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In The Mailbox: 04.12.16

Posted on | April 13, 2016 | 1 Comment

— compiled by Wombat-socho


OVER THE TRANSOM
Proof Positive: The Evolution of Politics
EBL: Planet Nine Freaks Me Out
Da Tech Guy: Baldilocks – We Will Get What We Ask For
The Political Hat: PayPal Supports Killing Gay People
Michelle Malkin: American Workers Matter – A Chicago Wake And Wakeup Call
Twitchy: Bernie Sanders’ Jewish Outreach Director Is Anti-Israel Activist
Shark Tank: Lopez-Cantera Scores State Senate President’s Support


RIPPED FROM THE HEADLINES
American Power: Donald Trump Blames The System
American Thinker: Voting Cruz – Has God Abandoned America?
BLACKFIVE: Book Review – The Girl In The Glass By James Hayman
Conservatives4Palin: Dave Brat – Syrian Refugees Have Not Been Vetted For National Security
Don Surber: How Grownups Deal With A Tax Revenue Decline
Joe For America: NumbersUSA Gives Paul Ryan An “F” On Immigration
JustOneMinute: Lessons Learned
Pamela Geller: 29 German Soldiers Have Joined ISIS, Bundeswehr May Contain Dozens Of Jihadis
Protein Wisdom: OK, Ladies, You Want Equal Pay?
Shot In The Dark: Failure Is A Green Orphan
STUMP: Pension And Finance Roundup – Surprise Election Issues?
The Jawa Report: Sandcrawler PSA – Interesting Stuff To Read
The Lonely Conservative: So It Begins – Trump Supporters Threatening Delegates To Republican Convention
The Quinton Report: More Details On County Sheriff’s Arrest
This Ain’t Hell: Army CoS Milley Won’t Arm The Troops
Weasel Zippers: Leftists Protest Farmer Trying To Slaughter His Cow To Feed His Family
Megan McArdle: Those Tax “Loopholes” Were Created For A Reason
Mark Steyn: A Great Statue, A Third-Rate Poem


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In The Mailbox: 04.11.16

Posted on | April 11, 2016 | 1 Comment

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OVER THE TRANSOM
90 Miles From Tyranny: Rape Culture? What Happens When A Feminist’s Son Is Accused Of Rape?
EBL: Muslims – Why They Hate Us
Da Tech Guy: An Obvious Question For The Rebel Diaz Boys
The Political Hat: Axis Of Oppression
Michelle Malkin: Watch – Slickster Paul Ryan Wants To Choose GOP Nominee
Twitchy: Trump Explains Why Two of His Kids “Feel Very Guilty” Over Impending NY Primary
Shark Tank: Rick Scott Counters Cursing Anarchist With Attack Ad


RIPPED FROM THE HEADLINES
American Power: Boston Globe Publishes Fake Front Page To Attack Trump
American Thinker: The War On Women Moves To Restrooms
Conservatives4Palin: Pro-Abortion Feminist Camille Paglia Admits Pro-Life Movement “Has The Moral High Ground”
Don Surber: WaPo Buries Illegal Alien Angle In Rape Of 12-Year-Old
Joe For America: Trey Gowdy Just Sent A Brutal Wakeup Call To Every Democrat – There’s No Escaping!
JustOneMinute: Guccifer???
Pamela Geller: Merkel’s Islamic State – German Comedian Faces Prison For “Smear Poem” About Erdogan
Protein Wisdom: Next From CBS News – What Role Do Short Skirts Play In Rape?
Shot In The Dark: It’s Pledge Drive Week!
STUMP: Public Pensions And Finance Roundup for April 10
The Jawa Report: Sandcrawler PSA – Talking Truthfully About Mohammed’s Actions Is Totally Insulting To Mohammed
The Lonely Conservative: Incompetent Trump Aide Whines About “Gestapo” Tactics Of Competent Cruz Campaign
The Quinton Report: Anne Arundel County Sheriff Arrested
This Ain’t Hell: Chicago Admits That Criminals Cause Crimes
Weasel Zippers: Poll – 25% Of British Muslims Want To Live Under Sharia Law
Megan McArdle: Subpoenaed Into Silence On Global Warming
Mark Steyn: #WhiteBoardsMatter


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The ‘Male Feminist’ Problem

Posted on | April 11, 2016 | 71 Comments

How many times must I say it? Never talk to a feminist:

Guys: Learn to take a hint. Learn to walk away.
If a woman tells you she is a feminist, say nothing and walk away.
No feminist wants to hear what a man has to say, and life is too short to waste your time talking to feminists. Just walk away.
Leave feminists alone, and then they can complain about that.

There is no point arguing with a feminist. There is nothing to discuss. The feminist has complete contempt for males. She considers men useless and irrelevant. She has no respect for you. The fact that you are a man means you are automatically wrong about everything. She is the judge, jury and prosecutor, and all men are guilty. Case closed.

 

Jocelyn MacDonald is a feminist in Seattle who declares: “Men are parasites. Separatism is the first step to feminism.” Citing lesbian feminist Marilyn Frye, MacDonald argues that “male privilege makes men thieves of [women’s] mental, spiritual, and physical energy”:

Throughout patriarchal history, men have had virtually unlimited access to women’s bodies. They have engineered and maintained this through marriage, denying access to abortion, and undervaluing women’s labour, among others too numerous to list off.

