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Marcusean Intolerance

Posted on | February 7, 2015 | 22 Comments

Students of radicalism know that “political correctness” is not a joke, but is a totalitarian tactic of Cultural Marxism, which originated with the theoretician Georg Lukacs, but is especially associated with intellectuals of the Frankfurt School including Max Horkheimer, Theodor Adorno, Erich Fromm, and Herbert Marcuse.

Marcuse has sometimes been called the “Father of the New Left,” his books Eros and Civilization (1955) and One-Dimensional Man (1964) credited with inspiring the so-called “counterculture” of radical youth in the 1960s. However, it may be that Marcuse’s most lasting contribution to progressive politics was his 1965 essay “Repressive Tolerance,” in which he sneered at “abstract tolerance and spurious objectivity” and coined the phrase “totalitarian democracy” to describe Western society. Marcuse claimed that “the concentration of economic and political power . . . in a society which uses technology as an instrument of domination” means that “effective dissent is blocked.” He claimed that it was possible to determine “the most rational ways of using [economic] resources and distributing the social product,” that “it is also possible to identify policies, opinions, movements” to accomplish this goal. However, he insisted, it would be necessary to suppress opposition to these “rational” socialist policies:

Liberating tolerance, then, would mean intolerance against movements from the Right and toleration of movements from the Left.

This was plainly a call to suppress dissent. Marcuse insisted that “progress” — i.e., a socialist policy to redistribute “resources”– required silencing opponents of such policies. Marcuse was arguing for tyranny in the name of liberation.

Marcuse’s influence still echoes half a century later, even influencing awards in the field of science fiction and fantasy:

Even if social-justice radicals were only a threat to right-wingers, that would still be a problem in need of a solution. The breadth of perspectives accommodated by sci-fi has historically been one of its greatest strengths, allowing it to reach ever-wider audiences throughout the decades. The great dystopian writers of the early-to-mid twentieth-century included socialists like George Orwell, liberals like Aldous Huxley, and of course the objectivist libertarian Ayn Rand. . . .
Wherever they emerge, social-justice warriors claim to be champions of diversity. But they always reveal themselves to be relentlessly hostile to it: they applaud people of different genders, races, and cultures just so long as those people all think the same way.

Read the whole thing at Breitbart.com.

 

Category: Culture, History, Intellectuals

Facts Are the New Hate

Posted on | February 7, 2015 | 65 Comments

In Canada, a group called “Emerging Leaders” proclaims its mission to create “a more vibrant, inclusive, and dynamic . . . community for the future” in London, Ontario. If you suspect “vibrant, inclusive, and dynamic” are just a roundabout way of saying flamboyantly gay, you’ve probably heard about the survey these Emerging Leaders conducted “to examine attitudes in London’s queer community and understand its demographics.” Their theory is that “a key to shifting from London’s declining manufacturing economy into a diverse, innovative, knowledge sector economy” is to make their town as queer-friendly as the Castro district of San Francisco during the annual Gay Pride Parade.

Alas, the Emerging Leaders survey of the local “LGBTQ community” found that “only 16.1% of respondents fully agree that they feel safe and able to express their sexuality while walking in public in London.” This allegedly hostile climate of homophobia, said the Emerging Leaders, is “troubling,” and they urged “improving tolerance of London’s queer community . . . through increasing the opportunities for LGBTQ community members to meet in public spaces.”

Whether or not turning Ontario into the Queer Capital of Canada actually would be good for the economy, you can understand why some skeptics might object to this idea, especially as it involved depicting the area’s non-queer residents as dangerously violent bigots. In response to the Emerging Leaders survey, local conservative radio talk show host Andrew Lawton posted this information to his Facebook page:

Number of sexual-orientation motivated
hate crimes in Canada per year: 185
Number of HIV/AIDS infections from
men having sex with men in Canada per year: 1450
Who is the real enemy?

