscular man’s superior strength represents to the young feminist a threat of violence. The feminist despises any man who has advanced skills, knowledge and experience, because this means he is “arrogant,” a word which in the feminist lexicon defines any man who thinks he knows anything about anything. If a champion NASCAR driver were to offer a feminist advice on how to drive, she would walk away in a huff and then get on her Tumblr blog to denounce him as a “mansplainer.” Like, who does that Jimmie Johnson think he is, right?

Strong men are dangerous, knowledgeable men are arrogant, white men are racist, straight men are homophobic and any man who is successful in life is privileged — his success is actually proof that he is a misogynistic oppressor, because the only way that any man ever achieves anything is by depriving women of equality. Because feminism is a totalitarian ideology, the young feminist is led to believe that she has acquired a monopoly on knowledge merely by calling herself a feminist. She automatically becomes an expert on any topic that interests her, and no man on earth knows anything — unless he agrees with her.

Circular logic is circular. Quod erat demonstrandum.

America is still a free country, and therefore feminists have a right to promulgate their lunatic ideology. The problem is that anyone who tries to point out what hopeless lunacy is involved in feminist ideology is branded a “hater,” a “rape apologist,” a victim-blaming shitlord who has no fucking idea what he’s talking about. Therefore, the next time a freshman girl accepts an invitation to attend the welcoming festivities of the Philanthropic Collegiate Benevolent Society for Providing Alcohol to Horny Teenagers (for so she must imagine such a party to be) and the results are exactly what any person with common sense would expect, her sexual victimhood is to be blamed on the patriarchy, and not on feminism, even though it was patriarchy that told her the simple truth:

DON’T GET S**TFACED DRUNK AT COLLEGE PARTIES

What part of that is so hard for feminists to understand? Most college girls actually do understand this, which is why a majority of college girls are neither (a) feminists nor (b) rape victims. They don’t get drunk at parties, they don’t get raped, they don’t make false accusations or file federal Title IX complaints. Most college girls do not suffer PTSD, anxiety disorder or suicidal depression. Most college girls are not bisexual alcoholics, and they do not seek out bisexual mentally ill alcoholics on Tumblr when they need advice.

We see how feminists (in fact, a tiny minority of deranged fanatics) have managed to arrogate to themselves a presumed authority to speak for all woman. Disagreeing with feminists proves that you hate women.

Being a married father of six and now a grandfather, I am far beyond danger of any direct threat from these lunatic ideologues. Unfortunately, however, radical feminists now exercise hegemonic control over academia, and no one in authority at any college or university would dare criticize or oppose them. The frightening thing is that many young male students are unaware of the peril that hovers like a ghastly shadow over every campus in the 21st century.

Think about this: At a private Catholic college in California, where parents pay tuition of more than $40,000 for their children to attend, the Student Coalition Against Rape (SCAR) is operating a 24-hour Campus Assault Resources and Empowerment (CARE) telephone hotline for female students who want to report their male classmates as sexual predators. Do you think they are doing this so that, during the entire nine-month school year, zero reports will be made?

Or do you suppose that at some point (this year and every year henceforth) at least one woman at this college will have an experience that she will identify as sexual assault or “harassment”? Female students substantially outnumber males on this campus (59% female, 41% male), and this hyper-vigilant scrutiny of male behavior must either (a) yield at least an occasional accusation, or else (b) give rise to claims that victims are afraid to report what horrible brutality these beastly rapists have inflicted on them. Feminists assert as a fact that 1-in-5 college females will be raped before graduation, and if they cannot produce a sufficient number of valid accusations, they will be forced to invent them.

In 2015, no male can safely attend college unless he resolves never to socialize with his female classmates. Never speak to them, never look at them, avoid them to the greatest extent possible and, whatever you do, don’t even think about dating a college girl, let alone having sex with her. Attempted heterosexuality on the 21st-century campus can destroy your life, young man. Therefore, if any female student attempts to strike up a conversation with you, it must be presumed that she is endeavoring to solicit a reaction that can provide her with the pretext to accuse you of harassment or sexual assault. You think I’m joking, young man, but do you want to take the risk of becoming the next unfortunate victim of feminism’s Campus Crusade to Abolish Heterosexuality?

“Oh,” says the clever young fellow, “that will never happen to me. I would never make the mistake of dating a feminist.”

How do you know? Do you think these crazy women all wear fluorescent orange vests marked “Feminists Against Heterosexuality”?

Do you think Emma Sulkowicz showed up for her sophomore year at Columbia University and told Paul Nungesser that she was setting him up for a false rape accusation? Do you think fraternity members at the University of Virginia had any clue, in the fall of 2012, that a mentally ill freshman named “Jackie” was preparing to blame them in a rape hoax that would lead to national headlines two years later?