Can she possibly make the point any clearer? Males are “parasites” and “thieves.” Feminists are anti-marriage, anti-motherhood, and do not believe any man should ever have “access to women’s bodies.”

However, Ms. MacDonald did not always feel this way. She was not always a lesbian separatist. Once upon a time, she fell in love with a man:

The man in question, Adam [a pseudonym], was a PhD candidate at the University of Rochester. . . .
I met Adam when I was 19 and he was 26. We got to know each other going to protests: an anti-Nazi rally in Buffalo, a picket at the border patrol on Lake Ontario, a few house parties hosted by the International Socialist Organization. . . .
With him, I felt like a real person again, and it was as a complete and whole person that I had sex with a man for the first time, feeling neither that I was losing something or giving something away.
A few months later, we decided to get married. Because what could be funnier than a couple of queer, ethically nonmonogamous, Marxist atheists redefining traditional marriage in a small ceremony in a Quaker meetinghouse? The answer is nothing. Except that I loved the living hell out of him and definitely wanted to bear his math-prodigy, prematurely balding, little Lenin look-alikes. And I believed that for him, I was the one so impossible not to love that he thought about marriage like it wasn’t a social construct designed to replicate the modes of production. . . .

Perhaps you see the basic problem here. What are the odds of “a couple of queer . . . Marxist atheists” having a happy-ever-after romance? Well, they went to her mother’s house for Christmas. The prematurely balding math prodigy was aloof, while Ms. MacDonald got drunk and then, the day after Christmas, her little Lenin look-alike made an announcement:

In the morning, I woke up and crawled in Adam’s bed, excited, cuddly, happy. “I missed you,” I said.
“I’m flying to Rochester in an hour and a half,” he said. “And we need to talk.”
He walked me back to my room where we sat on my bed.
“Remember when I said it would be impossible not to love you?”
“Yes,” I said, pleased.
“That’s still true. I find it impossible not to love you, and that’s why I don’t want to see you anymore. Because I don’t want to be in love. I want to be alone.”
It was unbelievable to me, because I was doing all the work. I’d made love like it was a choice, you just keep saying yes to love. I was doing all that needed to be done to accommodate him and he was saying both that it was working, that he loved me back, and also that it was for that reason that he never wanted to see me again.
I was shattered. He had stopped believing in me, in our love. Our marriage was a revolution yet-to-be imagined, and he was no longer convinced.

Tough luck for the queer Marxist atheist girl, because the queer Marxist atheist guy does not want to be in love. He’d rather be alone.

Here we see the “male feminist” problem in stark relief. A major reason feminists hate men so much is because these are the only kind of men they associate with. What kind of guy spends his spare time at “house parties hosted by the International Socialist Organization”? You’d meet a better quality of men at a Toby Keith concert or a monster truck rally.

This is why parents must warn their daughters never to become feminists. Next thing you know, she’ll be dating a Marxist weirdo and, when that falls apart, she’ll move to Seattle and become a lesbian separatist.

Also, there’s a high rate of herpes among feminists.

Remember what 21st-century feminism is all about:

Until I started studying radical feminism, I never thought of “normal” as an achievement, but Feminism Is Queer, as Professor Mimi Marinucci has explained. Feminist theory condemns heterosexuality as “the ideology of male supremacy,” and denies that behavioral differences between men and women are natural. Any apparent differences between men and women are socially constructed by the gender binary within the heterosexual matrix (see Judith Butler, Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity, 1990). Feminism seeks to abolish gender in order to achieve “equality” by establishing an androgynous society in which the categories “male” and “female” cease to have any significance.

Feminism is a cult. Once young people get involved in this weird ideology, it becomes impossible for them to think or behave normally.

 

That nose-pierced weirdo, believe it or not, grew up in a conservative Christian family and attended Bible college, but dropped out after she became involved in feminism and decided gender theory is more important than the Bible. Allie McDougall now attends the University of Ottawa, where her boyfriend is co-chair of the university chapter of the socialist New Democratic Party. She now attends St. Albans, a “progressive” Anglican church that performs “liturgies” for renaming transgendered people. Anyway, you might want to read what Ms. McDougall has to say about her “life partner” Davis Whittington-Heeney:

My partner Davis is a feminist ally, and a very committed one. In all of his political activities, he strives for gender parity. He listens to and amplifies women’s voices whenever he can. Ours is an egalitarian relationship and he respects, uplifts, and affirms my lived experience. And it makes me so sad when people tell me how lucky I am, how rare he is, and how I should be so proud that my boyfriend actively works with and for feminist activism. Yes, I am lucky; yes, he is great and probably a rarity; but why the hell is it so countercultural for him to actually put his money where is mouth is and use his male privilege to amplify my voice and the voices of other women? I believe this is all rooted in the depressingly low standards of acceptable behaviour that men have inherited as a by-product of their patriarchal advantage.

OK, what are the odds of a happy-ever-after ending here? Do you detect a pattern, dear reader? When we recall that “God is not the author of confusion” (I Corinthians 14:33),  we must conclude that the father of lies (John 8:44) is responsible for this pattern. More from Ms. McDougall:

I struggle with feelings of anxiety and inferiority. I’ve forgotten completely periods of time that were my darkest. I’ve made regrettable decisions that have harmed my relationship with my partner . . .
I’ve scheduled appointments to meet with a registered psychotherapist to help start down the road of progress and recovery.