Apparently, these are Facts You’re Not Allowed to Mention in Canada, and Lawton was forced to issue an online apology.

Alas, the local Diversity Fascists were not sufficiently appeased, and station manager Nathan Smith suspended Lawton’s program:

Perhaps, in the politest, most civil way possible, it would be a good idea to remind AM980’s Nathan Smith that until Andrew is reinstated, listeners will stop buying products and services advertised on the station. It might also be a good idea to remind some of the station’s advertisers of that.
You can email Nathan Smith at: [email protected]

Canada: Where Queer Freedom Is the Only Freedom That Matters.

 

Category: Canada, Gays

In The Mailbox, 02.06.10

Posted on | February 6, 2015 | 2 Comments

— compiled by Wombat-socho


OVER THE TRANSOM
Louder With Crowder: A Rebuttal To Obama’s Moronic Prayer Breakfast Remarks
EBL: A Message From ISIS
Michelle Malkin: My Fellow Bloggers, You’ll Heartily Enjoy This Best Brian Williams Flashback Ever
Twitchy: Your Move, President Obama! Uruguay Expels Iranian Envoy After Bomb Scare Near Israeli Embassy
Breitbart: How The Hugo Awards Became A Political Battleground


RIPPED FROM THE TRANSOM
American Power: The Genocidal Nature Of Jew-Hatred At U.C. Davis
American Thinker: Samantha Power, Genocide Enabler
BLACKFIVE: Westerners Fighting ISIS
Conservatives4Palin: Governor Palin Takes Out The Mainstream Media Garbage
Don Surber: Republicans Unveil Obamacare Lite. EVIL.
Jammie Wearing Fools: Good News – IRS Rehires Former Staffers Who Cheated On Their Taxes
Joe For America: Georgia Taxpayers United President Calls For End Of “GOP Betrayal”
JustOneMinute: Onward Uhh, Honorary Christian Soldiers
Pamela Geller: Obama Says “We Are Summoned To Push Back Against Those Who Would Distort OUR RELIGION For Their Nihilistic Ends”
Protein Wisdom: To Be Bullied Again Would Do The Real Harm To The Supreme Court
Shot In The Dark: The “Whole Foods” Vortex
The Gateway Pundit: Gallup CEO Says Number Of Full-Time Jobs As Percentage Of Population Is Lowest It’s Ever Been
The Jawa Report: War Porn – Jordan V. ISIS
The Lonely Conservative: IRS Wants 9000 New Workers To Enforce Obamacare
This Ain’t Hell: Every Village Has Its Idiots
Weasel Zippers: Flavor Flav Smarter Than Obama? Calls For Nations To Wipe Out ISIS
Megan McArdle: Sorry, Millennials, We’re Out of The Jobs You Want
Mark Steyn: The Glamor Of Evil


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Category: Linkagery

Sexual Disorientation

Posted on | February 6, 2015 | 170 Comments

Caitlin Stasey (@caitlinstasey) is a 24-year-old Australian actress who became a child star at age 12 in a series called The Sleepover Club. Her smiling face, however, concealed a world of inner emotional turmoil. Growing up in a sex-obsessed society seems to be a profoundly frightening experience for many girls nowadays. The decline of marriage and the destruction of moral norms are part of a cultural syndrome that produces what I have called “a sort of social epidemic of bipolar hysteria, in which minds unmoored from cultural tradition constantly shift between utter confusion and radical certainty.”