Look here, young man: Behold the face of Karyssa, the young feminist who branded me a “victim-blaming shitlord.” Karyssa looks utterly normal, and yet she is clearly in the throes of the same anti-male hysteria as Lilly the Human Train Wreck.

Feminist Against Heterosexuality are monitoring every campus now, young man. These hate-filled young fanatics are watching everything you do and listening to every word you say. Feminist ideology defines every man as an oppressor of women. You are their enemy and they will celebrate your destruction as a victory. You should assume that any woman with whom you communicate is sharing all your e-mails and text messages with her feminist comrades. They are archiving your social media data, searching for proof that you are thinking unacceptable thoughts or engaging in unacceptable behavior. Feminists are collecting evidence against you, young man, so they can get you expelled from college, permanently branded a rapist and, they hope, sentenced to prison. Your downfall will make international headlines, your name will become a synonym for masculine evil, and the woman who destroys you will be applauded for her heroic courage.

This is your final warning, young man. Don’t become a statistic.

UPDATE: Therapy isn’t helping Lilly the Human Train Wreck:

I’m seeing my therapist again tomorrow.
But I don’t want to see her much longer. I need to look for a better one.
I have no idea how to go about this search. I saw everyone in this god damned town and none were a fit or had enough availabilities.
But I’ve just about had it with this one. She was nice last time when I couldn’t hold back tears, sure. But she showed far too much sympathy for my high school abuser simply because he might be/is gay. And her son is gay. And I literally almost lost it and actually almost messaged my abuser to attempt to get closure but caught myself because there’s no way it would have helped me at all. This woman is not good for me.
I just can’t imagine searching once again for someone else. At this point maybe I just shouldn’t see anyone. None of them have been all that helpful anyway. None of the EMDR ones are available. So I am screwed.

In case you’ve forgotten, Lilly had a crush on this boy:

She fell in love with Sam in sixth grade, but he rejected her. She contemplated suicide. Beginning in her freshman year of high school, Lilly was “involved with other boys, and girls,” but by senior year, she renewed her romance with Sam. She “almost lost [her] virginity” to Sam, but meanwhile, she found out Sam was “hooking up” with her friend Steven, as well as “seeing other girls.” She “kept asking him if he was gay.” Much drama ensued.

The “drama” is what Lilly now describes as “abuse,” but she was the one pursuing him, and I’m sure that if you asked Sam, he’d say, “That bitch is crazy.” A fact Lilly seems determined to prove.

UPDATE II: More from Lilly the Human Train Wreck:

I wish I could have his website deleted. But I can’t. Nobody can do that but the police or a lawsuit. And I don’t have tens of thousands of dollars to sue him. That’s how much money it would cost. Who has that kind of money laying around? Nobody.
I wish his family would show resentment or embarrassment. I wish his wife would divorce him and take the kids. . . .
Even if Mr. Stalker stops talking about me or my followers, HIS followers won’t. Because his followers are really crazed people. Really sick in the head. Really deranged. They’re like one step away from blowing up a Planned Parenthood-batshit crazy.

You see? A 23-year-old lunatic sets herself up as a sort of Internet expert offering “support” for “survivors” — and when I quote what she wrote on her blog, this proves that I’m a bad person, to whom bad things should happen.

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243 comments

  1. Grampa Stacy is a bigoted, racist, intolerant, Christofascist, oppressive rapist who eggs on feminists by quoting their own words back to them. He, and his brother, the even more oppressive and intolerant Kirby, should both be in prison. And when the SCOTUS gets through with them, they probably will be. Then we’ll have to go down there with a file baked into a cake for them.

  2. So Lilly gets a pass from you because she’s allegedly “mentally ill?”

    Lilly impresses me as a vicious attention-seeking hysteric whose entire identity is defined by her victim sweatshirt. She willfully puts herself out there publicly and then cries foul when here invidious nonsense gets quoted and called out for what it is. That’s nuts, alright, but it hardly rises to the level of mental illness.

    Where’s your advice to her?

    Being an apologist for the likes of Lilly is as immature and wrongheaded as her gratuitous victimhood, imo.

  3. People here aren’t laughing at her, at least not in the way you think. I’ve offered to help her, for free, because I, and everyone here, does honestly care about her.

    But what you’re leaving out of the equation is that a mentally ill person is purporting to help other mentally ill people, and that’s wrong. After she gets herself straightened out – and she can – then she’ll be in a position to help others. Until then, she’s misleading them.

    Plus, she needs to understand that when you post stuff online, people are liable to take exception to it. And if you’re not strong enough to handle that, you gotta quit doing it.

    Do you understand what I mean here?