Where do you think that road will lead? Do you think Allie McDougall might end up like Jocelyn MacDonald, arguing for lesbian separatism? Do you see why the “male feminist” is such a problem? Every time a guy plays along with this game — nodding in assent while feminists denounce “male privilege” and “patriarchal advantage” — he lends credence to this cult ideology. It encourages feminists to believe that all men could be the Davis Whittington-Heeney type, and that the only thing preventing us from becoming Male Feminists is our own ignorance or desire to cling to our “male privilege.” However, even if this were possible for us all to become the Davis Whittington-Heeney type (which, thank God, it is not) our civilization could not survive such a transformation. A society in which all men were the Davis Whittington-Heeney type would be overrun by barbarians. Frankly, this is what’s happening in Germany, where Muslim “refugees” are raping women and girls with impunity (and feminists won’t say a word about it). The Radical Theology of Feminism has crippled the West, convincing many people that “progress” requires the destruction of our civilization, wrecking families and ruining lives, and steering young people toward The Darwinian Dead End.

Feminists despise men as “parasites” and “thieves,” and have the effrontery to expect men to agree with these insults.

Learn to walk away. Never talk to a feminist. Seek companionship elsewhere, and leave her alone, with her ideology and her cats.

 


Category: Sex Trouble

‘Obsessed With Sex’?

Posted on | April 10, 2016 | 33 Comments

 

A stunning incident happened earlier this month at a debate in Toronto over immigration. This debate particularly concerned the flood of Muslim “refugees” that has provoked a crisis in Europe. The proponents on the open-borders side of this debate were Louise Arbour, former UN Human Rights commissioner and Columbia University history professor Simon Schama. Their antagonists were Nigel Farage, leader of Great Britain’s UK Independence Party (UKIP), and the incomparable Mark Steyn.

Farage and Steyn made extensive reference to the wave of violence that Muslim immigrants have unleashed in Europe, including the New Year’s Eve nightmare in Cologne, Germany, where hundreds of women were sexually assaulted. (See, “Muslim Rape Gangs Attack Women, and Feminists Won’t Say a Word About It.”) Because of liberal bias in the media, however, very few Americans — or Canadians, for that matter — are aware of the extent of what can fairly be called sexual terrorism that is being perpetrated in Europe. Facts that do not fit the liberal narrative have a remarkable tendency to elude the attention of editors at the New York Times and producers at CNN, so that unless you are in the habit of seeking out samizdat published by politically incorrect sources, you have never heard of The Rotherham Horror, nor are you aware of why Sweden now challenges South Africa for the title of Rape Capital of the World.

 

Because of the major media’s near-total suppression of stories like this, however, you have to be a “right-wing extremist” even to be aware of it, and the situation reminds me of an old Lynyrd Skynyrd lyric:

If you don’t know what I mean,
Won’t you stand up and scream,
‘Cause there’s things going on
That you don’t know.

Meanwhile, in Toronto, Steyn and Farage were enlightening the debate audience as to what’s going on in Europe, and the open-borders apologists responded rather flippantly. Ms. Arbour mockingly called Steyn and Farage “newborn feminists” — eliciting laughter from the predominantly liberal audience — and Professor Schama got an even bigger laugh when he sneered: “I’m just struck by how obsessed with sex these two guys are, actually. It’s a bit sad, really.” Well, that hit the trip wire with Steyn, who exploded like a Claymore mine:

“I made a decision tonight that I wasn’t going to do funny. I was going to be deadly serious. I’m slightly amazed at our colleagues’ ability to get big laughs on gang rape. Madame Arbour scoffs at the newfound feminists over here. I’m not much of a feminist, but I draw the line at 3-year-olds getting raped and the 7-year-old getting gang-raped in a basement. And when Simon tells us … we’re obsessed with sex — maybe we don’t get enough action in the Toronto singles bars — Madame Arbour, as she said, is a feminist of a certain generation, and those feminists were very clear, as Madame Arbour was very clear in Sudan, that rape is not about sex. Whatever Simon may say, rape is about power, which is what Madame Arbour says.”

Steyn then listed a series of sexual assaults committed by Muslim men in Germany, concluding: “These are all gang rapes in public places . . . and I congratulate you for getting big laughs for that, Simon. . . . It isn’t funny.”

Robert Spencer at Jihad Watch:

The Munk tradition is to poll the audience before and again after the debate. The first poll was 77% in favor of the motion, 23% opposed. After the debate, the pro side dropped to 55% and the con leapt up to 45%, a huge, 22% shift, revealing how a dynamic elaboration of the facts of the case can persuade people of the dangers of welcoming mass numbers from an alien culture into Western societies.

Mark Steyn himself has a good round-up of the post-debate reaction. The accusation from liberals that conservatives are “obsessed with sex” is, of course, highly ironic. For more than a half-century, liberals have advocated every manner of perversion, and feminists were even willing to defend President Clinton’s disgraceful debauchery in the White House.

“I would be happy to give [Bill Clinton] a blowjob just to thank him for keeping abortion legal. I think American women should be lining up with their presidential kneepads on to show their gratitude for keeping the theocracy off our backs.”
— Nina Burleigh, 1998

Liberals have no moral principles whatsoever and, in fact, they actively seek to destroy morality. Not content to have banned Christianity from schools, they now use the schools to indoctrinate children in atheism.

