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The Sad Lesson of a Former ‘Fame Whore’ (Or, Why Slut-Shaming Is a Good Thing)

Posted on | September 8, 2018 | 4 Comments

“I’m beginning to feel like it’s entirely possible I’m ruining my life, and I’ll have absolutely no one to blame but myself and my naiveté.”
— Julia Baugher, 2008

She grew up in the affluent northern suburbs of Chicago. Her father was a Princeton-educated lawyer. Her mother once worked for President Nixon. Julia Baugher had so many advantages — did I mention her parents sent her to Georgetown University? — and she was also beautiful.

With so much going for her, it’s hard to imagine how she could fail, but it was her misfortune to come of age in the late 1990s, when a toxic brand of liberal “pro-sex” feminism was all the rage. Monica Lewinsky was the most famous woman in the world during Julia Baugher’s senior year of high school, and a new TV show debuted on HBO.

I was a rising high school senior when “Sex and the City” debuted in 1998, and I was instantly enthralled. I wanted to be like Carrie and her friends: I wanted to be glamorous and beautiful and dress well and have lots of dates.

She rubbed the lamp. The genie emerged, and granted her wish.

Oops. Be careful what you wish for.

At Georgetown, Miss Baugher became locally famous. Not in a good way.

When she was a junior at Georgetown University in the fall of 2002, Allison decided she had a thing for medical students. They were smart and driven and a little older than she was, all big turn-ons. So she got a job at the medical school library, where she had the opportunity to meet the entire class — and date several of its members. Before long, she was getting invited to med student parties. She was given a nickname — the Medstitute — which she chose to interpret as affectionate.

She also wrote a sex column for the student newspaper, dated a congressman, and somehow got caught in a plagiarism scandal.

After graduating Georgetown in 2004, she moved to New York City, talked her way into writing a sex column ($50 a week) for a giveaway newspaper and, apparently trying to get some distance from her collegiate plagiarism scandal, began using “Julia Allison” as her byline.

A diligent self-promoter, Miss Baugher managed to wangle TV appearances and, as the PUAs say, rode the carousel. Relentlessly, notoriously, infamously. Did I mention she dated a congressman in college? Because in 2006, that congressman ran for Senate, which helped her get noticed (not in a good way) by Gawker. This led to a sort of long-term relationship between Gawker and Miss Baugher, much like the relationship between a boxer and a punching bag.

“Julia was paid by Sea World to somehow convince people to go to Sea World. A short time later, a killer whale ate someone there.”

What had happened, you see, was that the Internet enabled Miss Baugher’s pursuit of fame (not in a good way). She created her own “brand” with a blog, posting photos of herself at Manhattan parties and events with whatever celebrities might be in attendance, and parlayed that into a six-figure gig with the Star supermarket tabloid at age 26.

Julia Baugher featured on the cover of Time Out New York, 2008.

“Easy come, easy go,” as they say, and Julia Baugher was notoriously easy. The young carousel riders never seem to figure out why promiscuity is a bad bet until it’s too late to retrieve their lost fortunes. Youth is a valuable commodity, and racking up a long list of ex-boyfriends (e.g., Men’s Health editor Dave Zinczenko, tech entrepreneur Jakob Lodwick) is not the smart way to invest such an asset. Feminists who rant against “slut-shaming” are like carnival barkers for sexual dysfunction. There is a reason why sluts are shamed, after all, because promiscuous young women are the supply of “free milk” that makes men reluctant to buy cows, as the old adage goes. Why should a tech entrepreneur or a magazine editor in New York City find a nice girl and get married, when every spring brings a new crop of 23-year-old hotties to town, eager to make the same kind of foolish mistakes young Julia Baugher made?

Working in political journalism, you encounter a lot of this type of woman, and one thing you discover in talking to them is that their personal narrative is usually incongruent with their behavior. The 25-year-old party girl, who bounces from one short-term boyfriend to the next, doesn’t think of herself as promiscuous. She may have been with a dozen men in the two or three years since she graduated college, but that doesn’t mean she’s a slut. No, her tawdry six-week fling was a “relationship,” she’ll tell you. She’ll say things like, “We really cared about each other, it just didn’t work out.” And so she bounces along: Six weeks with this guy, three months with that guy, maybe a few one-night-stand hookups with cute strangers when she was between “relationships” (and drunk at a party), and she can’t bring herself to admit that perhaps there’s something wrong with her behavior. Her talk about “love” and “relationships” is a rationalization, as is feminist talk about promiscuity as sexual “empowerment.” She isn’t empowered at all; in fact, she’s negotiating from a position of weakness, wasting her youth and sustaining emotional damage, while telling herself that anyone who criticizes her irresponsible behavior is motivated by envy or misogyny. You’re a “hater” if you advise young women not to screw around haphazardly, or otherwise express disapproval of such behavior.