Both confusion and certainty are evident in the account Ms. Stasey shares with readers at her new feminist site Herself.com:

I had an oddly dichotomous upbringing, my father an atheist, my mother agnostic & my education Catholic. I was sent to a Catholic school primarily because of class sizes. . . . After entering high school (also Catholic) I abandoned the notion of God in the Christian sense; I couldn’t reconcile the church’s stance on sexuality with my own views. I became incredibly hateful of religion & am now resolute that it is one of the greatest tragedies to befall mankind. . . .
My parents were incredibly thoughtful, attentive & loving but there was certainly no love lost between them. It felt as though every moment of peace was heavy with the anticipation of another fight between them. . . . [G]rowing up around that much resentment was incredibly stressful. I think I may be one of few children to feel relief upon hearing my parents were divorcing. My exact words, according to my mother, were “Good.” . . .
Puberty was devastating for me. I suddenly had stretch marks all over my body, cellulite, hair, lumps, acne. . . . I was embarrassed by the changes I was going through and I had no real outlet for my confusion but, more than anything, I was embarrassed by my interest in sex, one that was present in me LONG before puberty. . . .
I would have vivid dreams about other women. Every night I’d drift off into this utopia of women being available to me & knowing nothing other than my desire for them. There was no one in my life who also expressed these desires, no one in the entertainment I consumed, the books I would read, the company I kept. A lack of monumental events shaped my sexuality, masturbating in secret, telling no one, saying nothing, concealing all sexual queries or thoughts. . . .
I’ve known I was mostly gay ever since I can remember. I know it troubles many people for me to refer to myself as a lesbian considering I have a male partner. . . .

FULL STOP. Ms. Stasey is currently in a relationship with actor Lucas Neff, 29, recently notorious for his hatred of Republicans:

‘Guns kill people. Men murder women.’
Actor Lucas Neff’s anti-gun rant goes ‘beta’

‘Anti-choice’ ‘scumbag women’: Actor Lucas Neff
says more female GOPers don’t make party less sexist

So girls who grow up masturbating to lesbian fantasies are into guys like Lucas Neff. Go figure. Back to Ms. Stasey’s account:

My vagina has been an unending and constant source of turmoil for me — not that vaginas are intrinsically female, it’s just happened to be a big part of womanhood for me personally — [urinary tract infections], PH imbalances, sexual dysfunction, pain, discomfort. Sexual education is no way near comprehensive enough as all of these things I’ve had to learn myself, treat myself & diagnose myself. I’m still struggling to gain control over my body, over my vagina. . . .
Growing up in dueling worlds — Catholic & secular — my relationship to my sexuality was constantly in flux. I tried not to think about it unless I needed to masturbate. Instead of it being a part of me it felt like a weird compulsion I had to take care of every now and then and then try to forget about. I used to pray every time I touched myself and I would cry myself to sleep, fearful of the wrath of God, guilty for my sins etc. etc. . . .

FULL STOP. Notice that in the conflict between her “dueling worlds,” Ms. Stasey is certain that it’s the “wrath of God” part that’s wrong, rather than her own perverse compulsions. Because I’m not Catholic, I have no idea what Ms. Stasey was taught in her schools. Growing up Baptist, I learned that humans are naturally sinful and can only be saved through grace. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus” (Romans 3:23-24). Furthermore, “we know that all things work together for good to them that love God” (Romans 8:28). Knowing this, through all my backsliding and wickedness and troubles, I never lost faith nor doubted the righteousness of God.

Excuse me for preaching, but some people can’t seem to get their minds around this concept of total human depravity and salvation by grace. Dude, back in the day I dealt dope in felony weight. I worked as a strip club DJ. I’ve seen total human depravity face-to-face, and have survived to tell you Jonathan Edwards was right: We are sinners in the hands of an angry God, deserving nothing but destruction, with no hope at all but grace. We can never deserve salvation by our own merit (“filthy rags” Isaiah 64:6) and thus can have no pride or self-righteousness. Yet despite our utter wretchedness, we are called to the service of the Lord of Heaven and Earth. “If God be for us, who can be against us?”