Who is “obsessed with sex”? Perhaps the feminists, who have managed to gin up such a climate of sexual paranoia on university campuses that Rolling Stone was willing to publish Jackie Coakley’s false gang-rape tale, without basic journalistic fact-checking. Who is obsessed with sex? Perhaps the feminists, who take to Twitter to proclaim their herpes infections, or maybe the liberals like Bruce Springsteen, who canceled a concert in North Carolina to defend the “right” of men in dresses to share public restrooms with your daughter. Who is “obsessed with sex”? Maybe the Colorado public school teachers who are trained in a program called “A Queer Endeavor” to promote homosexuality in their classrooms.

Liberals are doing everything they can to destroy whatever remains of decency and religious morality in America, so that everybody has a “right” to be a herpes-infected feminist or a transvestite, and normal people have no rights at all, but it is conservatives who are “obsessed with sex”?

Yet where is Nina Burleigh, who called pro-life conservatives a “theocracy,” now that Muslim theocrats are rampaging across the globe? And where are the feminist “rape culture” mobs — who applauded when the captain of the Yale basketball team was expelled — now that women and children are being gang-raped by Muslim “refugees” in Europe?

Like the song says, there are things going on that you don’t know.




 

Category: Immigration, Islam, Media Bias, Sex Trouble

Rule 5 Sunday: Deadpool

Posted on | April 10, 2016 | 7 Comments

— compiled by Wombat-socho

So I finally got around to seeing the much-anticipated, er, superhero movie this afternoon, and it was everything the trailers promised AND MORE. Hilarious. Ultra-violent. Touching. Brutal – it was all these things, and unlike previous Marvel comic-book movies, it was not one to take your children to. In fact, I’m going on record as saying that any parent taking their child to this movie should be severely beaten twice – once for being so stupid as to bring a child into this movie, and again for ruining everybody else’s good time. One of the great things about the movie, the McGuffin that drives the plot, is Morena Baccarin, who plays Wade Wilson/Deadpool’s girlfriend (later wife) Vanessa, and she is every bit as awesome as the rest of this movie. See?

The proposal scene.


As usual, many of the following links are to pictures generally considered NSFW. The management is not responsible for any mutations, pain, itching, burns, pollution of bodily essence, or any other unpleasant eventualities resulting from your failure to exercise discretion in clicking.

Goodstuff leads off this week with Amy Adams, Batman, and Superman (not all together) followed by 90 Miles from Tyranny with Morning Mistress, Do I See Pink?, and Patriotic Girls With Guns. Animal Magnetism phones it in from Japan with another Rule 5 Cabinet Post and a non-Japanese Saturday Gingermageddon, The Last Tradition contributes Kate Hudson and Elease Donovan, and First Street Journal has Women at Work.

EBL’s herd this week includes Huma and Hillary, Viking women, Kat Timpf, Transgendered Showers and Bathrooms, and Too Fat For Victoria’s Secret?

A View from the Beach checks in with A Rule 5 Saturday Conspiracy with Alex Jones, Sort of Like Burning Man Without the Men, Scottish Red Deer Not Scottish, Booty Check Fail, Wailing on Wednesday Morning, Tata Tuesday, Surfing into Monday, What’s Shakin’ at Clinton.com?, and The Ginger Giveaway.

Soylent Siberia returns with your morning coffee creamer, Monday Motivationer: Last Fur of Winter, Tuesday Titillation: Finger Lickin’ Good, Humpday Hawt Hayride, Falconsword Fursday, Latent Lingerie, Weekender Suede, and Bath Night.

Proof Positive’s Friday Night Babe is Ava Sambora, his Vintage Babe is Joanna Lumley, and Miranda Kerr is handling Sex in Advertising. Also, Rump: The Other White Meat, starring the Unspeakable Armenian. At Dustbury, it’s his 20th blogiversary! Also, Joi Lansing and Lights.

Thanks to everyone for their linkagery! Deadline to submit links to the Rule 5 Wombat mailbox for next week’s Rule 5 roundup is midnight on Saturday, April 16.


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FMJRA 2.0: Saturday Night With The Twins

Posted on | April 9, 2016 | 4 Comments

— compiled by Wombat-socho

The New Thought Crime: ‘Adultism’
Dark Brightness
Rotten Chestnuts
Instapundit
Living In Anglo-America
The Lonely Conservative
Adam Piggott
A View from the Beach
Batshit Crazy News

The ‘Regret Equals Rape’ Factor (Also, USC Is Decadent and Depraved)
Regular Right Guy
Living In Anglo-America
The Pirate’s Cove
Dark Brightness
Batshit Crazy News

Late Night With In The Mailbox Sam Kinison Memorial Edition
Batshit Crazy News

Check Your Monosexual Privilege!
First Street Journal
Living In Anglo-America
Batshit Crazy News

FMJRA 2.0: Headhunter (Egg Salad Remix)
The Pirate’s Cove
A View from the Beach
Batshit Crazy News

Workin’ Hard, Tryin’ To Teach Punky @BrewStudNo1 Of Humor. Failing.
Batshit Crazy News

Rule 5 Sunday: Time Begins on Opening Day
Animal Magnetism
90 Miles From Tyranny
A View from the Beach
Batshit Crazy News

Harvard Law Is Decadent and Depraved
Batshit Crazy News

In The Mailbox: 04.04.16
Regular Right Guy
Batshit Crazy News

Confession of a ‘F–king Sociopath’
Regular Right Guy
Batshit Crazy News

Gender-Neutral at Notre Dame?
Batshit Crazy News

‘Rolling Stone’s Sole Source for the False Tale of Rape’ Must Testify in Lawsuit
Something Fishy
A View from the Beach
Batshit Crazy News