Their behavior is crazy and self-destructive, but in their minds, it’s all beyond reproach. In this context, dating someone for more than six months is described as a “long-term relationship,” which brings us back to Miss Baugher. In a 2012 column for Elle, she wrote:

A huge mistake, I’ve learned, has been conflating dating with relationships. I was 29 when I looked at my dating spreadsheet and discovered I hadn’t been in a single relationship for more than six months since 2007. That’s five years! Not a stellar track record for anyone, but an especially dismal run for a woman who owns more self-help books than most independent bookstores. . . .

(Hint: Most self-help books aren’t actually helpful.)

For years, I liked collecting new dating stories. I was proud of all the romantic journeys I’d been on — even the ones that ended with me crumpled on the floor sobbing.

(“Romantic journeys” = screwing around.)

But then I had a moment, a single instant when it hit me: I was done. One August day in L.A., halfway through my 28th year, I was in bed with my college boyfriend, reunited after six years, and I realized I had come full circle. I didn’t need to date anymore; I’d seen enough. I was starting to literally repeat myself.

(No regrets, until she’d already ridden the carousel too long — quite typical.)

I remember thinking, Okay, I’m ready for my life partner now. Let’s get this marriage party started! . . .

(Again, typical: This is a carousel rider’s realization, as she nears the big 3-0, that she’s approaching what PUA’s call “the Wall.” The hottie fresh out of college, the New Girl in Town, is often dazzled by her opportunities for “romantic journeys,” but after she passes 25 and approaches 30, she realizes that her market-value has started to decline. She’s ready to get off the carousel, at which point she begins to complain that men are “afraid of commitment,” but they’re not actually afraid of anything. They’re just happy to keep banging hotties fresh out of college. Now let’s return to Miss Baugher’s column.)

After my most recent breakup in May 2011, I started to wonder: maybe it wasn’t the guys who were the problem. After all, the common denominator in my love life is — well, it’s me.

You can read the rest of that. The reason I stopped excerpting with this paragraph is because Miss Baugher’s 2011 breakup was newsworthy.

 

Perhaps you don’t recognize that fellow on the right. His name is Jack. He’s a Navy officer. His father was also a Navy officer. Jack’s grandfather and his great-grandfather were also Navy officers. “Gosh, what could Jack’s last name be?” the eponymous blogger asked, rhetorically.

You see, in October 2010, when Julia Baugher was 29, and checking her “dating spreadsheet,” she was invited to her friend Meghan’s birthday party, which is where she met Meghan’s younger brother, Jack. That day, Miss Baugher gushed on Twitter: “Just when you think you’ve seen everything, you meet someone who blows you away. Wow.”

What followed has been called “stalking” by some of Miss Baugher’s critics, but it was a successful hunt and, within two months (apparently how long it took her to ditch her previous boyfriend) she was publicly recognized as the girlfriend of John Sidney “Jack,” McCain IV, then 25.

Spoiler alert: It ended about six months later — and ended badly, according to a 2012 post by one of her most persistent critics:

Then one day, Julia Allison decided that she was going to move in with Jack. But instead of having a discussion with Jack about co-habitating, she kind of just went over for a visit and never left. Jack thought she was harmless enough and let her loaf about. . . . Long story short, Julia would ply Jack with alcohol to get him to pass out so she could go through his text and email to monitor his communications with other women with whom he had platonic relationships. She would even text or email these women to ward them off, pretending that she was Jack. When Jack discovered that his unemployed roommate was bat shit insane, he broke things off and asked Julia to leave. And she did. . . eventually, a week later under the supervision of Jack’s ice-queen mother Cindy McCain.
Since then, Julia has taken every opportunity to misrepresent her relationship with Jack McCain. She sent out a press release announcing their break-up and her vacancy of the “home they shared in Coronado,” saying that she sacrificed her one opportunity for true love to pursue her career as a person who uses Twitter. And recently on, Bravo’s Miss Advised [her one-season reality TV show], Julia claimed that her relationship with Jack was a storied love affair. She shamelessly lied that they discussed the possibility of marriage and goes on to say that she had to break off the relationship and sacrifice her one opportunity to find a husband to go on a reality show where she endlessly whines about not having a husband. No mention about being escorted to the airport because she refused to vacate his home, mind you. She also claims that she respects the McCain family’s privacy, so much so that she brings up the fact that she dated Jack McCain on national television at every opportunity.