  4. yep. that’s the one.

    Guess I should go check to see if I have a cake pan big enough to hold a saws-all.

  10. Even if Mr. Stalker stops talking about me or my followers, HIS followers won’t. Because his followers are really crazed people. Really sick in the head. Really deranged. They’re like one step away from blowing up a Planned Parenthood-batshit crazy.

    WTF? Did she just libel me? I have a job, and I actually have a lawyer on retainer. My sparkling reputation is totally going to suffer from this, and my lawyer is always looking for any excuse to suck money out of me.

    p.s. Oh crap. Did I just libel him?

  12. I save lives and he causes suicides.

    If this goes to court, I’d like to see the data on that.

  13. As I’ve said before, the internet is no place to go for resolving apparent self-loathing. As Steve Skubinna replied, “Yeah, she’s pretty much found herself the modern equivalent of playing in traffic.” It’s kind of tragic.

  15. Indeed. But I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t think that even somebody who played in traffic deserved a second chance. Maybe it’s one of those things that’s the difference between men and women, and I can dig that. But a lost soul is still a lost soul in my book.

  16. Is there a connection between the policy of deinstitutionalization and the rise of the feminist movement?

  17. Feminists are so funny. Once you’ve read enough of them you realize how hapless they are. Other feminists are always “wonderful” Their novels are wonderful pre-read and their shitty art is wonderful and no matter how morally corrupt everything’s just wonderful. That goes far beyond something like affirmative action and straight into a segregated echo chamber where no normal human being stands a chance of being judged by what they do rather than their skin and sex. Ironically, intersectional feminism is supposedly set up to oppose exactly that. That reveals this is no more than a con game from people who have mentally ill paranoia’s of men and whites.

  18. Your point is well-taken if you forget her age and sociopathy. In fact this woman needs what luckily happened to the transblack Rachel Dolezal: a peer pressure intervention from reality. This is just an opinion of course but reinforcing these mad delusions just makes sure the train will come up even harder when it tries to enter the tunnel painted on a hillside. At some point you have to slap these people into harsh reality because there is no give in reality and sooner or later it will catch up with you. Better sooner than later. There’s a reason why these people (like Dolezal) ban their own families from their lives and that’s because it makes the chance of any intervention into their delusions much lower, but which is precisely what they need. Soft words and logic only get so far when you’re dealing with delusion and hostility.

  19. My advice to her is nothing that I would tell you, as you are not her. I believe in helping people, but ridicule while trying to do so, it’s cruel. I’m no “apologist”, I think it’s wrong. End of story.

  20. Lets be quite honest here. You can offer her treatment for free, but if you were her, reading the article and these comments, would you trust anyone on this site to help? I wouldn’t. Yes, I do understand, and I think she should NOT being giving advice to others, as I have seen her diagnose people with agoraphobia and other things only a therapist or a specialist could do, saw her called out on it, and get defensive. But at the same time, this is not helping and it is making a person who is only early 20s feel more lost and sick than ever. That is what I was trying to say, more or less. These are the people that need to find help, and she’s trying obviously, but with this, it is doing more damage than anything and I think it should stop.

  22. Our host noted:

    If a champion NASCAR driver were to offer a feminist advice on how to drive, she would walk away in a huff and then get on her Tumblr blog to denounce him as a “mansplainer.” Like, who does that Jimmie Johnson think he is, right?

    Kyle Petty noted about Danica Patrick that she can drive fast, but she doesn’t know how to race. He was thoroughly excoriated.

  25. Read my comment above. Of course, mental illness is difficult to deal with. She apparently realizes she needs help. But N.B., she has tried and abandoned numerous therapists. I can ignore leaving one or maybe two professionals because of “fit” issues. However, by her own admission, she’s been to numerous therapists, yet believes none of them is doing anything to help her. And so, she contemplates leaving therapy entirely. That behavior is indicative of someone who, for whatever reason, is not truly seeking help. She is seeking someone who will affirm her self-destructive behavior and ignore her own responsibility for it. She wants a “safe space,” not a cure.

    There’s no question, McCain’s words are harsh. But there are times when professionals must give harsh advice. There are times when the “cure” is difficult and painful. Nevertheless, the end result is worth it and the alternative is destruction.

    And I speak as a professional who has encountered many people similar to Lilly. Some of those have visited many of my colleagues before seeing me. What they want is someone to advise them to do what they want to do before they ever stepped into my office. Doing so may make them feel “better” for a moment, but they’re still going to suffer in the long run.

    Lilly is still young. Perhaps she is salvageable. the problem is, the internet has given her a forum and provided her with an entourage of similarly situated people providing her with affirmation, such that she has no incentive to get real help. She needs some harsh words, not constant chants of “you’re great!”