In The Mailbox: 04.05.12
Batshit Crazy News

Cruz, Sanders Win Wisconsin
Regular Right Guy

‘In Canada Alone, There Are 66 Gender and Women’s Studies Departments’
Regular Right Guy
Living In Anglo-America
A View from the Beach
Batshit Crazy News

Never Take Advice From Feminists
Living In Anglo-America
Batshit Crazy News

In The Mailbox: 04.07.16
Batshit Crazy News

Death, Destruction, and the Dragon Awards
Batshit Crazy News

In the Mailbox: 04.08.16
Batshit Crazy News

Dear ‘Nice Guys’
Living In Anglo-America
Things To Remember, Things To Cherish
First Street Journal
Batshit Crazy News

Top linkers this week:

  1.  Batshit Crazy News (19)
  2.  Living In Anglo-America (6)
  3.  (tied) A View from the Beach and Regular Right Guy (5)

Thanks to everyone for their linkagery!


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Crazy #ShoutYourStatus Tweets Reveal What Feminists Want to Teach Your Kids

Posted on | April 9, 2016 | 52 Comments

 

Emily DePasse (@eld3393 on Twitter) calls herself “The Carrie Bradshaw of Herpes” — a reference to the protagonist of Sex and the City — and she’s teaching her beliefs to children at a private school in Baltimore.

DePasse is a feminist who joined the #ShoutYourStatus campaign for Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) Awareness Month, declaring that her herpes infection had not prevented her from having a “fulfilling sex life.” DePasse went so far as to assert that being infected with herpes “actually made my sex life healthier & more satisfying than before.”

Such claims — in effect, “Herpes is good for you!” — might seem startling, but not as startling as the fact that DePasse has been teaching her feminist beliefs to seventh-graders at Baltimore Friends School, an elite private academy where tuition is more than $25,000 a year.

DePasse designed her own sex education curriculum, after she said the opportunity to teach the class “fell into my lap.” Monday, she described how one of the seventh-grade boys in her class, “On his way out the classroom . . . said to me, ‘See you tomorrow Sex Lady.'”

DePasse said she “kicked off” her celebration of STI Awareness Month by talking about her “herpes story” with her students. Thursday, she reflected: “Teaching sex ed this week has taught me that it really, really, REALLY needs to happen over the course of childhood.”

Who is this “Sex Lady” who talks to 12-year-old boys about her herpes infection? DePasse graduated last year from Maryland’s Salisbury University, where she majored in Gender and Sexuality Studies, doing her senior project on “The Secret Sexual Revolution at Salisbury University in the 1960s and 1970s.” Not long after graduating, in July 2015, DePasse was diagnosed with genital herpes, she explained in December:

Twelve weeks after my initial diagnosis, I received the results of my latest blood test: “This test confirms patient has genital herpes, HSV2 +.” I never realized how much it affected my self-esteem until I saw the paper reflecting proof that I carried the virus, officially. That weekend, I drank myself into oblivion. My hangover consisted of spending an entire day in my bed, sleeping, crying, and staring at that f–king piece of paper. Herpes won. I was defeated. I now consider those days as some of the darkest in my life. No one tells you what to do post-diagnosis. For months, I fell asleep reading herpes forums, hoping to educate myself more about the virus that now claimed my body as its home.

DePasse said she was inspired when she “stumbled upon Ella Dawson,” who made headlines in 2015 by declaring that, although she “never had unprotected sex,” she experienced a “tidal wave of shame” when she was diagnosed with herpes. (Condoms don’t prevent herpes or HPV.) Dawson got her degree in Feminist, Gender, and Sexuality Studies from elite Wesleyan University (annual tuition $48,974) in 2014. Reading about Dawson’s 2015 “herpes disclosure gave me hope that one day, I too would be okay,” DePasse wrote on her blog in December, where she asserted:

It is our terminology and misunderstanding of the virus that leads us to stigmatize the STD and those who carry it. . . .
Friends and family members have seen me struggle navigating life post-graduation and post-diagnosis, and it has been a complete disaster — I have been a complete disaster. There are times when I have been an irresponsible, immature, and sh–ty person over the last six months. I cannot change my actions, or how I handled my herpes diagnosis, but I believe that in sharing my story, I have the potential to change others in similar situations as myself.

In February, DePasse wrote a controversial article at the progressive website Thought Catalog entitled “To The Girls He HASN’T Given Herpes To Yet: This Is For You,” in which she described contact with women she had seen interacting with her ex-boyfriend on social-media sites:

So to the woman who thinks she’s won him over, the woman who thinks she has him hooked, I hope you think again. I hope you put yourself first in this. I know you’re asking questions, I know you’re thinking deeper than what you see. I know your friends are, too (They friend-requested me on Facebook, after all). I know how you feel towards me. I know, he likes your pictures — the selfies, the friends, the seemingly innocent moments — but that’s his game. You think to yourself, “This time must be different. It’s me.” Well my dear, you and every other girl he’s focused on for six months or less. I know we only know one another through twenty-something, social media stalking, but I will be there for you if things ever do go awry.

DePasse complained she had “been painted as a bitter and crazy spirit, an angry feminist” by some critics of that article. Perhaps more troubling is that, like so many others in the feminist movement, DePasse appears to be committed to teaching anti-moral attitudes to children.