Let me hasten to say I cannot vouch for the accuracy of that account, and Miss Baugher’s lawyer father has been known to threaten legal action against his daughter’s critics, but so far as I know, neither Jack McCain nor Meghan McCain has ever denied that version of events.

If you were writing a novel about a female psychopath, you could scarcely do better than the scene of her getting her boyfriend drunk so she could check his phone and send messages to his other (potential) girlfriends in an effort to sabotage any chance he had of finding someone else.

Jack McCain probably deserves a medal for escaping the psycho’s trap. He subsequently married a fellow Navy officer and they had their first child a couple of years ago, but that’s irrelevant to the point, i.e., how badly Miss Baugher’s plan to “get this marriage party started” failed.

Her disastrous attempt to dismount the carousel was typical of a pattern: The hottie who dated high-status men in her youth assumes she can just as easily marry a high-status man. This is a dangerous delusion. A top-shelf young bachelor — be he a medical student, a congressman or a Navy officer — isn’t necessarily scrupulous in evaluating the character of his female companions. If you’re Harold Ford Jr., 31 years old and in your third term in Congress, and a nice-looking 21-year-old college girl more or less throws herself at you, are you going to turn her down because she seems kind of flaky? No, she’s looking to ride, and you’re happy to be the carousel horse, without any thought of whether she’s “wife material.”

No matter how crazy she may be, a good-looking girl can get plenty of carousel rides, and enjoy a lot of “romantic journeys” that never last more than a few months. By the time she grows tired of riding, however, she’s become accustomed to dating only high-status men, and guys like that are seldom eager to make a flaky bimbo their “life partner.”

And in the case of Julia Baugher, it certainly did not help that she went out of her way to publicize herself as a flaky bimbo. When she said, in that 2008 interiew, that she felt it was “entirely possible I’m ruining my life,” she should have trusted that feeling. It may have already been too late, by then, for her to undo the damage she’d done to her own reputation, or to reform the bad habits she’d developed.

Miss Baugher had a toxic reputation by the time she “lured Jack McCain into her web,” to quote the Gawker headline from December 2010. Anyone who cared for Jack’s future happiness would have warned him to keep her at arm’s length, and no doubt all his friends were happy when Jack’s mother (allegedly) kicked Miss Baugher to the curb.

After getting unceremoniously dumped, Julia Baugher tried to salvage her career by moving to the San Francisco Bay Area and writing about Silicon Valley, then she moved to L.A. for her reality-TV gig on Bravo, which did the Hindenburg-at-Lakehurst after one season. She became increasingly desperate, she confessed in 2013:

I wanted a partner, a teammate. I wanted a last call of the day. I wanted someone to hold me at night, to hug me and kiss me. I wanted someone — besides my mother — to worry about me. I wanted someone to wonder where I was, and if I didn’t come home, I wanted someone to notice. I wanted someone to want my love.
But after 15 years of repeatedly falling in love, only to watch it fall apart, my heart slowly rendered numb by the scar tissue, I had become a cynic.

Wow. Isn’t it terribly sad to see her describe her habitual promiscuity as “repeatedly falling in love”? That’s the story she has been telling herself and others for so long that she may actually believe it by now. And why not? Hasn’t this become our cultural narrative of “love”? If gay dudes hooking up anonymously with any cute twink they meet on Grindr can tell themselves that this is “love,” why can’t Julia Baugher be allowed to describe her own series of haphazard hookups as “love”?

Call someone who’ll listen,
And might give a damn,
Maybe one of your sordid affairs.
But don’t you come ’round here
Handin’ me none of your lies.
Here’s a quarter, call someone who cares.

There is more wisdom in that old honky-tonk song than in all of the self-help books Julia Baugher has read in her lifetime. It’s not like she never had any chances. When she was young, she could have found a good guy, if she’d played her cards right, instead of being a narcissistic sociopath.

We can’t undo the past or retrieve our misspent youth, however, so in her 30s, Miss Baugher found herself consulting “a love coach” and in 2013 claimed to have found “the love of my life”:

We’ve been together 9 months, and it feels completely different than any relationship I’ve ever had. He is the kindest, most honest, most humble and giving human being I’ve ever met. It’s like every movie cliche: He makes me want to be a better woman.

