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‘Hypergamy Doesn’t Care’

Posted on | April 23, 2019 | 2 Comments

Rollo Tomassi (left) and Anthony Johnson (right) at the 21 Convention.

As previously mentioned, I’ve been invited to cover next month’s 21 Convention in Orlando, featuring an all-star schedule of “red pill” speakers, including Rollo Tomassi, author of The Rational Male.

If you follow Rollo on Twitter, you know he has a habit of speaking brutal truth, and a few years ago, he coined a phrase that young men should be required to memorize: “Hypergamy Doesn’t Care.” A preference for high-status males is hard-wired into female psychology, and young men must understand that there is no way to avoid the consequences of how basic human nature operates. Unlike feminism — a blame game that demonizes males for being male — the “red pill” philosophy is not about trying to impose a radical ideology on the world; it’s about understanding the reality of what Rollo calls “intersexual dynamics.”

Here’s a simple question: Why do some men fail with women?

It’s not women’s fault. Turning this into a blame game, avoiding responsibility for your own failure by externalizing blame, is as harmful and counter-productive as the feminist approach of blaming “patriarchy” for everything. Men fail with women because they do not understand women. Men fail with women because they do not properly estimate their own Sexual Market Value. Men fail with women because of self-defeating behavior patterns they developed as teenagers. And men fail because they do not devote themselves to learning how to succeed.

Monday afternoon, I talked by phone with Anthony “Dream” Johnson, co-founder of “The Red Man” group and leader of the 21 Convention. Anthony is 30 years old and has learned some lessons the hard way, as he explained in a presentation to the 21 Convention in 2016:

“I want to warn you that you are highly attractive targets, and you are at high risk of the same thing happening to you. . . . Psychopaths and predators and monsters of this magnitude are very attracted to quality targets.”

This is frightening. Guys worry about being losers — the low-status Beta male who can’t score with women — but if you’re a high-status winner, you are vulnerable as a target for exploitation. Why do feminists accuse “red pill” guys of being misogynists? Is this perhaps because such men have witnessed (or been victims of) women’s most toxic patterns of behavior, and feel they have a duty to warn other men?

Talking to Anthony confirmed a lot of what I’d already suspected about the toxicity of the dating pool in the age of Tinder and social-media. He explained that the area of Florida where he attended college has been identified as one of the top “sugar baby” locations in America. Thanks to the wonders of 21st-century communications technology, young women — indeed, teenage girls — are very aware that they are in possession of a valuable commodity which can be leveraged for cash money. This behavior doesn’t necessarily involve the most obvious fee-for-service transactions, but in general, a young woman with an Instagram account full of sexy selfies isn’t just posting those bikini pictures for her own self-validation; this is marketing, and her body is the product.

Ask yourself: If every good-looking girl knows she can leverage her youth and beauty for financial advantage — “Hit me up on Venmo” — simply by posting her photos online, what sort of influence does that have on their attitudes toward men? Answer: Not a good influence.

Many thousands of young women have been utterly corrupted this way. Once this pattern of behavior becomes a habit, it’s quite nearly impossible for a woman to see men as anything other than potential customers — chumps to be exploited for financial gain.

Anthony Johnson described to me his experience of going out to local nightclubs and seeing young women — seemingly innocent, whom no untutored observer would suspect of being dates-for-hire — whom he recognized from their online “seeking arrangements” profiles. Once you become aware of this phenomenon, a lot of otherwise mysterious behavior by young women becomes less mysterious. Consider, for example, the so-called “wanderlust” culture of young women traveling the world, recording their experiences on blogs, YouTube, Instagram, etc. How is she paying the bills for that trip to a resort in Bali, huh?

Or what about the Anthony Weiner scandal? Remember how shocked we were to learn that a member of Congress was “sexting”? And that he continued doing this until he ended up in federal prison? There are many men in the world — including men with money and positions of high social status — who are more or less helplessly out of control, seeking sexual thrills online, and these men represent the demand side of a market equation that, as any economist could explain, has summoned into existence an industry on the supply side of that equation.

A fool and his money are soon parted, and there are plenty of fools willing to make online payments to any reasonably attractive woman who will give them even a minimal amount of attention in return.

It should not be necessary to say that I condemn the male attitudes and behaviors that create this kind of sexual marketplace, but it’s important to understand how postmodern feminism contributes to this problem. What nowadays passes for feminism is an ideology that exempts women from responsibility by making “patriarchy” — “toxic masculinity,” “rape culture,” “objectification,” etc. — the all-purpose scapegoat for whatever unpleasantness a woman might experience in her life.

This ethos of irresponsibility has the effect of telling young women that they should never face consequences if they make foolish choices and engage in obviously harmful behaviors. Contemporary feminist rhetoric specifically excuses excuses (indeed, encourages) promiscuity by claiming that it is “slut-shaming” to condemn such behavior.

This is how you end up with someone like self-declared herpes-infected “slut” Ella Dawson being praised by Hillary Clinton.



In what kind of upside-down world is this considered praiseworthy? And how frightening is it that Hillary Clinton nearly became president? This is very relevant to what Anthony Johnson describes in his “Married to Medusa” video — the unscrupulous predator, the cunning psychopath, the sharks who swim so deep that it is nearly impossible to detect them. Feminism encourages, enables and justifies such behavior in women.

More than 350,000 people have viewed that video and, as I told Anthony on the phone, what he’s warning young men about reflects a lot of the advice I tell my own sons. Young men are living in a world of dangers that simply didn’t exist when I was a bachelor in the 1970s and ’80s. One reason things have gone so haywire for the Millennial generation is that for the most part their parents have no idea how, for example, social media and other such technologies have impacted the dating scene. My brothers and I have talked about this. Like, when we were “out there” back in the day, there were no cellphones, no Facebook, nothing like that, so if you got mixed up with a crazy woman, it was relatively easy to “ghost” her, as the kids say nowadays. Yeah, bad breakups happened, but there wasn’t a digital archive to wreck your reputation, and your crazy ex-girlfriend couldn’t stalk you on social media. Because of feminism’s hegemonic influence in our culture, we hear much more about the toxic behaviors of men in this context (e.g., “revenge porn”), but it is dangerous to pretend that all women are innocent angels.

Well, I could go on about this subject forever, but the point is, it’s going to be $300 for three nights in a hotel for this conference, to say nothing of my transportation expenses, which is why I must remind you again that the Five Most Important Words in the English Language are:




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