The so-called “safe sex” agenda of promoting condom usage, which began as a response to the AIDS epidemic among gay men in the 1980, was embraced by Third Wave feminists in the 1990s. However, the fact that condoms are not effective in preventing the spread of diseases like HPV and herpes was commonly ignored by “safe sex” activists. Furthermore, campaigns aimed at reducing teenage pregnancy rates led some sex educators to encourage young people to engage in oral sex and anal sex, including homosexual activity. While such practices obviously do not cause pregnancy, they can and do spread sexual diseases, and public health officials in recent years have expressed concern about the prevalence of these diseases, particularly among young women and minorities. A 2010 report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that the herpes rate “was nearly twice as high among women (21%) as men (11%), and more than three times higher among African-Americans (39%) than whites (12%). The infection rate among African-American women was 48%.” For obvious reasons, promiscuity increases the risk of infection, and the CDC found that about 27% of those who reported 10 or more partners are infected with herpes.

DePasse has written at length about her sexual behavior on her “ELD Soul” blog. She attended Our Lady of Good Counsel High School, where tuition is $19,550 a year. Despite attending a Catholic prep school, DePasse explained how “when I first made the decision to have sex” during her sophomore year, “I wrote my mom a letter explaining that I needed to get on birth control.” The next year, she developed an eating disorder, DePasse explained, becoming “skin and bones” at 5-foot-7 and only 99 pounds. “The more emaciated I became, the more powerful I felt,” she wrote, adding that she was subsequently diagnosed with “general anxiety disorder” as a high-school senior:

I began taking Zoloft to assist with my anxiety, especially since I would be headed off to college in the fall. I chose Salisbury University, where my then-boyfriend was attending. Yes, I was that girl, the one who followed her boyfriend to college. We broke up within two months of me being there, and I did not dive into another relationship until my junior year. . . .
Although each of these relationships lasted over a year, I wish I had ended both of them sooner. I always choose to see people for their potential, rather than who they are in the present moment. I often give people more chances than they deserve, especially when it comes to relationships. I have had boyfriends go through my text messages, and even my diary. I have been labeled as a slut and whore in these situations. Although I knew it wasn’t okay then, I still tolerated it. I let it go, and I shouldn’t have. It is evident to me now that I was a victim of emotional/verbal abuse. I sacrificed my identity and my self-worth . . .

Elsewhere on her blog, DePasse has written, “At this point in my life, I do not foresee myself having children, nor do I really want them,” and describes herself as “self-admittedly too selfish to have children.” Feminism has long been hostile toward marriage and motherhood.

 

“Women are an oppressed class. . . . We are exploited as sex objects, breeders, domestic servants, and cheap labor.”
— Redstockings, 1969

“Certainly all those institutions which were designed on the assumption and for the reinforcement of the male and female role system such as the family (and its sub-institution, marriage), sex, and love must be destroyed.”
— The Feminists, 1969

“The enslavement of women in marriage is all the more cruel and inhumane by virtue of the fact that it appears to exist with the consent of the enslaved group.”
— Sheila Cronan, 1970

“Pregnancy is barbaric.”
— Shulamith Firestone, 1970

“The first condition for escaping from forced motherhood and sexual slavery is escape from the patriarchal institution of marriage.”
— Alison M. Jaggar, 1988

“Heterosexuality is the structure that keeps sexist oppression in place in the private realm; where sexism in general operates to also oppress in the public sphere. In other words heterosexuality reinforces the hierarchy established by sexism to keep women dominated in ‘sexual interaction, romantic love, marriage, and the family.'”
— “Heterosexuality: The Role it Plays in Feminism and Lesbianism,” 2007

“The term motherhood refers to the patriarchal institution . . . that is male-defined and controlled and is deeply oppressive to women.”
— Andrea O’Reilly, 2008

“Why do women keep getting married? . . . It’s conceivable somebody could be happy despite being married, but never because they were married. . . .
“Sex and love is the dynamic that keeps women’s oppression going . . .
“Motherhood is a heavily permeated sex role.”
— Ti-Grace Atkinson, 2011

“I don’t particularly like babies. They are loud and smelly and, above all other things, demanding . . . time-sucking monsters with their constant neediness. . . . Nothing will make me want a baby. . . . This is why, if my birth control fails, I am totally having an abortion.”
— Amanda Marcotte, 2014

 

Feminism’s anti-family, anti-marriage, pro-abortion message has been strongly condemned by religious authorities, most recently in a message (Amoris Laetitia, “The Joy of Love”) by Pope Francis. Declaring that “the father and mother, a couple with their personal story of love . . . embody the primordial divine plan,” the Pope denounced abortion: “So great is the value of a human life, and so inalienable the right to life of an innocent child growing in the mother’s womb, that no alleged right to one’s own body can justify a decision to terminate that life.”

Catholic teachings appear to have had no influence on Emily DePasse since her graduation from Our Lady of Good Counsel High School in 2011. She originally planned to become a teacher, DePasse wrote on her blog, but changed her major as a freshman at Salisbury University after she “found several feminist-focused courses” in the catalog:

At this point in time, I did not even consider myself a feminist, but the topics piqued my interest, so I looked further. Somehow searching through the nooks and crannies of the Salisbury website, I found Gender and Sexuality Studies. The day that I changed my major was the day I started working toward my purpose.