Wrong again, sweetheart. After getting dumped once more, she subsequently took up with a hippie weirdo known as “DJ Rain” or “Rain PhuturePrimitive” (a/k/a Chad McNally) who played at Burning Man and other gigs on the freak festival circuit. That seems to have ended last fall after Chad/“Rain” decided he was into polyamory.

Oh, how the mighty have fallen! Scarcely 15 years earlier, Miss Baugher had been dating Georgetown medical students and Democrat congressmen. She’d dated magazine editors and tech entrepreneurs and, in 2010, had been the live-in girlfriend of a famous senator’s handsome son. Now she couldn’t even keep a relationship with a hippie DJ!

Julia Baugher at the Burning Man festival.

Finally, this past June, Miss Baugher wrote a column for the New York Post, on the 20th anniversary of the debut of Sex and the City, blaming the show’s influence for her catastrophic career:

I was considered by many to be Carrie Bradshaw 2.0. And I was happy to be given that identity for a while, but it was all a lie. . . .
I also subscribed to Carrie’s ethos when it came to men. There was no such thing as a bad date — only a good date or a good brunch story. In my writing, I gave my boyfriends nicknames (one was “Prom King”) just like Carrie and her friends did. . . .
I cut my ties to New York and moved to San Francisco full-time in 2013. I tried being a tech columnist and writing a personal-growth book called “Experiments in Happiness.” Finally, I decided to go private for a while. I stopped blogging and writing. I rarely post on Instagram.
These days I work as a change activist, mounting summits for world leaders and serving as an adviser to startups and entrepreneurs looking to better the planet. . . .
I do wonder what my life would have looked like if “Sex and the City” had never come across my consciousness. Perhaps I’d be married with children now? . . .
Two months ago, I started seeing someone I never would have dated 10 years earlier. Back then, I wasn’t looking to get married or seek a lifelong partner, and that was a mistake. This man is a very reasonable choice, and I’m at a place in my life where reasonable is very sexy.

If you’re expecting me to unleash a torrent of sarcasm about this latest attempt by Miss Baugher to reinvent herself, you’re wrong. The PUA site Chateau Heartiste already ripped it into tatters with such misogynistic brutality that it would be cruel for me to add anything further.

There is a reason why slut-shaming exists. If sluts are not shamed — if promiscuity is celebrated and glamorized the way Sex and the City did — more young women will waste their youth the way Julia Baugher wasted hers. Who would want their daughter to end up that way, having ruined her reputation and squandered so many chances at happiness, desperately hoping at age 37 to settle for a “reasonable choice”?

Am I being too harsh? Too judgmental? No, I don’t think so. Our decadent culture is long overdue for some harsh judgment. We need more hellfire, damnation and “wrath of God” sermons, and if sinners won’t repent? Honey, here’s a quarter, call someone who cares.



 

Category: Sex Trouble

Late Night With In The Mailbox: 09.07.18

Posted on | September 8, 2018 | 1 Comment

— compiled by Wombat-socho

OVER THE TRANSOM
EBL: Cory Booker – I Am Spartacus
Twitchy: New Liberal Fanfic – Kavanaugh Will Win Confirmation But Then Should Be Impeached
Louder With Crowder: Obama Attacks GOP While Decrying “Division & Resentment”
According To Hoyt: Living In Niches
Monster Hunter Nation: Back From DragonCon, also, Target Rich Environment Is Out Now
Vox Popoli: Bounding Into Comics – Negativity & ComicsGate