  26. If by “funny,” you mean certifiable… The line about gays “getting married and having babies” has some comic merit, but most of the rest of it just sounds like overwrought whining…

  27. She has roughly a dozen posts about Stacy just today, but he’s the stalker. And it’s amusing that she equates a private diary with a freaking blog. If you don’t want what you’ve written to be seen my the general public, then perhaps a public tumbler account is not the way to go. How about a private facebook group? Idiot.

  29. I’d like to see PP clinics bulldozed and their sites turned into memorial gardens and playgrounds!

  31. Liberal just HATE it when THEIR OWN WORDS are exposed and rightfully mocked. What a loon, apparently just looking at a PUBLIC blog is “stalking!”

  33. Early on in this series. Heck probably before it became part of the series there was a whole weeks with of commentary from the host about the deinstituionalization of the mental health and rise of certain strains of social justice.

  34. ^^^^^^^ THIS!!!! I know a certain progressive who I believe is stuffing for some type of mental disorder who takes to the intent and fling their feces for the world the see. But they get wildly upset when people notice that it is in fact feces they are flinging.

    Share your secrets with a therapists if you don’t want folks chattering publicly about them…

  35. This is something I’ve noticed about young feminists for more than a year. They publish the craziest things on the Internet, expecting only praise and support, because on the 21st-century campus, no one is permitted to confront feminist bullshit directly. So they publish these stories full of strange assertions and confessional personal details, and if anyone calls attention to this in a critical way — ZOMG! You’re a stalker! You’re harassing them! You’re a rape apologist! You are accused of the most malign motives, and why? Because they simply can’t imagine that any intelligent person disagrees with them.

    Seeing such reactions — and I’ve experienced this at least a half-dozen times, personally, since 2013 — made me realize that the university campus has become an ideological monolith. By excluding from the faculty anyone who is critical of their radical egalitarian “progressive” worldview, university administrations have decisively tilted the playing field on campus. This has serious consequences, in terms of the students’ ability to cope with disagreement.

  36. More like giving women the vote made many think they could do better than men. With rare exceptions women with power pretty much ruin everything.

  37. She’s also memory-holed nearly everything I quoted in my first post about her.. Her reactions to criticism further demonstrate Lilly’s disastrously bad judgment. “Hey, someone quoted my blog and this is just terrible. Maybe I should publish some posts calling him and his readers awful things, because there’s no way he would quote that, right?”

    In other words, she is unable to anticipate consequences to her actions — which is, of course, the whole point of her victimhood. She acts irresponsibly and then, when predictably bad results ensue, she lashes out at scapegoats.

    As an ideology, feminism is self-sustaining, because trying to live your life in accordance with feminist theory will invariably cause misery, and then this self-inflicted misery will be blamed on the patriarchy. Lather, rinse, repeat.

  39. If she believes that Mr McCain is a cult leader whose “followers call him the HOST,” then she’s been reading my comments. 🙂

  40. If you click on it right now the top post is a republish of a mediate note where a McCain apologizes for a rape comment and a picture of you cackling like an evil person and a snark one liner comment from her about you being a rape apologist.

  42. I would also note that debate isn’t a strong suit in some of these social justice types. As if we are missing something by not having classes in how to throw metaphorical sharp elbows to discuss theories and philosophy styles that one enjoys. Which is why I see a number of them want to lock down speech. Since they should not be made to feel bad about thier ideas no matter how vapid or vapor ware like it is. Nope they should be allowed to speak because they were the first ones to come up with the ideas (mind you others might have as well years or centuries ago but they weren’t the right people to try it yet.)

  43. Here’s what really kills me.

    Her top post as of today begins:

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with being mentally ill.

    Nothing.

    Holy crap. I’ll concede that there’s nothing inherently “sinful” or “immoral” about mental illness, but if you’re freaking mentally ill and saying there’s nothing wrong with that??? Jeebus help them.

    BONUS: Her site was designed by “sleepover”. How can that, in itself, not “trigger” her????

  46. I don’t have a problem with the statement that there is nothing wrong with being mentally ill. There IS something wrong with patting an insane person on the back and telling them they are OK when they are not. The left is vile in that regard, and vile in that they are allowing the insane to become opinion leaders.

  47. I had a friend that played the game of musical therapists. He committed suicide 6 years ago.

  49. Let’s be honest. If the vile left weren’t praising such people, then they wouldn’t be out in public doing to stupid stuff that inspires posts like RSM’s. And she is not trying to find help playing musical therapists. She’s trying to find one that will affirm what she’s hearing publically from those around her and not getting what she really needs. She needs to be told exactly what RSM has said here. She’s crazy and needs help. The vile left will not get her help. They will simply use her.

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