DePasse’s classes included “LGBTQ History,” “Philosophy & Feminism,” “Human Sexuality Education,” “Sociology of Gender,” and “Psychology of Sexuality,” and she did a research project entitled “Here She Comes: The Mechanics of Female Sexuality and Impact on Body Image.”

DePasse apparently got her assignment to teach sex to seventh-graders at Baltimore Friends School through an internship with “If I Knew,” which describes itself on Facebook as a “prevention education project of Jewish Community Services” in Baltimore. DePasse’s promotion of the claim that herpes “made my sex life healthier & more satisfying than before” was apparently inspired by the #ShoutYourStatus campaign:

Writer and social media maven Ella Dawson, along with social work student Kayla Axelrod, freelance writer Britni de la Cretaz, and writer/activist Lachrista Greco started the hashtag #ShoutYourStatus to destigmatize STIs. Their goal is to promote a more open conversation about living with STIs. . . .
“The truth of the matter is, many people are living, and living happily, as STI+ people,” de la Cretaz told Revelist. “Being able to be publicly open about my status as someone with genital herpes is a privilege and I want to use that privilege to help other people feel less alone.”

Britni de la Cretaz is a recovering alcoholic who has described substance abuse as a way women “cope with the weight of living in a white supremacist cisheteropatriarchy.” De la Cretaz has argued that sexually transmitted diseases “should be destigmatized” because people infected with these diseases suffer “discrimination . . . fueled by harmful stereotypes . . . rooted in misinformation and scare tactics.” De la Cretaz says the “myth” that women with sexually transmitted diseases are promiscuous involves “sex-shaming and a whole lot of misogyny”:

Because it literally shouldn’t matter if someone got herpes and had sex with one person or 100 people. When I say we need to break the stigma, I mean for everyone that has it, and not just because some people get it from their first partner.
These narratives exist in the same sphere as our ideas about survivors of sexual violence. We’ve created these non-existent “perfect victims” to determine whose assault is valid and who deserved it based on behavior they were or were not engaging in. . . .
Genital herpes is nothing to be ashamed of whether someone contracted it from their first partner or after a rape or from sex work or from their 200th partner.

The #ShoutYourStatus campaign generated Tweets like these:

 

Conservative columnist Matt Barber wrote that the attitudes of the #ShoutYourStatus feminists reminded him of a Bible verse: “Their end is destruction, their god is their belly, and they glory in their shame, with minds set on earthly things” (Philippians 3:10). However, with more than 90,000 students enrolled annually in Women’s Studies and Gender Studies programs at more than 700 U.S. colleges and universities, this feminist agenda is increasingly influential in American society, and is already being promoted to 7th-graders.

 


Category: Education, Sex Trouble

Dear ‘Nice Guys’

Posted on | April 8, 2016 | 117 Comments

While scrolling through Feminist Tumblr today — yes, I read that crap, so you don’t have to — I read yet another denunciation of “nice guys,” which is actually a feminist synonym for loser, particularly a clueless loser who doesn’t know why he keeps losing. In order to rationalize his lack of romantic success, the Nice Guy complains that girls (particularly the good-looking ones he would like to be with) don’t like Nice Guys, a category to which he assigns himself. Instead, according to the Nice Guy, good-looking girls always date jerks, which is a category to which the Nice Guy assigns any guy who is actually dating a good-looking girl.

Now, I despise feminism, and I cannot be accused of sympathizing with these evil hate-mongering women on Tumblr, but young men are not helping matters by saying stupid things that give feminists an excuse to point and laugh: “Hahahaha! Men are such clueless losers!”

Get your act together, and stop blaming women for your problems. Your rationalization is the mirror-reverse of feminist thinking. That is to say, unhappy women don’t want to take responsibility for their own unhappiness, and therefore accept the feminist rationalization that “patriarchy” is the source of their problems: “Blame men!”

This is scapegoating, OK? Don’t be like that. Take responsibility, accept your own shortcomings, and learn to deal with life as it is.

Women don’t always go for jerks. A more logical explanation is that guys who are successful with women often act like jerks, because . . .

Well, if he’s the kind of guy who is naturally successful with women, and he’s never had a shortage of high-quality female companionship, why should he bother making any effort to be considerate?

However, let’s ask, what kind of guys do women really like?

Tall, handsome, rich, muscular — yeah, if a guy’s got the physique of a champion athlete, the looks of a movie star, and the bank account of a successful software developer, he’s not going to be lonely.

What women actually like about guys is not a secret, and if you’re not successful with women, obviously, you’re not an NBA All-Star. A comparatively small number of men — let’s say, the top 15% in terms of overall attractiveness — sail through life without ever worrying about their “game,” as the pickup artists (PUAs) call it. Those guys have had their pick of girlfriends since middle school and, while they might suffer heartbreaks along the way, it’s not like they’re going to have trouble finding a new girlfriend if their current relationship doesn’t work out.

OK, does the natural-born winner act like a jerk? Maybe he does, maybe he doesn’t, but the point is, it doesn’t matter how he acts. He’s got what the ladies like, and he does not need to condescend to them in order to attract companionship. So, yes, seen from your perspective as a clueless loser, the winner may seem selfish, cruel and insensitive. However, his rudeness is not why he’s winning and you’re losing, and your Nice Guy rationalizations are never going to change the score of that game.