RIPPED FROM THE HEADLINES
Adam Piggott: It Turns Out That Men Are The Ones Who Can Have It All, also, Friday Hawt Chicks & Links – The Running Shoes Edition
American Power: NFL Season Opener Fumbles, also, Dennis Prager – The Left Is Your Enemy
American Thinker: Democrat Election Scam Just Chose Wyoming’s Next Republican Governor
Animal Magnetism: Rule Five Airline Prices Friday
BattleSwarm: LinkSwarm For September 7
CDR Salamander: Fullbore Friday
Da Tech Guy: While Divisive Political Stunts Rock DC…
Don Surber: Obama Is Now The Pussyhat-In-Chief
Dustbury: And A Speedy Cat It Is
First Street Journal:
The Geller Report: Child Marriage, Forced Marriage Reports Spike In Sweden, also, Pro-Sharia Party Leader Claims Belgium Will Be Majority Muslim Within Twelve Years
Hogewash: Congress Vs. The Courts, also, Team Kimberlin Post of The Day (and Bonus!)
Legal Insurrection: Barack To The Rescue, also, Cory Booker Really Wants You To Know He’s Spartacus
Michelle Malkin:
The PanAm Post: Colombian President Duque Pledges NewWar On Drugs, also, Conservative Candidate For Brazilian Presidency Bolsonaro Stabbed At Rally
Power Line: Democrats’ Hostility To The Constitution Laid Bare, also, Academic Cowardice Reaches A New Low
Shark Tank: Rick Scott Makes The case For Voting Republican
Shot In The Dark: See You On The Dark Side Of The Moon
The Political Hat: Milk – It Does A Nanny State Good
This Ain’t Hell: Vets Want The Wacky Weed, also, Police Raid Home Of Couple Who Raised $400k For Homeless Vet
Victory Girls: Why Are American Taxpayers Subsidizing Chinese Companies?
Volokh Conspiracy: Discipline Of UNM Med Student For “Unduly Inflammatory” Anti-Abortion Post Upheld
Weasel Zippers: U.S. Job Growth Surges – Annual Wage Gain Largest Since 2009, also, San Francisco Taxi Drivers Told To Stop Excreting Outside Airport
Megan McArdle: Nike Bet That Politics Would Sell. Looks Like It Was Wrong.
Mark Steyn: The Lost Frontier


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Friday Fiction: 100 Word Challenge

Posted on | September 7, 2018 | Comments Off on Friday Fiction: 100 Word Challenge

by Smitty

“We left our Safe Space a week ago,” started Randy, striding with his walking stick.
“Yes. The legend said Progress Tower lay toward sunrise. It was true,” replied Jeff.
“HALT! YOUR. PRESENCE. ON. THIS. PUBLIC. LAND. IS. NOT. AUTHORIZED.” a ‘bird’ above their heads made swift, perfect circles and shrieked metalically.
“Is that a LawDrone?” asked Randy.
“I’ve never seen one that small or maneuverable.”
“DISPERSE. YOU. ARE. UNAUTHORIZED.” chided the drone, maneuvering to hover before them at eye level.
Randy swung his stick rapidly. Would have been a homer. The drone traced an arc; crashed; exploded.
The Uprising began.
—
via Darleen

Category: Friday Fiction

Who’s Up For A Tall, Cold ICE #TeaParty?

Posted on | September 7, 2018 | Comments Off on Who’s Up For A Tall, Cold ICE #TeaParty?

by Smitty

Patriots:

It’s time to get out your Tea Party moxy and tell the Left to return its shock troops to the Central American crevice from which they crawled forth.

Via the Corey Stewart campaign site:

We’re rallying to support ICE on Saturday, September 15th, at 6 PM outside ICE headquarters in Fairfax.

The brave men and women who protect us from dangerous criminal illegal aliens are being attacked by the far-left. It’s time we show our support for the members of ICE, who put themselves in harm’s way to keep our communities safe.

These are the SAME headquarters the radical left went to, to attack members of ICE for doing their jobs.

Tim Kaine joined a rally to “abolish ICE” on June 30th in Richmond. Kaine’s liberal stance on ICE is DANGEROUS.

Join us on Saturday, September 15th, at 6 PM at 2675 in Fairfax!

Rally to Support ICE
Fairfax ICE HQ
2675 Prosperity Ave
Fairfax, VA 22031
September 15th, at 6 PM
RSVP Website – RSVP Facebook

In Prince William County, Corey passed the nation’s toughest crackdown on illegal immigration and by doing this, over 8,000 criminal illegal aliens were turned over to ICE for deportation, reducing the crime rate by 48.7% in 2-years!

Once elected Senator, Corey will sponsor a bill to ensure all states & localities work with ICE to deport CRIMINAL illegal aliens. 

If you’re unable to attend, please consider donating $10, $25, $50, or even $100 to help us stay on the road fighting to defeat Tim Kaine. 

For Virginia, 

Team Corey

“We must secure our borders, BUILD THE WALL, end birthright citizenship, defund so-called ‘sanctuary cities’, and ensure not one penny of taxpayer money goes to welfare for those who entered our country illegally.” – Corey

Category: Immigration, Republicans

Exit Strategy: Did This Guy ‘Red Pill’ His Way Out of a Doomed Relationship?