Well, Caitlin Stasey is certainly against us:

What is your political stance on women’s reproductive rights?
No one anywhere ever should EVER be able to tell a woman what is right for her body regarding her reproductive rights. If you’re pro life/anti contraceptive, swell, just keep it to your f–king self & practice it, don’t enforce it on others.
Are you pro life or pro choice?
Super duper pro pro pro SUPER PRO choice. I volunteer at a clinic that performs clinical abortions & escort patients to the waiting room from their cars, just to help them avoid harassment & so that they can see that they are supported.
What are your feelings about contraceptives? Their availability, cost, stigma, usage?
Contraceptives should be free, they should come in a wide variety pertaining to the needs of the individual & should be available on every f–king street corner.
What are your feelings on casual sex?
As long as it’s consensual, casual sex is an incredible tool to empower yourself with, help you learn your own body & its needs. Just BE SAFE.
Are you in a relationship(s)?
I am in a somewhat open relationship with the love of my life. We are not polyamorous but do not limit ourselves physically.
What are your feelings on marriage?
As an archaic institution it’s just awful, as a modern culture it’s even worse. The wedding industry is exploitative & gendered & drives the women who feel compelled to participate to madness. However, I’m an advocate of empowering women to do what THEY want & as long as they’re getting married because they TRULY believe it’s what THEY want & not what is expected OF them, then go for it. . . .
What are your feelings on monogamy?
It’s so pointless, painful & archaic. If it works for you and you genuinely find true contentment within monogamy then by all means endure it, but the fact that it’s the status quo is truly discriminative.

You can read the whole thing, which is illustrated with naked photos of Caitlyn Stasey, but I’m sure no Christian would be tempted to sinful lust for her after reading the hideous madness that pours forth from her disordered mind full of “vile affections” (Romans 1:26).

In my studies of radical feminism for the “Sex Trouble” series, I’ve noticed that this combination of personal confusion and political certainty is so common as to be typical. Kate Millett, Andrea Dworkin, Joyce Trebilcot, Laurie Penny — these are all “broken people,” as Professor Reynolds said, sharing the radical conviction that those of us who are normal, sane and happy are the real problem in the world.




 

Category: Feminism, Sex Trouble

In The Mailbox, 02.05.15

Posted on | February 5, 2015 | 16 Comments

— compiled by Wombat-socho


OVER THE TRANSOM
First Street Journal: Our President and [XGARBLED ARABIC SQUIGGLES]
EBL: How Bad Are Things At NBC?
Michelle Malkin: The GOP’s Orrin Hatch Problem
Twitchy: Equivocate Much? Obama Compares ISIS Barbarism To Horrors “Justified In The Name Of Christ”


RIPPED FROM THE HEADLINES
American Power: Mike Morell Says 100,000 Troops May Be Needed To Stop ISIS
American Thinker: Vaccinations Are A Red Herring
BLACKFIVE: We Have Yet To See The Full Jordanian Response To ISIS
Conservatives4Palin: Governor Palin Returns To CPAC
Don Surber: How Cute. CNN Thinks We Think Jeb is Conservative. EVIL.
Jammie Wearing Fools: Harry Reid’s Brother Larry Looks Great In His Mugshot After DUI Arrest
Joe For America: Amnestied Illegals To Get Extra IRS Refunds – Your Money
JustOneMinute: Why Not The Worst?
Pamela Geller: Obama Bars Press From Secret Meeting With American Muslim Leaders
Protein Wisdom: “Columbia Student: I Didn’t Rape Her”
Shot In The Dark: An Appeal To Honesty
STUMP: Germany And Greece – Great Expectations
The Gateway Pundit: Father Of Executed Jordanian Pilot Calls For Annihilation Of ISIS
The Jawa Report: The Blessed Droning Of Al-Harith Bin-Ghazi Al-Nadhari
The Lonely Conservative: Obama’s Priorities? Cut Childrens’ Education And Treatment For Veterans
This Ain’t Hell: Five Female Soldiers Pass Ranger Assessment Course
Weasel Zippers: Air Force Allows National Flag Desecrated With LGBT Rainbow To Be Flown On Arizona Base
Megan McArdle: Your Right To Skip Shots Ends Where My Kid Begins
Mark Steyn: Taking A Joke


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Category: Linkagery

MSNBC: How Long Until Phil Griffin Offers Keith Olbermann Fellatio?