How ‘Pick-Up Artist’ Philosophy and Its More Misogynist
Backlash Shaped Mind of Alleged Killer Elliot Rodger

That was Amanda Marcotte’s deranged reaction to the May 2014 Isla Vista murder spree committed by a creepy little weirdo who, in his own twisted mind, considered himself the “supreme gentleman.” As I said at the time, this incident in California became a cultural Rashomon, where everybody with access to a computer seemed to feel obliged to share their own interpretation of why the creepy little weirdo was so creepy and weird. In his 141-page “manifesto,” the creepy little weirdo mentioned a girl, the sister of a classmate, on whom he had developed a crush in middle school. This elicited an angry response:

The woman’s father said it was Saturday morning when his 20-year-old daughter realized Rodger had made her part of his sick story.
“She’s devastated by this,” the dad said in a phone interview. “She doesn’t even remember this guy. . . . She’s always been the most delicate kid you’d ever want to meet. For him to call her a bully, this kid was really disillusioned.
“She was 10 years old,” the dad added. “He was two years older than her. He was in my son’s class. She was in the seventh grade and he was in eighth grade. . . . Can you imagine a 10-year-old kid bullying a 12-year-old? This little, petite girl bullying him?”
In his screed, Rodger called his crush an “evil bitch” who “teased and ridiculed” him and “wounded me deeply.”

Elliot Rodger, the “supreme gentleman,” i.e., Nice Guy.

 

One of the weirdest things about Elliot Rodger’s twisted worldview was his fetishistic obsession with blondes. His father was British and his mother was Malaysian. Could we speculate that his fixation on blonde girls was symptomatic of some kind of weird alienation, rooted in insecurity about his mixed ethnic background? What did blonde girls symbolize in his deranged mind? But who can explain madness?

It is usually a mistake to generalize from the example of psycho killers. For example, Lee Harvey Oswald was a Marxist and an assassin; should we start rounding up Marxists? Jeffrey Dahmer was a gay man and a murderous cannibal; should we start rounding up gays? Ted Kaczynski was a Harvard graduate and a terrorist bomber; should we start rounding up Harvard graduates? People who commit horrific crimes can be categorized any number of ways, but the key point is that very few people commit horrific crimes. There are probably quite a few gay Marxists at Harvard, none of whom are mass murderers.

What Elliot Rodger represents is not “misogyny,” but rather how certain patterns of thinking can trap people inside their own failures. If everything wrong in your life is always explained away as somebody else’s fault — if you rationalize your failures by scapegoating others — you have thrown away every tool with which you can solve your problems.

You are your own problem. Nobody else is responsible for whatever personal inadequacy or bad choices explains why you keep failing. Even if you can point to someone who clearly did you wrong, guess what? There’s a long line at the Complaint Desk at Social Justice Wal-Mart, and it’s a waste of time worrying about it. You think you have problems?

After Anal Rape, Left Wing Activist
Felt ‘Guilt And Responsibility’
His Migrant Attacker Was Deported

Hey, at least you didn’t get raped by a Somali refugee. So you’ve got that much going for you. The key to happiness is lowering expectations, so that merely being adequate counts as success. If nothing particularly dreadful happened to you today, that’s a win, see? You got in your car, drove to work, finished your shift, and drove back home. Think of all the terrible things that didn’t happen. You didn’t get flattened by an out-of-control semi truck and die in fiery crash. You didn’t get carjacked by a psychotic crackhead. You didn’t get fired from your job or evicted from your apartment. You’re a winner, man. Well, what about the fact that you’re living alone, eating microwave burritos and have zero luck with the ladies?

Find an angle, my friend. Improve your fitness, hit the gym, do something about your wardrobe and grooming. You are your own problem, and the thing about having zero luck is, you don’t have to improve by much in order to improve infinitely — that’s the difference between zero and one. There are more than 3.5 billion females on the planet and how completely wretched are you, if you can’t find one who would be interested in you? Somewhere in the mountains of Peru or Pakistan, for all you know, there’s a lonely woman in a hut who wishes she could live in a neat little apartment and cook frozen burritos in a microwave.

Get your act together, young man. Solve your own problems and stop blaming women for your problems. It’s not their fault you’re a loser. Here you are in the 21st century, the beneficiary of 7,000 years of successful patriarchal world domination, and you can’t find a woman?

Boy, you’re letting down the team. You think keeping women oppressed is easy? Maintaining hegemonic male supremacy takes teamwork.

The secret — and don’t worry, I’m not disclosing anything the feminists haven’t already figured out — is monogamous pair-bonding. Each man has to find exactly one woman and close the deal. Happily ever after, ’til death do you part, the whole package. Unfortunately, some guys don’t have the kind of team spirit necessary to victory. They want to “play the field,” or cheat on their wives, or in some other way deviate from the time-tested formula for patriarchal success. Consequently, there has been an increase in chaos and misery, and therefore . . . feminism.

“I do not believe in a fate that will fall on us no matter what we do. I do believe in a fate that will fall on us if we do nothing.”
— Ronald Reagan, 1981

That, my young friends, is the way a winner thinks. You do not have to accept as inevitable some sort of gloom-and-doom forecast of decline (“The Future of Men: Masculinity in the Twenty-First Century”), no matter what any “expert” tells you about social trends. Whatever the current trend may be, winners win, and losers lose.

Don’t complain about losing, young man. Some guys who think they’re “winners” made the mistake of having sex with feminists, and got herpes.

This is another reason to consider yourself a winner, see? You didn’t have sex with a feminist and thereby avoided an incurable viral disease.

Never have sex with a feminist. You’re better off being alone.

 

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