Posted on | September 7, 2018 | 1 Comment

 

Meghan Murphy called attention to this Twitter thread by a female lawyer describing the recent end of her relationship, an exit that was prompted by an “out of the blue” remark by the guy who said he found it “intimidating” that she thinks “so much.” We don’t have his side of the story, and can only analyze what we’ve been told by this woman. According to her, he told her he was “depressed because he feels like less of a man around me,” and she says she was “dumbfounded and blindsided by this confession” from a guy she had just recently moved in with and had agreed to marry. Should we accept this story at face value?

Something seems off here and, as I say, we don’t have his side of the story, so we don’t know what other factors may have been involved. If we accept the story as told, this successful man — “well respected and accomplished in his field” — nonetheless felt diminished by his fiancée’s career, despite the fact that his income and assets were significantly greater than hers. As she says, this “makes no logical sense.” He knew she was a lawyer when he asked her to move in with him, but after a month, declares “out of the blue” that he’s “intimidated” because she thinks too much? He’s “depressed” and “feels like less of a man”?

If taken at face value, what does this story tell us? Well, guys, when women say they want you to “share your feelings”? Don’t believe it.

All that stuff you read about how women want men who are “sensitive” and “vulnerable”? This is a gigantic load of crap. Don’t fall for it.

Maybe what happened here is that this guy had been reading a bunch of “male feminist” baloney (e.g., Professor Michael Kimmel) which gave him the idea that he should share his genuine emotions, innermost thoughts, and deep-seated insecurities. Oops — male feminism fails again!

Women don’t like “emotionally sensitive” men, at least not in the sense that a man gains any advantage in a relationship by sharing his doubts and insecurities. Women interpret male emotionalism as weakness; they value men who are stable, calm and resourceful. Being “vulnerable” with a woman is guaranteed to inspire her contempt. When a woman says she wants men to be “sensitive,” what she means is she wants you to be sensitive to her emotions. She doesn’t give a damn about your feelings.

However, that’s just one interpretation, based on a face-value assumption that the guy was sincere. But I agree with her, that the guy’s remark “makes no logical sense” and therefore suspect that it cannot be taken at face value. This could very well be some kind of tactic, straight out of the “Red Pill” handbook of the “manosphere.” The big clue here is that she had no clue anything was wrong in the relationship. From her perspective, everything was fine — she was in love, they were going to get married, they had moved in together — and she was “thinking all is great and loving life” before he hit her with this “bombshell.”

Shit test — Often unconscious (and sometimes conscious) tests that women throw at men in order to quickly determine their social status. . . . A shit test is when a woman gives a guy a hard time, usually for the purpose of seeing how he will react. Because women (especially attractive women) are hit on all the time, they have developed behaviors that quickly disqualify potential suitors that are not of a high enough value for her. The shit test is one way to do this.

When guys turn the tables, the “shit test” becomes the tactic known as “negging,” a putdown that serves to signal outcome independence. The “game” tactics of pickup artists (PUAs) in seeking the “score” can be generalized into an overall “Red Pill” strategy in dealing with women, and shouldn’t we expect that the guy in this Twitter tale would be familiar with these ideas? He’s successful, with a high income and significant assets, “well respected and accomplished in his field,” and he was well on his way to closing the deal with this female lawyer. You’re telling me a guy like that doesn’t know anything about PUA “game”?

Consider this scenario: The guy’s a success, owns his own home, now he’s looking for “wife material.” Finds this female lawyer, probably in her late 20s (about to “hit the wall”) and considers her a suitable candidate. He says the “M-word” (marriage) and she’s dreaming of happily ever after.

At last my love has come along.
My lonely days are over,
And life is like a song.

He invites her to move in with him — a “wife material” audition, as it were. But he doesn’t tell her this, see? As far as she knows, he’s 100% committed to the deal, and she can start planning the wedding. In fact, however, the offer of marriage was conditional, and here’s how it goes: The guy doesn’t make any demands or set any rules, but rather lets her do whatever makes her happy, which is why she’s “thinking all is great.”

Ah, but she’s failing the audition and doesn’t realize it.

We don’t know what she was doing wrong, but evidently — if this interpretation is correct — the guy had invited her to move in so that he could conduct close observation, to see what she’s really like, her day-to-day habits, to evaluate her qualifications as a wife. He’s almost certainly had previous live-in girlfriends, and has an idea of what he wants (and doesn’t want), and this lawyer chick isn’t making the grade.