Posted on | February 5, 2015 | 71 Comments

As much as we hated the King of Bombastic Liberal Self-Righteousness, it cannot be denied that MSNBC’s rating have spiraled downward since the network let Keith Olbermann walk out in 2011.

Hate him as much as you want — and I certainly do hate him — Olbermann was a franchise personality, and none of MSNBC’s moves since his departure have compensated for the loss of that evil bastard. Now we learn that a bloodbath is looming:

When President Obama was reelected in 2012, MSNBC was “leaning forward” and smiling wide as Obama 2.0 propelled it to record ratings and a firm grasp on the No. 2 spot in cable news.
Over two years later, the network has fallen backwards. January ratings revealed double-digit declines compared with January, 2014 in all ratings measurements. During the day, MSNBC was down 20 percent in viewers and 37 percent in the advertising-coveted 25-54 demo. In primetime, it fell 23 percent in viewers and 39 percent in demo. . . .
In January, [Chris Hayes] finished third behind Fox News’ “The O’Reilly Factor” and CNN’s “Anderson Cooper 360? in both total viewers and the demo. Among MSNBC shows, he finished third, behind Rachel Maddow and Chris Matthews. But Hayes’ struggles haven’t only impacted the 8 p.m. timeslot. Maddow’s 9 p.m. program has also slumped partly due to its weaker lead-in. In January, “The Rachel Maddow Show” was down 50 percent in the demo year over year. . . .
Ronan [Farrow] and Joy [Reid] — something has to change there,” another insider told TheWrap, adding that many within MSNBC believe one of the two — Farrow at 1 p.m. Reid at 2 p.m. — will see their shows canceled soon. The duo, who debuted on Feb. 24, 2014, have been major contributors to MSNBC’s daytime woes.
Last week, Farrow, 27, attracted just 26,000 viewers in the demo on Wednesday — finishing fourth behind HLN, CNN and Fox News. Reid’s program . . . has also struggled, partly because of the Farrow lead-in. On Thursday, it attracted just 36,000 demo viewers.

John Nolte at Breitbart comments:

Griffin is hoping to stop the bleeding when the dying patient is really MSNBC itself. The format of left-wing talk radio with pictures mixed with confirmation bias is tired and boring.
Morning Joe is in big ratings trouble. Ed Schultz is imploding. Since losing Chuck Todd to “Meet The Press” and replacing him with Jose Diaz-Balart, the impact of the “The Daily Rundown” on the day’s news cycle has vanished completely.
MSNBC is also dealing with CNN president Jeff Zucker’s decision to steal MSNBC viewers by turning his failing network even further to the political left than MSNBC.

Actually, I disagree with Nolte’s analysis of CNN. Most days recently, I’ve had my home office TV tuned to CNN and what they’re doing — very clever, actually — is picking one story (usually non-political) and hyping it hour after hour. Although wall-to-wall coverage of plane crashes and murders may seem dull to us political junkies, it has a wider appeal than the kind of fanatical partisanship that passes for “news” on MSNBC.

Grant that CNN is still a liberal operation, but they’re beating MSNBC with news, not politics. Or, to put it another way, MSNBC is losing with politics, not news. MSNBC has never been a news network. It’s a politics network and, six years into the Obama Age, the appetite for angry progressivism has been sufficiently sated that shuffling around personnel in the talking-head lineup isn’t going to fix what’s wrong.

What can Phil Griffin do, short of offering oral sex to Keith Olbermann in a desperate bid to bring back the old MSNBC magic?