OK, so how does he get out of this trap? “Shit test.”

He throws this line on her — “You think too much. It intimidates me. I feel depressed, like less of a man.” — knowing full well that this “bombshell” from “out of the blue” is going to wreck her mind.

A successful guy like this can’t be totally clueless, can he? It “makes no logical sense” that he would feel so “intimidated” by her, but it does make sense that, if he wanted to give her an excuse to leave, this would do the trick. Hey, he’s got assets to protect, right? If it’s not going to work out, the “Red Pill” thing to do is find a way to end it quick, before she can make any claim on those assets. So he hits her with this weird “confession” right before he’s due to leave on a business trip (probably not a coincidence), and it’s like a “fork” move in chess: Either she collapses in abject, apologetic groveling (“I’ll do anything for you! I’ll quit my job! I love you so much!”) or else she can walk away.

Either way, he’s a winner.

If she stays, she’ll be staying on his terms — he’s established outcome independence — but if she goes, it’s no loss to him. He’s still got his successful career, his own home and other assets, and there’s plenty of fish in the sea. But if he’d let her stay without passing the test, he could eventually expect to find himself in a divorce court, with an ex-wife lawyer trying to take every cent he had. It is this threat, implicit in the modern idea of marriage, which every man must guard against in considering whether a woman is “wife material.”

Do I know that this is what he was thinking? No, as I say, we only have her side of the story, and have no idea whether this guy was sincere in saying he felt “intimidated” by his lawyer-fiancée’s career. Whatever the case may be, however, he really lost nothing when she left, and has every reason to congratulate himself on dodging a bullet. Better to have her walk out before the wedding than to be crushed in a divorce.

Whatever your interpretation of this story is, at least it’s instructive as a surefire tactic to get rid of a woman: “You intimidate me!”

Let the “Red Pill” guys take note.

UPDATE: Welcome, Instapundit readers!



 

Category: Sex Trouble

Pro-Trump Jewish CUNY Professor Says He’s Targeted by ‘Progressive’ Faculty

Posted on | September 7, 2018 | Comments Off on Pro-Trump Jewish CUNY Professor Says He’s Targeted by ‘Progressive’ Faculty

Anti-Israel protesters at CUNY.

Two years ago, there was a lawsuit claiming anti-Jewish bias in hiring at CUNY’s Kingsborough campus, and now the “progressive” campus mob is targeting Jewish faculty again:

A City University of New York (CUNY) administrator is demanding that the school protect him from a “coordinated harassment and discrimination campaign” that has left him “fearing for his life.”
In a demand letter sent to the chancellor of the CUNY system Thursday, Michael Goldstein claims he has experienced “targeted harassment and discrimination” while working at the CUNY Kingsborough Community College (KCC) for being an “outwardly observant Jew and Zionist” as well as a public supporter of President Trump. . . .
The demand letter, addressed to CUNY Interim Chancellor Vita Rabinowitz, takes issue with what it describes as an “ongoing discrimination campaign” against Goldstein, who is both an administrator and an adjunct professor of communications and government relations.
Goldstein, who has worked at KCC for over 20 years, says he has been harassed and targeted since February by members of an unsanctioned group of KCC faculty known as the Progressive Faculty Caucus (PFC), according to the letter.
“Over the past year alone, Jewish faculty and staff members have filed five internal complaints against the PFC with CUNY administrators,” the letter states.
“There have also been two federal EEOC complaints filed related to anti-Semitism by members of the PFC,” it adds, noting that the PFC “has also been accused of regularly, actively, and illegally lobbying against ‘non-progressive’ faculty members for various positions and employment roles on campus, including elected positions.” . . .
Campus Reform originally reported on the initial harassment of Goldstein in February, when unknown perpetrators wrote anti-Semitic and anti-Trump messages on a photograph that was posted on a bulletin board outside of Goldstein’s office.
The message, “F**k Trump Goldstein. Kill Zionist Entity,” was written on an image of Goldstein’s late father and former president of Kingsborough Community College, Leon M. Goldstein. None of the other images of other former faculty members on the board were touched. . . .
The letter identifies one woman, sociology professor Katia Perea, as a “leader” of PFC who allegedly made several attempts to get Goldstein fired for his views despite having never met him before. Perea allegedly filed numerous complaints with KCC Human Resources and Chief Diversity Office about Goldstein, accusing him of being “anti-Muslim”, “pro-slavery”, “anti-trans”, and “anti-gay.”

Read the whole thing. This is a story that highlights why the Left’s smear of Trump’s supporters as “fascists” or “Nazis” is so misguided. This insult implies that Trump is an agent of anti-Semitic authoritarianism, but where do we find anti-Semites using intimidation tactics today? On college campuses, where the Jew-haters are “progressives.”

There are a lot more pro-Trump Jews than some people might imagine, and when you look at the politics of the Left nowadays, it’s surprising that more Jews don’t recognize how soon they might be confronted by the kind of danger that Michael Goldstein is facing at CUNY-KCC.



 

Category: Education

What Happened to Oliver Darcy?

Posted on | September 7, 2018 | 2 Comments

Oliver Darcy as a young conservative in 2013.

The purge of Alex Jones and his Infowars site from social media is the work of one man, CNN’s Oliver Darcy, who in recent months has been on a sort of jihad again Jones. While I have never been an admirer of Jones (a 9/11 “Truther” who led an enraged mob against Michelle Malkin at the 2008 DNC in Denver), his site InfoWars has published some good reporting about various issues, and it is wrong to suppose that any “right-wing” voice is safe from the tactics used against Jones. If conservatives are afraid to fight against efforts to silence “controversial” figures on the Right, this will produce a steady retreat, as various figures are targeted for destruction the way Oliver Darcy targeted Alex Jones.

What I can’t understand is why Oliver Darcy would volunteer for this destructive mission. I remember Darcy when he was at Campus Reform, the college-beat site run by the Leadership Institute. From there, he went to Glenn Beck’s site, The Blaze, becoming deputy managing editor. In mid-2016, however, Darcy left The Blaze, joining Business Insider as politics editor, before signing on with CNN in spring 2017.

So why did Oliver Darcy — who called himself a “conservative-leaning libertarian” in 2013 — become a Torquemada leading an online Inquisition against right-wingers? While I have no inside information to account for this transformation, and I’m not sure if Darcy has ever explained his anti-free-speech crusade, my hunch is that his experience working at The Blaze for three years might have been pivotal.

Glenn Beck’s operation once generated $90 million a year in revenue, but since 2014 the company has become increasingly troubled, and when there were mass layoffs in 2017, the story included this:

Meanwhile, as Beck himself has acknowledged, his staunch opposition to Donald Trump has cost him dearly in alienated former fans, and even his most reliable source of income, his daily Premiere Radio Networks syndicated talk show, has not been immune from the consequences of his Never Trumpism. An industry observer noted that Beck’s radio audience is also taking a hit.

The rise of Trump was also the decline of Beck, and we may imagine that there would be some bitterness in Darcy’s heart about that.

But why go after Alex Jones? Well, there was never any love lost between Beck and Jones. Beck called Jones a “fascist” and Jones called Beck a “global operative,” so here, too, it may be said that Darcy is doing Beck’s work in attacking a hostile rival. And let’s face it, ratings at CNN are so low that Alex Jones probably reaches a larger audience than the “Clinton News Network.” The primetime audience for the week of Aug. 27 was 2.3 million at Fox, 1.9 million at MSNBC and 1.1 million at CNN. In attacking Jones, Darcy was depriving a CNN competitor of social-media access. And who will be next on Darcy’s hit list? Once a purge gets rolling, it’s difficult to predict who will be targeted next.



 

Category: CNN, Media Bias

Soros-Funded Group Paid Protesters Who Disrupted Kavanaugh Hearings

Posted on | September 7, 2018 | 1 Comment

 

Gateway Pundit reports:

On Tuesday several Texas doctors attended the Kavanaugh hearing in Washington DC. After the hearing the doctors told reporter Adam Schindler that they witnessed organized activists with a bag of cash paying the rent-a-mob protesters.
Adam Schindler later posted a photo of a protester being paid after being removed from the Kavanaugh hearing.
Now the activist with the bag of cash has been identified.
The man’s name is Vinay Krishnan.
Vinay is an “organizer of civil disobedience” who works for a Soros-funded group — Center for Popular Democracy.

The Center for Popular Democracy promotes an anti-white, anti-capitalism, anti-American agenda it calls “racial justice.”

This was an organized mob action. Remember that it was confirmed during Tuesday’s hearing that Democrats planned their disruptions in a weekend conference call led by Sen. Chuck Schumer. But the people who get their news from CNN have no idea about this, because CNN and the rest of the liberal media are promoting the Democrat agenda.



 

Category: Supreme Court
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