  • Give Rachel Maddow the 8 p.m. ET slot. I profoundly despise Maddow, yet my abiding hatred for her doesn’t prevent me from recognizing her unique market value as The Second-Most Famous Lesbian on TV (obviously, Ellen Degeneres is first). Make her the “face” of MSNBC the way Olbermann was back in the day. This would be a high-risk move, but when your ratings are as bad as MSNBC’s, risk is necessary.
  • Make better use of NBC’s reporting assets. Instead of having your anchors do issues analysis and commentary with a bunch a pundits, start tapping into the local news-gathering mechanisms of NBC affiliates across the country. Look for stories out there in “flyover country” — Albuquerque, Akron, Allentown — that you can “nationalize” and rely on news reporting by NBC affiliates as a cheap and ready resource. Instead of having your anchors interviewing writers for Mother Jones or the Nation, have them doing live exchanges with an on-the-scene reporter in Wherever, USA, about an actual news story. Of course, your audience would prefer stories with a political angle, but the market for pure politics is finite.
  • Expand your travel budget. Wherever else you have to cut corners to do it, you’ve got to start sending your marquee talent out on the road more often. Not just for the quadrennial political conventions and other “event” situations, but also to interact with your audience where they live. Find an excuse, a pretext, to have Maddow spend a week broadcasting from San Francisco or Seattle or Miami. Send Chris Matthews to Boston, Chicago, Philadelphia. Employ online social media to gather live audiences for these broadcasts, and make autograph-signing sessions part of the schedule before and after the broadcasts. A small network can benefit by these exercises in building ‘brand loyalty” among core viewers.
  • Fire Ed Schultz. The World’s Angriest White Man has never been a real asset to MSNBC. He is a turn-off for your core audience of vegetarian bisexual anarchists with purple hair.

That’s my advice, Mr. Griffin. You’re welcome. Good luck.

The only alternative is to do whatever it takes to bring back Keith Olbermann, and I’m pretty sure that would involve you serving him breakfast in bed after he’s had his way with you.

“Affirmative consent,” the feminists call it.

 

Category: CNN, Media Bias, MSNBC

I Played The Blues So Hard, Both Stevie Ray Vaughan And The Sky Cried #BrianWilliamsMemories

Posted on | February 5, 2015 | 13 Comments

by Smitty

I probably shouldn’t be such a mocker, but to have such a public figure as Brian Williams completely debase their integrity merits having abuse heaped about the head and shoulders.

Could Williams be as fake as BHO’s college transcripts?

“You’re So Vain”

Let’s not forget that Her Majesty likes her some stolen valor:

Jim Croce is always a good reference:

Cool Hand Luke is immortal.

. . .as is Pulp Fiction.

I just love this one, with the avatar, handle, and tweet forming a trifecta of “Get stuffed, you blow-dried loser”:

Category: humor

Replicating Failure

Posted on | February 4, 2015 | 102 Comments

The other day, we encountered Jillian Dunham, the 37-year-old who had her eggs frozen because she can’t find a husband.

Who is to blame for men’s unwillingness to become husbands and fathers? Could it be the phenomenon of “frivorce”? This portmanteau of “frivolous” and “divorce” was coined by Men’s Rights bloggers to describe situations in which a woman leaves a marriage that is not objectively bad, but which she perceives as failing to satisfy her emotional needs. The Douchebag Credo: “I gotta be me.”

One of the best books about the disastrous decline of the American family is Barbara Dafoe Whitehead’s The Divorce Culture. To summarize briefly a very complex argument, marriages are falling apart because people have forgotten what marriage is about, replacing traditional beliefs with what Whitehead calls the “love family ideology.” The decline of marriage is also part of what Christopher Lasch analyzed in The Culture of Narcissism as “a society that has lost interest in the future.” How does this manifest itself in everyday life? At Jenny Chancey’s Ladies Against Feminism blog, a commenter named “David J.” explains:

Ladies, here’s one of the biggest reasons, if not THE biggest reason, that Christian young men are leery of marriage: the behavior of their mothers — your Christian sisters.
My wife and I were married at age 21, two days after graduating from a conservative Christian college. We have three sons, ages 23, 20, and 16. The oldest graduated from a Christian college last year and is a 6th grade teacher. He is tall, good-looking, brilliant, fun, heavily involved in a very good church, and has many friends of both genders. But he is not even dating, let alone looking for marriage. My second son is a junior at a Christian college and will be going into law enforcement. He is also tall, good-looking, smart, hard-working, and very popular. He is playing the field, not dating seriously. The youngest is obviously not of marrying age, but he is seriously estranged from his mother.
The reason? Their Christian mother filed for divorce, without biblical grounds and contrary to our pastor’s and Christian marriage counselor’s advice, 4.5 years ago, after 26 years of marriage. She later withdrew that filing but then re-filed two years later. The divorce was final a little over a year ago. She immediately began dating online, then met, “fell in love” with, and married a twice-divorced man who lives 400 miles away — all within a span of 13 months. She has now relocated, taking our 18-year old special needs daughter with her.
My sons are shell-shocked, both by the unbiblical divorce (commonly referred to in the “manosphere” as a frivolous divorce, or a “frivorce”) and by the rush into an unbiblical remarriage. They are asking themselves why they should even contemplate marriage when their primary example of Christian womanhood and wifehood has demonstrated that nothing protects them from a unilateral, frivolous divorce at any time — not the law, not the woman’s profession of faith, not the input of Christian counselors, not the church (which is afraid to step in or “take sides”), not the length of the marriage, not even the interests of the children. Perhaps most importantly for this audience, my sons also saw that other Christian women will do nothing to protect them from a frivolous divorce.
I’ve learned that mine is not at all an isolated situation. In fact, two-thirds of all divorces today are initiated by wives, and only rarely for non-frivolous/biblical reasons.
So, if you really want to raise the level of interest in marriage for Christian young men and/or increase the number of potential suitors for your daughters, (1) don’t divorce their fathers and (2) don’t sit silently by while your Christian sisters initiate frivolous divorces.

Parental behavior communicates a powerful message to children, and how parents treat each other is part of that message. Bail out after four kids and 26 years of marriage? Why? Do you really think you’ll be happier as someone else’s third wife? You think he’s Mister Perfect, but his first two wives just weren’t good enough for him?

Failure replicates:

Many people see remarriage as a fresh new chance at happiness with a partner whom they should have chosen in the first place.  But the statistics reveal that second or later marriages are much more likely to end in divorce.

Not only does marital failure replicate in this way — people who have divorced once are more likely to divorce again — but it also replicates in the subsequent generations:

The National Opinion Research Council conducted a survey of adult children of divorce that spanned more than 20 years. Here’s what they found: In 1973, adult children of divorce were 172% more likely to get divorced than adult children from intact homes. In 1999, adult children of divorce were only 50% more likely to get divorced than adult children from intact homes . . . which sounds like good news.
However, the bad news is that the survey also found a 26% lower rate of marrying in the first place among adult children of divorced parents. . . .
Children of divorce often experience expectations of failure, fear of loss or abandonment and fear of conflict throughout their lives. These anxieties are reflected in their romantic relationships by poor partner or behavior choices, giving up too quickly when problems arise or avoidance of any perceived level of commitment.

People see statistics like that and say to themselves, “Well, my choices won’t follow the trend,” but exactly where the hell do you think  trends come from? Trends don’t cause human behavior, human behavior causes trends. Your choices, your decisions, your actions inevitably have far-reaching ripple effects on others, and yet narrow-minded selfishness causes people to think they can live according to the Douchebag Credo — “I gotta be me!” — without consequences. These are the same people, of course, who blame “society” for their problems without pausing to look in the mirror and realize they are part of “society,” too.

You can’t outsource personal responsibility. And failure replicates.

 

Category: Marriage
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